Yu de fred bak we yu nɔ go biliv fɔ bɔn pikin? Mek wi tok abaut tokophobia!

Yu no, sɔm pipul dɛn kin fil bad bad wan jɔs we dɛn de tink bɔt fɔ bɔn pikin. Nɔr to jɔs nɔrmal nervɔs, na frayd wae dip pasmak, sɔmtɛm kin mek yu layf de pan denja. Tide wi go tɔk bɔt wan kɔndishɔn we dɛn kɔl tokophobia . If yu de fil dis kayn we, mɛmba se nɔto yu wangren de.

Wetin rili na Tokophobia?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, tokophobia na fɔ fred pasmak, we pɔsin nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol fɔ bɔn pikin. Bɔrku tɛm e kin afɛkt uman dɛm, bɔt i sɔprayz fɔ no se sɔm man dɛm kin gɛt dis sik bak. Dɔktɔ dɛn kɔl am wan patikyula fred, ɔ wan patikyula fred fɔ sɔm patikyula tin (insay dis kes, fɔ bɔn pikin).

Tink bɔt am, sɔm pipul dɛn kin fred tin dɛn lɛk spayda ɛn ayt. Na so i bi wit dis wan. Bɔt insay dis kes, dɛn kin fred fɔ bɔn pikin.

Tu kayn tokophobia de, nɔto so?

Yɛs, yu yɛri rayt. Tokophobia kin sheb to tu men kayn:

1. Praymari Tokophobia: Dis kin apin pan pɔsin we nɔ ɛva gɛt bɛlɛ . I kin bi bikɔs ɔf tin dɛn we dɛn dɔn yɛri ɔ si frɔm we dɛn smɔl.

2. Sɛkɔndari Tokophobia: Dis kin apin afta wan rili bad, traumatik ɛkspiriɛns we yu bin gɛt bɛlɛ ɔ bɔn pikin bifo. Fɔ ɛgzampul, wan leba we rili at, we dɛn bɔn pikin we dɔn day, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn.

Yu tink se dis fred kin gɛt fɔ du wit ɔda fred dɛn?

Fɔ tru, na yɛs. Sɔmtɛm dis tokophobia kin gɛt fɔ du wit ɔda frayd frayd. Tink bɔt am, tin dɛn lɛk dis:

• Fɔ fred fɔ fil pen: Sɔm pipul dɛn kin fred we dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ bia ivin we dɛn de tink bɔt di pen we dɛn kin gɛt we dɛn bɔn pikin.
• Fɔ fred dɔktɔ ɔ ɔspitul: Sɔm pipul dɛn kin fred fɔ go to dɔktɔ ɔ ivin fɔ go na ɔspitul. Dɛn kin sɔfa wit tin dɛn we dɛn kɔl `(Iatrophobia)` ɔ `(Nosocomephobia)`.
• Fɔ fred fɔ lɛ dɛn tɔch yu: Dis kin rili afɛkt yu we yu de du tɛst.
• Fɔ fred fɔ nidul: dis frayd kin afɛkt bak bay ``Trypanophobia'', as dɛn kin gi injɛkshɔn we uman gɛt bɛlɛ.
• Fɔ fred fɔ day (Thanatophobia): Fɔ fred pasmak fɔ bɔn pikin, fɔ biliv se na tin we go mek yu layf de pan denja.

Bɔrku ɔda frayd lɛk dis kin mek dis kayn tin apin.

Yu tink se fɔ fred difrɛn frɔm wan nɔmal fred?

Dis na kwɛstyɔn we rili impɔtant. I rili nɔmal fɔ fil smɔl fɔ fred ɔr de fred fɔ tin dɛm wae kin tan lɛk denja ɔr nɔr kin fil fayn. Bɔku pipul dɛn kin fred smɔl we dɛn tink bɔt bɛlɛ ɛn bɔn pikin. Dat na tin we nɔmal fɔ du. Bɔt bɔku tɛm, dɛn kayn tin ya nɔ kin rili afɛkt di tin dɛn we dɛn kin du ɛvride.

BɔtFɔ fred na fɔ fred pasmak, we pɔsin nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol. Dis fred kin ivin mek i nɔ du sɔm tin dɛn. Yu kin gɛt tin dɛn we nɔ kɔmɔn ɛn biev we i nɔ kin izi fɔ kɔntrol. Sɔntɛnde, ivin di drim dɛm na layf, lɛk fɔ bɔn pikin ɔr fɔ bigin famili, dis frayd kin pwɛl.

Aw a go no if a gɛt tokophobia?

Bɔku pipul dɛn kin wɔri sɔm tɛm bɔt aw dɛn kin bɔn pikin. Dat na nɔmal tin. Bɔt sɔm uman dɛn we gɛt tokophobia kin avɔyd fɔ gɛt bɛlɛ ɔltogɛda. If dɛn gɛt bɛlɛ bay aksidɛnt, dɛn nɔ kin gladi fɔ dat, ɛn dɛn kin tray fɔ ayd dɛn bɛlɛ we de gro frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn.

If yu de fil dɛn kayn tin ya, no rizin nɔ de fɔ mek yu shem ɔ fɔ sɔfa yu wan. Fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt dis na di fɔs ɛn impɔtant tin fɔ mek yu ebul fɔ win dis sik. Di tritmɛnt kin mek i nɔ strɛs fɔ gɛt bɛlɛ ɛn fɔ rɛdi fɔ bɔn pikin.

Wetin mek dis bad bad fred kin kam? Wetin na di rizin dɛn?

Tokophobia kin bi bikɔs ɔf bɔku tin dɛn. Sɔm pan di men tin dɛn we kin mek i apin na:

• We dɛn bin de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit ɔda pɔsin ɔ rep am trade: Dis kayn tin kin mek i shem ɛn nɔ lɛk fɔ gɛt bɛlɛ.
• Prεshכn fכ bכn di pikin nכmal wan (vagina) we nכ gεt εni kכmplikεshכn: sכmtεm, dis kayn prεshכn we di famili εn sosayti de mek i de mek pipul dεn frayd bכku bak.
• Fɔ yɛri bɔt ɔda pipul dɛn bad bad tin dɛn we kin apin to dɛn we dɛn de bɔn pikin: Sɔntɛnde pipul dɛn we de arawnd wi kin tɛl stori dɛn we de mek wi fred lɛk, "O, dis apin to ɔda pɔsin, dat apin to ɔda pɔsin." We yu yɛri dɛn ɔltɛm, dat kin mek dis fred mɔ ɛn mɔ.
• Fɔ fil shem ɛn nɔ fil fayn we dɔktɔ dɛn tɔch di vagina we yu de bɔn pikin.
• Nɔ no se di chans fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn we dɛn de bɔn pikin nɔ bɔku lɛk aw i tan: Sɔm pipul dɛn kin fred di prɔblɛm dɛn we nɔ nid fɔ apin.
• Fɔ op fɔ chenj yu layf: Fɔ fred se if yu bɔn pikin, dat go min se yu nɔ go ebul fɔ kɔntrol yu schedule ɛn yu nɔ go gɛt fridɔm igen.

Wetin na di sayn dɛm fɔ Tokophobia?

Tokophobia kin afɛkt di we aw yu de tink ɛn biev. Bɔrku pipul dɛm wae gɛt dis sik kin sɔfa bak wit mental wɛl bɔdi prɔblɛm, lɛk pwɛl hat. Dɛn kin gɛt bad bad tin dɛn bak we dɛn gɛt bɛlɛ.

Tin dɛn we pɔsin kin tink ɛn biev

Dis kayn we aw yu kin fred fɔ bɔn pikin kin mek yu du tin dɛn lɛk:

• Fɔ avɔyd fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• A nɔ de fil ɛni imɔshɔnal kɔnekshɔn wit di pikin we de gro na mi bɛlɛ.
• A nɔ de fil ɛni gladi at we a gɛt bɛlɛ.
• Dɛn de tray fɔ ayd di tru tin se dɛn gɛt bɛlɛ frɔm ɔda pipul dɛn.
• Fɔ fil se yu nɔ de nia yu ɛn yu de yu wan, yu de fa frɔm yu patna ɔ di wan dɛn we yu lɛk.

di bad tin dεm we kin apin we uman bεlε

Uman dɛn we kin rili fred fɔ bɔn pikin kin gɛt dɛn tin ya:

• Ivin if i pɔsibul fɔ bɔn di pikin sef wan, dɛn kin aks fɔ mek dɛn bɔn am wit siza (C-section).
• If yu gɛt bɛlɛ, yu go want fɔ pwɛl bɛlɛ.
• Afta yu bɔn di pikin, yu de tink bɔt fɔ gi di pikin to ɔda pɔsin fɔ mɛn am.

Aw dɔktɔ dɛn kin no dis sik?

Bɔku tɛm, dɔktɔ dɛn kin no se yu gɛt tokophobia we yu go to dɔktɔ fɔ ɔda rizin.

• Uman dɛn we nɔ gɛt bɛlɛ: We yu go fɔ chɛk yu ɛvri ia, yu dɔktɔ go aks yu bɔt aw fɔ plan fɔ famili ɛn aw fɔ bɔn pikin. Dat na di bɛst tɛm fɔ tɔk bɔt aw yu de fred ɛn wɔri bɔt aw fɔ bɔn pikin.
• Bɛlɛ uman: We yu de du yu ɛgzam bifo yu bɔn, dɛn go aks yu kwɛstyɔn bɔt yu maynd wɛlbɔdi. If dɔktɔ dɛn ansa dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya ɔnɛs wan, dat go ɛp fɔ no se dɛn gɛt tokophobia.

Wetin na di tritmɛnt fɔ tokophobia?

Wan pan di men ɛn di bɛst tritmɛnt fɔ tokophobia na di kɔgnitiv bihayvya tɛrapi (CBT). CBT de ɛp yu fɔ no di patikyula tin dɛn we de mek yu fred fɔ bɔn pikin. Yu kin woke bak wit mɛntɛl hεlth kɔlnɔ fɔ lan wɛl bɔdi we fɔ dil wit dɛn frayd ya.

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dis kin chenj di bad we aw yu de tink ɛn gi yu maynd fɔ bia wit di tin dɛn we yu de fred.

Ɔda tritmɛnt dɛn de fɔ liv fayn fayn wan wit dis frayd?

Apat frɔm CBT, sɔm ɔda we dɛn de we kin ɛp fɔ pul tokophobia:

• Antidipreshɔn: If yu de sɔfa wit pwɛl hat, dɛn mɛrɛsin ya kin ɛp. Dɛn kin wok bay we dɛn de balans di kemikal dɛn we de na di bren (we dɛn kɔl nyurotransmitta) we de kɔntrol di we aw pɔsin de fil. Bɔt dɛn fɔ jɔs tek dɛn ɔnda dɔktɔ in sɔpɔtishɔn.
• Hypnotherapy: Dis kin min fɔ put yu na spɛshal rilaks stet ɛn ɛp yu fɔ fɛn ɔl di tin dɛm we yu de tink bɔt we de mek yu fred ya. Na pɔsin we sabi du am bak fɔ du dis.
• Fɔ ridyus strɛs: Tin dɛn lɛk yoga ɛn fɔ tink gud wan kin ɛp yu fɔ rilaks yu maynd. Dis kin ɛp yu fɔ gɛt mɔ kɔnfidɛns fɔ bɔn pikin.

I gɛt we fɔ mek tokophobia nɔ kam?

I at fɔ se dɛn kin ebul fɔ stɔp tokophobia ɔltogɛda. Bɔt sɔm tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ mek i nɔ ambɔg yu layf. Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil smɔl fred ɛn fred fɔ bɔn pikin. Bɔt nɔ mek i ambɔg yu drim fɔ bigin ɛn gro famili. If yu de fil dis kayn wɔri, tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt am kwik kwik wan.

Dɔn bak, tray fɔ avɔyd fɔ lisin to bad bad stori dɛn we de mek pɔsin fred bɔt pikin we ɔda pipul dɛn kin tɛl. Jɔs bikɔs tin nɔ bin go lɛk aw dɛn bin dɔn plan fɔ ɔda pipul dɛn, dat nɔ min se dɛn go du am fɔ yu.

Yu tink se dɛn go ebul fɔ mɛn dis sik kpatakpata?

If di tritmɛnt wok fayn, di strɛs ɛn fred we pɔsin kin fred fɔ bɔn pikin kin ridyus bad bad wan. Yu kin stil fil se yu de wɔri smɔl. Bɔt we yu lan aw fɔ mek yu maynd kol, dat kin ɛp fɔ mek dɛn filin dɛn de nɔ tu tranga fɔ kɔntrol.

Ɔda impɔtant tin fɔ no we yu de dil wit tokophobia

I impɔtant fɔ gɛt gud sɔpɔt nɛtwɔk we yu de dil wit tokophobia. No di padi ɛn fambul dɛn we de ɛp yu fɔ du gud tin na yu layf. Sɔntɛm dɛn pipul ya nɔ bin dɔn gɛt bɛlɛ dɛnsɛf, bɔt dɛn kin tɛl yu fayn wɔd ɛn ɛnkɔrej yu.

Dɔn bak, yu kin du dɛn tin ya fɔ no mɔ bɔt aw fɔ bɔn pikin:

• Atɛnd klas bifo yu bɔn: Dɛn klas ya go tich yu bɔt wetin fɔ ɛkspɛkt we yu de bɔn pikin ɛn we yu de bɔn pikin. Dɛn kin ol dɛn tin ya we di bɛlɛ dɔn.
• Klas dεm fכ bεlε kwik: Dɛn klas dεm ya kin fayn fכ di wan dεm we de fכs bεlε כ di wan dεm we de op fכ bεlε.
• Go na ɔspitul ɔ say usay dɛn kin bɔn pikin: Bɔku ples dɛn kin gɛt gayd fɔ go waka lɛk dis, ɛn yu go gɛt di chans fɔ aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn.
• Join wan sɔpɔt grup: Bɔku fɔm dɛn de na di intanɛt fɔ uman dɛn we gɛt bɛlɛ, ɛn bak opshɔn dɛn fɔ di wan dɛn we de ɛkspɛkt. Yu ɔspitul kin ɔganayz dɛn kayn grup dɛn de bak.

Fɔ dɔn, a fɔ se... (Tek-Home Message)

Tokophobia na fɔ fred pasmak fɔ bɔn pikin. Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil wɔri bɔt di bɔku tin dɛn we yu nɔ no bɔt we kin kam wit pikin. Bɔt nɔ mek i stɔp yu fɔ du wetin yu bin dɔn drim fɔ bigin ɛn gro famili. Tɔk to yu dɔktɔ bɔt di tin dɛn we de mɔna yu. Bɔku we dɛn de fɔ ɛp yu fɔ lɛf dis fred. We yu du dat, yu go ɛnjɔy yu bɛlɛ ɛn wɛlkɔm yu nyu pikin. Nɔto yu wan de, ɛn nɔ ɛva fred fɔ aks fɔ ɛp.

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