Koj tus me nyuam puas tsis meej pem thaum hais lus? Nws puas hais lus tsis meej pem? Peb puas yuav tham txog kev hais lus tsis meej pem?

Koj puas tau pom tias koj tus me nyuam qee zaum hais lus tsis meej lossis hais tib lo lus ntau zaus? Nws yog ib qho ib txwm muaj uas yuav ntshai thiab txhawj xeeb me ntsis thaum lub sijhawm zoo li ntawd. Tej zaum koj yuav xav tias, 'Vim li cas qhov no thiaj tshwm sim rau kuv tus menyuam? Qhov no puas yog teeb meem loj?' Yog li hnub no, cia peb tham txog qhov no, lossis ' hais lus tsis meej' raws li cov kws kho mob hu ua, hauv txoj hauv kev yooj yim uas yuav daws txhua yam kev tsis ntseeg uas koj muaj.

Kev hais lus tsis meej yog dab tsi?

Hais yooj yim xwb, kev hais lus tsis meej yog kev cuam tshuam rau kev hais lus zoo. Cov kws kho mob kuj hu qhov no ua kev hais lus tsis meej . Tej zaum koj yuav tau pom tias qee tus menyuam yaus, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog cov menyuam yaus hnub nyoog ob thiab tsib xyoos, muaj:

• Rov hais dua tej tsab ntawv, tej ntu ntawm cov lus, lossis tej lus tag nrho. Xav txog koj tus tub sim qhia koj tej yam uas tau tshwm sim hauv tsev kawm ntawv, xws li, "A... a... Niam, kuv a... hnub no..."
• Muaj ib co ntawv kos tawm. Zoo li "Mmmmmmm kuv nyob ntawm no."
• Thaum tham lus, nws mam li nres tam sim ntawd, tsis muaj suab, thiab tom qab ntawd nws pib dua.

Feem ntau, cov menyuam yaus yuav tsis loj hlob zoo li no thaum lawv muaj li tsib xyoos. Yog li ntawd, thaum lawv loj hlob tuaj thiab txhim kho kev txawj hais lus, nws maj mam txo qis. Tab sis rau qee tus menyuam, nws kav ntev me ntsis. Tab sis tsis muaj dab tsi yuav txhawj txog, muaj kev kho mob zoo los pab nrog qhov no. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tsis txhob ntshai thiab ua raws li kev nkag siab zoo.

Vim li cas koj thiaj hais lus tsis meej li no?

Cov kws kho mob thiab cov kws tshawb fawb tseem tsis tau paub tseeb 100% vim li cas qhov no tsuas yog tshwm sim rau qee tus menyuam xwb, tab sis ntau tus ntseeg tias muaj ntau yam ua rau nws.

• Muaj teeb meem nrog cov lus hauv lub hlwb: Ib qho yog tias muaj teeb meem nrog cov lus xa los ntawm lub hlwb mus rau cov leeg thiab lwm qhov ntawm lub cev (piv txwv li, tus nplaig, daim di ncauj) uas xav tau los hais lus, thiab muaj qhov tsis sib haum me ntsis . Nws zoo li lub xov tooj cua uas tsis suab meej thaum lub teeb liab tsis meej, lossis lub tsheb uas nres me ntsis thaum koj pib nws. Qhov no tsis yog vim tsis muaj kev txawj ntse lossis kev siv zog ntawm tus menyuam.
• Kev Txheeb Ze: Lwm yam yog tias nws ntseeg tias qhov no yuav yog ib qho tseem ceeb ntawm kev txheeb ze . Qee qhov kev tshawb fawb tau pom tias cov menyuam yaus uas hais lus tsis meej muaj niam txiv, kwv tij neej tsa, lossis txheeb ze hauv lawv tsev neeg uas hais lus tsis meej muaj feem yuav hais lus tsis meej li peb npaug ntau dua thaum lawv tseem yog menyuam yaus. Qhov no txhais tau tias tej zaum yuav muaj kev txheeb ze ntawm kev txheeb ze.

Tam sim no feem ntau lees txais tias kev hais lus tsis meej yog los ntawm ib lossis ntau yam ntawm cov yam no.

Cov tsos mob ntawm kev hais lus tsis meej yog dab tsi? Koj paub nws li cas?

Cov cim qhia thawj zaug ntawm kev hais lus tsis meej tshwm sim ntawm hnub nyoog 18 thiab 24 lub hlis. Qhov no yog thaum cov menyuam yaus cov lus pib loj hlob sai sai, lawv pib muab cov lus ua ke los ua kab lus, thiab qhia lawv cov kev xav. Yog li thaum ib tug menyuam hais lus tsis meej thaum lub sijhawm zoo li no, nws tuaj yeem ua rau cov niam txiv ntxhov siab thiab txhawj xeeb me ntsis. Nws yog qhov tsim nyog los xav tias, "Auj, muaj teeb meem dab tsi nrog kuv tus menyuam?" Tab sis nws yog ib txwm rau cov menyuam yaus hais lus tsis meej me ntsis thaum muaj hnub nyoog li no. Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog ua siab ntev li sai tau.

Muaj ib txhia menyuam yaus yuav hais lus tsis meej pem tau ntau lub lis piam lossis ntau lub hlis. Nws kuj tuaj yeem tuaj thiab ploj mus, tom qab ntawd rov qab los. Muaj ib txhia hnub lawv yuav hais lus tau zoo, thiab lwm hnub lawv yuav hais lus tsis meej pem ntau dua me ntsis. Muaj ntau tus menyuam yaus uas pib hais lus tsis meej pem ua ntej hnub nyoog tsib xyoos yuav zoo dua yam tsis muaj kev pab, xws li kev kho kev hais lus .

Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias koj tus menyuam hais lus tsis meej ntau, yog tias nws zoo li zuj zus tuaj, lossis yog tias muaj kev hloov pauv ntawm lub ntsej muag lossis lub cev lus thaum lawv hais lus tsis meej, nws yog ib lub tswv yim zoo kom mus ntsib kws kho kev hais lus thaum muaj hnub nyoog peb xyoos. Thaum koj daws qhov teeb meem no ntxov, nws yuav muaj feem ntau dua uas koj tus menyuam yuav tau txais kev pab.

Qhov cuam tshuam rau cov menyuam kawm ntawv

Feem ntau, kev hais lus tsis meej yuav txo qis thaum cov menyuam pib kawm ntawv thiab lawv cov txuj ci hais lus zoo dua. Txawm li cas los xij, yog tias ib tug menyuam tseem hais lus tsis meej thaum lub hnub nyoog kawm ntawv, nws yuav paub txog qhov teeb meem thiab yuav txaj muag lossis tu siab txog qhov ntawd. Xav txog seb nws yuav nyuaj npaum li cas rau nws kom hais lus tsis meej thaum nws sim teb ib lo lus nug hauv chav kawm lossis thaum nws sim tham nrog ib tug phooj ywg thiab tsis paub lus. Qee zaum, lwm tus menyuam hauv chav kawm, vim tsis paub lossis ua phem, yuav luag qhov no thiab thuam nws. Vim yog tej yam zoo li no, tus menyuam yuav ntshai hais lus ntxiv thiab sim nyob deb ntawm zej zog.

Yog qhov no tshwm sim rau koj tus menyuam, nrog tus xib fwb tham hauv tsev kawm ntawv . Tus xib fwb tuaj yeem piav qhia qhov no rau hauv chav kawm thiab piav qhia tias kev hais lus tsis meej tsis yog ib yam dab tsi uas yuav tsum tau ua kom lom zem. Tus xib fwb kuj tseem tuaj yeem txo lub sijhawm uas koj tus menyuam yuav tsum hais lus thiab xav tias muaj kev nyuaj siab (piv txwv li, nyeem ntawv nrov nrov ua ntej chav kawm) kom txog thaum kev kho kev hais lus pib.

Thaum twg peb yuav tsum nrhiav kev pab?

Yog tias koj tus menyuam tseem hais lus tsis meej tom qab muaj 5 xyoos, nco ntsoov nrog koj tus kws kho mob hauv tsev neeg lossis tus kws kho kev hais lus tham . Mus ntsib tus kws kho mob tam sim ntawd, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias koj pom ib qho ntawm cov hauv qab no:

• Yog koj sim zam tsis txhob muaj lub sijhawm los tham (piv txwv li, koj ntshai mus rau lub khw thiab nug ib yam dab tsi, lossis koj sim tsis teb thaum ib tug neeg nug koj ib lo lus nug)
• Yog koj siv lwm lo lus es tsis txhob siv ib lo vim koj ntshai hais lus tsis meej. (Piv txwv li, koj hais tias "haus dej" vim koj hais tias "dej" ces koj yuav daig).
• Yog tias muaj kev co ntawm lub ntsej muag lossis lub cev lossis lwm yam kev txav mus los (piv txwv li, ntsais muag, co taub hau, lossis nyob tsis taus) thaum hais lus tsis meej.
• Yog tias cov lus tag nrho thiab ib feem ntawm kab lus raug rov ua dua ntau zaus thiab txuas ntxiv mus.
• Yog tias cov ntawv thiab cov lus raug rov ua dua ntau zaus. (Piv txwv li: "I-I-I-I-I")
• Yog koj hais lus nyuaj heev thiab muaj kev nyuaj siab, zoo li koj tab tom tawm tsam kom tau cov lus tawm.

Thiab tham nrog koj tus kws kho mob txog cov no:

• Yog tias koj tus menyuam cov leeg nqaij ntawm lub ntsej muag nruj lossis zoo li ntswj thaum lawv hais lus.
• Lub suab nrov nrov, ua rau lub suab nrov dua, lossis yog tias lub suab zoo li nrov dua.
• Yog koj muaj lwm yam kev tsis ntseeg lossis kev ntshai txog koj tus menyuam zaj dab neeg.

Feem ntau, yog tias tus menyuam hais lus tsis meej tseem muaj li ntawm 6 lub hlis lossis ntau dua, ntau lub tsev kawm ntawv yuav muab kev kuaj mob thiab kev kho mob kom raug . Yog li ntawd, nws yog ib lub tswv yim zoo los qhia rau cov xib fwb hauv tsev kawm ntawv txog qhov no thiab.

Peb ua niam ua txiv yuav pab tau li cas?

Muaj ntau yam koj ua tau los pab koj tus menyuam hauv qhov xwm txheej no. Cov no tuaj yeem muab kev nplij siab zoo thiab tsim kev ntseeg siab rau tus menyuam. Nov yog ob peb yam...

• Tsis txhob yuam koj tus menyuam kom hais lus kom meej thiab meej txhua lub sijhawm. Cia kev hais lus ua kev xyiv fab thiab kev lom zem. Xav txog nws, puas yog peb txhua tus hais lus raug txhua lub sijhawm? Tsis yog, peb tsis ua. Muab kev ywj pheej rau koj cov menyuam yaus thiab. Mloog seb lawv tab tom sim hais li cas, thiab tsis txhob txwv lawv vim lawv tsis paub lus.

• Ua kom lub rooj noj mov yog lub sijhawm rau kev sib tham. Txo cov kev cuam tshuam xws li xov tooj cua thiab TV. Thaum txhua tus neeg nyob ua ke thiab tham txog cov xwm txheej thiab cov lus tso dag ntawm hnub ntawd, koj tus menyuam yuav xav tham ntau dua. Tsim kom muaj ib puag ncig so thiab tsis muaj kev ntxhov siab.

• Tsis txhob muab lus qhia lossis lus thuam xws li, "Hais qeeb qeeb," "Txhob txhawj," "Ua pa tob tob." Txawm koj muaj lub siab zoo li cas los xij, tej no tsuas yog ua rau tus menyuam xav txog nws tus kheej ntau dua thiab tsis xis nyob dua. Nws yuav xav tias, "Auj, kuv ua qee yam tsis raug."

• Thaum koj tus menyuam muaj teeb meem lossis hais lus tsis meej zuj zus tuaj, tsis txhob yuam kom lawv tham lossis nyeem ntawv nrov nrov. Hloov chaw, coj lawv mus rau tej yam uas tsis tas yuav kom lawv tham ntau. Tej yam xws li kos duab, ua si nrog cov khoom ua si, lossis saib cov duab hauv phau ntawv.

• Tsis txhob cuam tshuam koj tus menyuam thaum lawv tab tom tham lossis hais kom lawv "pib dua." Ua li ntawd yuav ua rau lawv xav tias qhov lawv hais tsis tseem ceeb thiab lawv hais tsis tau zoo. Cia lawv hais kom tiav raws li lawv lub sijhawm.

• Tsis txhob hais kom koj tus menyuam "xav ua ntej koj hais lus." Qhov no tsuas yog yuav ua rau tus menyuam muaj kev nyuaj siab ntxiv xwb. Kev piav dab neeg yuav tsum yog ib yam uas ib txwm muaj, tsis zoo li kev daws teeb meem lej.

• Tsim kom muaj ib puag ncig uas muaj kev thaj yeeb thiab nyob ntsiag to hauv tsev. Sim ua kom lub neej tsev neeg qeeb me ntsis. Thaum txhua yam maj nrawm thiab koj qw, koj tus menyuam kuj xav tias qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb thiab kev nyuaj siab.

• Thaum koj nrog koj tus menyuam tham lossis nrog lwm tus nyob ntawm lawv xub ntiag, maj mam hais lus thiab meej meej.Koj ua qauv zoo rau koj tus menyuam los ntawm kev hais lus qeeb qeeb. Qhov no yuav pab kom lawv paub hais lus qeeb qeeb thiab. Kev hais lus sai sai kuj tuaj yeem ua rau koj tus menyuam hais lus sai sai thiab.

• Thaum koj nrog koj tus menyuam tham, tsis txhob ntsia nws lossis ua txuj chim siab, tu siab, lossis tsis muaj siab ntev. Qhov no yuav ua rau koj tus menyuam xav tias lawv ua yuam kev thiab koj tsis xav mloog lawv.

• Cia koj tus menyuam hais lus rau lawv tus kheej, ua kom tiav lawv cov kev xav thiab kab lus. Tsis txhob cuam tshuam lawv thaum lawv tab tom tham lossis sim ua kom tiav lawv cov lus rau lawv.

• Nres ib pliag ua ntej teb ib lo lus nug lossis lus hais ntawm ib tug me nyuam. Qhov no ua rau muaj ib qho chaw uas tus me nyuam tuaj yeem hais lus yam tsis xav tias maj.

• Hais lus qeeb qeeb rau koj tus menyuam. Qhov no yuav tsum tau xyaum me ntsis! Kev txo koj qhov kev hais lus qeeb qeeb yuav pab koj tus menyuam hais lus tau zoo dua. Ib yam li peb hais lus qeeb qeeb rau ib tug menyuam yaus thaum peb qhia lawv nyeem ntawv, ua tus qauv zoo rau koj tus menyuam.

Qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog cia koj tus menyuam hnov ​​koj txoj kev hlub, kev txhawb nqa, thiab kev ua siab ntev. Txawm nws hais li cas los xij, qhia rau nws paub tias koj saib nws tseem ceeb. Ua tib zoo mloog nws hais, tsis yog nws hais li cas.

Yog li ntawd, yam tseem ceeb tshaj plaws uas peb yuav tsum coj los tsev los ntawm zaj dab neeg no yog dab tsi?

Zoo, yog li cia peb rov qhia koj txog ob peb yam uas peb tau tham txog uas peb xav tias tseem ceeb rau koj:

• Kev hais lus tsis meej yog ib qho teeb meem ib txwm muaj rau cov menyuam yaus, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog thaum muaj hnub nyoog 2-5 xyoos, thiab feem ntau nws yuav zoo dua . Yog li ntawd, tsis txhob ntshai tam sim ntawd.
• Txawm li cas los xij , yog tias tus menyuam hais lus tsis meej pem ntau zaus, nce ntxiv, lossis yog tias tus menyuam tsis xis nyob nrog nws, lossis tseem muaj nws tom qab hnub nyoog 5 xyoos, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb heev uas yuav tsum nrhiav kev pab kho mob, tshwj xeeb tshaj yog los ntawm tus kws kho kev hais lus.
• Kev Kho Mob Hais Lus thiab Kev Siv Lus yog ib txoj kev kho mob zoo rau qhov no. Nws qhia tus menyuam ntau yam txuj ci thiab kev tawm dag zog kom kov yeej qhov nyuaj uas lawv ntsib hauv kev hais lus.
• Ua niam txiv, koj txoj kev ua siab ntev, kev txhawb nqa, thiab kev mloog koj tus menyuam yog lub zog zoo tshaj plaws uas koj tuaj yeem muab rau koj tus menyuam hauv txoj kev no. Koj tus menyuam yuav tsum hnov ​​​​​​koj txoj kev ntseeg siab.
• Cia koj tus menyuam nyiam tham nrog koj. Tsis txhob thuam lossis yuam nws. Ua kom lub tsev so.
• Koj txoj kev teb uas nyob twj ywm thiab muaj kev hlub yuav pab tau koj tus menyuam kov yeej qhov teeb meem no.

Yog li ntawd, nco ntsoov qhov no thiab ua siab ntev thiab hlub koj tus menyuam me. Yog tias muaj teeb meem dab tsi, tsis txhob ntshai mus ntsib kws kho mob lossis kws kho kev hais lus. Lawv npaj txhij los pab koj thiab koj tus menyuam.

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