Are you suffering from depression? How do you find the right person to help you?

There are days when you feel so heavy, you don't feel like doing anything, and you feel like you're alone in the world. You may be confused about whether this is just sadness or something deeper. This feeling you're feeling is what we medically call depression. The most important step you can take to overcome this is to ask for help. But who do you ask for help from? How do you find the right person? If these questions are on your mind, don't be afraid. Let's talk about this clearly.

What kind of help do I need?

Simply put, the type of help you need will depend on the severity of your condition and whether you have received any previous treatment. There are two main types of treatment for depression.

1. Talk Therapy / Counseling: This involves talking about your problems and feelings with a trained counselor or psychologist. This can help you understand yourself and learn how to deal with your problems.

2. Medication: Sometimes depression can be caused by an imbalance in certain chemicals in our brain called ``Neurotransmitters.'' Medications prescribed by a doctor can correct these imbalances and improve your mood.

But remember, you should definitely see a doctor before starting either of these treatments.

Who should I meet with first?

This is a problem that many people have. If you suspect you may be experiencing symptoms of depression, your first step should be to see your family doctor (GP).

There are several ways he can help you:

• Ruling out other medical conditions: Sometimes physical conditions, such as a thyroid hormone deficiency, can cause symptoms similar to depression. Therefore, your doctor will first rule out other causes, such as blood tests.
• Prescribing medication: Depending on your condition, your family doctor can prescribe basic medications for depression.
• Counseling: He will advise you on lifestyle changes, exercise, and dietary patterns.
• Referral to a specialist: If your condition is more complex, or if the prescribed medication is not producing the desired results, your doctor may refer you to a psychiatrist.He or she may also refer you to a qualified counselor or psychologist if in-depth talk therapy is needed.

Therefore, your family doctor is your greatest source of strength on this journey. Don't hide anything from him or her and talk openly about how you feel.

How do you find a good counselor or psychiatrist?

Finding the right person can seem like a bit of a challenge, but there are a few ways.

• Ask your doctor: The best and most reliable way is to ask your family doctor for a recommendation.
• Government Hospitals: Most district and base hospitals in Sri Lanka have psychiatric clinics. You can find out more about these from your nearest hospital.
• National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH): The National Institute of Mental Health in Angoda is the main dedicated hospital.
• Asking trusted friends: You can also ask a trusted friend or relative who has received a similar service before.

What should I consider when choosing someone?

Choosing a doctor or counselor is like finding a good friend. You want to feel comfortable talking to them, trusting them, and connecting with them . If you don't feel like you "click" with them on your first meeting, don't hesitate to find someone else. Because if you don't feel comfortable, the treatment is less likely to be successful.

Also, some professionals use different types of therapy. For example, they try to change your thinking patterns and improve your behavior through methods like ``Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT)''. Others talk about your past experiences and try to find the root causes of your problems. When you first talk, don't be afraid to ask, "What kind of therapy do you use?"

After starting treatment...

Once you find the right doctor and counselor, you need to give your treatment some time to work. Recovery doesn't happen overnight. It can take months. It can be difficult to talk about your personal issues at first. But remember, with the right treatment , most people make a full recovery. So stay strong and continue with your treatment.

What to do in an emergency?

If you or someone you know is having these thoughts, don't delay.

• Go to the nearest hospital's Emergency Department (ETU) immediately.
• Call 1926, the national mental health helpline in Sri Lanka. They are trained to listen and help you.
• In case of an emergency, call 119 (police emergency number) .

Don't be alone at a time like this. Ask for help immediately.

How do you prepare for a first date?

Preparing a little for your first visit to a doctor or counselor can help you feel more comfortable. It can help you express your feelings clearly.