Yu smɔl pikin de kray we yu de rɛdi fɔ wok na mɔnin? Ɔ i kin fala yu go na di kichin ɔ na di bafa ɛn tinap nia di domɔt de kray? Yu go mɔs dɔn sabi dɛn kayn tin ya. Infakt, dis na sɔntin we de wɔri bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn. "Wetin mek mi pikin de du dis?", "A de du sɔntin we nɔ rayt?" Yu go mɔs dɔn de wɔnda. Bɔt nɔ wɔri. dis na rili nכmal stej fכ di pikin divεlכpmεnt in mכst kεys dεm. Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt am tide.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wetin na fɔ wɔri we pɔsin kin separet?
Separeshɔn Wɔri, ɔ lɛk aw wi kin se na Sinhala, "பெர்வாத்தியான் விள்ளியான்" na we yu pikin ɔ smɔl pikin kin kray ɛn vɛks we yu de fa frɔm dɛn fɔ ivin a shɔt tɛm. Dis na rili nכmal stej fכ pikin divεlכpmεnt . i kin stat we di pikin ol bitwin 6 εn 12 mכnt. I kin dɔn smɔl smɔl we i ol lɛk 3 ia so.
Wetin mek dis kin apin? Tink bɔt am, di yɔŋ bebi dɛn, ivin if dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ si sɔntin, nɔ gɛt di pawa fɔ ɔndastand se i stil de. Insay mɛrɛsin, wi kin kɔl dis di kɔnsɛpt fɔ ‘ɔbjɛkt pɔrmanɛns’. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, we yu kɔmɔt na di rum, di pikin kin tink se yu nɔ go ɛva kam bak. So dɛn kin fred. We di pɔsin we de protɛkt dɛn nɔ de igen, dɛn kin fil se dɛn nɔ kin rili fil sef. Na dat mek dɛn de kray da we de.
Bɔt as yu pikin de gro, i go ɔndastand se yu nɔ go de fɔ sɔm tɛm ɛn afta dat yu go kam bak. I go lan se dis separeshɔn na fɔ shɔt tɛm nɔmɔ. So, if yu pikin kray we yu de go, i rili sho se yu ɛn yu pikin gɛt strɔng padi biznɛs . So nɔ wɔri bɔt am. Dis na jɔs wan pat we yu pikin go go tru afta sɔm tɛm.
Impɔtant tin na dat, tu kayn tin dɛn de we kin mek pɔsin wɔri: Separation Anxiety ɛn Stranger Anxiety. Stranger Anxiety na we pikin de fred strenja. Na nɔmal tin bak we pikin de gro.
Yu pikin gɛt dis sik? Na dis na aw fɔ no am
Si if yu smɔl pikin de du dɛn tin ya. Dis na di men sayn dɛm wae de sho se pɔrsin de wɔri bɔt aw fɔ separate.
| Karakta/Bihayvya | Wan simpul ɛksplen bɔt aw i kin apin |
|---|---|
| Kray we yu nɔ de si yu | Ivin if yu lɔs fɔ shɔt tɛm, lɛk we yu go na ɔda rum ɔ na di kichin, di pikin go vɛks ɛn bigin fɔ kray. |
| Tantrums we yu de kɔmɔt | We yu tray fɔ go wok ɔ go na do, yu de rol rawnd na grɔn, de ala, strɛch, ɛn kray lawd wan. |
| Fɔ hang pan yu yon bɔdi | I nɔ want fɔ lɛf yu fɔ go. I de tray fɔ tay pan yu klos ɛn yu leg dɛn. I nɔ go mek yu go. |
| Kray we dɛn drɔp am na daycare ɔ ɔdasay | Di pikin kin kray bɔku we dɛn lɛf am wit pɔsin fɔ kia fɔ am, wit di grani ɛn granpa, ɔ na di say we dɛn de kia fɔ di pikin. |
| Fɔ gɛt yu nia yu we yu de slip | We yu pikin de slip, i kin insist fɔ de nia yu. I nɔ want fɔ slip in wan if yu nɔ de. |
Bɔku tɛm, dɛn abit ya kin dɔn we dɛn ol 2 ɔ 3. Bɔt mɛmba se nɔto ɔl pikin dɛn na di sem. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin tek smɔl tɛm fɔ kɔmɔt na dis stej.
Ustɛm dis tin kin bi ‘abnɔmal’?
If dis wɔri we dɛn kin wɔri bɔt fɔ separet kin kɔntinyu afta di pikin bigin fɔ go skul bifo dɛn go skul, mɔ if i de ambɔg di pikin in skul wok, i kin bi sɔntin we nɔmal.
If dis sik de kɔntinyu fɔ de pas 3 ia, i kin bi sayn fɔ wan sik na yu maynd we dɛn kɔl Separation Anxiety Disorder . Dis na sik wae nɔr fayn fɔ di pikin in ej ɛn kin afɛkt dɛn soshal ɛn maynd wɛl bɔdi.
Tink bɔt am dis we. Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek yu pikin kray di fɔs de na nyu skul bikɔs dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ lɛf yu. Bɔt afta wan ɔ tu dez, dɛn fɔ yus to di nyu ples ɛn stɔp fɔ kray. If nɔto dat, if dɛn kray ɛvri mɔnin fɔ sɔm wiks bikɔs dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ go skul, dat kin bi sayn fɔ Separation Anxiety Disorder.
If yu pikin dɔn pas 3 iaƐn if yu fil se di we aw i de separet wit yu de mek i strɛs tumɔs, di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt dis. Tɛl am klia wan bɔt wetin yu pikin de tɔk ɛn aw i de biev. Dɔn di dɔktɔ kin disayd if dis na nɔmal tin ɔ if sɔntin de we nid fɔ gɛt tritmɛnt.
Aw fɔ dil wit dis? Wetin yu kin du as mama ɔ papa
Yu kin fil bad bad wan we yu pikin kray ɛn sɔri bikɔs yu nɔ ebul fɔ lɛf am. Bɔt sɔm simpul tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ mek yu ebul fɔ kɔntrol dis. Dɛn tin ya kin mek dis tɛm izi fɔ yu pikin ɛn yu.
1. Kip di gudbai shɔt ɛn padi biznɛs.
We yu lɛf yu pikin, nɔ de te fɔ se gudbai. If yu se "O, mi pikin, nɔ kray" ɔva ɛn ɔva, dat go jɔs mek di pikin wɔri mɔ. Bifo dat, tɛl am gudbay fɔ shɔt tɛm ɛn wit lɔv . Smayl, se "Mama, a go kam bak rayt," ɛn gi am kis. Yu pikin go kol afta yu go. Nɔ tray fɔ slip go. If yu du dat, yu pikin nɔ go trɔst am igen ɛn i go bigin fɔ fred di nɛks tɛm we yu go.
2. Introdyus di pikin to nyu pɔsin we de kia fɔ am
If yu de lɛf yu pikin wit nyu pɔsin we de kia fɔ am, nɔ lɛf dɛn ɔl wan tɛm. Mek di pɔsin we de kia fɔ yu spɛn wan ɔ tu dez wit yu. Dis go ɛp di pikin fɔ yus to di nyu pɔsin ɛn mek dɛn fil sef we yu nɔ de.
3. Du Trial Rɔn dɛn
Bifo yu lɛf yu pikin in wan fɔ di wan ol de, tray fɔ lɛf am fɔ shɔt tɛm, lɛk wan ɔ tu awa. Ivin if yu nɔ gɛt spɛshal trip, tek shɔt trip, lɛk fɔ go na di stoa. Dis go gi yu pikin chans fɔ yus to yu we yu de kam ɛn go. Ɛn yu kin tek sɔm tɛm bak fɔ yusɛf!
4. Mek wan rutin ɛn stik to am.
Fɔ fala di sem tin ɛvri tɛm we yu lɛf yu pikin. Fɔ ɛgzampul, tɛl yu pikin wan stori ɔ ple gem bifo yu go. Dis rutin de ɛp yu pikin fɔ no wetin fɔ ɛkspɛkt nɛks. Dis kin ɛp fɔ mek yu nɔ wɔri.
5. Tɔk insay langwej we di pikin ɔndastand.
Tɛl yu pikin ustɛm yu go kam bak. Kip yu wɔd. Dɔn yu pikin go bigin fɔ abop pan yu. Bikɔs dɛn nɔ ɔndastand di tɛm na klok, tɔk tin dɛn we dɛn ɔndastand, lɛk "Mama, a go kam bak we yu dɔn it na ivintɛm" ɔ "A go kam bak as yu wek frɔm slip." Mek yu pikin ɔndastand se fɔ kam ɛn go na nɔmal tin ɛn nɔto natin fɔ fred.
We yu pikin kray, yu kin tink se na bikɔs ɔf yu. Bɔt mɛmba se: Nɔto yu fɔlt. Dis kray ɛn klin na nɔmal divɛlɔpmɛnt bihayvya fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn. Nɔ fil gilti fɔ go wok ɔ fɔ go na di bafa. Yu pikin go kol afta yu dɔn go. As tɛm de go, i go yus to yu prezɛns.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- na komplit nכmal fכ mכst pikin dεm (usually bitwin 6 mכnt εn 3 ia) fכ gεt separeshכn anxiety. Na impɔtant step fɔ dɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt.
- Yu pikin de kray we yu kɔmɔt de nɔto bikɔs yu na bad mama ɔ papa, bɔt na bikɔs yu tu gɛt strɔng padi biznɛs wit lɔv.
- We yu de tɛl yu pikin gudbay, mek i shɔt, gladi, ɛn nɔ chenj . Nɔ ɛva slip go. Dat de brok di pikin in trɔst.
- If yu pikin dɔn pas 3 ia ɛn dis wɔri de afɛkt in ɛvride layf bad bad wan (espɛshali fɔ go skul), mek shɔ se yu tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt am.
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