Tekereza, iyo ibintu byose mu buzima bwawe bigenda neza, ntuba wumva wishimye. Ibintu byose bisa n'aho ntacyo bimaze, nk'aho udashobora kwishimira ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose. Ibi nibyo umukinnyi wa filime w'icyamamare ku isi Lorraine Bracco yahuye na byo. Akina nk'umuganga w'indwara zo mu mutwe muri filime ya televiziyo yitwa 'The Sopranos', ariko na we ubwe yahanganye n'ikibazo cyo kwiheba mu buzima busanzwe. Binyuze mu nkuru ye, dushobora kuvuga ku kibazo cy'ihungabana benshi muri twe batinya kuvugaho, ariko kikaba kiri hagati yacu.
Umwijima waje mu gihe cyiza cy'ubuzima
Lorraine Bracco yanyuze mu bihe bigoye cyane mu buzima bwe. Yahuye n'ibibazo byinshi, nko gutandukana n'umugabo we, intambara ndende yo kurera abana, byatumye abura amafaranga, ndetse n'umukobwa we arwara indwara ikomeye (Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis). Ariko igitangaje ni uko yagize ikibazo cyo kwiheba nyuma gato y'uko ibyo bibazo byose birangiye kandi ubuzima bwe bwongeye kuba bwiza. Yagize uruhare rwiza muri serivise ya 'The Sopranos', kandi byose byari bigenda neza.
Nk’uko ubwe abivuga, "Namaze amezi menshi mbona ko nta kintu numva. Nta byishimo byari mu mutima wanjye. Amaherezo, nabonye ko ibi bitari bisanzwe, ko hari ikintu kitagenda neza hano. Umwaka w’ubuzima bwanjye wari warashize! Icyo gihe ni kirekire ntakiriho!"
Ikintu cy'ingenzi cyane dushobora gusobanukirwa muri ibi ni uko kwiheba atari ukumva ubabaye gusa cyangwa ikintu giterwa n'ibibazo by'ubuzima . Ni ikibazo gikomeye kurusha ibyo, ni indwara nyayo ifitanye isano n'imikorere y'ibinyabutabire mu bwonko bwacu.
Ni irihe tandukaniro riri hagati y'indwara yo kwiheba n'agahinda gasanzwe?
Twese tugira ibihe twumva tubabaye. Ibyo ni ibisanzwe. Ariko kwiheba ni ikintu gitandukanye. Ni ngombwa gusobanukirwa iri tandukaniro.
| Ibiranga | Agahinda gasanzwe | Ihungabana ry'Ubuvuzi |
|---|---|---|
| Igihe | Ubusanzwe igabanuka mu minsi mike. | Bimara ibyumweru birenga bibiri icyarimwe. Bishobora kumara amezi cyangwa imyaka. |
| Impamvu | Akenshi hari impamvu yihariye (urugero: gutakaza umuntu, gutakaza akazi). | Wenda nta mpamvu igaragara ihari. |
| Ubushobozi bwo kwishima | Nubwo waba ubabaye, ushobora kugira ibyishimo bike uganira n'inshuti yawe kandi ukumva indirimbo nziza. | Anhedonia ni ukudashobora kwishimira ikintu icyo ari cyo cyose wakundaga. Ibintu byose bisa n'aho ari ubusa. |
| Ingaruka ku buzima bwa buri munsi | Nubwo bigoye gato, ushobora gukomeza imirimo yawe isanzwe. | Imirimo ya buri munsi (akazi, ishuri, imirimo yo mu rugo) irahinduka ku buryo utashobora kuyikora. Ushobora no kumva udashaka kuva mu buriri. |
| Ibindi bintu | Ahanini numva mfite agahinda. | Guhinduka kw'ibitotsi (gusinzira cyane cyangwa kudasinzira), guhinduka kw'ubushake bwo kurya, umunaniro ukabije, kumva nabi kuri wowe ubwawe, kugorwa no kwibanda ku bintu, gutekereza kwiyahura. |
Ibyabaye kuri Lorraine ni nk'ibyo. Agira ati: "Nasize umwana wanjye ku ishuri, nakoraga imirimo yose yo mu rugo. Ariko ntabwo numvaga meze neza." Hari abantu badashobora no kuva mu buriri iyo bihebye. Abandi, nka Lorraine, bashobora gukora imirimo yabo ya buri munsi mu buryo bwa tekiniki, ariko nta buzima cyangwa ibyishimo bumva imbere muri bo.
"Numvaga ndi mu bwigunge cyane kandi ndi mu bwigunge. Sinakundaga ubuzima na gato. Nakoraga ibintu gusa. Nibwiraga ko ubuzima bwanjye buzahora bumeze gutya."
Ntutinye gusaba ubufasha!
Kimwe n'abandi bantu benshi, Lorraine yabanje gutinya gushaka ubufasha. Yatekerezaga ko agomba kuba ashobora kugenzura amarangamutima ye wenyine. Yanatinyaga ko gufata imiti igabanya ubukana byamubuza amarangamutima kandi bigatuma adakora.
Ariko amaherezo, amaze kubona ko atagishoboye kubaho gutya, yahisemo kujya kwa muganga w’indwara zo mu mutwe abifashijwemo n’inshuti ye. Nk’uko abivuga,Kujya muri iyo nama ya mbere byari intambwe ikomeye cyane.
"Nibyo koko, byari biteye ubwoba cyane. Ariko icyo gihe ni bwo nafashe ubuzima bwanjye. Aho kureka agahinda kanjye, agahinda kanjye, n'umubabaro wanjye, nashoboye kureka inzozi zanjye zikayobora ubuzima bwanjye."
Ubu ni ubutumwa bw'ingenzi cyane. Kujya kwa muganga si ikimenyetso cy'intege nke, ni imwe mu ntambwe zikomeye ushobora gutera kugira ngo wite ku buzima bwawe no gukira.
Kuvurwa no gukira
Umuganga wa Lorraine yaramuteze amatwi yitonze amuha umwanya uhagije wo kuvuga ibimenyetso bye. Nubwo yabanje kwanga, yemeye gufata imiti igabanya ubukana bw'indwara zo kwiheba ku nama za muganga. Yanatangiye no kugisha inama mu biganiro.
Binyuze muri ubu buvuzi, yavumbuye impamvu z'umwijima mu mutima we. Buhoro buhoro, yongeye kwisanga. "Numvise itandukaniro rikomeye mu buzima bwanjye bwa buri munsi. Ubwo natangiraga kuvurwa nibwo natangiye inzira yo gukira - mu nzira yo kwisanga, kuba jye ubwanjye."
Yafashe imiti mu gihe cy'amezi agera kuri 15. Yakomeje kuvura indwara yo kuvuga mu gihe cy'imyaka ibiri n'igice. Icy'ingenzi kurushaho, ihungabana rye ntiryagarutse. Yari yakize burundu.
Ubu bunararibonye bwamufashije kandi mu mwuga we. Avuga ko ubunararibonye bwe nk'umurwayi bwamufashije kwerekana uruhare rw'umuganga wo mu mutwe (Dr. Melfi) muri serie 'The Sopranos'.
Niba wowe cyangwa undi muntu uzi afite ibi bimenyetso, ndakwinginze ntubabare wenyine. Kimwe na Lorraine, komera bihagije gusaba ubufasha. Vugana na muganga w'umuryango wawe kuri ibi. Iyo ni yo ntambwe ya mbere kandi y'ingenzi mu nzira yo gukira.
Ubutumwa bwo kujyana mu rugo
- Kwiheba si intege nke zo mu mutwe, ni indwara nyayo igomba kuvurwa.
- Ibi bishobora kugira ingaruka ku muntu uwo ari we wese, kabone n'iyo ibintu byose bigenda neza mu buzima.
- Uretse agahinda gusa, menya ibimenyetso nko kubura ibyishimo mu bikorwa byakunzwe mbere, umunaniro ukabije, n'impinduka mu gusinzira no mu kurya.
- Hari uburyo bwiza cyane bwo kuvura, nko kuvura mu buryo bwo kuvuga no kuvura.
- Niba wowe cyangwa undi muntu uzi ufite ubu burwayi nk'ubu, ni ngombwa cyane kutaguma wenyine no kujya kwa muganga vuba bishoboka kugira ngo akugire inama.
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