Yu tink se dɛn de buli yu pikin na skul? (Bullying) – Mek wi tok abaut dis!

Yu pikin nɔ want fɔ go skul? I de fred fɔ go insay di bɔs ɔ fɔ go na di ples usay dɛn de ple? Sɔntɛnde dis kin bi bikɔs dɛn de buli am . Dis nɔto smɔl tin. Dis buli kin mek pikin gɛt dip skata pan in maynd . Sɔntɛnde, i kin go bifo to fɛt-fɛt, pwɛl prɔpati, ɛn wund pikin bad bad wan. So, if dɛn de buli yu pikin, i rili impɔtant fɔ ɛp fɔ stɔp am.

Wetin rili na ‘bullying’?

Fɔs, lɛ wi ɔndastand wetin na buli . Sɔntɛnde, smɔl pikin dɛn kin provok dɛnsɛf, nɔto so? If na smɔl prank frɔm brɔda ɛn sista ɔ padi, ɛn i fayn fɔ dɛn ɔl tu, no big tin nɔ de. Dat na nɔmal tin.

Bɔt, if dis jok kɔntinyu fɔ mek ɔda pipul dɛn fil bad, ɛn mek trɔbul , na de di prɔblɛm kin bigin. Na dat wi de kɔl ‘bullying’.

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, buli na we pikin we gɛt di sem ej de du bad to ɔda pikin bay wilful ɛn bɔku tɛm wit in bɔdi, wit wɔd, ɔ in maynd. Di pikin we de buli ya biliv se i nɔ gɛt pawa imbalans pas di ɔda pikin. Dis kin min fɔ push, bit, kɔl, trɛtin, ɛn provok. Sɔntɛnde, dis kin min fɔ tek mɔni ɔ ɔda tin dɛn bay fos. Ɔda pikin dɛn kin buli ɔda pipul dɛn bay we dɛn de pul dɛn kɔmɔt nia dɛn ɛn mek lay lay tɔk dɛn de tɔk.

Imajin, aw yu pikin go fil if ɔda pikin ɔ grup de buli am lɛk dis ɛvride na skul?

Wan ɔda siriɔs we fɔ buli pipul dɛn tide na fɔ buli pipul dɛn na di Intanɛt . I min fɔ shem ɛn mek ɔda pipul dɛn fil bad tru soshal midia, tɛks, ɛn WhatsApp mɛsej. Dis na siriɔs tin jɔs lɛk ɔda kayn buli we dɛn kin buli.

Wi nɔ fɔ tek dis buli we dɛn de buli am as sɔntin we nɔ impɔtant . I nɔ rayt fɔ tink se, "Na so pikin dɛn de, wi jɔs nid fɔ bia wit am." Bikɔs dis kin rili afɛkt di we aw pikin dɛn de fil bɔt dɛnsɛf ɛn di we aw dɛn de fil sef. Insay sɔm bad bad tin dɛn, ripɔt dɔn de na di wɔl se dis buli we dɛn de buli pikin dɛn dɔn mek dɛn kil dɛnsɛf ɛn du bad bad tin dɛn lɛk fɔ shot pipul dɛn na skul. So, dis na tin we rili siriɔs.

Wetin mek pikin dɛn kin buli ɔda pipul dɛn lɛk dis?

Bɔku tɛm, pikin dɛn kin buli ɔda pipul dɛn fɔ difrɛn rizin dɛn. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin tink se dɛn kin fil se dɛn impɔtant, pipul dɛn lɛk dɛn, ɔ dɛn kin ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛnsɛf, ɛn dɛn kin pik pikin we dɛn tink se wik pas dɛn maynd ɔ bɔdi, ɔ we luk ɔ du tin difrɛn smɔl. Di pikin we de buli nɔ kin big ɔ strɔng pas di ɔda pikin ɔltɛm.

Sɔntɛnde, pikin dɛn kin buli ɔda pipul dɛn bikɔs dɛn dɔn trit dɛn di sem we. If ɔlman na dɛn famili ɔ di say we dɛn de, de ala ɛn swɛ to dɛnsɛf ɔltɛm, dɛn kin tink se dis na nɔmal tin. Yu si se, ivin fo som TV sho, na nomal tin to trit oda pipul bad, to marginalize oda pipul, mek laf oda pipul fo dia luk o di lack of talent. Dis kin afɛkt dɛn bak.

Aw yu go no if dɛn de buli yu pikin?

If yu pikin tɛl yu dairekt wan, ɔ pas sayn dɛn we pɔsin kin si fɔ sho se i dɔn wund, i kin at fɔ no fɔ tru if dɛn de buli am.

Bɔt sɔm wɔnin sayn dɛn de we wi, as mama ɛn papa, kin luk fɔ:

• If yu notis se yu pikin de biev chenj , ɔ if i jɔs tan lɛk se dɛn de wɔri .
• If i nɔ de it fayn, i nɔ de slip fayn , ɔ i nɔ want fɔ du tin dɛn we i kin ɛnjɔy.
• If i tan lɛk se yu de fil bad pas aw yu bin de fil, ɔ if yu kin vɛks izi wan wit ivin di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn .
• If sɔm tin dɛn kam na di rod (fɔ ɛgzampul, nɔ want fɔ rayd di skul bɔs, fɔ avɔyd sɔm pat dɛn na skul).
• If yu kin kɔmplen bɔku tɛm bɔt tin dɛn lɛk we yu nɔ want fɔ go skul, bɛlɛ we de at, ɔ ed we de at (especially pan skul de).
• Bɔku tɛm buk ɛn klos kin lɔs ɔ pwɛl.
• If yu si tin dɛn lɛk fɔ fred ɔ kray na yu drim .

If yu tink se sɔntin lɛk dis, bɔt yu pikin nɔ want fɔ tɔk bɔt am, tray fɔ bigin di tɔk di we we nɔ rayt smɔl, pas fɔ aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn dairekt wan . Imajin se yu si wan tin we apin lɛk dis na TV ɛn aks sɔntin lɛk, "Pikin/dɔta, wetin yu tink bɔt dis?" ɔ "Wetin yu tink se da pikin de fɔ dɔn du?" Dɔn, yu kin aks se, "Yu dɔn ɛva si sɔntin lɛk dis apin?" ɔ "Yu dɔn ɛva gɛt sɔntin lɛk dis apin to yu?" Sɔntɛm yu kin tɔk bɔt wan ɛkspiriɛns we yu ɔ ɔda pɔsin na yu famili bin gɛt we yu ol da ej de.

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mek yu pikin ɔndastand se if dɛn de buli am ɔ if i si ɔda pɔsin de buli am, i impɔtant fɔ tɔk to big pɔsin we i biliv bɔt dat. Dis kin bi yu, ɔda big pɔsin (ticha, skul advaysa, famili padi, ɔ ivin brɔda ɛn sista).

Wetin wi go du as mama ɛn papa?

If yu pikin tɛl yu bɔt buli, lisin wit kol at . Gi kɔmfɔt ɛn sɔpɔt.Gi. Bɔku tɛm, pikin dɛn nɔ kin want fɔ tɛl big pipul dɛn bɔt dɛn tin ya. Bikɔs dɛn kin shem, dɛn kin fil bad we sɔntin lɛk dis apin. Ɔ dɛn kin fred se dɛn mama ɛn papa go vɛks, vɛks, ɔ du tin di rɔŋ we.

Sɔntɛnde pikin dɛn kin tink se na dɛn fɔlt . If dɛn bin difrɛn, if dɛn bin de biev difrɛn we, dis nɔ bin fɔ dɔn apin. Ɔda tɛm dɛn kin fred se if di pɔsin we de buli dɛn kam fɔ no wetin dɛn tɔk, dɛn go buli dɛn mɔ. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin tink se dɛn mama ɛn papa nɔ biliv dɛn, ɔ dɛn nɔ go du ɛnitin bɔt am. Ɔda pipul dɛn kin fred se dɛn mama ɛn papa go tɛl dɛn fɔ "go fa," bɔt dɛn kin fred tumɔs fɔ du am.

So, fɔs, prez yu pikin fɔ we i tɛl yu dis . Mɛmba dɛn se nɔto dɛn wangren de, ɛn bɔku pipul dɛn kin gɛt buli sɔm tɛm na dɛn layf. Ɛksplen se di pikin we de buli na in de biev bad, nɔto yu pikin . Mek dɛn biliv se yu ɛn dɛn go wok togɛda fɔ fɛn sɔlv.

Sɔv dɛn sho se bɔku pikin dɛn ɛn yɔŋ pipul dɛn se dis buli we dɛn kin buli kin apin mɔ na skul . So, tɛl pɔsin na skul (ilɛksɛf na di prinsipal, skul nɔs, advaysa, ɔ ticha) bɔt di tin we apin. Bɔku tɛm, dɛn kin pe atɛnshɔn to am ɛn du sɔntin fɔ mek i nɔ bi prɔblɛm.

Bikɔs buli kin apin pan difrɛn tin dɛn, no wan saiz nɔ de fɔ sɔlv di prɔblɛm . Wetin de wok na wan ples nɔ go wok na ɔda ples. Di bɛst we fɔ du sɔntin kin dipen pan bɔku tin dɛn, lɛk di ej we di pikin dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit di prɔblɛm gɛt, aw di tin we apin, ɛn di kayn we aw dɛn de buli dɛn.

If yu pikin se, “If dɛn kam fɔ no wetin a tɔk, dɛn go mek a fil bad mɔ,” ɔ trɛtin fɔ du yu bɔdi bad, tek am siriɔs wan . Sɔntɛnde, we yu tɔk to di pikin in mama ɛn papa, dat kin ɛp am. Bɔt bɔku tɛm, i go fayn fɔ mek yu fɔs tɔk to di pikin in ticha dɛn ɔ di wan dɛn we de advays am . If yu dɔn tray dat ɛn yu stil want fɔ tɔk to di pikin in mama ɛn papa, i go fayn fɔ mek yu tɔk to am bifo pɔsin we de wok na di skul, lɛk pɔsin we de gi advays. Dis go mek yu nɔ gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn we nɔ impɔtant.

Bɔku skul dɛn gɛt polisi ɛn program dɛn we de agens buli pipul dɛn bɔt buli. Dɔn bak, bɔku kɔntri dɛn ɛn wi kɔntri gɛt lɔ bɔt dis. Risach di lɔ dɛn we de na yu eria. Sɔntɛnde, if yu gɛt siriɔs wɔri bɔt yu pikin in sef, yu go nid fɔ kɔntak di ligal ɔtoriti dɛn.

Us tin dɛn yu want fɔ tich yu pikin?

Mama ɛn papa dɛn kin tich dɛn pikin dɛn aw fɔ dil we dɛn de buli dɛn. Sɔm mama ɛn papa ɔ pipul dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn pikin kin fil fɔ tɛl dɛn pikin fɔ "go nak am." Dis na tin we wi kin ɔndastand, bikɔs yu kin vɛks we yu si yu pikin de sɔfa, ɛn sɔntɛm dɛn tɛl yu fɔ "stand up for yourself" we yu bin smɔl. Ɔ yu kin fred se dɛn go kɔntinyu fɔ buli yu pikin, so fɔ bit am na di wangren we fɔ stɔp am.

Bɔt i impɔtant fɔ tich pikin dɛn nɔ fɔ du sɔntin we dɛn de buli dɛn ɔ nɔ fɔ buli dɛn bak . Dis kin go bifo kwik kwik wan to fɛt-fɛt, mek mɔ prɔblɛm dɛn, ɛn ivin mek pɔsin fil bad. Bifo dat, di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ lɛf di prɔblɛm, spɛn tɛm wit ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn tɛl big pɔsin .

Na sɔm ɔda we dɛn fɔ ɛp pikin dɛn fɔ tɔn tin dɛn ɛn fil fayn:

• Tɛl big pɔsin: Skul ticha dɛn, di prinsipal, mama ɛn papa dɛn, ɛn di wan dɛn we de wok na di kafeteria kin ɛp fɔ stɔp dis buli.
• Avɔyd di buli ɛn yuz di ‘buddy system’: Yuz difrɛn batrum if di buli de nia, nɔ go na yu lɔka we nɔbɔdi nɔ de nia yu. Nɔ de yu wan wit di pɔsin we de buli yu, de wit pɔsin . Na di bɔs, na di kɔlol, na di plegrɔun - ɛnisay we di buli go mɔs de, gɛt padi. If yu padi nid ɛp, du di sem tin.
• Kɔntrol yu wamat: Na nɔmal tin fɔ mek yu vɛks pan pɔsin we de buli yu, bɔt na dat di wan dɛn we de buli yu kin lɛk fɔ du. I de mek dɛn fil se dɛn gɛt pawa. Praktis fɔ nɔ kray, nɔ fɔ blush, ɛn nɔ fɔ vɛks . Dis kin tek bɔku tɛm fɔ praktis, bɔt na fayn we fɔ mek pɔsin we de buli yu nɔ notis yu. Sɔm pikin dɛn kin si se ‘kɔl dɔŋ strateji’ lɛk fɔ kɔnt to 10, rayt di wɔd dɛn we de mek pɔsin vɛks pan pepa, fɔ blo dip dip wan, ɛn fɔ waka go, kin ɛp. Sɔntɛnde i go fayn fɔ tich yu pikin fɔ kip in fes kol te no denja nɔ de (fɔ smayl ɔ smir kin jɔs mek di pɔsin we de buli yu vɛks mɔ).
• Bi brayt, waka go, ɛn ignore di buli: Fam ɛn klia wan tɛl di buli fɔ "stɔp" ɛn waka go. Praktis we dɛn fɔ ignore kɔmɛnt dɛn we de mek yu fil bad, lɛk fɔ mek lɛk se yu nɔ want fɔ no mɔ ɔ fɔ sɛn mɛsej to pɔsin na yu fon. We yu nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di pɔsin we de buli yu, dat de sho se yu nɔ bisin bɔt am. As tɛm de go, di pɔsin we de buli yu go taya fɔ mɔna yu.
• Tɔk bɔt dis:Tɔk to pɔsin we yu biliv. I kin bi pɔsin we de gi advays to skul, ticha, brɔda ɛn sista, ɔ padi. Dɛn kin gi yu gud advays. Ilɛksɛf dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ fix di tin we de apin, i kin ɛp yu fɔ fil lɛk se yu nɔ de wangren smɔl.

Aw fɔ bil pikin in maynd trɛnk (kɔnfidɛns)?

We pɔsin buli pikin, dat kin mek i nɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan insɛf . Fɔ ɛp fɔ bil am bak, ɛnkɔrej yu pikin fɔ spɛn tɛm wit gud tin dɛn . We dɛn tek pat pan klab, spɔt, ɔ ɔda tin dɛn we dɛn kin ɛnjɔy, dat kin ɛp fɔ mek dɛn gɛt trɛnk na dɛn maynd ɛn padi biznɛs.

Lisin gud wan we yu pikin de tɔk bɔt tin dɛn we nɔ izi fɔ du, ɛn ɛnkɔrej am fɔ tɛl yu bɔt di gud tin dɛn we de apin na in de, ɛn tek tɛm lisin to dɛn tin dɛn de. Dis go ɛp ɔlman fɔ gɛt di abit fɔ tɔk to dɛnsɛf opin wan . Mek dɛn no ɔltɛm se yu abop pan dɛn ɛn yu go du ɔl wetin yu ebul fɔ ɛp dɛn fɔ bia ɛni prɔblɛm.

Mɛmba se fɔ mek pikin dɛn fil se dɛn lɛk dɛn, sef, ɛn gri wit dɛn, na big trɛnk fɔ dɛn fɔ gɛt dɛn kayn prɔblɛm dɛn ya.

Fɔ dɔn, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ mɛmba...

We pɔsin de buli pikin dɛn, dat kin rili ambɔg di pikin dɛn layf. Dɛn nɔ fɔ ɛva dismis am as sɔntin we nɔmal .

• Tɔk wit yu pikin opin wan . Ɛnkɔrej am fɔ abop pan yu if dɛn de buli am.
• Lisin wit kol at to wetin di pikin de se, sɔpɔt am, ɛn mek i ɔndastand se i nɔ de du bad .
• Wok togɛda wit di skul. Ticha ɛn advaysa dɛn go ɛp fɔ sɔlv dɛn prɔblɛm ya.
• Tich yu pikin aw fɔ dil wit buli , bɔt nɔ ɛva yuz fɛt-fɛt.
• Ɛp fɔ mek yu pikin gɛt trɛnk na in maynd ɛn fɔ gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan insɛf .

We yu de du dɛn tin ya, di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ mek ples na os usay yu pikin go fil se dɛn lɛk am ɛn sef . Dis go gi dɛn trɛnk fɔ bia ɛni prɔblɛm.

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