Ɔkwan bɛn so na wudi wo nkate horow ho dwuma? (Emotional Reactions) Momma yɛnka eyi ho asɛm!

Fa no sɛ eyi: Ɛyɛ Fida, sukuu bere a etwa to. Wo ne w’adamfo bi retu kwan dapɛn awiei, na aka nnɔnhwerew 4 pɛ sɛ wubefi ase. Woayɛ adwumaden dapɛn no nyinaa, awie wo fie nnwuma, na woasiesie wo ho sɛ wobɛgye w’ahome. Afei ɔkyerɛkyerɛfo no ka kyerɛ wo sɛ wowɔ sɔhwɛ bi Memeneda! Ɛte nka dɛn?

Ebia wobɛte nka sɛ wo ho yeraw wo kɛse, anaa wo bo afuw kɛse. Ebia wobɛte awerɛhow mpo. Ebia wobɛte nhyɛso ne adesoa pii nso nka, te sɛ, "Oh, mɛyɛ dɛn asua eyi mprempren?"

Nanso, woyɛ w’ade dɛn wɔ eyi ho? Dɛn na woyɛ, dɛn na woka?

Ebia mpofirim ara wobɛte nka sɛ wobɛsɔre ateɛteɛm akyerɛ ɔkyerɛkyerɛfo no sɛ, "Ɛno nteɛ koraa! Yɛn mu binom wɔ nhyehyɛe ma dapɛn awiei no." Nanso wunim sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ woto w’ano kosi sɛ adesua no bɛba awiei – na afei wubetumi ne w’adamfo no akasa afa eyi ho.

Nanso sɛ wonyɛ obi a obetumi adwo na wo ho adwo wo nso ɛ? Nha wo ho. Obiara betumi asua sɛnea ɔbɛyɛ n’ade yiye wɔ nkate a emu yɛ den ho. Nnipa binom hia sɛ wɔde wɔn ho hyɛ mu kakra kɛkɛ, ɛno ara ne no.

So yebesua sɛnea yebebua asɛm no yiye?

Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, nkate horow a yebedi ho dwuma yiye no fa ɔkwan a yɛbɛfa so ada yɛn nkate adi ne bere a yɛbɛda no adi ho.

Nnipa a wɔn ho akokwaw wɔ wɔn nkate sohwɛ mu nim sɛ wɔn nkate a wɔbɛda no adi no yɛ apɔwmuden – nanso sɛnea wɔbɛyɛ ne bere a wɔbɛyɛ nso ho hia. Ne saa nti, wotumi yɛ ho biribi yiye wɔ tebea biara mu:

• Wonim sɛ wobetumi apaw sɛnea wɔbɛyɛ wɔn ade, sen sɛ wɔbɛma wɔn nkate adi wɔn so na wɔaka anaa wɔayɛ nneɛma bi a akyiri yi wobenu wɔn ho.
• Wɔte bere a ɛsɛ sɛ wɔkasa ne bere a ɛsɛ sɛ wɔtwɛn kakra ansa na wɔayɛ wɔn ade wɔ nea wɔte nka no ho ntease pa.
• Wonim sɛ wɔn mmuae no bɛka nea ɛbɛba akyi no – a sɛnea afoforo ne wɔn di ne nea wosusuw fa wɔn ho ka ho.

Ebia woahu sɛ obi anya nkate mu dodo, na ɔyɛ n’ade wɔ ɔkwan bi so a ɛhaw wo anaasɛ ɛma w’ani wu ne ho. Ebia woakae mmere bi a na w’ankasa nkate mu yɛ den araa ma na ɛsɛ sɛ wode w’apɛde nyinaa di dwuma na amma woankɔ saa kwan no so nso.

Ebia wokae bere bi a na wuntumi nni sɛnea woyɛ w’ade no so. Ebia ehu, abufuw, anaa abasamtu bedii so. Ɛsono obiara. Sɛ ɛba saa a, fa kyɛ wo ho na susuw sɛnea anka wubetumi ayɛ yiye bere foforo no ho. Susuw nea wobɛyɛ bere foforo no ho.

Nkate ho mfitiasesɛm bi (Nkate 101) .

Saa ahokokwaw ahorow a yɛde di yɛn nkate horow ho dwuma na yɛyɛ ho biribi yiye yi yɛ nkate mu nimdeɛ akɛse bi fã. Yɛfrɛ eyi nkate mu nyansa (EQ) . Ahokokwaw biara a ɛka bom yɛ saa EQ yi gye bere ne adesua na ama anya nkɔso.

Nnipa a wɔyɛ wɔn ade yiye no ho akokwaw dedaw wɔ EQ ho nimdeɛ atitiriw bi mu. Nanso eyinom yɛ nneɛma a obiara betumi de adi dwuma:

Nkate mu Nhumu

Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, saa ahokokwaw yi yɛ tumi a yetumi hu nkate horow a yɛrete nka bere biara. Eyi ne `(EQ)` ahokokwaw no mu ade titiriw sen biara. Ɛtɔ mmere bi a, nkate horow a yɛte nka no din a yɛbɛbɔ kɛkɛ betumi aboa yɛn ma yɛadi yɛn nkate horow so. Fa no sɛ, mpofirim ara wote abufuw nka, nanso sɛ wuhu wɔ w'adwene mu sɛ, "Oh, me bo afuw mprempren yi ara," saa abufuw no te nka sɛ ɛyɛ mmerɛw kakra sɛ wubedi so.

Nkate horow a Wɔte ase na Wogye Tom

Nkate horow a yɛbɛte ase no kyerɛ sɛ yɛbɛte nea enti a yɛte nka sɛnea yɛte nka no ase. Sɛ nhwɛso no, yebetumi aka akyerɛ yɛn ho sɛ, "Mete nka sɛ mayɛ ankonam ankasa na minni ahobammɔ kakra efisɛ minnyaa hokwan nkɔ sukuupɔn no mu de besi nnɛ, na me nnamfo baanu no nyinaa anya hokwan." So woate nka saa pɛn?

Wɔ mmere a ɛte sɛ eyinom mu no, ebetumi aboa yɛn paa sɛ yɛbɛhwɛ yɛn nkate wɔ ɔkwan a ntease wom so. Yebetumi asusuw sɛ: "Ɛnyɛ nwonwa sɛ mete nka sɛ mayɛ ankonam – ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata koraa sɛ mɛte nka saa wɔ tebea a ɛte sɛɛ mu." Eyi te sɛ ayamye kakra, ntease kakra, wɔ sɛnea yɛte nka ho. Eyi boa yɛn ma yegye yɛn nkate tom. Yenim sɛ ɛfata, na mfomso biara nni sɛnea yɛte nka no ho.

Nkate a yegye tom no kyerɛ sɛ yebehu nkate a yɛte nka no na yɛate ase, a yɛmfa ho asodi nto afoforo anaa yɛn ankasa so.

Mfaso biara nni so sɛ wobɛbɔ afoforo sobo, aka sɛ, "Eyi nti na mete nka saa no." Ɛnyɛ papa nso sɛ yɛbɛbu yɛn ankasa nkateɛ atɛn na yɛaka sɛ, "Mintumi nte nka saa" anaa "Ɛyɛ bɔne paa sɛ mete nka saa!" Ade titiriw ne sɛ wubegye wo nkate atom, na ɛnyɛ sɛ wobɛma amfi wo nsam. Ate aseɛ?

Sɛ wunya nimdeɛ atitiriw yi yiye a, ɛbɛyɛ mmerɛw kɛse sɛ wubedi nea woyɛ ankasa bere a wote nkate a emu yɛ den nka no ho dwuma. Saa ahokokwaw atitiriw yi a wode bedi dwuma no bɛboa wo ma woanya ahoɔden afi nkate a emu yɛ den mu ntɛm.

Woreyɛ dɛn? Susuw ho hwɛ...

Wo de susuw eyi ho hwɛ: Wɔagye wo nnamfo akɔ kɔlege, nnwuma pa mu, anaa agumadi akuw mu. Nanso ɛno mu biara nsii wo so de besi nnɛ. Sɛ wuhu nea wote nka, te ase, na wugye tom wie a, woyɛ w’ade dɛn?

• Wohwɛ sɛ wo werɛ ahow bere a wo nnamfonom wɔ hɔ a, wosusuw sɛ wobebisa wo sɛ, "Dɛn na ɛyɛ bɔne?"
• Wɔbɔ nkurɔfo a wɔanya hokwan dedaw ho nsɛmmɔne, na wɔka nsɛm te sɛ, "Mempɛ sɛ mɛkɔ saa hellhole no mu mpo."
• Sɛ wo ne w'adamfo bi a wowɔ wo mu ahotoso ka nea ɛwɔ w'adwene mu a, "Ɛyɛ me yaw sɛ minnyaa hokwan biara. Nanso metumi ne me nnamfonom atra."
• Wokae wo ho sɛ eyi nyɛ wiase awiei. Wosi gyinae sɛ wobɛma no bere kakra, a wowɔ anidaso sɛ ɛrensɛe wo da no.

Susuw saa nneɛma a wobɛpaw yi mu biara ho, ne nea ebetumi afi emu biara mu aba. Mmuae ahorow yi mu nea ɛwɔ he na ɛbɛma nea eye sen biara aba? Susuw ho kakra.

Yɛwɔ paw bere nyinaa wɔ sɛnea yɛbɛyɛ yɛn ade wɔ tebea bi ho. Sɛ yɛte saa ase a, ɛbɛyɛ mmerɛw kɛse sɛ yebesi gyinae ahorow a ɛsow aba pa.

Nkrasɛm a Etwa To a Wɔde Kɔ Fie

Sɛ wobɛsua sɛ wobɛbua yie a, ɛgye sɛ wode wo ho bɛhyɛ mu, ɛyɛ nokware. Nanso yɛn nyinaa betumi anya tumi a yɛde bɛda yɛn nkate adi wɔ ɔkwan a ɛfata so, a yɛrenhyɛ yɛn so. Ɛno yɛ biribi a ɛsɛ sɛ yɛn ani gye ho ankasa, ɛnte saa?

Enti, sɛ wowɔ mmere bi a wote nka sɛ ɛyɛ den ma wo sɛ wubedi saa nkate horow yi ho dwuma a, mma ɛnhaw wo. Fa saa nneɛma yi di dwuma nkakrankakra. Nea edi kan no, hu nea wote nka no pɛpɛɛpɛ. Afei, bisa wo ho sɛ, "Dɛn nti na mete nka saa?" Ma wo ho kwan ma nte saa atenka no nka, gye tom sɛ ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata. Afei, susuw sɛnea wubebua ho na si gyinae.

Ɛte sɛ nea woresua sɛnea wɔka kar. Mfiase no ɛyɛ den, nanso ɛyɛ mmerɛw bere a wosua no. Wubetumi ayɛ eyi!

Nkate sohwɛ, nkate mu nneyɛe, adwenemyare, nkate mu nyansa, EQ, adwennwen sohwɛ, adwene a ɛma ɛyɛ komm