Ngaba wakha wacinga ukuba ingakanani ingcinezelo efihliweyo emva kwamagama anje 'amadoda akakhali' okanye 'amadoda kufuneka abe namandla'? Enyanisweni, ukudakumba yimeko yempilo yengqondo echaphazela amadoda kanye njengokuba ichaphazela abafazi. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yokuba amadoda ahlala ehlangabezana nayo kwaye ayiveze ngendlela eyahlukileyo, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuyichonga. Amadoda amaninzi nawo ayathandabuza ukucela uncedo. Namhlanje, makhe sibe nencoko evulekileyo nenyanisekileyo malunga nale ngxaki ithuleyo etshabalalisa ubomi.
Kutheni kunzima kangaka ukuchonga ukudakumba kumadoda?
Kukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zoku. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, uluntu luhlala lusifundisa ukuba ' amakhwenkwe akufuneki abonise iimvakalelo' kwaye kufuneka ahlale ethule. Ngenxa yoko, xa uziva ulusizi olunzulu, uxinezeleko, okanye imithwalo enzima yeemvakalelo, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukuyiveza. Usenokukhathazeka malunga nokubonwa njengobuthathaka okanye uloyiko lokuba oku kunokuchaphazela umsebenzi wakho okanye ubudlelwane bakho bentlalo.
Ngaphezu koko, xa amadoda etyelela ugqirha, ahlala egxila kwiimpawu zomzimba endaweni yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zawo zosizi okanye ixhala. Umzekelo, ungathi, "Gqirha, ndiziva ndidiniwe ngalo lonke ixesha," "Ndinentloko ebuhlungu ," okanye "Ndineengxaki zesisu." Ngenxa yokuba ezi mpawu zomzimba ziqhelekile kwezinye izifo ezininzi, wena nogqirha wakho ninokucinga ngempazamo ukuba imbangela yeyomzimba kunokuba ibe kukudandatheka.
Zithini iimpawu zokudakumba kumadoda?
Xa sicinga ngoxinzelelo, sihlala sicinga ngosizi nokukhala. Nangona kunjalo, uxinzelelo kumadoda lunokubonakala ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kakhulu. Nceda ujonge itheyibhile engezantsi ukuze uqonde la mahluko.
| Iimpawu Eziqhelekileyo Zoxinzelelo | Umahluko Oqhelekileyo Obonakala Kumadoda |
|---|---|
| Ukuziva ulusizi rhoqo okanye ungenathemba. | Ukucaphuka okungachazekiyo, umsindo, okanye ubundlongondlongo. |
| Ukulahlekelwa ngumdla kwizinto owawuzithanda ngaphambili. | Ukuziphatha ngobundlobongela okanye ukugxeka abanye. |
| Ukungazoli okanye ukuziva udiniwe. | Ukuzinxwema kusapho nakubahlobo ukuze uzehlukanise. |
| Ukuziva ungento yanto okanye unetyala. | Ingcinga engalunganga eqhubekayo. |
| Ubunzima bokugxila. | Ukuzixakekisa kakhulu ngomsebenzi okanye ukuzixakekisa kakhulu ngemisebenzi. |
| Iingcinga ezihlala zihleli ngokufa okanye ukuzibulala. | Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi okanye utywala. |
| Amandla aphantsi kunye nokudinwa okungapheliyo. | Ukuzibandakanya kwindlela yokuziphatha enobungozi obukhulu (umz., ukuqhuba ngokungakhathali). |
Iimpawu Zomzimba
Uxinzelelo alukho engqondweni yakho kuphela; luyawuchaphazela umzimba wakho. Utshintsho kwindlela yokuthanda ukutya (ukulahlekelwa okanye ukuncipha) kunye neendlela zokulala ( ukungalali okanye ukulala kakhulu) zixhaphakile. Ukongeza, amadoda anokufumana oku kulandelayo:
- Intloko ebuhlungu rhoqo
- Iingxaki zokugaya ukutya ezifana nokutshixiza okanye ukudumba
- Intlungu engapheliyo engachazekiyo
Uxinzelelo luyichaphazela njani impilo yesondo?
Le yingongoma abantu abaninzi abayithandiyo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuyijonga. Ukudakumba kunokuchaphazela ngqo iminqweno yesondo kunye nokusebenza.
- Ukuncipha okukhulu kwe-libido.
- Iingxaki zokufikelela okanye ukugcina ukuma ( Ukungasebenzi kakuhle kwe-Erectile ).
- Ubunzima bokufikelela kwi-orgasm.
Usenokuziva uneentloni zokuxoxa ngale nto nogqirha wakho, kodwa kubalulekile ukwenza njalo. Ngamanye amaxesha, amayeza athile asetyenziselwa ukunyanga ukudakumba nawo anokubangela ezi ziphumo. Ugqirha wakho angalungisa amayeza akho okanye akutshintshele kunyango oluneziphumo ebezingalindelekanga ezimbalwa. Ungaze uyeke ukuthatha amayeza amiselweyo ngaphandle kokubonisana nomboneleli wakho wezempilo kuqala.
Kuza kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ayinyangwa?
Ukuba ayinyangwa, ukudakumba akusoloko kuphucuka; kudla ngokuba mandundu ngokuhamba kwexesha. Oku kunokukhokelela ekuwohlokeni kobomi bosapho lwakho, umsebenzi wakho, kunye nolwalamano lwakho lomntu.
Uxinzelelo olunganyangekiyo kakhulu, olunganyangekiyo, lunokutyhalela umntu kwinqanaba eliyingozi apho acinga ukuzibulala. Ngokwezibalo, amadoda asengozini enkulu yokuzibulala xa ethelekiswa nabasetyhini, rhoqo kuba anokukhetha iindlela eziyingozi ngakumbi. Ukuba uneengcinga zokuzilimaza, nceda ungabi wedwa. Funa uncedo ngokukhawuleza ngokufowunela iinkonzo zongxamiseko zasekuhlaleni (911) okanye uye kwicandelo elikufutshane lezonyango ezingxamisekileyo. Kukho inkxaso ekhoyo kuwe.
Amadoda Alupheleyo kunye noXinzelelo
Ukudakumba akuyonto iqhelekileyo yokwaluphala. Nangona kunjalo, utshintsho ebomini oluhlala luhamba nokwaluphala lunokunyusa umngcipheko wakho.
- Iingxaki zempilo: Iimeko ezifana nesifo seswekile, umhlaza, isifo sohlangothi, okanye iintlungu ezingapheliyo ziya zixhaphaka. Ezi meko kunye nonyango lwazo zinokubangela ukudakumba.
- Utshintsho ebomini: Umhlalaphantsi, ukulahlekelwa bubungcali, ukusweleka kwabantu obathandayo, okanye ukuthatha imisebenzi yokunyamekela abanye kunokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu.
- Ukuba nesizungu: Njengoko ukhula, usenokushiya abahlobo okanye abamelwane. Oku kuzihlukanisa yeyona nto iphambili ebangela uxinezeleko.
Iphathwa njani i-depression?
Le yeyona nxalenye ibalulekileyo: Amadoda asi-8 kwali-10 anengxaki yokudakumba anokunyangwa ngempumelelo. Iindlela eziphambili zonyango ziquka:
- Amayeza okudakumba: Anikwe ngugqirha wakho.
- Unyango lwengqondo: Ukuthetha ngeengxaki zakho nomcebisi okanye ingcali yezonyango efanelekileyo.
- Indibaniselwano yazo zombini.
- Kwiimeko ezinzima ngakumbi, unyango olukhethekileyo olufana ne-`(Electroconvulsive Therapy – ECT)` okanye `(Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation – TMS)` lunokuqwalaselwa.
Khumbula, ukudakumba yimeko enokunyangeka. Ukucela uncedo akubonisi ubuthathaka; luphawu lokuzikhathalela kunye namandla angaphakathi okwenene.
Eyona ndawo ilungileyo onokuqala kuyo kukubona ugqirha wakho wosapho (GP) . Okanye, ungatyelela ikliniki yempilo yengqondo okanye iziko leengqondo lasekuhlaleni.
Umyalezo oya nawo ekhaya
- Ukudakumba kumadoda kudla ngokubonakala njengomsindo , ubundlongondlongo, kunye nokuziphatha okubeka emngciphekweni kunokuba kube lusizi nje.
- Musa ukoyika ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho. Ukufuna uncedo luphawu lwamandla.
- Ukuba ubona utshintsho olucacileyo kwindlela ovakalelwa ngayo, ubuthongo, okanye umdla wakho kangangeeveki eziliqela, nceda udibane nogqirha wakho.
- Uxinzelelo yimeko enyangekayo kakhulu. Ungachacha ngenkxaso efanelekileyo evela kuNirogi Lanka kunye neengcali zakho zonyango.
- Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo unengxaki yokucinga ngokuzibulala, nceda utsalele umnxeba iinkonzo zongxamiseko zasekuhlaleni (911) okanye umnxeba ozinikeleyo we-hotline yengxaki yempilo yengqondo ngokukhawuleza.
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