Ngaba wakha waceba ubomi bakho bonke? Wakha waba nephupha elikhulu ukususela usemncinci, "Yile nto ndifuna ukuba yiyo xa ndikhula"? Mhlawumbi yayikukuba ngugqirha. Okanye mhlawumbi yayikukuba yi-CEO yenkampani enkulu. Kodwa kuthekani ukuba ubomi bakho ngequbuliso buthatha indlela eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo kunaleyo wawuyicinga? Umtshato, umntwana, ukufudukela kwisixeko esitsha... Ngayo yonke le nto, uyaqonda ukuba ubomi obuphupha ngabo abuyiyo into obunayo ngokwenene, kwaye bunokuziva bunzima kwaye bumnyama. Obo bumnyama bunokuba sisiqalo semeko esithetha ngayo namhlanje, ukudakumba.
Ngaba ukudakumba kukudana nje?
Hayi, akunjalo konke konke. Uxinzelelo lungaphezulu kakhulu kunemvakalelo nje yosizi. Yimeko yokwenyani yezonyango . Ngokuchanekileyo, yimeko enxulunyaniswa notshintsho kwikhemistri yengqondo. Ibizwa ngokuba yi-"Major Depression Disorder".
Khawucinge nje, ubusoloko usenza yonke into kakuhle, ugqwesile kuyo yonke into. Kodwa ngequbuliso awukwazi kwenza nto. Awuziva ngathi uvuka ebhedini kusasa. Awunawo amandla okwenza nomsebenzi omncinci. Yonke into iyahamba kakuhle. Emva koko uqala ukuzicingela "njengongaphumeleliyo." Imvakalelo yokuba "andinamsebenzi" ifakwa engqondweni yakho. Le mvakalelo yenza ukudakumba kube mandundu. Kufana nomjikelo ombi. Le meko inokuba mbi kangangokuba abanye abantu bafuna ukushiya usapho lwabo, abahlobo, nayo yonke into ngasemva babalekele kwenye indawo ukuze baqale ubomi obutsha. Akumangalisi.
Ukudakumba akusosiphene. Yimeko yezonyango efuna unyango, njengesifo seswekile okanye uxinzelelo lwegazi oluphezulu. Ngoko ke akukho sizathu sokuba neentloni okanye ukufihla oko.
Kwanasemva kokuba kuqalwe unyango, kutheni ngamanye amaxesha kuvakala ngathi alusebenzi?
Le yingxaki abantu abaninzi abanengxaki yokudakumba abanayo. Mhlawumbi ugqirha wakho ukuqalile unyango. Kodwa xa ungaboni tshintsho olulindelekileyo, ungaziva ungenathemba kwaye uzibuze, "Ngaba oku kuya kuze kube ngcono?" Makhe sijonge ezinye zezizathu zoku.
Ngaba unyango luvakala ngathi alusebenzi?
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa usiya kubona umcebisi okanye ugqirha wengqondo, ungaziva ufuna ukuthetha into engaphezulu kuka "ewe" okanye "hayi" kwimibuzo abayibuzayo. Kunokuba nzima ukuthetha ngento esengqondweni yakho. Kunokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zoku.
- Wena nogqirha wengqondo anikakhelani ubudlelwane obuhle.
- Awukakulungeli ngokupheleleyo ukuthetha ngento esengqondweni yakho.
- Loo nto isenokungabi lonyango lufanelekileyo kuwe.
Khumbula, ukuba nje ayizange isebenze nogqirha omnye akuthethi ukuba unyango ngokwalo aluphumelelanga.Kubaluleke kakhulu ukufumana ugqirha okanye umcebisi okumamela kakuhle, okuqondayo, kwaye kulula ukuthetha naye.
Akukho mahluko na nokuba usela amayeza?
Amayeza okudakumba, aziwa ngokuba ngamayeza okudakumba, awasebenzi ngendlela efanayo okanye ngesantya esifanayo kubo bonke abantu.
- Kuthatha ixesha ukufumana amayeza afanelekileyo kunye nedosi. Ugqirha wakho angazama amayeza aliqela kunye needosi.
- Amanye amayeza anokuba nemiphumo emibi. Usenokuziva ngathi awungowenu, ngathi awunazo iimvakalelo.
- Kunokubakho iingxaki ngamayeza asetyenziswa kwezinye iimeko. Umzekelo, asenokusebenzisana namayeza e-ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder).
Okubaluleke kakhulu: Konke oku kufuneka kwenzeke phantsi kweliso elibukhali likagqirha wakho . Ungaze uyeke ukuthatha amayeza akho okanye utshintshe umthamo ngokwakho. Ukuba uneziphumo ebezingalindelekanga, qiniseka ukuba uthetha nogqirha wakho ngazo.
Jonga le theyibhile. Ingaphendula eminye yemibuzo yakho malunga nonyango.
| Umngeni kuNyango | Oko Unokukwenza |
|---|---|
| Ubunzima bokuthetha ngexesha lonyango lwengqondo. | Thetha nogqirha wakho ngokunyanisekileyo ngale nto. Mhlawumbi unyango olwahlukileyo okanye omnye umcebisi anokunceda. |
| Andiziva bhetele nangona ndisela amayeza. | Yiba nomonde. Kungathatha iiveki ezimbalwa ukuba iyeza lisebenze. Ukuba akukho tshintsho, thetha nogqirha wakho malunga nokutshintsha iyeza okanye umthamo. |
| Iziphumo ebezingalindelekanga zamayeza (umz. ukozela, ukungakhathali). | Xelela ugqirha wakho ngoko nangoko. Ungayeki ukusebenzisa amayeza. Uza kukunika enye indlela ekufaneleyo. |
| Imvakalelo yokuba "oku akusayi kuze kube ngcono." | Olu luvo luyinxalenye yoxinzelelo. Thetha nabantu obathandayo kunye nogqirha wakho ngale nto. Awuwedwa. |
"Nogqirha akanakundinyanga" - Ndingaphuma njani kule meko yokungakwazi ukuzinceda?
Mhlawumbi emva konyaka wonyango, ugqirha wakho wengqondo uthi, "Ufanele ukuba uqhubekile ngoku," kwaye kuvakala ngathi ihlabathi lonke likuwele. "Ukuba ugqirha akanakundinyanga, ngubani omnye onokukwazi ukundinyanga?" Ucinga. Le yeyona nxalenye imbi kakhulu yokudakumba. Kuvakala ngathi lonke ithontsi lethemba liphelile.
Kodwa cinga ngale ndlela. Ugqirha akatsho ukuba uyakuyeka. Uthi oko besikwenza ixesha elide akusebenzi kuwe, ngoko ke kufuneka sijonge oku ngendlela eyahlukileyo . Lithuba lokufumana indlela entsha.
Ukuchacha ngokupheleleyo kwingxaki yokudakumba akwenzeki ngobusuku obunye. Luhambo. Olo hambo lufuna amayeza, unyango lwengqondo, nokunye okuninzi. Oko kubizwa ngokuba yindlela ebanzi .
- Ukuqhubeka konyango: Le sisiseko. Musa ukuphelisa ubudlelwane bakho nogqirha wakho.
- Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila: Ukutya okunesondlo, ukuzilolonga imihla ngemihla, kunye nokulala kakuhle kubaluleke kakhulu.
- Inkxaso yoluntu: Thetha nomhlobo othembekileyo okanye ilungu losapho malunga nento ekukhathazayo. Musa ukuthwala lo mthwalo wedwa.
- Ukufumana intsingiselo nethemba: Oku kubaluleke kakhulu. Kwabanye, oku kusenokuba ngonqulo , ukucamngca, okanye umthandazo. Kwabanye, kusenokuba kukuthatha into entsha yokuzonwabisa, ukuchitha ixesha kwindalo, okanye ukuzibekela iinjongo ezincinci nokusebenzela ukuzifezekisa. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukongeza intsingiselo entsha nethemba elitsha ebomini bakho.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Ukudakumba akuyonto ibuthathaka kuwe, yimeko yokwenyani yezonyango efuna unyango.
- Musa ukuphelelwa lithemba ukuba unyango lokuqala alusebenzi. Sebenzisana nogqirha wakho ude ufumane unyango olukulungeleyo.
- Ukuba usebenzisa amayeza, soloko usenza njalo phantsi kweliso likagqirha. Ungaze uyeke ukuwasebenzisa okanye utshintshe umthamo ngokwakho.
- Ukongeza kunyango, indlela yokuphila elungileyo, unxibelelwano nabantu, nokufumana into ekunika ithemba lobomi kubalulekile kwinkqubo yokuphiliswa.
- Awuwedwa kule mfazwe. Cela uncedo. Thetha. Baninzi abantu abalindele ukukunceda.
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