Yu pikin de gro ɔp? Wi go tɔk bɔt dis divɛlɔpmɛnt we yɔŋ pipul dɛn de du?

I kin rili fayn fɔ wach we yu pikin de gro frɔm we i yɔŋ to big pɔsin, nɔto so? Bɔt dis tɛm bitwin pikin ɛn big, we dɛn kɔl ‘adolescence,’ na rili spɛshal tɛm. Insay dis tɛm, nɔto dɛn bɔdi nɔmɔ kin chenj, bɔt dɛn maynd ɛn bren kin chenj bɔku tin dɛn. Sɔntɛnde dis kin tranga smɔl fɔ mama ɛn papa ɛn pikin dɛn, bɔt di sem tɛm i kin rili impɔtant.

Wetin na yɔŋ pɔsin?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, yɔŋ pɔsin na di tɛm we pɔsin kin chenj frɔm we i smɔl to we i big. Insay dis tɛm, yu pikin in bɔdi, in bren, in maynd, in filin, ɛn in padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn kin chenj bɔku tin dɛn. Smɔl smɔl dɛn kin bigin fɔ fɛn dɛn yon aydentiti ɛn bi indipɛndɛnt. Sɔm pan dɛn chenj ya kin apin kwik kwik wan, ɛn sɔm tɛm dɛn kin apin difrɛn we. So dis kin bi tɛm we pɔsin kin gladi, bɔt sɔntɛnde i kin tranga.

Fyzikal Chenj - Wetin na dɛn tin ya?

Di men chenj we kin apin na pikin dɛn bɔdi insay dis tɛm na we dɛn de bɔn pikin . Dis kin bi bikɔs ɔf sɔm kayn spɛshal ɔmon dɛn we di bren kin pul. fכ dεn כmon dεm ya, di pikin in bכdi de chenj kwik kwik wan εn di sεks כgan dεm de bigin fכ machכ.

Yu pikin go lɔng ɛn big wantɛm wantɛm. Wi kin kɔl dis ‘grɔw spurt’ . Apat frɔm dis, i kin mek yu swet mɔ ɛn mɔ, yu bɔdi kin smɛl fayn, yu kin gɛt akni, ɛn yu bɔdi ia kin gro mɔ ɛn mɔ. gyal pikin dεm kin gεt dis growth spurt fכs pas bכy pikin dεm, bitwin 10 εn 14 ia.Bכy pikin dεm kin gεt am bitwin 14 εn 17 ia.

Gɛl pikin dɛn kin bigin fɔ gɛt bɔdi. dis kin stat as ali as i ol 10 ia, εn i fכ kכmplit we i ol 14. lεk tu ia afta di brεst εn di pubic hair bigin fכ sho, di fכs tεm we di mεnstral kin apin.

Bɔy pikin dɛn penis ɛn tɛstikul dɛn de divɛlɔp. Dɛn kin gɛt mami ɛn dadi biznɛs, dɛn kin gɛt erection ɛn ejaculations . (Erectile dysfunction na nכmal tin frכm we dεn bכn am (ivin dεn kin si am we dεn de skan bifo dεn bכn) εn te i big.)

Pan ɔl we dɛn chenj ya kin apin to ɔlman, di tɛm ɛn ɔda we aw dɛn kin apin kin difrɛn frɔm wan pikin to ɔda wan. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin rich di tɛm we dɛn fɔ bɔn kwik kwik wan, ɛn ɔda wan dɛn kin rich di tɛm we dɛn kin yɔŋ let. Insay dɛn tu kes ya, bikɔs dɛn difrɛn frɔm dɛn kɔmpin dɛn, dat kin mek dɛn gɛt mɔ prɔblɛm.

Impɔtant: If yu fil se yu pikin de go tru puberty tu ali ɔ tu let, go to pikin dɛn ɔ yɔŋ pipul dɛn we sabi bɔt mɛrɛsin. If yu nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn tin ya, dat kin afɛkt di bon dɛn we de gro ɛn di wan ol divɛlɔpmɛnt.

Yu tink se di we aw di bren de wok bak kin chenj? (Kɔgnitiv Chenj) .

na dis yכŋ ej, di bren divεlכpmεnt de na bכku hכy lεvεl pas we i sכm pikin. Yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin jɔs tink di rayt we bɔt kɔnkrit tin dɛn we dɛn de si ɛn ɛkspiriɛns. Dat min se, bɔt tin dɛn we de "ya ɛn naw." Bɔt yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin bigin fɔ win dɛn tin ya we dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ du ɛn tink bɔt "tin dɛn we pɔsin kin ebul fɔ du," tin dɛn we pas wetin dɛn rili de si. Dɛn kin wok wit kɔmpleks, abstrakt aydia, tɛst hypothesis, ɛn si infinite possibilities. Bɔt bɔku tɛm dɛn kin stil sho se dɛn de biev ɛn abit dɛn we de mek dɛn want dɛnsɛf nɔmɔ.

insay dis tεm, bכku nyuron dεm na di bren de divεlכp kwik kwik wan. di we aw dεn nyuron dεm ya de kכnekt to dεn wan dεm de bכku bak. Dis na di rizin we mek dɛn kin ebul fɔ tink mɔ kɔmpleks ɛn dip wan.

Wetin na di las pat na di bren fɔ mek?

di fכntכl kכtεks, di pat pan yu pikin in bren we de fכnt pan di bren, na wan pan di las pat dεm fכ fulכp divεlכp. I dɔn ful-ɔp fɔ machɔ bay di tɛm we yu pikin dɔn pas twɛnti ia. Dis eria na di bren de kɔntrol di ɛgzibit wok dɛn . Dat min se yu fɔ plan, put di tin dɛn we yu want fɔ du fɔs, ɛn kɔntrol di tin dɛn we yu want fɔ du. Bikɔs dis eria kin kam let, sɔntɛnde yu yɔŋ pikin kin disayd fɔ du bad tin, i kin du tin dɛn we go mek i de pan denja, ɛn i kin chenj in maynd ɔltɛm.

we yכŋ pikin de akt impulsiv wan εn nכ de yuz in fכnt kכtεks fayn fayn wan, dεn kכl da tכn prכsεs de "Hכt Kכgnishכn." "Kכl Kכgnishכn" de tכk bכt fכ yuz di lכjik pat pan di bren, nכto fכ "kol." Mama ɛn papa kin ɛp fɔ muv yɔŋ pikin frɔm dis "hot" stet to "kol" stet bay we dɛn de trit am wit sɔri-at, aks kwɛstyɔn pas fɔ gi dɛn lɛkshɔn, ɛn sɛt ay ɛkspɛkteshɔn fɔ dɛn.

Wetin na di kayn we aw pɔsin de tink we i de yɔŋ?

Di mental symptom dɛm wae kin kam pan dis tɛm na:

• Abstrakt tinkin abiliti
• Skil fɔ tink gud wan
• Impuls kɔntrol
• Fɔ mek tin dɛn
• Di tin dɛn we pɔsin kin ebul fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn
• Skil fɔ disayd fɔ du sɔntin

Aw di we aw wi de fil ɛn di we aw wi de fil kin chenj? (Di chenj dɛn we kin apin to pɔsin in filin)

We yu pikin yɔŋ, i kin bigin fɔ wach, mɛzhɔ, ɛn kɔntrol aw i de fil. Dis min se dɛn kin no mɔ bɔt aw dɛn de fil ɛn aw ɔda pipul dɛn de fil. Dis we aw yu pikin de fil, de gi yu di chans fɔ divɛlɔp in talɛnt ɛn fɔ no bɔt in yon spɛshal kwaliti dɛn. As dɛn de bigin fɔ du tin fɔ dɛnsɛf, sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin gladi fɔ gɛt dɛn nyu prɔblɛm dɛn ya. Ɔda pipul dɛn kin nid big pipul dɛn fɔ sɔpɔt dɛn fɔ mek dɛn gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan dɛnsɛf.

"Wetin a tink bɔt misɛf" - Self-Esteem

Di chenj dɛn we yu pikin kin gɛt na in bɔdi, in ɔmon, ɛn in maynd we i yɔŋ kin afɛkt di we aw i de fil bɔt insɛf. Pikin dɛn we kin rich dɛn yɔŋ pipul dɛn bifo ɔ leta pas dɛn kɔmpin dɛn, kin shem fɔ dɛn bɔdi. "Fitting in" na wan rili imכtant pat pan dεn sεlf εstimat insay dis tεm. Fɔ tink bɔt yusɛf na tin we nɔ izi fɔ du. Sɔm yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin gɛt ay rɛspɛkt fɔ dɛnsɛf nia dɛn fambul bɔt dɛn nɔ kin gɛt bɛtɛ rɛspɛkt fɔ dɛnsɛf bitwin dɛn padi dɛn.

As mama ɛn papa, i nɔ fayn fɔ bi "Ɛlikopta Mama ɛn Papa" we de jomp oba ɔltin ɛn ɛp, ɔ "Snowplow Parent" we de pul ɔltin we de ambɔg pikin bifo. Bifo dat, "Lighthouse Parent" kin ɛp yɔŋ pikin dɛn mɔ. Dis kayn mama ɔ papa kin alaw pikin dɛn fɔ fɛn ɔl wetin dɛn ebul fɔ disayd fɔ du ɛn dɛn kin kip bɔda dɛn we i kam pan sef ɔ gud abit. Di wok we big pipul dɛn we de kia fɔ pipul dɛn we de wok as laythaus kin du kin chenj layf fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn.

Pan ɔl we i nɔ kin izi fɔ mek yu pikin lan fɔ gri wit udat i bi ɛn fɔ fil se i ebul fɔ du sɔntin. Dɛn kin divɛlɔp dɛn sɛlf-ɛstimɛnt bay we dɛn:

• Mek mistek dɛn.
• Fɔ lan frɔm dɛn mistek dɛn de.
• Fɔ tek rispɔnsibiliti fɔ wetin dɛn de du.

Sɔshial Chenj dɛn

Insay dis tɛm, yɔŋ pikin dɛnsɛf de divɛlɔp pan soshal layf. Wan pan di impɔtant wok dɛn we pɔsin kin du fɔ divɛlɔp di soshal layf we i yɔŋ na fɔ fɛn aydentiti . Bɔku tɛm, dis kin bi wan waka we pɔsin kin du fɔ ɔl in layf, bɔt i kin bigin we i yɔŋ. Wan ɔda tin we kin kam wit di luk fɔ aydentiti na di strɛch fɔ indipɛndɛns . Yu pikin:

• Yu kin bigin fɔ intres pan yu mami ɛn dadi biznɛs ɛn di we aw yu lɛk dɛnsɛf.
• Yu kin aks fɔ ɛp smɔl tɛm we prɔblɛm kam.
• Yu kin sho se yu gɛt mɔ indipɛndɛns.
• Yu kin spɛn smɔl tɛm wit yusɛf ɛn yu kin spɛn mɔ tɛm wit yu padi dɛn.
• Sɔntɛnde yu kin fil wɔri , sɔri, ɔ pwɛl hat . Dis kin mek wi gɛt prɔblɛm wit di wok we dɛn de du na skul ɔ i kin ivin biev we dɛn nɔ de tek tɛm.

"Udat na mi?" - Fɔ Fɛn Yusɛf (Aydɛntiti Divɛlɔpmɛnt) .

Divεlכpmεnt fכ di aydentiti na fכ yu pikin fכ fכnshכn wan strכng sεns fכ insεf, fכ fכnshכn fכ aydentiti, εn kכnεkshכn wit כda pipul dεm. Fɔ no yusɛf fayn fayn wan impɔtant bikɔs i de shep di we aw yu pikin de si se i de pan pɔsin ɔlsay na in layf.

Wan pɔsitiv sɛlf aydentiti kin gɛt fɔ du bak wit ay sɛlf-ɛstimɛnt. Yu kin mek yu pikin gɛt mɔ trɛnk fɔ no insɛf bay we yu:

• Na bay we wi de ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ tray tranga wan.
• Na bay we dɛn gladi fɔ di gud tin dɛn we dɛn de disayd fɔ du.
• Na bay we wi de ɛnkɔrej pipul dɛn fɔ kɔntinyu fɔ bia.

Aw soshal midia de afɛkt pipul dɛn?

Soshal midia kin ambɔg yu pikin in wɛlbɔdi ɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt bad bad wan. Dɛn ripɔt se dɛn kin buli yɔŋ pikin dɛn na di Intanɛt ɛn dɛn kin si tin dɛn we nɔ fayn na di Intanɛt. Apat frɔm dat, fɔ spɛn tɛm wit ɔda pipul dɛn na di Intanɛt nɔto di sem tin wit fɔ spɛn tɛm wit ɔda pipul dɛn. Yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin mis impɔtant fes ɛksprɛshɔn ɛn bɔdi langwej we dɛn kin si nɔmɔ we dɛn mit pɔsin fes to fes. Yɔŋ pikin dɛnsɛf kin bigin fil bad bɔt dɛnsɛf bay we dɛn kɔmpia dɛnsɛf to ɔda pipul dɛn we dɛn de si na di Intanɛt. Ɔl dɛn tin ya kin mek wi nɔr nɔr gɛt bɛtɛ ɔnɔ fɔ insɛf, pwɛl hat, ɛn wɔri.

Fɔ pik wetin rayt frɔm wetin rɔŋ (Moral Changes) .

We yu pikin yɔŋ, i kin bigin fɔ tink bɔt di wɔl dip ɛn abstrakt we dɛn. Dis kin shep di we aw dɛn de si di wɔl ɛn aw dɛn want fɔ intarakt wit am. I kin bigin bak fɔ gɛt gud abit ɛn valyu dɛn we yu pikin go kɛr wit am ɔl in layf.

Yu pikin kin bigin fɔ ɔndastand se nɔto ɔl di tin dɛn we pɔsin kin disayd fɔ du na blak ɔ wayt. As dɛn bigin fɔ ɔndastand wetin mek ɔda pipul dɛn kin disayd fɔ du difrɛn tin pas dɛn, dɛn kin gɛt sɔri-at. Dɛn kin bigin fɔ ɔndastand mɔ bak wetin mek di wɔl gɛt lɔ dɛn. Dɛn kin mek dɛn yon opinion bɔt wetin rayt ɛn wetin rɔŋ. Dɛn kin spɛn tɛm bak fɔ tink bɔt di tin dɛn we dɛn biliv pan rilijɔn ɛn di tin dɛn we dɛn gɛt fɔ du wit Gɔd biznɛs. Ɛnkɔrej dɛn kayn tɔk dɛn ya wit yu pikin ɛnitɛm we yu gɛt di chans. As yu pikin de lan fɔ tink bɔt prɔblɛm ɛn tin dɛn we kin apin to am, yu go praktis di art fɔ lisin ɛn lan.

Tin dɛm lɛk ADHD kin kɔmɔt na do insay dis tɛm?

Dɔktɔ dɛn kin no se pɔsin gɛt atɛnshɔn-dɛfisit/haypa aktiviti disɔda (ADHD) we dɛn smɔl. Bɔt sɔm pipul dɛn kin gɛt dis sik we dɛn yɔŋ ɔ we dɛn dɔn big. Yɔŋ pikin dɛm wae nɔr dɔn no bɔt ADHD kin strɛs wit ADHD simptom dɛm mɔr as dɛn de ol. Ɔda yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit dɛn lanin we dɛn nɔ no ɔ di we aw dɛn kin prosɛs di infɔmeshɔn difrɛn we pas aw dɛn kin du am. If yu nɔr de du wɛl na skul kin bi rɛd flag fɔ ADHD wae nɔr dɔn no, wae gɛt disabled fɔ lan, ɔr ɔda tin dɛm wae gɛt fɔ du wit mɛntɛl hεlth, inklud pwɛl hat.

Aw wi go ɛp as mama ɛn papa? (Di Sɔpɔt we Mama ɛn Papa dɛn)

We yu de yɔŋ, i kin tranga fɔ yu ɛn yu pikin. Bɔt if una tray tranga wan fɔ ɔndastand unasɛf, una go mek una os nɔ bi say usay wɔ. Dɛn advays ya kin ɛp mama ɛn papa dɛn:

• We yu pikin want fɔ tɔk, pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn ɔl. Nɔ rid buk, chɛk imel, wach TV, ɔ du ɛni ɔda tin.
• Lisin wit kol at, tray fɔ yɛri ɛn ɔndastand wetin yu pikin de tink. Tɛl dɛn bak wetin yu yɛri.
• Tɔk to yu pikin fayn ɛn fayn, jɔs lɛk aw yu go tɔk to strenja. Di tɔyn we yu de tɔk na in de sho aw di tɔk go bi.
• Ivin if yu nɔ kin gladi fɔ di we aw yu pikin de biev ɔltɛm, ɔndastand aw i de fil. Nɔ jɔj pɔsin. Kip di domɔt opin fɔ tɔk bɔt ɛni tɔpik. Bi "open/accesssible" mama ɔ papa.
• Nɔ shem yu pikin. Nɔ laf kwɛstyɔn ɛn tɔk dɛn we tan lɛk pikin ɔ sili to yu.
• Ɛnkɔrej yu pikin fɔ "tɛst" nyu aydia dɛn we i de tɔk. Nɔ jɔj dɛn aidia ɛn opinion. Bifo dat, lisin ɛn tɔk wetin yu want klia wan ɛn ɔnɛs wan. Lɔv ɛn rɛspɛkt fɔ dɛnsɛf kin de togɛda wit difrɛn we aw pipul dɛn de tink.
• Ɛp yu pikin fɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan insɛf. Ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ tek pat pan tin dɛn we dɛn lɛk (nɔto we yu lɛk).
• Tray fɔ prez yu pikin ɔltɛm ɛn di rayt we. Bɔku tɛm wi kin jɔs fɔgɛt bɔt di gud tin dɛn ɛn pe atɛnshɔn pan di bad tin dɛn. Yu pikin nid fɔ no se yu gladi fɔ dɛn.
• If yu si dɛn de du gud tin, ɛnkɔrej dɛn fɔ du mɔ pan da kayn tin de.
• Ɛnkɔrej yu pikin fɔ tek pat pan di tin dɛn we di famili de disayd fɔ du ɛn fɔ sɔlv prɔblɛm dɛn na in famili togɛda wit yu.
• Ɔndastand se yu pikin nid fɔ chalenj yu opinion ɛn di we aw yu de du tin. Dis na aw dɛn kin gɛt separeshɔn frɔm yu, we impɔtant fɔ dɛn yon big pɔsin aydentiti.

Sɔm advays fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn (Advice for Adolescents) .

• Nɔ si yu mama ɛn papa as ɛnimi. Bɔku tɛm, dɛn lɛk yu ɛn want di bɛst fɔ yu, ilɛksɛf yu nɔ gri wit di we aw dɛn de sho am.
• Tray fɔ ɔndastand se yu mama ɛn papa na mɔtalman wit dɛn yon insekyuriti, nid, ɛn filin.
• Lisin to yu mama ɛn papa wit opin maynd. Tray fɔ si tin di we aw dɛn de si tin.
• Tɔk bɔt aw yu de fil to yu mama ɛn papa so dat dɛn go ɔndastand yu mɔ.
• Du di wok we yu gɛt na os ɛn na skul. Dɔn yu mama ɛn papa go want fɔ gi yu di indipɛndɛns we yu want ɛn nid.
• Ad advays dɛn fɔ mek yu ebul fɔ du mɔ pan di we aw yu de kɔndɛm famili, skul, ɛn gɔvmɛnt.
• Trit yu mama ɛn papa fayn ɛn tink gud wan lɛk aw yu go trit yu padi dɛn mama ɛn papa.

Di impɔtant tin dɛn we wi want fɔ kɛr go na os frɔm dis stori na:

We yu pikin de yɔŋ na tɛm we yu kin gladi, bɔt i kin mek yu strɛs as yu pikin de chenj to big pɔsin. Bɔrku big chenj kin apin insay dis tɛm, ɛn de joyn nɔr kin fayn ɔltɛm. Dɛn chenj ya kin apin kwik kwik wan, ɛn sɔm tɛm dɛn kin apin difrɛn we fɔ ɛni pikin. Frɔm di we aw i de gro na in bɔdi to we i de chenj in filin, rɛdi fɔ sɔpɔt yu pikin as i de bigin fɔ no udat i bi ɛn in ples na di wɔl. Mɛmba se yu lɛk, ɔndastandin, ɛn gayd yu impɔtant pas ɛni ɔda tɛm insay dis tɛm.

` Yɔŋ, yɔŋ pipul, yɔŋ pipul dɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt, yɔŋ pipul dɛn, ɔmon, maynd wɛlbɔdi, advays fɔ mɛn pikin, pikin divɛlɔpmɛnt