Ua ʻike maoli anei ʻoe i kou mau manaʻo? E kamaʻilio kākou e pili ana i ka ʻIke Manaʻo!

He aha kou manaʻo i kēia manawa ke heluhelu nei ʻoe i kēia? Malia paha makemake ʻoe e ʻike hou aku e pili ana i kēia. A i ʻole ke manaʻolana nei paha ʻoe, 'Auē, inā wau e heluhelu i kēia, e aʻo wau i kahi mea hou e pili ana iaʻu iho.' Malia paha ua luhi ʻoe no ka mea pono ʻoe e hana i kekahi mea no ke kula, 'Auē, pono anei iaʻu e hana i kēia?' A i ʻole ua hauʻoli paha ʻoe i kahi papahana āu e hauʻoli nui nei. A i ʻole ke noʻonoʻo nei paha ʻoe i kahi mea ʻokoʻa loa. E noʻonoʻo e pili ana i ia mea, malia paha ua hauʻoli ʻoe i kahi huakaʻi āu e hele nei i kēia hopena pule, a i ʻole ua kaumaha paha ʻoe no kahi pilikia liʻiliʻi me kahi hoaaloha. ʻO kēia mau manaʻo kekahi ʻāpana o ko kākou ola a pau.

No ke aha he mea nui kēia mau manaʻo iā mākou?

I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, ʻo kēia mau manaʻo he ʻāpana o ko kākou ʻano ma ke ʻano he kanaka. E like me ka ʻeha i loko o ko kākou kino, he mau hōʻailona nā manaʻo i loko o ko kākou noʻonoʻo. Hāʻawi lākou iā kākou i ka ʻike e pili ana i nā mea a kākou e ʻike nei a kōkua iā kākou e hoʻomaopopo pehea e pane aku ai iā ia.

E noʻonoʻo, ua ʻike mākou i kēia mau manaʻo mai ko mākou wā kamaliʻi. Nā pēpē, nā keiki liʻiliʻi e pane i ko lākou mau manaʻo me nā ʻano helehelena, e like me ka minoʻaka, ka ʻapo ʻana, ka uē ʻana. Eia kekahi laʻana, ke pōloli kahi pēpē, ke manaʻo lākou i kahi mea ʻoluʻolu ʻole, uē lākou, ʻeā? ʻO ia ke ʻano o ko lākou hōʻike ʻana i ko lākou manaʻo. Manaʻo lākou i nā manaʻo, hōʻike lākou iā lākou, akā ʻaʻole hiki iā lākou ke hāʻawi i kahi inoa i kēlā manaʻo a i ʻole e ʻōlelo i ke kumu o ko lākou manaʻo pēlā.

Akā i ko kākou ulu ʻana, ulu pū ko kākou hiki ke hoʻomaopopo i kēia mau manaʻo. Ma kahi o ka pane ʻana i nā mea āpau i ka manawa hoʻokahi e like me nā keiki liʻiliʻi, hiki iā kākou ke ʻike i ko kākou manaʻo a hoʻopuka i loko o nā huaʻōlelo. Me ka manawa a me ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana, e ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ko kākou hoʻomaopopo ʻana i ko kākou manaʻo a me ke kumu o ko kākou manaʻo ʻana. ʻO kēia hiki ke kapa ʻia ʻo "ka ʻike manaʻo" a i ʻole `(Emotional Awareness)`.

He nui nā pono o kēia `(ʻIke Manaʻo)` no kākou.

• Kōkua kēia iā mākou e ʻike pono i ka mea a mākou e makemake ai a me ka mea a mākou e makemake ʻole ai.
• Ke haʻi nei ia iā ʻoe pehea e hoʻomaikaʻi ai i kou pilina me nā poʻe ʻē aʻe.
• Hiki iā kākou ke kamaʻilio maopopo e pili ana i ko kākou mau manaʻo.
• Hoʻēmi ia i ka hanana o nā hakakā, a i ʻole e maʻalahi ai ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i kahi hakakā i kū mai.
• Ke kū mai nā manaʻo paʻakikī, kōkua ia iā ʻoe e ho'ōla koke.

Aia kekahi poʻe i ʻoi aku ka pili ʻana me ko lākou mau manaʻo ma mua o nā poʻe ʻē aʻe, ʻo ia hoʻi, ua maopopo iā lākou ko lākou mau manaʻo. Akā, ʻo ka nūhou maikaʻi, hiki i kekahi ke ʻike nui i ko lākou mau manaʻo. Pono wale nō ia i kahi hoʻomaʻamaʻa iki. ʻOiai he mea pono ia e hoʻoikaika iki e ulu aʻe, pono nā pono. Ua ʻike anei ʻoe i ke aha? ʻO kēia `(Emotional Awareness)` ʻo ia ka naʻauao naʻauʻO ia ka hana mua i ka hoʻomohala ʻana i kahi mākaukau i kapa ʻia ʻo "Emotional Intelligence" e kōkua iā ʻoe e holomua i ke ola.

ʻO kekahi mau mea maʻamau e pono ai mākou e ʻike e pili ana i nā manaʻo

ʻAe, e hoʻomaopopo kākou i nā manaʻo me ka maʻalahi iki. Eia kekahi mau mea nui e hoʻomanaʻo.

• Hele mai nā manaʻo a hele aku: E like me nā ao, ʻaʻole noho nā manaʻo ma kahi hoʻokahi. Ehia mau manaʻo like ʻole a mākou e ʻike ai i ka lā? ʻO kekahi mau manaʻo he mau kekona wale nō. Hiki i kekahi ke noho i loko o ko mākou manaʻo no kekahi manawa, a lilo i ko mākou ʻano. No ka laʻana, ʻo ka manaʻo hopohopo e loaʻa mai ana mai ka lohi ʻana i ka hana i ke kakahiaka e nalowale paha ma hope o kekahi manawa. Akā, ʻo ka hauʻoli e loaʻa mai ana mai ka lohe ʻana i nā nūhou maikaʻi e hiki ke noho i loko o kou manaʻo no nā hola.

• ʻOkoʻa ka ikaika o nā manaʻo: ʻAʻole like ka manaʻo o nā manaʻo a pau. He ʻoluʻolu loa kekahi, ʻaʻole i ʻike nui ʻia. He ikaika loa kekahi, ʻike nui ʻia. Hiki i nā manaʻo ke ʻokoʻa ka ikaika. Aia ka ikaika o kahi manaʻo i ke kūlana a me ke kanaka i ia manawa. E noʻonoʻo pehea e hiki ai i nā kānaka ʻelua ke pane i ka hanana like. Hiki i kekahi kanaka ke manaʻo iki i ka huhū, aʻo kekahi e manaʻo nui i ka huhū.

• ʻAʻohe mea e like me nā manaʻo maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha: ʻO kēia kahi e hana hewa ai ka poʻe he nui. ʻO ka ʻoiaʻiʻo, ʻaʻohe mea e like me nā manaʻo maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha . Eia naʻe, ʻo ke ʻano o kā mākou hōʻike ʻana i kēlā mau manaʻo, ʻo ia hoʻi, ke ʻano o kā mākou hana ʻana, hiki ke maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. No ka laʻana, ʻaʻole maikaʻi ʻole ka manaʻo huhū, he mea maʻamau. Akā, ʻo ka hoʻōho ʻana a me ka hōʻeha ʻana i nā poʻe ʻē aʻe i ka wā e huhū ai he mea maikaʻi ʻole ia. No laila, ʻo ke aʻo ʻana e hōʻike i nā manaʻo ma ke ʻano i ʻae ʻia, ʻo ia hoʻi, ka mālama ʻana i nā manaʻo , he mākaukau ia e pono e hoʻomohala ʻia ma kahi kaʻawale. No kēia, he mea nui e hoʻomaopopo mua i kou mau manaʻo ponoʻī.

He mea nui kēlā me kēia manaʻo - ʻo nā mea 'maikaʻi' a me nā mea 'maikaʻi ʻole'.

Makemake mākou i kekahi mau manaʻo, ʻeā? Kāhea mākou iā lākou he mau manaʻo 'maikaʻi'. Eia kekahi laʻana, ʻo ka hauʻoli, ke aloha, ka hilinaʻi iā ʻoe iho, ka hoʻoikaika ʻana, ka ʻoliʻoli, ka hoihoi, ka mahalo, a me ka manaʻo pū kekahi .

Pēlā nō, aia kekahi mau manaʻo a mākou e ʻike ai he mea ʻoluʻolu ʻole a paʻakikī. Ke kapa nei mākou i kēia mau manaʻo he mau manaʻo 'maikaʻi ʻole'. ʻO nā manaʻo e like me ka huhū, ka inaina, ka makaʻu, ka hilahila, ka hewa, ke kaumaha, a me ka hopohopo e hāʻule i loko o kēia māhele.

ʻO ka mea nui, ʻo kēia mau manaʻo a mākou e manaʻo ai he 'maikaʻi', a me nā manaʻo a mākou e manaʻo ai he 'maikaʻi ʻole' - he mea maʻamau a kūlohelohe kēia mau mea a pau.

Ke haʻi mai nei kēlā me kēia manaʻo iā mākou i kahi mea e pili ana iā mākou iho a me ka manawa a mākou e noho nei.Ua like ia me kahi leka. Akā i kekahi manawa he paʻakikī iā mākou ke ʻae i ko mākou manaʻo. Hoʻohewa mākou iā mākou iho ke manaʻo mākou pēlā. Eia kekahi laʻana, e noʻonoʻo ʻoe ua lili iki ʻoe i kahi hoaaloha āu i loaʻa kahi hoʻokiʻekiʻe. A laila ma kahi o ka noʻonoʻo ʻana, "ʻAuē, no ke aha wau i lili ai? He ʻino loa wau," ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi o ka nānā wale ʻana i kēlā manaʻo a ʻōlelo, "Auē, lili iki wau iā ia." A laila e ʻike ʻoe aia paha i loko o kēlā lili kou manaʻolana ponoʻī i hoʻokō ʻole ʻia.

Inā hoʻāʻo mākou e pale aku i kēia mau manaʻo 'maikaʻi ʻole', a i ʻole e hoʻohālike ʻaʻole mākou e manaʻo iā lākou, ua like ia me ka hoʻi ʻana a me ke kuʻi ʻana iā mākou iho i ka maka. ʻO ia hoʻi, ke hoʻonui nei mākou i kēlā mau manaʻo a i ʻole ke hoʻāʻo nei e hoʻopuka iā lākou ma ke ʻano ʻē aʻe. Inā makemake mākou e hoʻokuʻu i nā manaʻo paʻakikī a hoʻokuʻu iā lākou e mae, pono mākou e kū iā lākou a hoʻāʻo e hoʻomaopopo i ke kumu o ko mākou manaʻo iā lākou.

ʻAʻole kēia manaʻo he pono ʻoe e noʻonoʻo mau i kou mau manaʻo, a i ʻole e haʻi aku i nā mea āpau e pili ana iā lākou. ʻO ka ʻIke Manaʻo wale nō ka ʻike ʻana i ka wā e manaʻo ai ʻoe i kekahi mea, e hoʻohanohano ana iā ia, a e ʻae ana iā ia e like me ia.

ʻAe, pehea lā e hoʻonui ai i ko mākou ʻike noʻonoʻo?

Kōkua kēia `(ʻIke Manaʻo)` iā mākou e ʻike maikaʻi iā mākou iho a ʻae iā mākou iho. No laila, pehea e hiki ai iā mākou ke hoʻomohala hou aku i kēia hiki? Eia nā ʻanuʻu maʻalahi ʻekolu e hahai ai:

• E noʻonoʻo i kou manaʻo i nā manawa like ʻole o ka lā, a e kapa i kēlā manaʻo:

E hoʻolilo i kēia i mea maʻamau. E hoʻolohe wale i kou manaʻo i nā manawa like ʻole a me nā kūlana like ʻole i ka lā. Malia paha ʻike ʻoe ua hauʻoli loa ʻoe a pīhoihoi hoʻi ma hope o ka hoʻolālā ʻana e hele i kahi me kahi hoaaloha. A i ʻole hopohopo iki ʻoe ma mua o ka hoʻokolohua. Malia paha ua hoʻomaha loa ʻoe i ka wā e hoʻolohe ai ʻoe i kahi mele, a i ʻole ua hoʻoikaika ʻia ʻoe e hana i kahi mea hou ma hope o ka ʻike ʻana i kahi hōʻikeʻike kiʻi, a i ʻole ua hauʻoli ʻoe i ka wā e hoʻomaikaʻi ai kahi hoaaloha iā ʻoe. E ʻike wale i kēlā manaʻo a hāʻawi i kahi inoa i loko o kou noʻonoʻo. "Ua hauʻoli wau i kēia manawa," "Ua hopohopo iki wau i kēia manawa," a pēlā aku. He kekona wale nō kēia, akā he maʻamau maikaʻi loa ia. Eia kekahi, e nānā pehea e nalowale ai kēlā me kēia manaʻo ma hope o kekahi manawa, e ʻae ana i ka ʻike aʻe.

• E helu i ka ikaika o kēlā manaʻo:

Ke ʻike a kapa ʻoe i kahi manaʻo, e hana i kahi mea ʻē aʻe. E helu i ka ikaika o ka manaʻo ma kahi pālākiō mai 1 a 10. He manaʻo ʻoluʻolu loa ka 1, ʻaʻole ʻike nui ʻia. He manaʻo ikaika loa ka 10. Eia kekahi laʻana, inā huhū ʻoe, e helu iā ia ma ka noʻonoʻo he '3 huhū?' '7 huhū?' a i ʻole '10 huhū loa?' E kōkua kēia iā ʻoe e hoʻomaopopo i nā pae like ʻole o kou mau manaʻo.

• E haʻi a kaʻana like i kou manaʻo me ka poʻe kokoke iā ʻoe:

ʻO kēia ke ala maikaʻi loa e hoʻomaʻamaʻa ai i ka hoʻokomo ʻana i nā manaʻo i nā huaʻōlelo. Kōkua kēia hiki iā mākou e hoʻopili me kā mākou mau hoaaloha, kā mākou mau ipo, ko mākou mau mākua, kā mākou mau kumu aʻo - kekahi. E kaʻana like i kahi mea āu e manaʻo ai he maʻamau i kēlā me kēia lā, inā he mea pilikino loa a i ʻole he mea maʻamau wale nō i kēlā me kēia lā, me kahi mea āu e hilinaʻi ai. Hiki ke lilo i kekahi mea mai ka ʻōlelo ʻana, "E Māmā, ua hana ʻia kekahi mea ma ke kula i kēia lā, a ua kaumaha loa koʻu manaʻo," a hiki i ka haʻi ʻana aku i kahi hoaaloha, "E ke kanaka, hauʻoli loa wau ua holo pono kēlā mea!"

E like me nā mea āpau o ke ola, lilo mākou i ʻoi aku ka maikaʻi i ka hoʻoponopono ʻana i nā manaʻo! E hoʻomanaʻo iā ʻoe iho ʻaʻohe mea e like me nā manaʻo maikaʻi a maikaʻi ʻole paha. Mai hoʻohewa i kou mau manaʻo - e ʻike wale iā lākou, e inoa iā lākou, a e ʻae iā lākou.

No laila, ʻo ka mea hope loa e pono ai ʻoe e hoʻomanaʻo ...

Aia kekahi mau leka koʻikoʻi hiki iā ʻoe ke lawe i ka home mai nā mea a mākou i kamaʻilio ai i kēia lā.

• He mea maʻamau kēlā me kēia manaʻo āu e manaʻo ai , a he hōʻailona kēlā me kēia e lawe mai ana iā ʻoe i kahi leka koʻikoʻi.
• He mākaukau waiwai ka ʻike naʻau hiki iā ʻoe ke hoʻomohala ma o ka hoʻomaʻamaʻa ʻana.
• Hiki i kēia hiki ke kōkua iā ʻoe ma nā ʻano he nui o kou ola, ʻoiai kou mau pilina, ka noʻonoʻo pono, a me ka hoʻoholo ʻana.
• Mai hoʻohewa i kekahi mau manaʻo āu e loaʻa nei. E ʻae i nā manaʻo "maikaʻi" a me nā manaʻo "maikaʻi ʻole".
• E hoʻomaʻamaʻa i ka nānā ʻana i nā mea āu e manaʻo ai i ka lā a pau, e hāʻawi iā lākou i nā inoa, a e kaʻana like iā lākou me kahi āu e hilinaʻi ai inā hiki .

E hoʻomanaʻo, ʻo kēia `(ʻIke Manaʻo)` ka hana mua a koʻikoʻi loa no ka hoʻomaikaʻi ʻana i kou olakino naʻau a me `(ʻIke Manaʻo)` . No laila, e hoʻomaka e launa pū me kou mau manaʻo i kēia lā!

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