Do you get angry easily too? Let's talk about Anger Management!

Do you sometimes get angry all of a sudden? At that time, you might feel so angry that you want to scream or hit someone. Imagine, if your younger brother or sister takes your toy without asking, or if you give them a lot of homework at school, or if a friend asks for your favorite book or video game and breaks it... Oh, so anyone would get angry then, right? It's very normal.

What is anger? Do we understand it exactly?

We all have different kinds of emotions. Sometimes we are very happy, other times we are sad, and sometimes we feel a little jealous. Anger is also another normal human emotion. There is nothing wrong with being angry sometimes. In fact, sometimes it is good for us to be angry, it can even be important. Think about it, when someone does you injustice, this feeling of anger can be helpful to speak up for yourself, to stand up for your rights.

But the most important thing is that this strong feeling of anger needs to be released in a very good way. Otherwise, you know what happens? It's like putting water on the stove and keeping the lid tightly closed. If there is no way for the steam to escape, eventually the water will boil over and the lid will fall off, right? That's how it is. If that happens to you too, that is, if you can't control your anger and explode, it is not good for you or those around you. Therefore, it is very important to manage anger properly.

Why do we get so angry? What are the reasons?

It's not just small children, but all of us can get angry for different reasons. This is a very personal thing, which means that the reasons for getting angry can vary from person to person.

• When things don't go as you expect: You can easily get angry when something doesn't go as you expected. For example, you might get angry if you lose a game you thought you would win, or if something you built breaks.
• Feeling angry with yourself: Sometimes when you don't understand a school assignment or lesson, you can feel angry and frustrated with yourself. You feel angry when you think, "Why don't I understand this?"
• Frustration: When you try to achieve a goal and keep failing, you can get frustrated. That frustration can easily lead to anger. Imagine, if you're trying to draw a beautiful picture, but it doesn't turn out the way you want, you get angry, right?
• Because of others: You get angry when someone makes fun of you, calls you names, or behaves in a way that hurts your feelings. You also get angry when a friend makes a promise to you and breaks it, or when you feel that a rule your parents make is unfair to you.
• Being blamed for something wrong: One of the things that annoys us the most is when you are blamed or punished for something you didn't do.It can be very angry because it feels very unfair.
• Getting angry for no reason: Don't be surprised, sometimes you can get angry for no apparent reason. At that time, you can't even figure out "Why am I so angry?"

How do I know if I'm angry? What are the signs?

When we are angry, we feel it in different ways. Most of the time, your body tells you that you are angry. If you pay a little attention to these signs, you can understand it yourself.

• Breathing becomes faster: Your breathing becomes a little faster, and you may feel like you're about to faint.
• Redness of the face: Some people's faces turn red when they are angry.
• Muscle tightness: You may feel like your muscles are tightening, especially in areas like your shoulders and neck.
• Hand cramps: You may unknowingly be clenching your hands.
• What's on your mind: Do you feel like hitting someone, breaking something, throwing something? Or do you feel like screaming or fighting?
• Voice changes: When you are angry, your voice may become harsh and high-pitched. You may even unknowingly shout at those you love and care about.

There are some people who keep their anger bottled up inside and don't show it. If you're one of those people, you might experience things like this:

• You may get a headache.
• You may develop stomach upset or heartburn.
• You can feel disappointed and sad with yourself and just cry.

Remember, it's never good to keep anger bottled up inside. That's why it's important to find a healthy way to release that anger without causing harm or distress to yourself or others.

How do we recognize when someone else is angry?

When someone you know, whether it's a friend, family member, or someone else, is angry, you can tell by their behavior.

• He might look away, frown, and leave where you are.
• You can stay silent without talking to yourself, without answering questions, even if they are asked.
• Some people suddenly become silent, standing aside at their own loss.
• There are some other people, they are shouting, waving their arms, trying to hit, hurt, and throw things at those nearby.

At a time like this, especially if someone is acting very aggressively, the best thing you can do is get away from them as quickly as possible. Your safety comes first.

When you are away from the angry person, stop and think for a moment. Ask yourself, "Why is that person so angry?" "Is there anything you can do to make the situation better?" "What can the other person do ? ""Do you feel it?" Think about it for a moment. After the other person's anger has subsided a bit, try to talk to them about the issue. But if they don't want to talk, don't force them. Listen carefully to what they have to say, and try to understand.

What do I do when I get angry? How do I control it?

If you're angry , the most important thing is to not lose control. Taking out your anger on others, yelling at them, or hitting them will never solve problems. It will only make the problems worse. Instead, try these things:

1. Admit that you are angry: Recognize for yourself that "I am angry right now."

2. Try to find the cause: Think for a moment about "Why did I get so angry?" What happened? Who said what?

3. Think about what you can do to prevent it from happening again: Find a solution to the problem. For example, if your sister gets a toy and you don't get it, it's not okay to get angry and break her toy. Maybe you can talk to your mom or dad about it, or ask your sister to play with it for a while. Or if you're having trouble solving a math problem at school, instead of tearing up your book, ask your teacher, your mom or dad, or someone you know for help.

The most important thing is to talk about your anger and your feelings with an adult you trust – your mother, father, teacher, best friend, or a close relative. This can be very helpful. When you talk about your anger and what's on your mind, you will feel like those bad feelings are slowly fading away.

Try these Anger Busters!

Here are some other simple things you can do to help reduce your anger when you're starting to feel angry, or when you're already angry. We call these "Anger Busters."

• Talk to a good friend you trust about what you're feeling.
• Keep your mind focused and count slowly to ten. You can even count to twenty if you want.
• Hug someone you love, or let someone hug you. This can be a great relief.
• Do jumping jacks or any other simple exercise you like. Go for a run or a walk.
• Express your anger in a picture. Draw what you feel in colors on a piece of paper.
• Play a fun video game (but not one that provokes anger or involves fighting!).
• Run around the house or yard as fast as you can about five times.
• Put on your favorite song and sing along to it.
• Pull out some unwanted plants in the garden, or do some gardening.
• Think about good, happy things. Maybe a trip you went on, a sport you like, or a food you like.
• Ride a bike, skateboard if you can, play basketball or cricket with your friends – simply put, do something active!

So, the last thing to remember is...

Look, no one in this world can ever be angry. It's a part of our lives. But, instead, there's something very important that we all need to remember: How you behave when you're angry can make or break a situation.

It's like driving a car. Anger is like the power in the ``engine'' of the car. That power is what makes the car go. But the ``steering wheel'', that is, the device that controls the car, needs to be firmly in your hands. What happens if you lose that control? There could be an accident, right? That's it, don't let anger control you. You are the one who has to control anger! As you practice these methods, you will realize that you can control anger.

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