Ngaba ngamanye amaxesha ukhe uzibuze, "Ndingubani?", "Ndenza ntoni kobu bomi?", "Iyintoni intsingiselo yobomi bam?" Okanye uziva ngathi yonke into ebomini yenzeka ngaphandle kolawulo lwakho? Awuwedwa kule mibuzo. Namhlanje sithetha ngohlobo lwe-psychotherapy olunokukunceda ucinge nzulu ngezi zinto, uthathe uxanduva lobomi bakho, kwaye uphile ubomi obunenjongo.
Yintoni kanye kanye i-Existential Therapy?
Ngamafutshane, olu luhlobo lonyango lwengqondo. Kodwa alufani nezinye iindlela zonyango esizivayo. Umzekelo, kwiindlela ezifana ne-``(Cognitive Behavioral Therapy)``, ingqwalasela idla ngokuba kwindlela amava akho angaphambili achaphazela ngayo indlela oziphatha ngayo ngoku. Kodwa kule ndlela ebizwa ngokuba yi-Existential Therapy, ucinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Eyona nto iphambili apha yindlela ukhetho lwakho kunye noxanduva lwakho oluya kuyichaphazela ngayo ubomi bakho.
Khawuthelekelele ubomi bakho njengesithuthi. Olu nyango lukufundisa ukuba ube ngumqhubi, ungabi ngumkhweli, uhamba nje endleleni. Endaweni yoko, ungena esihlalweni somqhubi , uthathe ivili lokuqhuba, uze uqhube imoto uye apho ufuna ukuya khona. Oko kukuthi, endaweni yokukhangela izizathu zezinto ezenzekayo ebomini bakho, ithetha ngendlela oye wanegalelo ngayo kwezo zinto, into onokuyifunda kuzo, nendlela onokuzibumba ngayo ikamva lakho ngendlela oyifunayo. Olu nyango lusekelwe kwiingcamango zefilosofi ezithetha nzulu ngemingeni yobomi bomntu.
Ngubani olu nyango lufanelekileyo kuye?
Olu nyango lunokuba luncedo kuye nabani na ofuna ngokwenene ukufunda okungakumbi ngaye nangehlabathi ahlala kulo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngale nto ukuba unengxaki kwezi meko zilandelayo:
- Ingxaki yokusetyenziswa kweziyobisi
- Ixhala kunye noloyiko
- Uxinzelelo
- Ingxaki yoxinzelelo emva kwengozi (PTSD)
- Uxinzelelo lokuphila nesifo somzimba esihlala ixesha elide okanye esinye isifo sengqondo
- Kwabo bajongene noxinzelelo oluza notshintsho olukhulu ebomini (ukugula, ukulahlekelwa ngumsebenzi, ukulahlekelwa ngumntu).
Olu nyango lukunceda uqonde indlela izigqibo ozenzayo ezichaphazela ngayo iziphumo zakho, nto leyo ekuvumela ukuba wenze izigqibo ezibaluleke ngokwenene nezinentsingiselo.
Iintsika ezine ezisisiseko zolu nyango
Le ndlela, ebizwa ngokuba yi-Existential Therapy, isekelwe kwiinyaniso ezine ezisisiseko esijongene nazo sonke ebomini bomntu. Ezi zibizwa ngokuba 'ziintsika ezine.' Ingcali yezonyango ikunceda ujongane nezi ntsika zine ngaphandle koloyiko.
| Intsika | Masiqonde ngokulula. |
|---|---|
| 1. Ukufa | Ukufa yinxalenye yobomi. Xa sikwamkela ngaphandle koloyiko njengento engenakuphepheka, sinokuphila ubomi bethu ngendlela enentsingiselo nangakumbi ngokupheleleyo. |
| 2. Ukuzahlula | Ekugqibeleni, sonke sisodwa ebomini bethu. Thina kuphela esinokulawula ikamva lethu. Xa siyiqonda le nyaniso, asixhomekeki kakhulu kwabanye kodwa sithembe ngakumbi kumandla ethu. |
| 3. Intsingiselo | Ukufumana into enika ubomi bakho injongo nentsingiselo. Ukuchonga into ekwenza wonwabe ngokwenene kwaye waneliseke. |
| 4. Uxanduva / Inkululeko | Unenkululeko yokwenza izigqibo ebomini bakho. Kodwa kufuneka uthabathe uxanduva lwesigqibo ngasinye. Ukhetho lwakho lulawula indlela yobomi bakho. |
Kolu nyango, ingcali yezonyango izama ukunciphisa uloyiko kunye nexhala olivayo xa ujonge ezi ntsika zine kwaye ikuncede wamkele ukuba ezi zizinto eziqhelekileyo ebomini bomntu.
Lusebenza njani olu nyango?
Olu lunyango lokuthetha, njengezinye iindlela zonyango lwengqondo. Ingcali yezonyango idala " indawo ekhuselekileyo" apho unokwabelana ngokukhululekileyo ngayo nantoni na esengqondweni yakho, ngaphandle kokugweba.
Ngokwesiqhelo, kukho iseshoni enye kanye ngeveki, malunga neyure. Okokuqala, ugqirha wakho uza kukubuza ukuba unethemba lokufumana ntoni ngonyango. Emva koko, uza kukhokela incoko ngendlela eya kukunceda ufikelele usukelo lwakho.
Khawuthelekelele unengxaki emsebenzini. Endaweni yokukubuza ngayo yonke into eyenzeka kwixesha elidlulileyo, ingcali yezonyango ikunceda ukuba ulawule ngokubuza imibuzo efana nale, "Kulungile, ungenza ntoni ukutshintsha le meko ngoku? Zeziphi izinto ozithandayo ngokwenene?" Ngamanye amaxesha banokuthetha ngamava adlulileyo ukukunceda uqonde ukuba ufike njani apho ukhoyo namhlanje.
Zithini iingenelo kunye nemida yoku?
Njengakwezinye iindlela zonyango, kukho iingenelo kunye nemida, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba uzazi.
| Iinzuzo | Imida ebalulekileyo |
|---|---|
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Iingcebiso ezibalulekileyo kunye nezinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele
Ukuqala unyango kunokuba nzima ngamanye amaxesha. Kuqhelekile ukuziva ungakhululekanga kwaye ungakhuselekanga xa usabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho nomntu omtsha. Kuthatha ixesha. Ngoko ke yiya kunyango unengqondo evulekileyo . Khumbula ukuba ugqirha wakho ukhona ukukunceda.
Ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga nangaliphi na ixesha, okanye ukuba uziva ngathi awuqhubeki nonyango lwakho, ungabi nazintloni zokuthetha ngqo nogqirha wakho . Emva koko ungafumana isisombululo esikusebenzelayo.
Ufanele ufune nini ingcebiso kagqirha?
Ukuba iimpawu zakho, ezinje ngexhala okanye uloyiko, ziya ziba mandundu ngexesha lonyango, yazisa ugqirha wakho ngoko nangoko.
Kubaluleke kakhulu: Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzibulala ngexesha lonyango okanye nangaliphi na ixesha, nceda ungabi wedwa. Bona ugqirha wakho ngoko nangoko, yiya kwiSebe leNgxamiseko (ETU) lesibhedlele esikufutshane nawe, okanye utsalele umnxeba inkonzo yokubonisana eyimfihlo efana neSumithrayo . Kukho umntu onokukunceda rhoqo.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Unyango olukhoyo luhlobo lwe-psychotherapy olukunceda ufumane intsingiselo ebomini bakho kwaye uyilawule.
- Oku kusekelwe kwiintsika ezine ezisisiseko zokufa, ukuba wedwa, intsingiselo, kunye noxanduva.
- Olu lunyango olusekelwe kwintetho olugxila kukhetho lwakho kunye noxanduva lwakho lomntu siqu.
- Kuqhelekile ukuba uzive ungakhululekanga xa uqala unyango. Le yinkqubo. Kubalulekile ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo nogqirha wakho.
- Ukuba imeko yakho yengqondo iba mandundu okanye uneengcinga zokuzibulala, funa ingcebiso kagqirha ngoko nangoko .
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