Yu de gɛt prɔblɛm wit yu mami ɛn dadi biznɛs? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt pɔsin we de mɛn mami ɛn dadi biznɛs!

Seks na tin we rili impɔtant na wi layf. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, difrɛn tin dɛn ɛn prɔblɛm dɛn kin kam pan dis. We dat kin apin, sɔm pipul dɛn kin sɔfa we dɛn nɔ kin tɛl ɛnibɔdi bikɔs dɛn shem ɛn dɛn kin fred. Bɔt yu no se spɛshal pipul dɛn de we kin ɛp fɔ du dɛn kayn tin ya? Na dem wi go tok abaut tide, di `Sex Therapists`.

Udat na dis Sɛks Tɛrapist?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, `Sɛks Tɛrapist` na laysens wɛlbɔdi prɔfɛshɔnal we ɔndastand di mental ɛn imɔshɔnal barɛri dɛm we de afɛkt yu sɛks layf ɛn ɛp yu fɔ fɛn sɔlv fɔ dɛm. Tink bɔt am, sɔntɛnde wi nɔ kin ebul fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɔ wi nɔ kin lɛk fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs igen bikɔs wi de fred, wi de wɔri, ɔ wi kin gɛt sɔntin we nɔ fayn fɔ wi bifo. Na dat dɛn pipul ya de ɛp wit.

``Sɛks Tɛrapist`` kin bi soshal woka, jenɛral prɛktishɔn, ɔ ivin sayɛnsman. Bɔt di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat, dɛn fɔ gɛt spɛshal trenin bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɛn prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. Dɛn nɔ go jɔs gi dis advays to ɛnibɔdi. Dɛn kin wok wit wan wan pipul ɔ mared pipul fɔ ɛp dɛn fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin to dɛn we dɛn de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, fɔ ɛgzampul, dɛn kin fred fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs (performance anxiety ) ɔ prɔblɛm dɛn we dɛn kin gɛt we dɛn de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit dɛnsɛf (intimacy issues).

Wetin pɔsin we de mɛn mami ɛn dadi biznɛs kin du?

Naw lɛ wi si wetin ɛksaktɔli wan `sɛks tɛrapist` de du.

Dɛn kin ɛp fɔ trit difrɛn kayn sik wae de mɛk pɔrsin nɔr de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, mɔ di wan dɛm wae kin kam wit saykilɔjik tin ɔr wae pɔrsin in maynd kin gɛt. Dɛn kin ɛp bak wit prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɛn padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Dɛn kin du ɔl dis na say we pipul dɛn kin sɔpɔt, we nɔ de jɔj, we gɛt rɛspɛkt, ɛn we sef.

Bɔt na sɔntin we rili impɔtant fɔ mɛmba. Di wan dɛn we de mɛn pipul dɛn we gɛt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs nɔ kin trit di bɔdi we kin afɛkt di we aw pɔsin de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. Fɔ ɛgzampul, dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ trit di tɛstostɛron we nɔ bɔku . So, if yu gɛt ɛni prɔblɛm wit di we aw yu de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, yu fɔ go to yu famili dɔktɔ fɔs, dɔktɔ we de mɛn uman dɛn (if yu na uman) ɔ dɔktɔ we de mɛn yu urolɔg (if yu na man) fɔ no if i gɛt sɔntin fɔ du wit yu bɔdi.If no fyzikal kɔz nɔ de, ɔ if saykolojik ifɛkt de wit di fyzikal kɔz, den di ɛp fɔ `Sɛks Tɛrapist` nid fɔ de.

Di wan dɛn we de mɛn pipul dɛn we gɛt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs kin yuz bɔku tritmɛnt dɛn we sayɛns dɔn pruv fɔ mek pipul dɛn liv bɛtɛ layf fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. Bɔku tɛm dɛn kin yuz sɔntin we dɛn kɔl saykotɛrapi. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, dis na tɔk tɛrapi. I min se yu fɔ tɔk bɔt aw yu de fil, aw yu de tink, ɛn aw yu de biev, ɔndastand dɛn, ɛn tray fɔ mek di chenj dɛn we yu nid. Bɔku kayn saykotɛrapi de we dɛn kin yuz fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs :

• Kɔgnitiv Biɛvhɔral Tɛrapi (CBT) .
• Tɛrapi we gɛt fɔ du wit di we aw pɔsin de fil
• Intavɛnshɔn dɛn we de bays pan mayndfulnɛs
• Di we aw man ɛn in wɛf de tɔk to dɛnsɛf

Wan ɔda tin na, `Sex Therapists` de rili protɛkt yu prayvet pat ɛn kɔnfidɛns. Infakt, na pat pan dɛn prɔfɛshɔnal kɔd fɔ ɛtiks. Di tritmɛnt pipul dɛn we de pwɛl di sikman dɛn kɔnfidɛns kin lɔs dɛn prɔfɛshɔnal laysens.

Wetin yu fɔ go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn mami ɛn dadi biznɛs fɔ?

Fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs (nɔto jɔs fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, bɔt fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit ɔda pɔsin ɛn fɔ ple wit yu bɔdi) na kɔmpleks ɛkspiriɛns we gɛt fɔ du wit ɔl di tri tin dɛn: di we aw pɔsin de fil, di we aw i de tink, ɛn di bɔdi. If yu want fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs fayn fayn wan na impɔtant tin fɔ yu kwaliti layf. I gɛt fɔ du wit fɔ gɛt wɛlbɔdi na yu bɔdi ɛn maynd, ɛn bak fɔ satisfay wit yu rilayshɔnship.

Di wan dɛn we de wok fɔ wɛlbɔdi biznɛs ɛn di wan dɛn we de tich bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs kin sheb mami ɛn dadi biznɛs to 4 men stej dɛn. Dɛn kɔl dis di sɛkshɔnal rispɔns saykl:

• Desire/Libido: Dis min se di want fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, di want fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Arousal/Excitement: Di bɔdi in rɛdi fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Ɔrgazm: Di mak we pɔsin kin satisfay wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Rizolushɔn: Na di prɔses we di arousal de stɔp ɛn di bɔdi de kam bak to nɔmal.

Prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs kin apin ɛni stej na dis saykl. If yu no aw yu de ansa pan yu maynd ɛn bɔdi pan ɛvri stej, i nɔ go jɔs ebul fɔ mek yu gɛt bɛtɛ ɛkspiriɛns pan mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, bɔt i go ɛp yu bak fɔ no di tin dɛn we de mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs fayn.

Wan dɔktɔ we de mɛn pipul dɛn we de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit ɔda pɔsin kin ɛp wit di tin dɛn we kin apin to pɔsin in maynd ɛn aw i kin fil bɔt difrɛn difrɛn tin dɛn we kin mek i nɔ ebul fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. Na sɔm ɛgzampul dɛn ya:

• Nɔ want fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Nɔ gɛt ɛnitin fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• I nɔ izi fɔ rich ɔrgasm (anorgasmia).
• Pen we yu de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs (dyspareunia). fכ egzampl, pen we kin kam we di vagina tayt (vaginismus).
• Difεlεns fכ gεt כ mεnten erection (erectile dysfunction).
• di ejakuleshɔn bifo tɛm, di ejakuleshɔn we de delay, ɔ ɔda prɔblɛm dɛn we de wit di ejakuleshɔn.

Apat frɔm dis, wan `Sɛks Tɛrapist` kin ɛp yu wit bɔku ɔda chalenj dɛm:

• Fɔ gi kɔrɛkt ɛdyukeshɔn bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɛn fɔ pul di mistek dɛn we pipul dɛn kin tink bɔt.
• Fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɔ fɔ gɛt trauma fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Filin fɔ wɔri, fred, ɔ shem we gɛt fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Prɔblɛm dɛn we kin kam bikɔs ɔf di kɔlchɔ, rilijɔn ɛn soshal we aw pipul dɛn de si mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Impruv di kɔmyunikeshɔn bitwin yu ɛn yu patna bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɛn intimacy .
• Mismatched sexual desire bitwin patna dɛn.
• Rilayshɔnship prɔblɛm bikɔs ɔf mami ɛn dadi biznɛs prɔblɛm.
• Pɔr bɔdi imej ɛn aw i kin afɛkt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Liv fayn fayn wan wit Sεkswal Transmitted Infεkshכn (STIs).
• Hypersexual disorder ɔr gɛt adikshɔn fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.
• Di adikshɔn fɔ wach rud rud pikchɔ ɔ fim dɛn.

Wetin kin apin we dɛn de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs?

Okay, naw lɛ wi si wetin kin apin we yu de du `Sɛks Tɛrapi` sɛshɔn, dat na we yu go si di pɔsin we de mɛn yu.

Insay dɛn sɛshɔn ya, yu ɛn yu sɛks thɛrapist kin wok togɛda fɔ no ɛn chenj di tin dɛn we yu de tink ɛn biev we de ambɔg yu sɛks layf. Yu kin mit wit yu thɛrapist yu wan, ɔr yu kin go wit yu bɔyfrɛn/gaylfrɛn, man/wɛf, ɔr mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.

Yu thɛrapist kin aks yu kwɛstyɔn bɔt tin dɛm lɛk:

• Bɔt yu wɛlbɔdi biznɛs ɛn aw yu bin de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs .
• Bɔt di sɛks ɛdyukeshɔn we yu dɔn gɛt.
• Di tin dɛn we yu biliv ɛn di we aw yu de tink bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs .
• Us patikyula prɔblɛm dɛn we yu gɛt pan mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ?

Na tru se sɔntɛnde fɔ tɔk bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs kin mek i nɔ izi ɛn i kin mek pɔsin shem. Di wan dɛn we de mɛn pipul dɛn we gɛt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs no dis gud gud wan. Na dat mek dɛn kin tray dɛn bɛst fɔ mek ples usay yu go ebul fɔ tɔk fri wan ɛn nɔ fred.

Mɛmba se, bikɔs saykotɛrapi na fɔ tɔk, yu nid fɔ tek pat tranga wan pan di prɔses. Di trɔst ɛn rilayshɔn bitwin yu ɛn yu thɛrapist impɔtant fɔ mek dis tritmɛnt go bifo.

Yu `Sex Therapist` kin gi yu `homwok`.Yu kin gi bak. Dat min se, aktiviti ɛn ɛksesaiz dɛn we yu kin du na os, di we we go protɛkt yu prayvet pat. Dis kin bi tin dɛm lɛk ``ɛkspirimɛnt``, fɔ ɛgzampul, ``rɔl ple``. Ɔ dɛn kin bi ɛgzampul dɛn we yu kin du yu wan ɔ wit yu patna fɔ mek yu gɛt trɔst ɛn fɔ mek yu gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit yu.

Wan tin we yu fɔ rili no ya na dat, we yu de du `Sɛks Tɛrapi` sɛshɔn, nɔrbɔdi nɔr go de wit yu bɔdi ɔr mami ɛn dadi biznɛs bitwin yu ɛn di pɔsin we de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. Dat nɔ pɔsibul. If yu fil se yu nɔr fil fayn wit ɛni pat pan de tritmɛnt, mek shɔ se yu tɛl yu tritmɛnt pɔrsin. Ɔ, yu gɛt rayt fɔ stɔp fɔ si am ɛn fayl kɔmplen bɔt am.

Wetin na di difrɛns bitwin Seks Tɛrapist ɛn Seks Kɔnsul?

Yu go dɔn yɛri bɔt di tu wɔd dɛn `Sɛks Tɛrapist` ɛn `Sɛks Kɔnsul`. Dɛn tu pipul ya na pipul dɛn we dɔn gɛt bɔku trenin fɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. Insay kɔntri dɛn lɛk Amɛrika, dɛn tu pipul ya fɔ gɛt sɛtifiket frɔm wan ɔganayzeshɔn we dɛn kɔl `American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). Insay Sri Lanka, dɛn fɔ dɔn no se dɛn kwalifay fɔ dis bak.

Di difrɛns de pan di we aw dɛn tu pipul ya kin tɔk bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs.

• Seks Tɛrapist: Dɛn kin yuz saykotɛrapi, ɔ tɔk tɛrapi fɔ ɛp wit prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs. Dɛn prɔblɛm ya kin simpul ɔ kɔmpleks. Dɛn kin rich na di rut fɔ di prɔblɛm ɛn luk fɔ di tin dɛn we kin mek dɛn gɛt maynd ɛn aw dɛn kin fil.
• Seks Kɔnsul: Dɛn kin tek sɔm akshɔn-based aprɔch. Dɛn kin tich pipul dɛn bɔt prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin fɔ shɔt tɛm, dɛn kin tich difrɛn we dɛn fɔ du tin, ɛn bɔku tɛm dɛn kin pe atɛnshɔn fɔ gi pipul dɛn no ɛn gi advays dɛn we go ɛp dɛn.

Aw fɔ bi pɔsin we de mɛn mami ɛn dadi biznɛs?

Fɔ bi `Sɛks Tɛrapist` nɔ izi. I nid fɔ gɛt bɔku ɛdyukeshɔn ɛn trenin. Di jenɛral rod na sɔntin lɛk dis (dis kin difrɛn smɔl frɔm wan kɔntri to ɔda kɔntri):

• Bachelor’s degree: Na besik digri frɔm yunivasiti.
• Masta digri ɔ Dɔkta digri: Masta digri ɔ dɔktɔrɛt pan sɔntin we gɛt fɔ du wit am, lɛk sayɛns ɔ soshal wok. Apat frɔm dat, yu go nid fɔ gɛt klinik ɛkspiriɛns.
• Speshal trenin: Na fɔ tren pɔsin fɔ gɛt saykotɛrapi. Dɔn bak, yu nid fɔ dɔn bɔku awa fɔ stɔdi kɔs dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit sɛkshɔnal ɛdyukeshɔn (e.g., lɛk 90 awa).
• Laysens: Yu fɔ gɛt di rayt laysens fɔ praktis sɛks tɛrapi na di kɔntri ɔ stet we gɛt fɔ du wit am.

Yu kin si frɔm dis se dis nɔto jɔs advays, na dip, mɔ prɔfɛshɔnal lɛvɛl. I kin tek at le nayn ia fɔ bi sɛtifiket `Sɛks Tɛrapist`. Dis inklud ɔltin frɔm wan besik digri, wan postgrɛdyut digri, ɛn klinik trenin. So dis de sho aw dɛn pipul ya de gi dɛn layf to dis wok.

Wetin na di mɛsej we wi want fɔ kɛr go na os frɔm dis stori?

Sɔntɛnde, fɔ tɔk bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɛn prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit mami ɛn dadi biznɛs kin mek i nɔ izi, i kin mek i shem, ɔ i kin mek i fred. Dat na nɔmal tin. Bɔt mɛmba se nɔto yu wangren de.

`Sɛks Tɛrapist` na pɔrsin wae kin ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand dɛn kayn tin ya we kin ambɔg yu bɔt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, fɔ win dɛn, ɛn liv ful, wɛl bɔdi layf.

Dɛn sabi du dis wok. Dɛn gɛt gud no bɔt di laytst risach ɛn di bɛst tritmɛnt strateji wae kin ɛp yu.

So, if yu gɛt ɛni prɔblɛm we gɛt fɔ du wit yu sɛks layf, nɔ kip am to yusɛf ɛn sɔfa, bɔt nɔ fred fɔ aks fɔ ɛp frɔm `Sɛks Tɛrapist` we kwalifay fayn fayn wan. Na big ɛp we yu kin du fɔ yusɛf.

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