Many people think that
pregnancy is a time when you should always be happy and beautiful like a rose. That's what we are shown in movies and stories. But is it really like that? Sometimes, even the little ones' eyes well up with tears, they feel sad, and sometimes they just get angry. There are times when you feel scared about the future and the baby. If you feel this way too, don't worry. These things are not unique to you. This is a common experience that many mothers go through during pregnancy.
Is it normal to have these feelings during pregnancy?
Simply put, yes!
It's very normal to have these ups and downs during pregnancy, meaning you may feel very happy at times and very sad at other times. The main reason for this is
the changes in your hormones . These hormones are
chemicals that help control our body's functions as well as our emotions. Since these hormone levels change a lot during pregnancy, it can be a little difficult to control your emotions. Not only that, but during this time your life is getting ready for a big change. Adding a new baby to the family is a big responsibility. So it's normal to have a lot of thoughts about it. Just think, some mothers think about questions like these:
- Is there not enough space in our house?
- Should I put the baby in daycare , or should I stay home?
- What will happen to my job?
- How will the older child get used to the younger one?
- Will money problems arise as expenses increase?
It's normal to feel a little anxious or scared about things like this. Some women may experience fewer physical discomforts (morning sickness, body aches) during pregnancy, but still experience these kinds of mental worries. So never think that you're the only one who's going through this.
How do you cope with these feelings?
Although these feelings are normal, there is no need to suffer from them. There are several things you can do to cope with this situation.
Be kind to yourself.
First of all, you need to understand that this is not your fault. This is part of pregnancy. So don't pressure yourself to be happy all the time. If you feel sad, cry a little. If you are tired, rest a little. Listen to your body and your mind.
Talk to someone you trust.
Don't keep your feelings to yourself. Talk to your partner, your mother, your sister, or a friend you trust the most. You will feel a great sense of relief when you let your feelings out. The support you receive from them will be a great source of strength during this time.
Think of the problems that arise during this time as opportunities to strengthen you as a family to face the future. These are not problems, but challenges. When you overcome those challenges, you become stronger.
When is professional help needed?
There is a difference between normal anxiety during pregnancy and serious mental health conditions. Sometimes these feelings go beyond normal levels. If that happens, you should
definitely seek medical advice . The table below will help you understand this difference.
| Common worries and feelings | When to see your doctor immediately |
|---|
| Feeling a little scared about the future, money, or work. | If you continue to suffer from unbearable sadness and feelings of hopelessness (this could be depression ). |
| Hormonal changes can cause you to become angry or sad over small things. | If you feel excessive fear, worry, and anxiety for no reason and cannot control it (this could be anxiety ). |
| Thinking about how the older child will react to the new baby. | If you suddenly experience chest tightness, difficulty breathing, and sweating ( panic attacks ). |
| Feeling uncomfortable about the physical changes that occur during pregnancy. | Complete loss of appetite or excessive eating. |
| Minor disagreements with husband. | If you are experiencing mental or physical abuse from your husband or family members. |
If you have these serious symptoms, don't assume that "this is normal."
Please talk to your doctor about this. He or she can provide the necessary advice and treatment.
Your relationship with your partner during pregnancy
Pregnancy is a new experience not only for you but also for your husband. During this time, there may be changes in the relationship between you. Sometimes you may feel that he does not understand you. He may feel distant from you. We need to understand that "fathers also experience mental changes during this time." They may also have fears and anxieties about their future responsibilities and their role as a father. For example, some men are
afraid to have sex with their wives during pregnancy. This is because of the irrational fear that it will harm the baby.
Communication between the two is the most important thing at such times. Talk about it openly. If you are afraid to have sex, you can strengthen your relationship by doing things like going for a walk or watching a movie together. According to doctors, pregnancy is a time when a person's true nature comes out. That is, the way you face a problem is the way you understand the true nature of a person. Therefore, trying to solve the problems that arise during this time together will be a great help for you to be good parents in the future.
Take-Home Message
- It's very normal for your emotions to go up and down during pregnancy (happy, sad, scared) due to hormones and life changes.
- Don't pressure yourself to be happy all the time. Accept the feelings you have.
- Talk to your husband, a family member, or a trusted friend about what's on your mind and put your mind at ease.
- Distinguish between normal worry and more serious conditions like depression or anxiety.
- If you are feeling unbearable stress, sadness, or fear , don't waste time and see your doctor.
- This is a new time for you and your husband, so maintain good communication between the two of you.
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