Sometimes life feels overwhelming, doesn't it? Have you ever thought that nothing is going to work out, that I'm useless to anyone, that I'll never get over these problems? It's really hard to deal with these feelings alone. But the most important thing to remember is that you are not alone and that you can get help to get through this.
What exactly is suicide?
Simply put, suicide is the act of killing oneself by harming oneself with the intention of ending one's own life.
This can affect anyone of any age and social status. Sometimes someone may appear to be smiling and happy on the outside, but on the inside they may be deeply unhappy with their life. Therefore, it is absolutely impossible to judge someone based on their outward appearance. If you are constantly having suicidal thoughts, it means that you are at risk.
It's not your fault that you're having these thoughts. And you don't have to go through this journey alone. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.
What are the warning signs? Watch out for these
There aren't always obvious warning signs. Sometimes someone can do something like this without saying anything. But, most of the time, there are some common signs that we can recognize. See if a friend of yours has these signs. Maybe you're feeling them too.
| The nature of the characteristic | Explanation |
|---|---|
| Talking things | They often say things like, "I wish I were dead," "It would be easier for everyone without me," "This life has no meaning." They also talk about death and ways to end life. |
| Behavioral changes | They try to stay away from everyone and be alone. They no longer do the things they used to enjoy (like listening to music, watching movies, meeting friends). There is a big difference in sleep (they either sleep a lot or they doze off). |
| Preparation | They give away things they consider valuable (books, clothes, jewelry) to others. They write them as if they were a last will and testament. They write farewell letters. They say goodbye to their loved ones, like "I'll be back." |
| Risky behaviors | Doing reckless, risky things without thinking about the consequences. For example, driving too fast, using drugs or alcohol excessively. |
| Mood changes | Extreme anger, anxiety, and restlessness. Suddenly crying for no reason. Also, if someone who has been sad and upset for a long time suddenly becomes very calm and peaceful, that can also be a warning sign. |
If you see a symptom like this, please don't ignore it. Offering to help could save a life.
If someone talks about this, will it increase the risk?
No. Absolutely not. This is one of the biggest misconceptions in society. Asking someone, "Do you have thoughts of ending your life?" will not put that thought into their head.
In fact, asking that question opens the door for them to talk about the burdens they are carrying. It makes them feel like they are not alone, that someone is looking out for them. So, if you have doubts about someone, don't be afraid to ask them directly and kindly.
What kinds of things can make someone feel this way?
A person is not driven to commit suicide for one reason. It is a combination of many factors. Imagine, when a person feels unbearable mental pain and sees no other option to get rid of that pain, they reach this decision.
Here are some common reasons:
- Mental health problems: Conditions such as long-term depression, anxiety disorders, and schizophrenia.
- Previous suicide attempt: Someone who has made a previous attempt is at greater risk of having these thoughts again.
- Severe traumatic experiences: Childhood abuse, bullying, death of a loved one, serious accident, etc.
- Relationship breakdowns: breakup of a relationship, divorce.
- Economic or employment problems: high debt, job loss.
- Chronic diseases: diseases that last for a long time and cause severe pain.
- Drug and alcohol addiction.
- Social isolation: Not having anyone to talk to or share your sorrows with.
How can I ask for help? What services are available in Sri Lanka?
If you or someone you know needs help, please don't suffer alone. There are organizations in Sri Lanka that can help you, providing confidential, free services.
The most important thing is to save these phone numbers in your phone. They may be of help to you or a friend someday.
| Service | Phone number | Description |
|---|---|---|
| National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) | 1926 | A 24-hour, government service where you can call and get help from a trained counselor for any mental health problem. |
| Sumithrayo | 011 2692909 / 011 2696666 | Open from 9am to 8pm. You can talk about anything on your mind, without any judgment. Completely confidential. |
| In case of emergency | 119 | If someone is in immediate danger (e.g. attempting suicide), call the police emergency number. Or, immediately take them to the nearest hospital Emergency Department (ETU) . |
How can you help a friend or family member?
- Listen: Listen carefully to what they have to say without judging or giving advice. Say things like, "How are you feeling?" "I'm here for you."
- Ask directly: "Have you ever thought about ending your life?" Ask kindly and calmly.
- Don't leave someone alone: If you think someone is in serious danger, don't leave them alone.
- Encourage professional help: Encourage them to see a doctor, psychiatrist, or counselor. If necessary, you can go with them.
- Remove dangerous items: Keep items like pills, sharp weapons, and poisons in the house safely locked up.
What is Suicidal Ideation?
This is when you think about or plan to end your life. This can be a thought that comes to mind, or it can be something that keeps on going. Having a thought and acting on it are two different things. But having these thoughts is a strong signal that you need help.
So, even if you have a small thought like this, don't ignore it. Talk to someone you trust. Or call 1926.
Take-Home Message
- Having thoughts of ending your life is not a weakness or a mistake. It is the result of unbearable mental pain.
- You are not alone. There are many others who struggle with these feelings, and there are those who are willing to help you.
- Asking someone directly about suicide prevents the thought from entering their head. It opens the door for them to talk.
- Services like 1926 (NIMH) and Sumitrayo (0112692909) in Sri Lanka are ready to listen and help you. These services are completely confidential.
- If there is an immediate danger, call 119 or go to the nearest hospital Emergency Department (ETU) immediately.
- Asking for help is a sign of strength. Take that step today. Tomorrow can be better than today.
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