Assertiveness chungchang, tumah tihnat loha i rilru a awm chu sawi dan tur sawi ila!

Kan nunah hian kan ngaihdan leh kan duhzawng dik tak, chiang taka midang hnena hrilh kan mamawh hun kan nei vek a. Mahse a chang chuan tih harsa deuhin kan hria a, chhungril lamah chuan hlauhna leh hlauhna tlem kan nei thin. Chutiang hunah chuan hei hi kan tanpui tur thil pawimawh tak a ni. A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, mahni inrintawkna neia kan ngaihdan sawi chhuah a ni a, mahse midang zahna nena sawi chhuah a ni bawk.

Assertiveness hi eng nge ni tak tak?

Hetiang hian han ngaihtuah teh: Assertiveness hi inbiakpawhna hrisel tak a ni. I ngaihtuahna, i rilru put hmang, i mamawh , leh i ngaihdan dik tak leh zah taka sawi chhuah theihna tihna a ni . Nitin dinhmun tam tak kan hmachhawn a, hetiang assertiveness hian nasa takin min pui thei a ni. Entir nan:

• I duhzawng mi pakhat date-a chhuah tura zawh.
• School zirtirtu emaw lecturer emaw hnena zawhna zawh.
• Job interview tura kal dawna thusawi thiam.
• Store-a kal a, i duh ang chiah dil.

He `(Assertiveness)` hi mi zawng zawng tana pianphung atanga lo chhuak a ni lo. Mi thenkhat chu an ngawi reng a, an ngaihdan sawi an hlau a, engkim "yes" an ti thin. `(Passive)` style kan ti a. Midang an awm a, an thusawi dan hi a khauh deuh a, midang ngaihsak lo ang maiin. Chu chu `(Aggressive)` style an ti a. `(Assertiveness)` hi heng pahnih inkara inthlauhna famkim a ni. Rangkachak middle ground ang mai a ni. Chuti a nih chuan, `(Assertive)` tih hi eng nge a awmzia?

• I ngaihdan leh i rilru put hmang chiang takin i sawi thei a ni.
• I duhzawng, i mamawh chu i dil thei a ni.
• Miin i thusawi a pawm loh chuan zah takin i pawm lo thei a ni.
• I ngaihdan leh rawtna te i thehlut thei ang.
• "Hei hi ka ti thei lo" emaw, "Hei hi ka duh lo" emaw i ti thei a, inthiam lohna nei lovin i sawi thei.
• Midang tan pawh, an dikna chanvo tur i sawi thei bawk.

Engvangin nge assertiveness hi a pawimawh em em?

Tunah chuan i ngaihtuah mai thei, hei hi chutiang thil lian tak a ni tak tak em? Ni e, Assertiveness hian kan duhzawng kan hmuh theih nan min pui mai bakah kawng thui tak a zawh bawk. Assertive taka kan sawi hian mahni leh midangte kan zahzia a tilang a ni . Assertive taka thusawi thinte chuan khawvel hnenah anmahni an rin thu thuchah an thawn thin. An zak lutuk lo va, mi dangte nawr an tum hek lo. An rilru put hmang leh ngaihdan chu a hlu hle tih an hria . Mahni inrintawkna tha tak an nei a. Assertive taka thil ti thinte chuan midang leh anmahni mamawh zah zawnga thu an sawi avangin ṭhian siam an awlsam zawk ṭhin. Harsatna leh inrem lohna a lo chhuah huna chinfel thiam an ni fo. Ngaihtuah teh, midang kan zah hian chu zahna chu kan hmu let leh thin.Chu chu thudik chu a ni.

Khawnge i awm? A reh hle em ni? A ring lutuk em ni? A nih loh leh a dik mai mai em?

Tunah chuan he ``Assertiveness'' an tih scale-ah hian khawiah nge i dinna chu kan en ang. Entirna thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

Pawani chanchin: Tlem a reh lutuk... (Too Passive)

Pawani i zawh chuan, "Eng movie nge i en duh ang?" a ti mai thei, "Aw, ka hre lo, i duh ber chu i en ang." Thutlukna siam turin midangte a phal tlangpui a, a hnuah chuan, "Chutiang chu sawi ila ka duh khawp mai," tiin a inchhir leh thin. A ṭhiante chauh an inbiaknaah chuan a hrehawm ti hle. Mahse Pawani pawhin a tel ve a tum pawhin a tawng zawi lutuk a, midangte pawhin an hriat lohvin an sawipui thin.

Janani chanchin: A khauh deuhin a ri a ni lawm ni? (A aggressive lutuk) .

Janani chuan a ngaihdan sawi a hlau lo. Mahse a tih chuan a ring hle a, a ngaihdan chauh a dik thei ang berin a ti thin. Inbiakna a awm chuan a tam zâwk chu a la a, mi dangte chu a titawp fo va, mi dangte thusawi chu a ngaithla tam lo hle. A thusawi i pawm loh chuan nuihzat takin a hrilh che emaw, a dah hniam emaw che a ni. Mi tam tak chuan Janani hi ``bossy`` tak (midangte thupek) a ni an ti a, midang rilru put hmang pawh a ngaihtuah lo.

Benura chanchin: Hei hi kawng dik tak a ni! (A dik chiah - Assertive)

Benura hnenah ngaihdan i zawh chuan dik takin a hrilh ang che. I thusawi a pawm loh chuan dah hniam lovin, i dik lo anga inhriat tir lovin a sawi ang che. Benura pawhin i ngaihdan a ngaihven a, i sawi tur chu ngun takin a ngaithla thin. Benura hian i thusawi chu a pawm lo a nih pawhin i ngaihdan a zah hle niin i hria thei.

I passive lutuk chuan harsatna lo awm thin

Okay, chuvangin Pawani ang mi ``Passive`` tak takte hi han ngaihtuah teh. Mi dangin an hmang niin an inhria fo mai thei a, anmahni hlawkna tur atan hna an thawk a ni. Tichuan, an rilru a na a, an thinrim a, an thinrim thei bawk . I ngaihtuahna leh i rilru put hmang i thup hian midangte’n an hriat chian leh hriatthiam theihna hun an nei lo. I ngaihtuahna tha tak takte hian team, hnathawhna hmun leh chhungkaw tan a hlawkpui tur angin a hlawkpui lo.

"Ka ngaihtuahnate hi a pawimawh lo, ka rilru put hmang hi tumah a pawimawh lo" tih i ngaihtuah tan chuan, zawi zawiin i inrintawkna a ti tlem thei a ni. I ngaihtuahna \hate chuan an phu tawk hriatpuina leh fuihna an dawng lo mai thei. Hetiang dinhmun hi a awm chhunzawm zel chuan depression ang chi rilru dinhmun pawh i nei thei a ni .

I chetsual lutuk chuan harsatna lo awm thei

Tunah chuan Janani ang `(Aggressive)` style-a che thinte chungah eng nge thleng tih i en ang u. Ṭhian vawn reng leh inlaichînna ṭha neih chu harsa an ti mai thei. Inbiaknaah mi dangte rilru hneh an tum thei a, an ngaihdan chu nasa tak leh rang takin an sawi chhuak thei a, mi dangte chuan zah loh leh ngaihhlut loh nia inhriatna an nei thei bawk. `(Aggressive)` style nei te hian midang hnen atangin an duhzawng an hmu thei mai thei. Mahse a tam zawkah chuan midang hnawl leh duh loh an ni tawp thin. A tâwpah chuan mi dangte zahna an hloh ta a ni.

Engvangin nge mi zawng zawng hian assertiveness hi kan practice dik loh? Eng nge a chhan?

Dik tak chuan engvangin nge mi thenkhat chu Benura ang `(Assertive)` an nih laiin, thenkhat chu Pawani ang `(Passive)` emaw Janani ang `(Aggressive)` emaw an nih? Chutianga kan tih chhan pakhat chu kan mize a ni. Hun kal zelah kan tih dan leh kan thil tawn te hian a nghawng bawk. Chutih rual chuan mi dangte awm dan enin `(Assertive)`, `(Passive)`, emaw `(Aggressive)` tih dan te, a bik takin naupan lai atanga min enkawltu (nu leh pa, enkawltu) te chet dan enin kan insiam thin.

Passive nih chhan: 1.1.

• Mahni inrintawk lohna leh mahni ngaihtuahna hlutna.
• Midang tih lawm tur leh an duhsakna hlawh chhuah dan tur ngaihtuah lutuk.
• Hnawl hlauh lutuk emaw, mi dangin mahni ngaihdan an pawm loh vang emaw.
• Sawiselna lama rilru na tak tak, emaw, a hmaa an ngaihdan ngaihthah emaw, hnawl emaw a nih tawhna avanga hliam tuar.
• ``Assertive'' taka awm theihna tura thiamna mamawh nei lo.

Aggressive nih chhan: 1.1.

• Inrintawk lutuk tih awmzia chu nangmah chauh hi dik nia inngai tihna a ni.
• Mahni mamawh leh ngaihdan pholanna tur chauha hnathawh, midang ngaihtuah lo.
• Mi dangte ngaihdan, rilru put hmang leh mamawh zah leh ngaihtuah thiam loh.
• Ngaithla thiamna tlakchham, midang ngaihdan zawh zir loh.

Assertive taka awm tura puitu thilte:

• Mahni inrintawkna tha neih .
• Mahni ngaihdan chu a hlu a, mahni rilru put hmang a pawimawh a, sawi chhuah theihna a nei tih thinlung zawng zawnga ring.
• Sawiselna, hnawlna leh harsatna lo thleng tur hmachhawn thei tura rilru chakna leh chhelna neih.
• Midang duhdan leh mamawh zahsak.
• Assertive taka nungchangte chu entawn tur anga lak .
• I ngaihtuahnate pawm a nih huna chhân lêtna ṭha tak neih leh rilru pu chunga nungchang ang chi thil ṭha tawn neih.

Engtin nge assertive kan nih theih ang? Kan practice theih thilte

Thu lawmawm tak chu assertiveness hi kan practice theih leh kan tihhmasawn theih thil a ni. Inbiakpawhna thiamna leh rilru put hmang \ha tak neih a ngai chauh a ni. Mi thenkhat chuan an pianphungah an nei zawk mai thei. Mi dangte chuan practice tlem an mamawh mai thei. Mahse tu pawhin an tipung thei . Ṭanpui tûra i tih theih ṭhenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

1. A hmasain i inbiak dan tur chu hriat chian hmasa phawt ang che.

Dik tak chuan ``Assertive'', ``Passive'', ``Aggressive'' i ni zawk em tih hi ngaihtuah rawh. Tichuan, i passiveness emaw aggressiveness emaw tihtlem i duh nge, i ``Assertiveness'' awmsa chu tihchangtlun i duh em tih chu thutlukna siam rawh.

2. I passiveness tihtlem nan leh assertive zawk turin heng thilte hi han ti ve teh:

• I ngaihtuahna, i rilru put hmang, i duh zawng, i duh zawngte chu fimkhur rawh. Heng thilte hi midangte i hrilh hmain nangmah ngeiin heng thilte hi i hriat chian a ngai a ni.
• Miin i duhzawng a zawh che chuan, "Aw, ka hre lo," "Ka ngaihtuah lo," emaw, "A tha e," tih ang chi i sawi chuan chhinchhiah rawh. Chu tih dan chu bansan rawh. Thil tenawm tak tak atan pawh nise, i duhzawng sawi thiam rawh. Entirnan, mi pakhatin, "Green zawk i duh em, a sen i duh em?" "Green zawk hi ka duh khawp ang - lawmthu ka sawi tak meuh meuh a ni," i ti thei ang.
• Thil dil chu practice rawh. Entirnan: "Khawngaihin chu spoon chu ka pass thei ang em?" "Pen ka mamawh - tu emaw chuan extra an nei em?" "Chutah chuan seat min chelh thei ang em?" Hetiang thil tenau dil i practice hian thil lian leh pawimawh tak dilna atana i mamawh thiamna leh inrintawkna i siam ang.
• I ngaihdan sawi rawh. Movie i en kha i duh leh duh loh min hrilh la, chutianga i ngaihtuah chhan min hrilh bawk ang che.
• "I like..." "I prefer..." "I feel... " tih ang chi " I" statement hman dan practice la, hei hian i rilru put hmang leh ngaihdan te chu i duh dan anga i sawi chhuah theih nan a pui ang che.
• Assertive tak role model la rawh - mi ngawi renga awm lo leh zakzum lo. Chu mi mizia ṭhate chu entawn tum ang che.
• I ngaihtuahna leh ngaihdan chu mi dang ang bawkin a pawimawh tih hi inhriat nawn tir fo ang che . Hei hi hriat hi assertive nih theihna kawng tha tak a ni. Assertiveness hi midang ang bawka nangmah ngaih pawimawh leh zah thiam rilru atanga tan a ni.

3. Hengte hi aggression tihtlem leh assertive nih theihna tura tips thenkhat chu a ni:

• Midangte sawi hmasa rawh se.
• Midangte titawp lo turin fimkhur rawh. I tih chuan man la, "Aw, min ngaidam rawh - i ta kha i zo hmasa ber!" tin, mi dangin an thusawi chu sawi zo rawh se.
• Midang ngaihdan zawt la, ngun takin ngaithla rawh.
• Thil pakhat i inrem loh chuan zah takin i ngaihdan sawi chhuah tum la, mi dang ngaihdan chu hmusit lovin. Entirnan, "Chu chu ngaihdan âwm lo tak a ni," tih ai chuan, "Chu ngaihtuahna chu ka pawm tak tak lo," tih ang chi hi sawi rawh. A nih loh leh, "Chu mi chu mi sual tak a ni," tih ai chuan, "Midang rilru put hmang chu tlem a ngaihtuah lo deuh niin ka hria," tih ang chi hi sawi rawh.
• Sawi tawh ang khan assertive takin nungchang tha tak nei mi pakhat angin in entawn rawh.

4. Naturally assertive te hian an theihna an tihhmasawn belh zel a ngai a ni:

• `(Assertive)` entawn tur tha zawng rawh. An mizia ṭhate chu entawn rawh. (I hmu thei ang, he thurawn hi midangte pawh kan pe a ni. A chhan chu, nitin nunah thil thar kan zir chhuak thin!)
• I assertive berna dinhmunte chu ngaihtuah rawh. Mi tam tak tan chuan dinhmun thenkhatah (e.g. ṭhiante nena) assertive nih chu thil awlsam tak a ni a, mahse dinhmun dangah (e.g. zirtirtu, mi tharte nen) chuan thil harsa tak a ni thei. Chutiang dinhmun harsa takah chuan hetiang hian ngaihtuah rawh: "Engtin nge ka thian tha ber berte hnenah hetiang hian ka sawi ang?" Hei hian i tan thil a ti awlsam phah ang.

Hriat reng tur pawimawh ber chu

A tawp berah chuan i sawi tur chu hetiang hi a ni. ``Assertive'' i nih hian, chu chu i rilru chhunga thil awm chu dik tak, chiang taka, mahse zah taka i sawi hian nangmah i inrin zia a tilang a ni.

I ngaihtuahna leh rilru put hmang khawvel hmaa sawi chhuah theihna i nei a ni. Midang ngaihdan zah tur hian mawhphurhna i nei bawk. Assertiveness hi a pahnih inzawmkhawm famkim a ni.

He thiamna ``Assertiveness'' tih hi tihhmasawn hi i nih duh mi, i ``best self'' nih theihna tura hmalakna pawimawh tak a ni! Chuvangin, heng thilte hi zawi zawiin practice tan rawh. I ti thei ang!

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