Yu pikin de sɔfa wit wan bad bad tin we apin to am? (Child Trauma) Mek wi tok abaut dis!

As mama ɛn papa, wi kin tray ɔltɛm fɔ protɛkt wi pikin dɛn frɔm ɔltin. Bɔt, i sɔri fɔ no se, sɔntɛnde wi smɔl pikin dɛn kin gɛt fɔ bia wit tin dɛn we wi nɔ bin de ɛkspɛkt. Dɛn tin ya kin mek dɛn gɛt bɔku pen ɛn pwɛl at.

Wetin na Trauma?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, trauma na ɛnitin we kin rili afɛkt pikin, we kin mek i fil bad bad wan, ɔ we kin mek i du bad. Tink bɔt am, i kin bi bad bad fɛt-fɛt na os, ɔ big aksidɛnt, ɔ natura disasta we kin apin wantɛm wantɛm (lɛk wata we kin rɔn, land we kin rɔf). Sɔntɛnde, if yu lɔs yu os ɛn bi ɔfɛn, yu mama ɔ papa lɔs yu, ɔ yu gɛt siriɔs sik kin mek yu pikin fil bad bak. Dɛn kayn tin ya kin rili siriɔs. Bikɔs dis tɛm, di pikin kin fil se in layf de pan denja, se dɛn nɔ sef .

Aw trauma kin afɛkt pikin?

Wae sɔmtin lɛk dis kin apun, de saykilɔjik impak kin te sɔmtɛm fɔ lɔng tɛm. I kin tranga fɔ mek yu wɛl. Fɔ sɔm pikin dɛn, dis sik kin ivin mek dɛn gɛt wan sik we dɛn kɔl Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) .

Bɔt di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat pikin dɛn kin wɛl frɔm dɛn kayn bad bad tin dɛn ya we kin apin to dɛn. Sɔm tritmɛnt dɛn de we kin ɛp. Dɔn bak, di ɛkstra lɔv, lɔv, ɛn sɔpɔt we yu gɛt as mama ɔ papa kin rili valyu to dɛn dis tɛm.

Naw lɛ wi luk aw dis kayn trauma kin afɛkt pikin.

Tin dɛn we pɔsin kin fil na in maynd

Afta di pikin gɛt trauma, di we aw pikin kin fil sef ɛn we i kin abop pan am kin rili pwɛl. Ivin afta lɔng tɛm dɔn pas, dɛn kin stil fil fred ɛn shɔk. Sɔm kin fil se na dɛn wangren de, dɛn kin fil bad, dɛn kin vɛks, ɔ dɛn kin fil gilti. Dɛn kin ivin tink se , "Dis na mi fɔlt." Sɔm pikin dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn de pwɛl di we aw dɛn de rɛspɛkt dɛnsɛf ɛn di we aw dɛn de rɛspɛkt dɛnsɛf. Ɔda pipul dɛn kin gɛt dip pwɛl at we dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ bia.

Di chenj dɛn we kin apin pan di we aw pɔsin de biev ɛn ɔda tin dɛn

Trauma kin afɛkt bak aw pikin de fil, aw i de biev, ɔ aw i de slip . Sɔm pikin dɛn kin vɛks bad bad wan ɛn bɔku tɛm dɛn kin fil bad, we na dis sik we dɛn kɔl pwɛl hat . Dɛn kin aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn pas aw dɛn bin de aks dɛn bifo, ɛn dɛn nɔ kin du bɛtɛ na skul. Dɛn kin gɛt nyu tin fɔ fred, ɛn dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ slip na nɛt. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin mɛmba di tin we bin apin to dɛn ɔltɛm ɛn we kin mek dɛn at pwɛl. Wi kin kɔl dɛn flash bak ya bak . Bɔku tɛm, pikin dɛn kin tray fɔ avɔyd tin dɛn we kin mek dɛn mɛmba wetin apin to dɛn.

Wetin mek sɔm pikin dɛn nɔ kin tɔk bɔt dis?

Afta wan bad bad tin apin, sɔm pikin dɛn kin tɛl ɔda pipul dɛn aw dɛn de fil. Bɔt ɔda wan dɛn kin kip ɔltin insay bɔtul insay. Dɛn kin tray fɔ ayd aw dɛn de fil ɔ push dɛn fɔ go fa. Dɛn kin tink se , ‘Ɔda pipul dɛn de op se a go ebul fɔ win dis kwik kwik wan.’ Sɔm pipul dɛn jɔs nɔ no aw fɔ tɔk bɔt aw dɛn de fil. Ilɛk us rizin, as mama ɔ papa, yu nɔ go ɔndastand wetin yu pikin de go tru.

Aw tritmɛnt kin ɛp yu fɔ wɛl

Okay, so lɛ wi si wetin ɛp pikin kin gɛt frɔm tɛrapi na tɛm lɛk dis.

Wetin yu kin gɛt frɔm tɛrapi

Tɛrapi na fayn we fɔ mek pikin dɛn sef fɔ tɛl dɛn aw dɛn de fil, tɛl dɛn stori, ɛn gɛt di sɔpɔt we dɛn nid. Insay tɛrapi, pikin dɛn kin lan fɔ tɔk bɔt wetin dɛn dɔn pas. Dɛn kin lan aw fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm ɛn aw fɔ mek dɛn at kol we kin ɛp dɛn fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt trɛnk na dɛn maynd. Dɛn kin lan bak fɔ chenj di we aw dɛn de tink ɛn fil bɔt di bad tin we apin. Smɔl smɔl, dɛn kin bigin fɔ gɛt tin dɛn we dɛn bin dɔn avɔyd trade. Tɛrapi kin ɛp pikin dɛn fɔ gɛt dɛn yon maynd ɛn fɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan dɛnsɛf.

Tink bɔt dis we: Tɛrapi tan lɛk fɔ put mɛrɛsin pan wan pat pan pikin in at we wund, mɛn am, ɛn ɛp am fɔ grap bak ɛn rɔn bak.

Lɛ wi lan bɔt Trauma-Fokus Kɔgnitiv-Bihayvya Tɛrapi (TF-CBT) .

Wan patikyula we de fɔ trit trauma pan pikin dɛn we dɛn kɔl Trauma-Focused Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT) . Dis kin min fɔ tɔk, ple, ɛn lan fɔ ɛp di pikin fɔ prosɛs di trauma.

Dis TF-CBT tritmɛnt we dɛn kin du kin ɛp mama ɛn papa dɛn bak bad bad wan. Infakt, i rili nɔmal fɔ mek mama ɛn papa dɛn fil bad ɛn vɛks fɔ wetin dɛn pikin dɔn go tru. We dɛn de du di tritmɛnt, mama ɛn papa dɛnsɛf kin gɛt di sɔpɔt we dɛn nid. Dɛn kin gɛt advays bɔt aw fɔ ɛp dɛn pikin na os.

Insay TF-CBT , mama ɛn papa kin ple big pat fɔ mek dɛn pikin wɛl. Dɛn tren yu fɔ lisin di we we go ɛp yu pikin fɔ tɔk bɔt wetin de na in maynd, fɔ mek i nɔ gɛt bɔku prɔblɛm dɛn, ɛn fɔ kɔnɛkt wit yu. Yu kin ɛp yu pikin fɔ praktis aw fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm na os. As yu pikin de wɛl smɔl smɔl, yu kin gɛt di gladi at.

Aw fɔ fɛn tritmɛnt?

Naw yu go de wɔnda, ‘Aw a go fɛn dis kayn tritmɛnt fɔ mi pikin?’ I nɔ at so.

• Fɔs, yu pikin in dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛnTɔk to yu dɔktɔ. Tɛl am bɔt wetin yu pikin dɔn de go tru. Mɛmba se di dɔktɔ bisin bɔt yu pikin in bɔdi ɛn in maynd.
• Aks yu dɔktɔ fɔ rifer yu to pikin dɛn saykayatrist , sayɛnsman , ɔ kwalifay advaysa we tren pan dis eria ɛn kin ɛp yu pikin.
• Yu kin gɛt fɔ kɛr yu pikin go na tritmɛnt wan tɛm insay di wik fɔ sɔm mɔnt, bɔt smɔl smɔl yu go si fayn chenj dɛn pan yu pikin.

Aw yu go ɛp yu pikin na os

Afta wan trauma, pikin dɛn nid yu sɔpɔt ɛn lɔv pas ɛni ɔda tɛm. Mek shɔ se yu tink bɔt dɛn tin ya:

• Spend tɛm wit yu pikin: Du tin dɛn togɛda we go mek yu at kol, rilaks, ɔ ɛnjɔy yusɛf. Kuk togɛda, go waka, ple, rid buk, drɔ, siŋ siŋ. If i pɔsibul, sɛt tɛm fɔ dis ɛvride, at le fɔ sɔm minit. Tink bɔt aw i go valyu fɔ spɛn smɔl tɛm fɔ bil os wit yu smɔl bɔy pikin na aftanun, ɔ fɔ rid smɔl stori wit yu smɔl gyal pikin bifo yu go slip na nɛt.
• Peshɛnt ɛn wam: Yuz fayn wɔd dɛn. Prez yu pikin we i de du gud tin ɔ we i de tray tranga wan. Say, " A proud fɔ yu, bɔy pikin/dɔta ." Peshɛnt we yu pikin mek mistek. Sho dɛn aw fɔ tray bak.
• Sho se yu lɛk am: Mek yu pikin fil se yu lɛk am. Ɔg am, smayl, tɔk wɔd dɛn we gɛt lɔv, sho am wit akshɔn dɛn we de kia fɔ am. Kɔrej am wit wɔd dɛn we go mek i fil fayn we i at pwɛl ɔ we i vɛks.
• Mek yu gɛt wan rutin fɔ mek yu at kol: Fɔ yɔŋ pikin, tek sɔm minit fɔ rid wan stori, ol am, ɔ siŋ smɔl siŋ bifo yu go slip (ɔ ɛni tɛm insay di de). Fɔ big pikin, mek am abit fɔ kɔl am ɛn se ‘gudnayt’ bifo yu go slip, ɛn spɛn sɔm minit fɔ tɔk to am, lisin to wetin i gɛt fɔ tɔk, ɔ laf togɛda. Dɛn ekstra minit ya wit yu kin ɛp yu pikin fɔ fil kol, sef, ɛn fil fri .

Yu kin tink se, "O... dis na jɔs di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn we wi kin du." Bɔt, if yu gi yu pikin ɛkstra sɔpɔt ɛn tɛm lɛk dis, dat go ɛp yu pikin fɔ fil yu lɔv ɛn di tayt padi biznɛs we yu gɛt wit dɛn. Afta wan bad bad tin we apin to pɔsin, da padi biznɛs de valyu pas aw i bin de trade.

Fɔ dɔn, tin dɛn we wi fɔ mɛmba

Okay, so frɔm wetin wi dɔn tɔk bɔt, i go mɔs bi klia to yu aw bɔku trauma we pikin kin gɛt kin afɛkt dɛn smɔl smɔl maynd. Bɔt, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na:

• Trauma na siriɔs tin, bɔt pikin dɛn kin wɛl. Nɔ giv ɔp fɔ op.
• Di rayt tritmɛnt, ɛn mɔ di we dɛn lɛk TF-CBT, kin rili ɛp. So nɔ fred fɔ go to dɔktɔ.
• As mama ɔ papa, yu lɔv, lɔv, peshɛnt, ɛn sɔpɔt impɔtant fɔ yu pikin in hiling joyn. Yu na yu pikin in trɛnk we pas ɔl.
• Smɔl tin dɛn kin mek big difrɛns. Fɔ spɛn tɛm wit yu pikin, fɔ gladi fɔ am, fɔ trit am wit lɔv – ɔl dis na tin we rili valyu.

Mɛmba se nɔto yu wangren de. Prɔfɛshɔnal dɛn de we kin ɛp ɛn gayd yu pan dis joyn. Ɛn, yu pikin we yu lɛk kin rili ebul fɔ pas dis tranga tɛm ɛn gladi bak.

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