Aw fɔ kɔrɛkt yu pikin? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis!

As mama ɛn papa, wan pan di big wok we wi fɔ du na fɔ mɛn wi pikin dɛn wit gud kɔrɛkt we ɛn gɛt gud abit dɛn. Bɔt sɔntɛnde dis nɔ kin izi lɛk aw wi kin tink, nɔto so? Ɛspɛshali fɔ yɔŋ pikin, fɔ ɛksplen ‘nɔ du dis’ ɛn ‘nɔ du dat’ kin bi big prɔblɛm. Sɔntɛnde, wi kin wɔnda aw fɔ mek smɔl pikin ɔndastand dɛn tin ya. Tide, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt aw fɔ kɔrɛkt yu pikin wit lɔv bɔt strɔng we we fit in ej, jɔs lɛk we yu de tɔk to yu padi.

Wetin mek i impɔtant fɔ mek pɔsin nɔ de chenj chenj di we aw wi de praktis fɔ kɔrɛkt pɔsin?

We i kam pan fɔ kɔrɛkt pɔsin, di fɔs wɔd we wi fɔ mɛmba na fɔ kɔnsistɛns . Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, di lɔ ɛn instrɔkshɔn dɛn we yu de gi yu pikin fɔ bi di sem ɔltɛm. If yu se wan tin tide ɛn ɔda tin tumara, ɔ if mama se wan tin ɛn papa se ɔda tin, wetin yu pikin tink? Dɛn kin rili kɔnfyus. Dɛn kin tink se, ‘O, dis nɔto so big tin,’ ɛn nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di lɔ dɛn.

Imajin, tide yu se ‘nɔ put di tɔys dɛn na living rum’, bɔt tumara if papa nɔ tɔk natin bɔt am, ɔ yu fɔgɛt am yusɛf, i at fɔ mek di smɔl pikin ɔndastand. Pikin dɛn kin rili sabi fɔ pik dɛn kayn tin ya. So, i rili impɔtant fɔ mek yu ɛn yu man/wɛf gri pan sɔm kɔmɔn lɔ dɛn ɛn fɔ mek yu du dɛn ɔltɛm ɛvride. Dɔn di pikin ɔndastand se ‘dis na di rayt we, dis na di ɔda we aw wi os de’. Dis kɔnsistɛns de mek di pikin fil sef, bikɔs i no wetin fɔ ɛkspɛkt ɛn wetin di limit dɛn de.

Aw fɔ kɔrɛkt pikin dɛn we ol bitwin 0-2 ia?

Pikin dɛn we gɛt dis ej kin rili want fɔ no mɔ. We dɛn si nyu tin dɛn na di wɔl, dɛn kin want fɔ tɔch ɔltin ɛn put am na dɛn mɔt. Dis na di tɛm we dɛn de fɛn ɔltin na dɛn wɔl. So bifo wi tich dɛn fɔ kɔrɛkt dɛn, wi nid fɔ mek di envayrɔmɛnt sef fɔ dɛn. Dat na di bɛst we fɔ ridyus di nid fɔ mek dɛn yɛri di wɔd ‘nɔ’ ɔltɛm.

Yu tink se wi fɔ kip tin dɛn we denja ɛn tin dɛn we se ‘nɔ tɔch’?

If yu gɛt smɔl pikin na yu os we de kray ɔ waka, di fɔs tin we yu fɔ du na fɔ kip tin dɛn we kin denja to am, ɔ we wi kin tɛl am bɔku tɛm se i nɔ fɔ tɔch, usay i nɔ go ebul fɔ tɔch am. Dɛn kɔl dis ‘child-proofing’.

Tink bɔt am, tɛlivishɔn, vidio ikwipmɛnt, stiriɔ waya, yu valyu jɔyri, mɔ mɛrɛsin, wata fɔ klin (e.g., Harpic, bleach), ɔl dɛn tin ya na tin dɛn we smɔl pikin dɛn kin want fɔ tɔch. Dɔn bak, dɛn fɔ kip tin dɛn we shap (siza, nɛf), tɔys dɛn we kin brok smɔl smɔl, ɛn plastic bag dɛn fa frɔm dɛn. I fayn bak fɔ put kɔva dɛn we go protɛkt yu na di say dɛn we dɛn de yuz ilɛktrik.

"Fɔ mek di envayrɔmɛnt sef bɛtɛ pas fɔ se 'nɔ, nɔ' ɔltɛm. Dɔn di pikin go ple fri wan, ɛn yu kin gɛt pis na yu maynd bak."

Fɔ ɛgzampul, we Nilu in pikin bigin fɔ rɔn, di fɔs tin we i du na fɔ pul di lɔw glas tipɔt we de na di living rum ɛn put smɔl lɔk na di mɛrɛsin kabinɛt na di kichin. Da we de, dɛn nɔ kin fred smɔl fɔ mek di pikin wund, nɔto so?

Fɔ se ‘nɔ’, fɔ pul yu maynd (Distraction) .

Bɔt ilɛk aw yu tek tɛm, sɔntɛnde yu pikin kin waka waka na sɔntin we denja. If na so i bi, di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ se wit kol at bɔt tranga wan se, "Nɔ, bɔy pikin/grɔn," ɛn pul am na da ples de. Dɔn, ridayrɛkt in atɛnshɔn to ɔda tin we gud ɛn sef. Dɛn kɔl dis tin we de ambɔg pɔsin .

• Aw yu kin pul yu maynd pan yu maynd?
• Gi am wan tɔys we i lɛk. "Luk yu fayn fayn bɔl."
• Siŋ smɔl siŋ wit am, ɔ ple gem fɔ klap.
• Point to di layt frɔm di winda ɛn se sɔntin lɛk, "Luk, wan fayn bɔd de ova de."
• Tek dɛn go na ɔda rum ɛn yuz dɛn fɔ ɔda tin. "Wi go go rid buk?"

Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ se ‘nɔ’ wit strɔng, klia vɔys, we yu nɔ fɔ tɔk harsh. Yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin yɛri di difrɛns pan di vɔys fayn fayn wan. If yu tɔk am wit kol at bɔt yu tɔk am tranga wan, i go wok mɔ.

Di ‘taym-ɔut’ we fɔ du tin fayn fɔ yɔŋ pikin dɛn?

Fɔ smɔl pikin we dɔn skip wan ia ɛn bigin fɔ ɔndastand smɔl, bɔku tɛm afta 1.5 ɔ 2 ia, dɛn kin yuz wan we we dɛn kɔl ‘taym-ɔut’ fɔ ɛp fɔ stɔp sɔm bad bad tin dɛn (e.g., fɔ hit, chuk, trowe tin bay wilful). Bɔt dis na sɔntin we wi nid fɔ ɔndastand ɛn du di rayt we.

• Us kayn bihayvya dɛn kin gi ‘taym-ɔut’?
• If yu hit ɔ bit ɔda pikin.
• If yu mekɔp yu maynd fɔ trowe it ɔ drink.
• If yu kɔntinyu fɔ du sɔntin we yu se nɔ to.
• Aw yu kin gi ‘taym-ɔut’?

1. Fɔs, tɛl am wit sɔm simpul wɔd dɛn wetin i du ɛn wetin mek i nɔ rayt. Fɔ ɛgzampul, "I nɔ rayt fɔ hit ɔda pipul, bɔy pikin/grɔn pikin." Nɔ bi harsh ɔ kɔl am.

2. Dɔn, kɛr am go na wan kwayɛt, nɔ boring ples we yu dɔn pripia bifo (e.g. kichin chia, di bɔt ɔf stej, smɔl mat we dɛn put smɔl fa frɔm di ples fɔ ple). Dis nɔto ples fɔ pɔnish, bɔt na ples fɔ kol smɔl ɛn tink bɔt wetin i du.

3. Lɛf am de fɔ wan ɔ tu minit . I nɔ mek sɛns fɔ lɛ yɔŋ pikin de de igen. Wan jenɛral lɔ fɔ du na wan minit fɔ ɛvri ia we di pikin ol. (Ɛgzampul: 2 minit fɔ pikin we ol 2 ia). If yu lɛf am de fɔ lɔng tɛm pas dat, i kin fil lɛk pɔnishmɛnt ɛn di pikin kin vɛks mɔ ɛn mɔ.

4. Wen di ‘time-out’ don finish, no trai to du am bak. Pik am wit lɔv, aks am, "Yu kol naw?", dɔn ɛnjɔy am pan ɔda tin we fayn. If i dɔn kol, gi am smɔl kɔt ɛn se wit lɔv se, "Duya nɔ du dat igen, okay?"

"Mɛmba se, 'taym-ɔut' nɔto fɔ kɔl pikin bikɔs i vɛks. Na we fɔ ɛp dɛn fɔ kɔntrol dɛn filin, kol at, ɛn tray fɔ mek dɛn ɔndastand se wetin dɛn du nɔ rayt."

"Dis mכt kin nכ kin כndastand bכku fכ bebi dεm we nכ rich 1.5 - 2 ia. Di distrakshכn mεtכd we wi bin dכn tכk bכt bεtε fכ dεm."

Fɔ hit ɛn slap nɔ fayn atɔl!

Dis na sɔntin we bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn nid fɔ tink bɔt, ɛn i rili impɔtant. I nɔ fayn fɔ pɔnish pikin we ol ɛni ej pan bɔdi, lɛk fɔ bit, slap, slap, ɔ pinch in yes. Ɛspɛshali fɔ pikin dɛn we ol bitwin 0-2 ia, dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ ɔndastand ɛni kɔnekshɔn bitwin dɛn bihayvya ɛn di pɔnishmɛnt we dɛn kin gɛt pan dɛn bɔdi. Dɛn kin jɔs fil pen ɛn fred.

• Wetin kin apin we yu hit?
• Di pikin de fred. I kin ivin bigin fɔ fred we i si yu.
• di pikin kin bi agresiv (dεn kin tεnd bak fכ hit εn at we prכblεm de).
• Di lɔv we yu ɛn yu pikin gɛt kin pwɛl. Di trɔst nɔ de igen.
• Di pikin kin tink se, ‘I nɔ bad fɔ mek pɔsin fil bad we pɔsin mek mistek’ ɔ ‘I nɔ bad fɔ mek ol pipul dɛn bit yɔŋ pipul dɛn’.
• Pan ɔl we i go tan lɛk se di bad we aw i de biev dɔn stɔp da tɛm de, di pikin nɔ de lan lɛsin frɔm am. I de lan aw fɔ du dis we mama/papa nɔ go kech am.

"Bɔku tɛm, mama ɛn papa kin bit dɛn pikin dɛn we dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ kɔntrol dɛn wamat ɔ we dɛn nɔ kin peshɛnt. Bɔt dat nɔ kin du ɛni gud to di pikin. Bifo dat, yusɛf kin kol smɔl, tek dip briz, ɛn yuz difrɛn we. If nid de, lɛf di eria fɔ sɔm tɛm, ɛn tɔk to di pikin bak we yu dɔn kol."

Wi go ebul fɔ bi gud ɛgzampul bak? (Rol Mɔdelin)

Pikin dɛn kin lan bay wetin wi de du, nɔto bay wetin wi de tɔk. Na dat rol modeling de tok abaut. Mama ɛn papa na dɛn fɔs ɛn di bɛst ɛgzampul fɔ falamakata dɛn. Dɛn tan lɛk spɔnj, dɛn de absɔb ɔl wetin wi de du ɛn tɔk.

• If yu ala pan yu pikin fɔ ‘put di tɔys dɛn’ ɛn lɛf yu nyuspepa, buk, ɛn klos ɔlsay, wetin di pikin go lan? ‘O, dem no de du wetin mama/papa se,’ no bi so?
• If yu ala we yu vɛks, slam domɔt, ɔ trowe tin, yu pikin go lan fɔ du di sem tin.
• If yu yuz wɔd dɛn lɛk ‘ɛkskyuz mi’, ‘tɛnki’, ɛn ‘duya’, ɛn rɛspɛkt ɔda pipul dɛn, yu pikin go lan dɛn wɔd ɛn bihayvya dɛn de ɔtomɛtik wan.

"So, di gud abit we wi de tray fɔ tich wi pikin dɛn, wi fɔ praktis wisɛf fɔs. If wi kip wi tin dɛn tidi, if wi it fayn we wi de it, if wi yuz gud wɔd dɛn we wi de tɔk, di pikin go tek da ɛgzampul de bak (Role Model). Dis na pawaful we fɔ praktis disiplin pas aw yu go tink."

Apres gud tin dɛn (Positive Reinforcement) .

Fɔ kɔrɛkt pɔsin nɔto jɔs fɔ pɔnish pɔsin we i mek mistek. Fɔ prez pikin fɔ ivin di smɔl gud tin we dɛn de du na fɔ mek pɔsin gɛt gud tin fɔ du .I rili impɔtant fɔ praktis fɔ kɔrɛkt pɔsin. Dis kin ɛp di pikin fɔ ɔndastand wetin rayt ɛn wetin wi de op fɔ am.

• Imajin, if yu smɔl pikin dɔn fɔ ple ɛn put wan tɔys bak na di bɔks, ɛn se, "O mi bɔy pikin/dɔta, dat fayn!" wit smɔl smayl, dat go min bɔku tin to dɛn.
• If yu aks fɔ it ɛn it am, ɛn se, “Luk, mi pikin de it fayn fayn wan,” i go rili want fɔ du da gud tin de bak.
• If dɛn du smɔl tin we yu aks fɔ, se, "Wɛl, bɔy pikin/dɔta, fɔ ɛp mama/papa."

"We di pikin de pe atɛnshɔn ɛn prez gud abit pas fɔ pe atɛnshɔn to bad abit, i kin izi fɔ du gud tin."

"Fo pikin dem fo dis ej, yu smayl, yu lov wod, ivin smol klap of han na big enkorejment. Dis de divelop dia self-esteem tu."

Fɔ vɛks ɛn fɔ kɔrɛkt pikin dɛn we de smɔl

Arawnd we dɛn ol wan ɛn af to tu ia, bɔku pikin dɛn we de smɔl kin bigin fɔ kray lawd wan, rol oba, ala, ɛn bang dɛn ed na di wɔl pan ivin di smɔl smɔl tin dɛn. Dis na wetin wi kin kɔl ‘tantrums’ ɔ temper tantrums. Mama ɛn papa dɛn kin vɛks ɛn vɛks we dɛn si dɛn tin ya.

• Wetin mek smɔl pikin dɛn kin du dis?
• Na dis ej, dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ sho dɛn big filin fayn fayn wan – vɛks, frustrashɔn, sɔri-at – insay wɔd. So dɛn lɛf am dis we.
• Frustrashɔn kin kam we yu want sɔntin ɛn nɔ gɛt am.
• Tin dɛn lɛk taya, angri, ɛn slip kin mek bak dis kayn tin apin.
• Sɔmtɛm, dɛn kin ivin lan se dis na we fɔ gɛt wetin dɛn want (if dɛn gɛt wetin dɛn want bay we dɛn de kray ɛn ala).
• Wetin yu kin du we yu gɛt tantrum?

1. Stay calm: If yu vɛks ɔ ala, di tin kin wɔs. Tek dip briz.

2. Mek shɔ se di pikin sef: Mek shɔ se i de na ples we i nɔ go du insɛf bad. If ɛni shap tin de nia de, pul am.

3. Nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to am if i pɔsibul: If di pikin sef, sɔntɛnde di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ nɔ pe atɛnshɔn tumɔs pan di we aw dɛn de biev da tɛm de. If yu tray fɔ riak tumɔs (kɔl, agyu, maybe giv in to wetin dɛn aks fɔ), dɛn kin yuz am fɔ gɛt atɛnshɔn bak ɔr gɛt wetin dɛn want.

4. Afta di tantrum: We i kol, tɔk to am wit lɔv. Sho se yu ɔndastand aw i de fil, lɛk "Yu bin rili vɛks, nɔto so?" Ɛksplen simpul wan se, "Bɔt yu fɔ dɔn tɛl mama/papa instead fɔ ala." Ɔg am wit lɔv.

"Nɔto ɛvri tantrum na pikin in misbehavior. Na pat pan di divɛlɔpmɛnt fɔ dis ej. I impɔtant fɔ mek wi du tin wit peshɛnt, ɔndastandin, ɛn tranga wan da tɛm de."

Fɔ dɔn, sɔm impɔtant tin dɛn we wi fɔ mɛmba

So, fɔ kɔrɛkt yu smɔl pikin na big waka. I nɔto sɔntin we yu go ebul fɔ du wan nɛt. Di tin dɛn we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ lɛk pɔsin, fɔ peshɛnt, ɛn fɔ de du tin ɔltɛm.

• Bi lɔv, bɔt yu fɔ tinap tranga wan: Ɛksplen yu lɔ dɛn wit lɔv, bɔt yu fɔ tinap tranga wan fɔ mek dɛn du wetin dɛn se. Nɔ mek yu pikin gɛt ɛni dawt bɔt di lɔv we yu gɛt.
• Di ej we yu ol: Yuz di we aw yu ol, nɔto di we aw pikin we ol tu ia go ɔndastand.
• Peshɛnt, peshɛnt, peshɛnt: Sɔm tin dɛn kin tek tɛm fɔ mek pikin lan. Smɔl chenj dɛn go apin ɛvride. Nɔ wɔri.
• Bi pɔsin we de falamakata: Yu pikin kin lan mɔ frɔm wetin i de si frɔm yu.
• Nɔ fɔ bit ɔ trɛtin: dɛn kin du mɔ bad pas gud. Bifo dat, yuz fayn we dɛn fɔ du tin.
• Apres gud tin (Positive Reinforcement): Apres ivin smɔl gud tin dɛn. I go ɛnkɔrej dɛn.
• Nɔto yu wangren de: Ɔl mama ɛn papa dɛn kin gɛt dɛn prɔblɛm dɛn ya. If nid de, go to dɔktɔ, advays frɔm famili wɛlbɔdi wokman, ɔ advays frɔm big pɔsin we yu kin abop pan.

Fɔ mɛn pikin nɔto izi tin, bɔt na fayn ɛn valyu wok. A rili wish una di trɛnk fɔ mek dis joyn bi saksesful!

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