Tumah tihnat lova i ngaihdan chiang taka sawi chhuah i duh em? Nirogi Lanka nen hian Assertiveness chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Kan nunah hian kan ngaihtuahna, kan mamawh leh kan rilru put hmangte chu mi dangte hnena chiang taka sawi chhuah a ngai tak zetna hun kan hmachhawn vek a ni. Mahse, a châng chuan hei hi a hlauhawm hle thei a—lungngaihna emaw, inhnialna emaw neiin min awmtîr a ni. Hetah hian assertiveness thiamna pawimawh tak chu a lo lang a, a awlsam zawngin sawi ila, assertiveness chu mahni inrintawkna nena i ngaihdan leh mamawh sawi chhuah theihna a ni a, chutih rualin mi dangte ngaihdan zahna lantir reng hi a ni.

Assertive nih hian eng nge a awmzia tak?

Assertiveness hi inbiakpawhna hrisel leh inthlau tak angin ngaihtuah rawh. I ngaihtuahna, i rilru put hmang, leh mamawhte dik tak leh zah taka sawi theihna i nei tihna a ni . Nitin dinhmun chhiar sen loh kan navigate a, chutah chuan assertive nihna chu hlu tak a ni. Entir nan:

• Date-a i duhzawng sawm.
• I zirtirtu emaw lecturer emaw hnena zawhna zawh.
• Job interview neih chhunga i inlanna tha tak.
• Shopping emaw service zawng emaw huna i mamawh dik tak chiang taka sawifiah.

Assertiveness hi kan pianpui mizia a ni hauh lo. Mi ṭhenkhat chu an ngawi reng a, an ngaih dân sawi chu an hreh hle a, buaina awm lo tûr chauhvin engkim an pawm fo ṭhîn; hei hi passive style kan ti a. Mi dangte chu mi dangte rilru put hmang chu mi rilru na tak emaw, ngaihthah emaw angin an lang thei a; hei hi aggressive style a ni. Assertiveness hi heng pahnih inkara middle ground famkim a ni —rangkachak kawng inthlauhna ang mai a ni.

Chuti a nih chuan, assertive taka awm chu eng nge a awmzia?

• I ngaihdan leh rilru put hmang chiang takin i sawi chhuak thei a ni.
• I mamawh chu i sawi thei a, i mamawh chu i dil thei bawk.
• Miin ngaihdan danglam tak a neih pawhin zah takin i inrem lo thei a ni.
• I ngaihdan leh rawtnate chu rintlak takin i rawn present thei a ni.
• "Hei hi ka ti thei lo" emaw, "Hei hi ka hlim lo" emaw i ti thei a, inthiam lohna nei lovin.
• Midangte dikna chanvo pawh ding turin chakna i nei a ni.

Engvangin nge Assertiveness hi a pawimawh em em?

Hei hi a pawimawh tak tak em tih i ngaihtuah mai thei. Thudik tak chu, assertiveness hian thil tihfelna kawngah a pui mai ni lovin; chu chuan nangmah i ngaih pawimawhzia leh mi dangte i ngaih pawimawhzia tilangtu a ni .

Assertive taka i thusawi hian khawvel hnenah i inrintawk tih thuchah chiang tak i thawn a ni. Hlauhawm tak i ni lo va, midangte chunga bulldoze hmanga tihbuai tumtu pawh i ni lo. I rilru put hmang leh ngaihtuahnate hian hlutna a keng tel tih i hre chiang hle . Hei hian a pianphungah mahni inrintawkna hrisel tak a siam a ni.

A tlangpuiin, mimal assertive tak takte chuan mi dangte mamawh zah ruala mahni mamawh zah taka an inbiak avângin ṭhian siam chu an awlsam zâwk a ni. Buainate \ha taka chinfel thiam an ni fo \hin. Mi dangte zahna kan lantîr hian, a let lehin zahna kan hlawh chhuak tih hre reng ang che . Chu chu thudik bulpui ber a ni.

Khawiah nge i din? I ngawi lutuk em, i khauh lutuk em, a dik mai mai em ni?

Entirna tlemte hmangin assertiveness spectrum-a i tlakna hmun hi han en ila:

Pawani chanchin: A reh lutuk? (Passive lutuk) .

Pawani i zawh chuan, "Eng movie nge kan en ang?" she usually replies, "Aw, ka hre lo, i duh duh i thlang thin." Thu tlûkna siam tûrin mi dangte a phal fo va, a hnuah chuan a hlim lo hle a, thu sawi chhuak se a duh hle. A ṭhiante an inbiaknaah chuan thusawi chu a harsa hle a, thawhhlawk a tum pawhin a thusawi chu a nêm hle a, mi dangte pawhin tum loh takin a chungah an sawi a ni.

Janani chanchin: A bit lutuk? (A aggressive lutuk) .

Janani hian a rilrua awm chu sawi harsa a ti lo. Mahse, a thusawi chu a ri nasa hle a, a thunun thei hle a, a ngaihdan chauh a pawimawh ang maiin a che a ni. Eng inbiaknaah pawh a thunun fo va, mi dangte chu a titawp fo va, an thusawi pawh a ngaithla tam lo hle. A thusawi i pawm loh chuan a nuihzat thei che a, i ngaih dân pawh a hmusit thei bawk. Mi tam tak chuan Janani hi a bossy hle niin an ngai a, midang rilru put hmang ngaihtuah lo niin an hria.

Benura chanchin: A tha ber! (A dik chiah – Assertive) .

Benura ngaihdan i zawh chuan dik takin a sawi chhuak thin. I thusawi chu a inrem lo a nih chuan, i hmusit lo emaw, i dik lo anga inhriatna emaw siam lovin a ti a ni. Benura hian i ngaihdan hi a ngaihven tak zet a, ngun takin a ngaithla thin. Benura-a’n i thusawi a pawm loh pawhin i ngaihdan a zah hle niin i inhria.

Passive lutuk avanga harsatna awmte

Pawani ang bawka passive taka awm rengte hi han ngaihtuah teh ang. Mi dangte’n an chhawr ṭangkai emaw, anmahni hlâwkna atân an hmang emaw niin an inhria fo ṭhîn. Chu chuan rilru natna, thinrimna, leh thinrimna thuk tak a thlen thei a ni .

I ngaihtuahna leh rilru put hmang i bottled up hian midangte chuan an hriat chian tak tak che leh hriatthiam theihna hun an nei lo. I ngaihtuahna hlu tak takte chu i chhungte, i hnathawhna hmunah emaw, i pawlah emaw a bo ta a ni.

"Ka ngaihtuahnate hi a pawimawh lo, ka rilru put hmang hi tumahin an ngaihsak lo" tih i ngaihtuah tan chuan i inrintawkna chu zawi zawiin a tlahniam thei a ni. I phu tak hriatpuina leh fuihna chu i hloh mai thei. Hetiang dinhmun hi a awm reng chuan, a châng chuan rilru lam natna, lungngaihna ang chi pawh a thlen thei a ni.

Aggressive lutuk avanga buaina te

Tunah chuan Janani ang bawka chetsualna nei lote chunga thil thleng hi han en ila. Inṭhianṭhatna emaw, inlaichînna hrisel emaw vawng reng chu harsa an ti fo ṭhîn. Inbiakna thunun tum reng a, an ngaih dânte nawr luih rengna hmangin, mi duh loh an lo ni thei a, mi dangte chu ngaihhlut loh leh zah loh anga inhriatna an neihtîr thei a ni.

Aggressive style hian hun rei lote chhungin i duhzawng a pe thei che a, mahse a rah chhuah tlangpui chu mi dangte’n an hnawl emaw, an duh lo emaw a ni. A tawpah chuan i chhehvela mite zahna i hloh ta a ni.

Engvangin nge assertive nih hi kan practice vek loh?

Engvangin nge mi thenkhat chu Benura angin assertive lam an hawi a, thenkhat erawh chu passive emaw aggressive emaw trap-ah an tlu lut thung? Thil pakhat chu kan mimal mize hi a ni. Chu bâkah, hun kal tawha kan tih dân leh kan nun tawn tawhte hian hmun pawimawh tak a chang a ni. Chu bâkah, mi dangte, a bîk takin min enkawltu puitlingte—nu leh pa emaw, enkawltu emaw—chutiang rilru put hmang, thil tih loh, a nih loh leh thiltih râpthlâk tak takte entawn tûra kan inbiak dânte chu kan zir fo ṭhîn.

Passive lutuk chhan te:

• Mahni inrintawk lohna leh mahni ngaihtuahna hlutna.
• Midang tihlawm duhna emaw, an duhsakna hlawh chhuah duhna lutuk.
• Inrem lohna emaw hnawl emaw hlauhna nasa tak .
• Sawiselna lama sensitivity sang tak, emaw, thil tawn tawh, mi pakhat ngaihdan ngaihthah emaw, hnawl emaw a nih a, hliam a thlen thin.
• Assertive taka awm tur chuan inbiakpawhna thiamna lama hmasawnna tlakchham a ngai.

A rilru a buai lutuk chhan:

• Overconfidence , mi pakhat chu a dik reng tih rinna hmanga hriat hlawh.
• Mahni mamawh leh ngaihdan ngaihpawimawh a, midangte ngaihthah.
• Mi dangte rilru put hmang leh mamawh zah dan emaw, ngaihtuah dan emaw zir loh.
• Ngaithla thiam lohna leh midangte hnen atanga input sawm dan zir loh vang.

Assertive behavior tihhmasawn dan tur:

• Mahni inrintawkna nghet tak neih .
• I ngaihdante hian hlutna a nei tih ring tlat a, i rilru put hmang chu a pawimawh a, chu chu sawi chhuah theihna dikna bulpui i nei bawk.
• Resilience siam chhuah—sawiselna, hnawlna, leh hnungtawlhnate ṭha taka kalpui theihna rilru chakna.
• Midang duhdan leh mamawh zahsak.
• Hrisel, assertive behavior lantir thei role model te chu i inspiration atan hmang rawh.
• I ngaihdan pawm ṭhat a nihna hmun emaw, i assertiveness-in thil ṭha tak a thlen lai emawa thil tawn ṭha tak takte ngaihtuah.

Engtin nge assertive zawk i nih theih ang? A bul tanna tur thil tangkai tak tak

Thu lawmawm ber chu assertiveness hi practice hmanga i tihhmasawn theih skill a ni. Inbiakpawhna hmanraw tlemte zir leh chhungril rilru dik tak neih a ngai mai a ni.

Mi ṭhenkhat chuan chu chu mi dangte aiin a pianphungah awlsam zâwkin an hmu mai thei a, mahse mi tinin an assertiveness tihchangtlun theihna an nei vek a ni .

Actionable step i tih theih thenkhat chu hetiang hi a ni:

1. A hmasa berin, tuna i inbiak dan tur chu hriat chian hmasa phawt ang che.

Nangmah leh nangmah dik takin awm rawh: Assertive, passive (silent/withdrawn), emaw aggressive emaw i ni duh em? I style i hriat chian hnuah, passivity tihtlem, tempering aggression, a nih loh leh i assertive habits awmsa tihthianghlim mai maia thawh a ngai em tih chu thutlukna siam rawh.

2. Passive i nih duh chuan assertive zawka i awm theih nan heng step te hi han ti ve teh:

• I ngaihtuahna, i rilru put hmang, i mamawh leh i duh zawngte ngaihven rawh. Mi dangte hnena i sawi hmain nangmah ngeiin i chiang hmasa tur a ni.
• Zawhnate chu inhnialna awm lo tûra “Ka hre lo,” “Ka ngaihtuah lo,” a nih loh leh “Buaina a ni lo” tih ang chi thumal hmanga i chhân fo chuan chhinchhiah rawh. Chu tih dan chu bansan rawh. Thil awmdan tenau takah i duhzawng sawi tan rawh. Entîr nân, mi pakhatin, “I duh zâwng nge a sen chu?” i ti thei ang, “Green zawk hi ka duh zawk, lawmthu ka sawi e,” i ti thei ang.
• Dilna siam dan practice rawh. Entîrna: “Khawngaihin chu spoon chu min pass thei ang em?” “Pen ka mamawh—tuin spare an nei em?” emaw, “Khawngaihin chu thutna chu ka tan i khawl thei ang em?” Heng dilna tenau te hi practice hian inpawhna pawimawh zawk neih theihna tura mamawh inrintawkna leh thiamna a siam a ni.
• I ngaihdan sawi rawh. Movie i hmuh kha i duh leh duh loh sawiho la, i ngaihdan sawifiah rawh.
• “I” statement , “Ka duh...”, “Ka duh zawk...”, “I feel...” tih ang chi hmang rawh . Hei hian i rilru put hmang leh ngaihtuahnate chu nangmah ngeiin i sawi chhuah theih nan a pui a ni.
• Entawn tûr siam tûr, inthlau tak—passive emaw, aggressive emaw pawh ni lo. An inpawhnate en la, an mizia ṭhate chu entawn tum ang che.
• I ngaihtuahna leh ngaihdan chu mi zawng zawng ang bawkin a dik tih inhriat nawn tir fo ang che . Hei hi hriat hi assertive nihna kawng pawimawh tak a ni. Assertiveness dik tak chu mahni inzah leh midangte i ngaih pawimawh ang bawka mahni inngaihhlutna atanga tan a ni.

3. I chetsual duh chuan assertive zawk turin heng tips te hi hmang la:

• Mi dangte thusawi phal hmasa phawt ang che.
• Midangte tihbuai chungchangah ngaihtuahna fim tak nei rawh. Chutianga i tih lai i man chuan, ding nghal la, ngaihdam dil la, “Ka ngaidam che, khawngaihin i thusawi kha ti zo rawh,” ti la, mi dang chu a rilru put hmang kimchang taka sawi chhuah theihna hmun pe rawh.
• Midang ngaihdan zawt la, active takin ngaithla rawh.
• Mi nen in inrem loh chuan an ngaihdan hlutna tichhe lovin zah takin i ngaihdan sawi rawh. Entîr nân, “Chu chu ngaihtuahna âtthlâk tak a ni,” tih ai chuan, “Chutiang kalphung chu ka pawm chiah lo,” tih hi tum ang che. Mi pakhat chu khauh taka hming vuah ai chuan, “Mi dang rilru put hmang an ngaihtuah lo mai thei niin ka hria,” tih hi tum ang che.
• Sawi tawh ang khan, a nungchang i entawn theih tur entawn tur inthlau tak zawng rawh.

4. Naturally assertive mite pawhin an thiamna an tihchangtlun zel tur a ni:

• Entawn tur zawng chhunzawm zel la, an chaknate enfiah chhunzawm zel ang che. Nun chhung zawnga zirlai kan ni vek!
• Eng dinhmunah nge i assertive ber tih hi thlirlet rawh. Mi tam tak chuan ṭhiante hnêna thu sawi chhuah chu thil awlsam tak ni mah se, zirtîrtu emaw, an hriat tharte emaw nên chuan an buai hle. Chûng hun harsa takah chuan, “Ka ṭhian ṭha ber nêna inbiak ni ta ila, engtin nge he thil hi ka hmachhawn ang?” Chu ngaihdan inthlak danglamna chuan a ti awlsam thei hle.

Takeaway pawimawh ber

A tâwpah chuan, insum thei tak nihna—mi dangte zahna vawng reng chungin i ngaihtuahnate dik tak leh chiang taka sawi chhuah—chuan i inngaihhlutzia a târ lang a ni.

I ngaihtuahna leh rilru put hmang sawi chhuah theihna i nei a, mi dangte ngaihdan zah tur chuan mawhphurhna i nei bawk. Assertiveness hi a pahnih balance tha ber a ni.

He thiamna tihhmasawn hi i best self nih theihna tura hmalakna pawimawh tak a ni . Zawi zawiin practice tan rawh—i ti thei!

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