Yu mama ɛn papa de dayvɔs? (Divɔs) Wi go tɔk bɔt dis?

Sɔntɛnde, famili layf nɔ kin fayn ɛn gladi lɛk aw wi kin tink, nɔto so? Sɔntɛm tɛm kin kam we mama ɛn papa dɛn kin gɛt difrɛn prɔblɛm dɛn ɛn dɛn nɔ kin gri wit dɛnsɛf, ɛn dɛn kin disayd se dɛn nɔ go ebul fɔ liv togɛda ɔnda wan ruf igen. Dis na wetin wi kin kɔl 'divorce' ɔ ``divorce'' na Inglish. Dis kin rili bi big chenj fɔ yu ɛn yu wan ol famili, ɛn i kin tranga smɔl. So, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis smɔl mɔ, insay wan we we yu go ɔndastand, simpul wan.

Wetin na dayvɔs rili?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dayvɔs na we tu mared pipul dɛn, we na yu mama ɛn papa, disayd se dɛn nɔ want fɔ bi maredman ɛn mareduman igen ɛn dɛn mared fɔ dɔn. Dis tan lɛk we dɛn separet dɛn bay lɔ , jɔs lɛk aw dɛn bin gɛt wanwɔd we di lɔ se we dɛn mared. Afta dɛn dɔn sayn di ligal dɔkyumɛnt dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit di lɔ, dɛn kin bi singl bak we di lɔ se.

Sɔntɛnde, dɛn mama ɛn papa dɛn ɔl tu kin disayd fɔ dayvɔs afta dɛn dɔn tɔk ɛn ɔndastand. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, na wan pɔsin nɔmɔ kin disayd fɔ dayvɔs, ilɛksɛf di ɔda pɔsin nɔ want am fɔs. Bɔt fɔ disayd fɔ dɔn mared na tin we rili at. Bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn kin tray fɔ sɔlv dɛn prɔblɛm dɛn ɛn sev di famili ɔlkayn we dɛn bifo dɛn dayvɔs. Dɛn kin ivin yuz advays. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, dɛn tray dɛn de nɔ kin kɔmɔt fayn. Insay dɛn kayn tin ya, fɔ separet na di bɛst tin fɔ dɛn ɔl tu, ɛn sɔntɛm fɔ di wan ol famili, pas fɔ sɔfa togɛda.

Wetin na di rizin dɛn we mek mama ɛn papa dɛn kin dayvɔs?

Bɔku rizin dɛn kin de we mek mama ɛn papa dɛn kin dayvɔs. E tan lɛk fɔ gɛt bɔrku mɛrɛsin fɔ di sem sik, ɛn de rizin kin difrɛn fɔ ɛnibɔdi. Na sɔm pan di rizin dɛn we kin apin:

• Fɔ fɛt ɛn nɔ gri ɔltɛm we kin mek i nɔ izi fɔ liv togɛda: Imajin se if fɛt-fɛt ɛn ala ala na os ɛvri mɔnin, yu tink se ɛnibɔdi go gladi ɔ i go fil fri? We dat kɔntinyu, dɛn go mɔs no se if dɛn de togɛda, dat go jɔs mek di prɔblɛm dɛn bɔku ɛn i nɔ go gɛt ɛni kɔrej to ɛnibɔdi.
• Di lɔv ɛn padi biznɛs we bin de we yu mared kin chenj as tɛm de go: Pipul dɛn at kin chenj, nɔto so? So, di filin fɔ lɛk ɛn tayt padi biznɛs we yu bin gɛt we yu mared kin stɔp ɔ ivin nɔ de igen as tɛm de go. Sɔntɛm di we aw dɛn de tink ɛn fil dɔn chenj bɔku, ɛn dɛn go no se dɛn nɔ de gri wit dɛnsɛf igen.
• Wan pan di mama ɛn papa kin bigin fɔ lɛk ɔda pɔsin: Sɔntɛnde, in mama ɔ papa ɔ in man ɔ uman kin du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit ɔda pɔsin sikrit wan. We di ɔda pɔsin kam fɔ no, i kin mek i sɔprayz ɛn fil bad, ɛn i kin pwɛl di trɔst we dɛn bin gɛt pan di mared-os.
• Siriɔs prɔblɛm dɛn lɛk fɔ drink rɔm ɔ fɔ du bad to pɔsin na os:Imajin, if wan pɔsin na di famili de drink rɔm ɛvride, i de ambɔg di ɔda wan dɛn na di famili, i de west mɔni, ɔ i de trit dɛn bad na dɛn bɔdi ɔ na dɛn maynd, yu tink se ɛnibɔdi na da famili de go gladi? Dɛn kayn siriɔs prɔblɛm dɛn ya kin bi wan men rizin we mek dɛn kin dayvɔs. Dɛn kayn tin ya kin rili ambɔg pikin dɛn maynd bak.
• Ivin if no big prɔblɛm nɔ de, dɛn ɔl tu kin want fɔ liv fɔ dɛnsɛf: Sɔntɛnde, ilɛksɛf big big fɛt ɔ siriɔs prɔblɛm nɔ de, dɛn ɔl tu kin no se i bɛtɛ fɔ lɛ dɛn de apat ɛn fɔ de fɔ dɛnsɛf pas fɔ de togɛda. Sɔntɛm di tin dɛn we dɛn bin want fɔ du ɛn di tin dɛn we dɛn bin de op fɔ na layf dɔn chenj.

Bɔku ɔda rizin dɛn kin de we tan lɛk dis. Di impɔtant tin na fɔ ɔndastand se ilɛk wetin na di rizin, na prɔblɛm bitwin yu mama ɛn papa, nɔto sɔntin we yu gɛt fɔ du.

Na mi mama ɛn papa dayvɔs?

Dis na di impɔtant tin we yu fɔ no: Nɔ pikin nɔ de mek mama ɛn papa dayvɔs. Mɛmba dat.

Yu mama ɛn papa disayd fɔ pat bikɔs dɛn nɔ gri wit dɛnsɛf, dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm, ɛn dɛn nɔ gri wit dɛnsɛf. I nɔ gɛt natin fɔ du wit ɛnitin we yu du ɔ we yu nɔ du. Sɔm pikin dɛn, mɔ di wan dɛn we yɔŋ lɛk yu, kin tink tin dɛn lɛk: "If a bin dɔn stɔdi tranga wan ɛn gɛt bɛtɛ gred na ɛgzam, mi mama ɛn papa nɔ bin fɔ dɔn fɛt," "If a bin ɛp dɛn wit di wok na os smɔl mɔ, dɛn nɔ bin fɔ dɔn separet," "If a nɔ bin de mɔna dɛn..." Wan tawzin ɛn wan tin lɛk dis kin kam na yu maynd.

Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek yu fil da we de, fɔ wɔri bɔt wetin apin. Bɔt, i nɔ ɛva bi yu fɔlt, yu nɔ go blem ɛnibɔdi fɔ dis, ɛn yu nɔ fɔ blem yusɛf bak. Yu ɔndastand? Dis tan lɛk big big briz. Di big big briz nɔ de kam bikɔs ɔf yu. Dis na di sem we.

Aw a go fil we mi mama ɛn papa dayvɔs?

We yu mama ɛn papa skata, yu kin fil difrɛn we, ɛn sɔntɛnde dɛn kin gɛt wanwɔd. I tan lɛk di wɛda: wan de, san kin kam, ren kin kam di nɛks de, ɛn di nɛks de, briz kin blo. Na so yu de fil.

• Sɔri: Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil bad we yu famili fil lɛk se i de fɔdɔm, ɔr we tu pipul dɛn we yu lɛk brok.
• Vɛks: Yu kin fil vɛks pan yu mama, yu papa, ɛn sɔntɛm ivin di wan ol wɔl, tink bɔt tin dɛn lɛk, "Wetin mek dis de apin to mi?", "Wetin mek dɛn nɔ bin ebul fɔ sɔlv di prɔblɛm dɛn?"
• Disapɔyntmɛnt: Fɔ fil lɛk di famili layf we yu bin de drim bɔt ɛn di op we yu bin gɛt fɔ tumara bambay de dɔn, dat kin rili mek yu at pwɛl.
• Fɔ fred ɛn wɔri: Yu kin fil fred ɛn wɔri, tink bɔt tin dɛn lɛk, "Wetin go apin nɛks?", "Udat go tek kia ɔf mi?", "A nɔ go ɛva ebul fɔ si mi mama ɛn papa?"
• Na yu wan de: We yu padi dɛn mama ɛn papa de togɛda, yu kin fil lɛk se yu wangren de, ɛn yu kin tink se na yu wangren de go tru dis. Yu kin ivin tink se, “Na mi nɔmɔ gɛt dis prɔblɛm.”
• Gilt: As wi bin dɔn tɔk bɔt, gilti kin kɔmɔt frɔm we yu tink se, "Na mi fɔlt dis?" Bɔt mɛmba se, nɔto so i bi.
• Fɔ fil lɛk fɔ difend wan ɛn fɔ blem di ɔda wan: Yu kin fil bad fɔ yu mama ɛn vɛks pan yu papa. Ɔ i kin bi di ɔda we.
• Fɔ fil fri: Dis kin tan lɛk se yu sɔprayz smɔl, bɔt sɔntɛnde yu kin fil fri. Ɛspɛshali if bɔku fɛt-fɛt, ala ala, ɛn tɛnsiɔn bin de na yu os, yu go fil sɔm fridɔm we yu nɔ gɛt dɛn tin dɛn de.

If yu de fil ɔl dɛn kayn filin ya, ɔ nɔr de fil pan dɛn, ɔr ɛni ɔda tin, i impɔtant fɔ ɔndastand se ɔl dis na nɔmal tin . Nɔto yu wan de insay dis tɛm.

Us chenj dɛn kin apin bikɔs dɛn dayvɔs?

Dipen pan wetin de apin na yu famili, sɔm tin dɛn na yu layf kin chenj we yu dayvɔs. Sɔm pan dɛn chenj ya kin tranga, bɔt sɔm kin bi gud chenj dɛn bak.

Difrɛn chenj dɛn we kin apin:

• Fɔ chenj usay yu de: Yu go nid fɔ muf go na nyu os, ɔ go na ɔda siti ɔ provins.
• Fɔ chenj skul: Fɔ muf go na nyu os, fɔ go na nyu skul, ɛn fɔ mek nyu padi dɛn kin tranga smɔl.
• Fɔ de wit wan pɔsin nɔmɔ wan tɛm: Sɔntɛm yu nɔ go ebul fɔ spɛn tɛm wit yu mama ɛn papa dɛn ɔl tu lɛk aw yu bin de spɛn am trade. Yu go nid fɔ ajɔst to difrɛn schedule dɛn, lɛk fɔ spɛn tɛm wit mama insay di wik ɛn papa insay di wikɛnd.
• I nɔ kin izi fɔ yu pan mɔni biznɛs: We famili skata, mɔni kin de na yu pɔkit pas aw i bin de bifo.
• Di we aw mama ɛn papa dɛn de vɛks: If yu mama ɛn papa vɛks bikɔs ɔf tin dɛn we bin apin bifo dɛn dayvɔs ɔ we dɛn bin de dayvɔs, yu go yɛri ɔ si dɛn de ala pan dɛnsɛf ɛn blem dɛnsɛf. Dis kin rili at fɔ du. Tray nɔ fɔ kech pan am.

Gud chenj dɛn we pɔsin kin du:

• Pis we de go ɔp na os: Di fɛt-fɛt ɛn ala ala ɔltɛm na os kin dɔn, ɛn di os kin bi ples we pis ɛn kwayɛt.
• We yu si yu mama ɛn papa gladi: Yu go si se yu mama ɛn papa we bin de fil bad ɛn vɛks we dɛn bin de togɛda, naw de pe atɛnshɔn pan dɛn yon layf ɛn gladi pas aw dɛn bin de bifo afta dɛn dɔn skata.
• Fɔ mek yu padi biznɛs wit yu mama ɛn papa strɔng: Afta yu mama ɛn papa separet, yu go si se dɛn kin spɛn mɔ tɛm wit yu. Dɛn kin pe atɛnshɔn to yu mɔ ɛn tray fɔ mek yu gɛt bɛtɛ padi biznɛs wit yu wan bay wan.
• Fɔ mek mama ɛn papa dɛn gɛt gud padi biznɛs:I kin tan lɛk se i strenj, bɔt afta dɛn dɔn dayvɔs, sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn nɔ kin gɛt di prɔblɛm dɛn we dɛn bin gɛt as maredman ɛn mareduman igen, so dɛn kin tɔk lɛk gud padi dɛn ɛn wok togɛda fɔ du wetin dɛn pikin dɛn gɛt.

Wetin bak a nid fɔ no bɔt dayvɔs?

Sɔm tin dɛn de we yu kin du ɛn yu fɔ no insay dis tranga tɛm.

1. Tɔk bɔt aw yu de fil: Tɛl yu mama ɛn papa aw yu fil bɔt di dayvɔs, aw yu de fil (sɔri, vɛks, fred). I nɔ mata ɔmɔs trɔbul dɛn de go tru, yu na dɛn pikin. Dɛn go ɔndastand aw yu de fil. Nɔ lay, tɔk di tru . I go ɛp dɛn fɔ ɔndastand yu ɛn ɛp yu bɔku.

2. Tɔk to big pɔsin we yu kin abop pan: If yu gɛt tin dɛn we nɔ izi fɔ tɛl yu mama ɛn papa, ɔ if yu nid fɔ tɔk to pɔsin apat frɔm dɛn, i kin rili ɛp yu fɔ tɔk to ɔda big pɔsin we yu trɔst . I kin bi yu bɛst padi in mama, papa, yu grani, anti, ɔnkul, yu ticha, skul advaysa, rilijɔn lida lɛk prist, prist na tɛmpul, ɔ prist na chɔch . Sheb yu lod wit dem.

3. Mɛmba se nɔto yu wangren de: Bɔku bɔku pikin dɛn de ɔlsay na di wɔl, ivin na Sri Lanka, we dɛn mama ɛn papa dɔn dayvɔs. Nɔto yu na di fɔs pɔsin fɔ go tru dis ɛkspiriɛns, ɛn yu nɔ go bi di las pɔsin. Sɔmbɔdi de we go ebul fɔ ɛp yu ɛn lisin to yu.

4. Lɛk yu mama ɛn papa ɔl tu: Jɔs bikɔs dɛn dɔn dayvɔs nɔ min se yu fɔ chenj di lɔv we yu gɛt fɔ dɛn. Dɛn na yu mama ɛn papa. Ilɛksɛf dɛn gɛt prɔblɛm, dɛn ɔl tu lɛk yu. If i pɔsibul, tray fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt gud padi biznɛs wit dɛn ɔl tu.

5. Mek wetin yu de du ɔltɛm: As yu ebul, kɔntinyu fɔ du yu skul wok, spɔt, ɛn tin dɛn we yu lɛk fɔ du lɛk aw yu kin du. Dis go ɛp yu fɔ pas dis tranga tɛm lɛk aw i nɔmal.

Di Mɛsej fɔ Tek-Home fɔ Yu

We mama ɛn papa dɛn dayvɔs, na big chenj fɔ di wan ol famili, ɛn i nɔ kin izi fɔ ajɔst to. I nɔ kin izi ɔltɛm. Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil bad, fil bad, ɛn kɔnfyus.

Bɔt, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ biliv tranga wan se dis dayvɔs nɔ ɛva bi yu fɔlt. Yu nɔ gɛt ɛni rizin fɔ fil gilti fɔ dat ɔ fɔ blem yusɛf.

Bɔku ɔda pikin dɛn lɛk yu, dɔn gɛt dɛn kayn tin ya, dɛn dɔn win dɛn, ɛn bil dɛn layf fayn fayn wan. Yu kin du am bak. Yu strɔng pas aw yu tink. Pipul dɛn de rawnd yu we lɛk yu ɛn want fɔ ɛp yu. Tɔk to dɛn, sheb yu lod, pen, ɛn prɔblɛm dɛn. If nid de, yu kin gɛt prɔfɛshɔnal advays bak.

As tɛm de go, yu go gɛt trɛnk fɔ ajɔst to dis tranga tin. Jɔs lɛk aw wund kin tek tɛm fɔ wɛl, na so yu at go tek tɛm fɔ wɛl afta dis ɛkspiriɛns. Alaw am. Tek kia ɔf yusɛf. Yu gɛt valyu.

` Divɔs, famili kwɛshɔn, pikin dɛn maynd wɛlbɔdi, rilayshɔnship wit mama ɛn papa, imɔshɔn manejmɛnt, advays, Sri Lanka