Engtin nge i fa hnenah zu chungchang i sawipui ang? He thupui pawimawh tak hi han sawi ila!

Tunlai hian kan naupang te te, a bik takin sikul kal lai, chu chu High School kal lai te hian a chang chuan thiante nghawng vang emaw, thil hriat duh vang emaw zu in duhna an nei fo thin. Dik tak chuan, danin a khap hun lai pawha heng thilte hi miten an lo inrawlh tih kan hmu a ni. Mahse nu leh pate u, chutiang thil laka in fate inthiarfihlim turin thiltihtheihna nasa tak in nei a ni. Chuvangin, i fate hi an naupan lai atanga he zu chungchang hi sawipui a pawimawh hle a , zawi zawiin an lo puitlin chhoh zel avangin.

He thu hi naupang tê ber berte hnenah engtin nge i hrilhfiah? (Kum 3-5 vel)

Hetiang kum naupangte tan hian zu chungchang hi hriatthiam a harsa tak zet a ni lawm ni? Thil awlsam tak tak an duh a ni. Mahse entawn tur tha tak i siam thei a ni . I fa chuan mawhphurhna nei taka zu i hman dan (a nih loh leh i hman loh dan te), active taka i hman dan te, leh ei tur hrisel i ei dan atang hian thil tam tak a zir ang. I fain zu chungchâng zawhna a zawt che a nih chuan han ngaihtuah teh? Tichuan awlsam tak leh dik takin chhang rawh . Chipchiar taka i luh a ngai lo, an hriatthiam theih tur angin sawi mai rawh. Entirnan, "Chutiang chu naupang te tan a tha lo, fapa/fanu, i pum a ti na thei," tih ang chi awlsam tak i sawi thei.

Naupang kum 4 leh 7 inkar te nen kan inbia ang em?

Hetiang kum naupangte nena inbiakna tha ber chu thupui chu a pianphung anga a lo chhuah hunah rawn chhuah hi a ni . Entîr nân, TV i en laiin han mitthla teh. Zu commercial a rawn chhuak a. Chutih hunah chuan i fa chu, "Fapa/fanu, he in tur hi i in hian i taksaah eng nge thleng tih i hria em?" Thu hriatte chu awlsam takin vawng reng rawh . Hetiang hi i sawi thei ang:

• "Hengte hi i in hian i taksa leh rilru pahnih hian hna a thawk slow deuh thin."
• "Thil chiang taka ngaihtuah a harsa ta hle a, i kal lai pawhin i thunun thei lo thei bawk."
• "Tui thuk zia emaw, kawngpuiah lirthei a hnaih zia emaw ang chi thil dik tak hriat a harsa ta hle a ni."
• "Chu bâkah, i hmui a rimchhia!"

A châng chuan i fa chuan, "Engvangin nge mom/dad hian zu in hi a pawi lo a, keimah tan a pawi lo?" Tichuan heti hian sawifiah rawh: "Naupang te taksa hi a la thang zel a. Thlai te tak te ang bawkin. Heng thilte hi in hian an taksa leh thluak lo thanglian zel chu a tichhe thei a. An lo puitlin hunah heng thilte hi an addicted theihna chance a sang hle. Chuvangin heng thilte hi naupang te tan chuan a tha lo hle a ni," a ti.

Naupang kum 8 leh 11 inkar chungchang tlem han sawi leh ila.

Hetiang kum naupangte hian zu in nghawng a neih dan, chu chu taksa leh rilru a tihchhiat theih dan te chu chipchiar deuhin an hrethiam thei a ni. Tunah chuan an upa deuh tawh a, thil awmdan chu logical takin an ngaihtuah tan ta.

Zu in hun rei lote chhunga nghawng a neih dan te i sawi thei ang. Chungte chu:

• I thil hmuh te, i hriat te, i taksa balance (coordination) te chu a buai ta hle mai. I hmu thei lo va, i hre tha thei lo va, i kal tha thei lo bawk a, i tlu pawh a ni thei.
• Emotion leh feelings te chu rang takin a danglam thei a. Lungngaihna nei lovin i lungngai a, thinrim lovin i thinrim a, i hlim lutuk emaw a ni thei.
• Thil dik leh dik lo thlan theihna, chu chu rorel thiamna (impaired judgment) a bo ta a ni. Hei hian accident, tuiah pil, thil dang hlauhawm tak tak , leh insualna a tipung a ni.
• Thâwk rimchhia.
• A tuk zingah chuan lu na nasa tak, chak lohna, leh luak duhna ang chi thil i nei a, chu chu hangover an ti a ni.

Tin, hun rei tak chhunga zu in hian hun rei tak chhunga nghawng a neih dante pawh sawi bawk ang che . Hengte hi a rah chhuah hlauhawm tak takte chu an ni:

• Kan taksa peng pawimawh ber pakhat thin (liver) hi nasa takin a chhia a.
• I ei duhna i hloh a, i taksain chaw a ei tha lo.
• Ka pum harsatna ka nei fo a, a chang chuan gastritis ka nei bawk.
• Thinlung leh thluak a chhiat theihna a sang hle a, chu chuan thinlung natna leh stroke ang chi dinhmun a thlen thei a ni.
• Hun a kal zel a, hriatrengna chu a bo zauh zauh a, thil thar zir a harsa ta hle.

Hetiang kum naupangte hian an ṭhiante bula awm an duh fo a , an thil tih ang bawk chu tih an duh fo bawk . Chu chu thil pangngai a ni. Amaherawhchu, i fate chu mahni inngaihtuahna leh mahni thu tlûkna siam a pawimawhzia zirtîr rawh. "Midang zawng zawngin an tih vang mai maia thil tih a ngai lo, fapa/fanu. I tana tha nia i hriat leh i taksa tana tha tur thlan theihna chakna i neih a ngai a ni," tih ang chi thu sawiin fuih rawh.

Kan fa naupang kum 12 leh 17 inkar te hi engtin nge kan hrilh thin?

Hei hi ngaithlatu tha tak nih hun a ni . I fa nena inbiakna tur kawngkhar chu hawng reng ang che. Entawn tur tha tak ni chhunzawm zel rawh . I thusawi chu an ngaithla lo ang maiin lang mah se, zirchianna chuan nu leh pate entawn tûr siam leh inbiakna hian naupang tête nungchang a nghawng tak zet tih a târ lang a ni.

Zu laka inthiarfihlim chhan \hate sawipui rawh. Science lama finfiah chhan thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Naupan lai atanga zu in i thiam chuan i lo puitlin hunah zu kaihhnawih harsatna i nei tam zawk a ni. Chu chu zu addict i ni thei tihna a ni.
• Zu in thin thalai te hian mipat hmeichhiatna lama an inhmang hmasa zawk a, invenna tel lovin sex an hmang nasa zawk a, chu chuan mipat hmeichhiatna hmanga kai theih natna leh ruahmanna awm lova naupai ang chi harsatna a thlen thei a ni.
• Naupang tê zu in te hian sikul hnathawh kawngah harsatna an nei thei a . Hriatrengna hloh te, ngaihvenna tlahniam te, leh zir duhna hloh te an nei thin.
• Zu hian athletic performance a tichhe thei a ni . Chakna, chakna leh balance hlohna a thlen thei a ni.
• Kum 21 hnuai lam tan zu in hi dan kalh a ni . Tupawh man an nih chuan hremna an tawk dawn a ni.
• Zu hian thluaka hun rei tak chhung inthlak danglamna a thlen thei a ni . A bik takin naupan lai, thluak a la than chhoh lai hian zu hian chu hmasawnna chu a tibuai thei a ni.

Zu chungchanga lecture leh scare tactics hman hian thalai te chu i lakah a hruai bo thei a ni. Chuvangin chutiang chu ti suh.

Mahse, zu an hman i duh lo tih chiang takin sawi rawh . I chhungkuaa tu pawhin zu chungchanga harsatna an neih chuan, chu chu `chhungkaw zingah zu chungchanga harsatna awm tawh` a awm chuan i fa hnenah pawh hrilh bawk ang che. Hei hian anmahni pawhin zu chungchanga harsatna an neih theihna chance a sang zawk thei a ni.

Naupang tê tête chuan an rualpuite pawm leh duhsak an duh a. Hei hi hriatthiam theih a ni. Chuvangin, dinhmun hrang hranga awm dan tur sawipui la, an tan buatsaih rawh. Entir nan:

• "Party-ah i awm a, i ṭhian pakhatin zu in tir che a tum che tih han ngaihtuah teh. Engtin nge i sawi? 'Ka duh lo, hei hi ka in lo' i ti thei ang." A nih loh leh, 'Ni lo, mipa, a tuk zingah hna ka thawh hma a ngai' i ti thei bawk."
• "In lama hruai tur che ṭhian chu zu rui a nih chuan engtin nge i tih ang? Zu rui nen hian car-ah chuang ngai suh. Chutih hunah chuan min rawn call thei ang a, ka lo kal ang che."

Chûng thilte chu sawi ho ula. I fa chu engtik lai pawhin i call thei tih leh i text thei tih hrilh la, i lo kal ang a, i rawn la ang a, lecture i pe dawn lo va, i hrem dawn lo tih hrilh bawk ang che . He rinna siam hi a pawimawh hle.

Nu leh pa kan nih angin eng nge kan tih belh theih ang?

Nu leh pate pawh naupang tê tê tân entawn tûr ṭha tak an ni bawk. Chuvangin, zu hi mawhphurhna nei taka hmang (a nih loh leh hmang lo tak tak), zu hi stress solution atan hmang lo la, zu in leh lirthei khalh ngai lo la, entawn tlak tak ni rawh. I fate nêna rinawm taka inbiakna neih fo chuan thu tlûkna ṭha siam tûrin a ṭanpui ang.

Chutih rual chuan nu leh pa angin in fimkhur a ngai a, dan in siam a ngai bawk . I fain zu a lo enchhin a nih chuan, chu mi chungchângah dik taka sawi tûrin hrilh rawh. I fain zu a hmang a, a hrilh lo che nia i ngaih chuan ngaihthah suh . Buaina hi a pawi hle nia i hriat chuan i fa doctor-in a pui thei ang.

I tih theih dang thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

• I fate awmna leh tute nen nge an awm tih chiang takin hre rawh .
• I fa biak theihna tur kawng nei rawh. An phone chu an keng tel tur a ni a, a on tur a ni. Tin, an ṭhiante number emaw, an kalna tur in number emaw chu i bulah dah la.
• I fate ṭhiante nu leh pate hre chiang la , anmahni nena inzawmna siam dan tur zawng rawh. Nu leh pa dangte nena thawhhona chuan i fate humhimna a ti awlsam hle.
• Zu chungchanga i ngaihdan, naupang upa zawk leh naupang zawkte nena in ngaih pawimawh (values) teChumi chungchang chu sawi rawh. I fain zu a hman i duh lo tih chiang takin sawi rawh .
• I fate chu eng chen nge hriattir an ngai tih hrilh la, chu chu ``check in'' turin, in atanga an awm loh hunah hrilh rawh.
• I fa naupangte chu lirthei khalh a nih chuan, zu engzat pawh in a, lirthei khalh chu a pawi ngai lo tih chiang takin sawi rawh . Tin , "contract" in siam thei bawk a, chu chu in pahnih hian in sign a, chhungkaw zingah tumahin zu an in dawn lo va, an khalh dawn lo tih i ziak thei bawk. Chu contract chu i bawhchhiat chuan i fain an lirthei khalh theihna chanvo a hloh dawn tih chiang takin sawi rawh.

A tawp berah chuan hriat reng tur tlemte

Okay, chuvangin kan sawi tawh atang hian point pawimawh thenkhat i hriatthiam ka beisei. A awlsam zawngin, kan fate zu hlauhawm laka chhanchhuah kan duh chuan, tlang tak leh rinawm takin kan biak a ngai a ni .

Chu inbiakna chu kum naupan lai atanga tan a tha ber.

I fa a lo puitlin chuan a kum nena inmil takin thilte sawifiah rawh. Tin, entawn tur tha tak nih a pawimawh bawk a, hmangaihna nen, hriatthiamna nen, mahse nghet takin i ngaihdan i sawi chhuak thin . I fa chakna ber i ni tih hre reng ang che! Kawng dik lamah i kaihruai thei a ni.

` Zu, naupang, nu leh pa, ruihhlo laka invenna, thalai, hriselna, inbiakpawhna