Pan ɔl we yu lɛk yu pikin bad bad wan, yu kin tink sɔntɛnde if yu pikin go gi yu da lɔv ɛn lɔv de bak? Yu pikin kin pul am we yu go ɔg am? Yu fil se i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ ɔndastand wetin de apin na in maynd? Yu go mɔs de fil bad ɛn wɔri bikɔs ɔf tin dɛn lɛk dis. I rili rili at fɔ du. Tide wi de tɔk bɔt dis kayn kɔndishɔn. Wi kin kɔl dis Riaktiv Atɛshmɛnt Disɔda, ɔ (RAD) fɔ shɔt tɛm. Dis na prɔblɛm wit di filin we de bitwin pikin ɛn di pɔsin we na di men pɔsin we de kia fɔ am (mama, papa ɔ pɔsin we de kia fɔ am). Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis ditayli.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wetin na Riaktiv Atɛshmɛnt Disɔda (RAD)?
Riactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) na wan kכndyushכn we pikin nכ de divεlכp hεlty imכshכnal bכnd wit dεn praymar kεriכn dεm (wi kכl dεm `caretakers`). Di men tin we kin mek dis kin apin na di pikin we i smɔl, we i smɔl, we dɛn nɔ kin pe atɛnshɔn to di pikin ɔ dɛn kin du bad to am pan sɔm we dɛn.
Pikin dɛm wae gɛt dis sik kin gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ kɔntrol ɛn kɔntrol aw dɛn de fil . Dɛn kin tray bak fɔ mek padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn we gɛt minin ɛn dip. Pikin dɛn we gɛt RAD nɔ kin rili fɛn kɔmfɔt ɔ sho sayn dɛn fɔ kɔmfɔt. Sɔntɛnde, ilɛksɛf di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn lɛk dɛn ɛn du gud to dɛn, wi kin si se di pikin de fred ɔ wɔri bɔt dɛn.
Udat dis tin kin afɛkt mɔ?
Dis sik kin mɔs si pan pikin dɛm wae dɛn nɔr de tek tɛm wit ɔr du bad tin na dɛn bɔdi ɔr filin. Bɔt sɔntɛnde, big pikin dɛnsɛf kin gɛt RAD. Pikin de pan ay risk fɔ gɛt RAD if:
- Dɛn kin chenj di we aw dɛn de kia fɔ pikin dɛn ɔltɛm: Tink bɔt dis: Dɛn kin put sɔm pikin dɛn na say dɛn we dɛn kin kia fɔ dɛn pikin dɛn. We dɛn de chenj dɛn ples ɔltɛm, di pikin nɔ kin gɛt di chans fɔ mek padi biznɛs we go de sote go wit di sem pɔsin.
- Fɔ separet frɔm di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ di pikin fɔs: If pikin dɔn gɛt gud filin wit in mama ɛn papa, ɛn afta dat i gɛt fɔ separet frɔm dɛn fɔ sɔm rizin, dat kin mek di pikin sɔprayz bad bad wan.
- Traumatic loss in early life: Fɔ gɛt sɔm traumatik tin dɛm, lɛk day ɔr big big lɔs, we yu yɔŋ.
- Di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ di pikin nɔ de nia di pikin wit dɛn filin: Sɔm mama ɛn papa ɔ pipul dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn nɔ kin tray fɔ de nia di pikin pan filin. Dɛn nɔ de sho se dɛn want fɔ ɔndastand aw di pikin de fil ɔ fɔ kɔrej am.
- Di we aw dɛn mɛn am na institiushɔn:Pikin dɛn we de gro ɔp na institiushɔn dɛn lɛk say dɛn we dɛn kin mɛn pikin dɛn we nɔ gɛt mama ɛn papa, nɔ kin gɛt wan pɔsin we lɛk fɔ kia fɔ dɛn, nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to dɛn.
Dis kin tranga mɔ fɔ di mama ɛn papa dɛn we dɔn adopt dɛn, bikɔs dɛn nɔ kin no di ful stori bɔt dɛn pikin in past. If yu na nyu mama ɔ papa we dɔn adopt yu pikin ɛn yu pikin de sho sayn dɛn fɔ RAD, ɔ yu de gɛt prɔblɛm wit yu pikin, nɔto yu fɔlt. Mek shɔ se yu tɔk to yu pikin in dɔktɔ bɔt am.
Wetin na di kɔmɔn sayn dɛm fɔ RAD?
Ɔl pikin kin sho difrɛn sayn dɛn. Bɔt sɔm kɔmɔn sayn dɛn de we pɔsin kin si pan bebi ɛn smɔl pikin dɛn. Lɛ wi ɔndastand dɛn tin ya klia wan.
| Di sayn we de sho se di sik de | Wetin dis min? |
|---|---|
| Nɔ sho se yu de fil fayn | We yu de wit ɔda pipul dɛm, yu nɔr de sho ɛni fayn fayn filin lɛk kɔmfɔt, lɔv, ɔr gladi at na yu fes ɔr pan yu akshɔn. Yu de biev lɛk se yu nɔ impɔtant atɔl. |
| Fɔ avɔyd fɔ tɔch yu yay ɛn fɔ tɔch yu bɔdi | We pɔsin luk yu na yu yay, ɔg yu, ɔ ol yu an, yu kin pul am. Yu nɔ want fɔ kam nia yu bɔdi. |
| Fɔ sho se yu de fred ɔ vɛks | Dɛn kin sho vɛks bay we dɛn de ala lawd wan ɛn trowe tin dɛn na grɔn (`tantrums`). Dɛn nɔ kin gladi ɛn dɛn at kin pwɛl ɔltɛm. |
| Fɔ tray fɔ kɔntrol | Dɛn kin luk fɔ tin dɛn na di say we dɛn de we dɛn go ebul fɔ kɔntrol. Bɔku tɛm dis kin mek dɛn pwɛl di lɔ dɛn. |
Wetin na di difrɛns bitwin RAD ɛn DSED?
Ɔda kɔndishɔn de we gɛt fɔ du wit RAD, bɔt i difrɛn smɔl. Dɛn kɔl am Disinhibited Social Engagement Disorder (DSED). I impɔtant fɔ ɔndastand di difrɛns bitwin dɛn tu.
| Di kwaliti we pɔsin gɛt | Riaktiv Atɛshmɛnt Disɔda (RAD) . | Disinhibited Sɔshial Ɛngajmɛnt Disɔda (DSED) . |
|---|---|---|
| Biɛvhɔ wit di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn | Fɔ avɔyd di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn. Fɔ tray fɔ de fa. | Sɔntɛm yu kin bi tu padi wit ɛnibɔdi. |
| Di we aw i de biev wit strenja dɛn | A lɛk fɔ de mi wan, fa frɔm di sosayti. | I bin de mek padi wit strenja dɛn pasmak. Sɔntɛm dɛn go want fɔ go wit strenja dɛn ilɛksɛf dɛn nɔ aks dɛn mama ɛn papa. |
| Fɔ fɛn kɔrej | I de agens we pɔsin tray fɔ kɔrej dɛn (e.g., ɔg dɛn). | Fɔ op se ɛnibɔdi go pe atɛnshɔn to am ɛn lɛk am. |
| Di we aw pipul dɛn kin biev we dɛn kin biev | Pan ɔl we dɛn no wetin de apin rawnd dɛn, dɛn nɔ kin du wetin dɛn fil. | Dɛn kin biev lɛk pikin dɛn we yɔŋ pas dɛn ej. Dɛn nɔ ɔndastand sɔshal bɔda dɛn. |
Wetin kin mek dis RAD kɔndishɔn?
No wan rizin nɔ de we rili klia fɔ dis. Stɔdi dɛn dɔn sho se bɔku rizin dɛn de we kin mek pikin nɔ gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ dɛn. Di men wan dɛn na:
- Abiuz ɔ neglect: Di pikin kin fil se dɛn dɔn lɛf am ɛn na in wangren de.
- Di bɛsis nid dɛn we dɛn nɔ de mit:We pikin nɔ gɛt di tin dɛn we i nid fɔ liv, lɛk it, klin, ɛn sef, i nɔ kin gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan di wɔl.
- Fɔ fred fɔ sef: Di pikin kin fred ɔltɛm se i de pan denja.
- Nɔ klin: Tin dɛn lɛk fɔ de na wet dayapɛt fɔ lɔng tɛm kin mek pikin fil fayn ɛn dɛn nɔ kin pe atɛnshɔn to am.
- Kia we nɔ de chenj: Na wan wan tɛm nɔmɔ dɛn kin du wetin di pikin nid. Di pikin nɔ kin shɔ if dɛn go kɔrej am ɔ gi am wetin i nid.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, we dɛn de du wetin di pikin nid ɔltɛm ɛn ɔltɛm, di pikin ɛn di pɔsin we de kia fɔ am kin gɛt trɔst . Dis trɔst na di fawndeshɔn fɔ wɛlbɔdi padi biznɛs. If dɛn nɔ mit dɛn nid ya, di pikin de pan big risk fɔ gɛt RAD.
Aw dɔktɔ kin no bɔt dis sik?
Fɔ no if yu gɛt RAD, yu dɔktɔ go aks yu bɔt yu pikin in mɛdikal istri ɛn di sayn dɛm we i gɛt. Di dɔktɔ kin aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk:
- Dɛn dɔn du ɛni kayn bad bad tin to yu pikin ɔ dɛn nɔ de kia fɔ yu?
- Ustɛm yu fɔs notis dɛn sayn ya?
- Aw yu ɛn yu pikin kin de togɛda?
- Aw yu famili de liv ?
- Ɔda pipul dɛn de we de kia fɔ di pikin we de dil wit di pikin?
Bay dis infɔmeshɔn, if di dɔktɔ saspek RAD, dɛn kin rifer di pikin to pikin dɛn , sayɛnsman, ɔ saykayatrist fɔ no di rayt we ɛn tɛl am fɔ gi am di rayt tritmɛnt.
Dɛn kin kɔnfyus RAD ɛn Ɔtizm Spɛktrum Disɔda (ASD)?
Yɛs, sɔmtɛm di sayn dɛm fɔ dɛn tu sik ya kin fiba pan di surface. So, bifo dɔktɔ kam fɔ no se pikin gɛt RAD, dɛn go tɛst am fɔ mek shɔ se no ɔda sik nɔ de, lɛk Autism Spectrum Disorder ( ASD ) . Di men difrɛns na dat ASD na divɛlɔpmɛnt kɔndishɔn. Nɔto bikɔs dɛn de trit am bad ɔ we dɛn nɔ de kia fɔ am. We RAD gɛt fɔ du wit di tin dɛn we pikin kin gɛt fɔs.
Wetin na di tritmɛnt dɛm fɔ RAD?
Di men gol fɔ tritmɛnt fɔ RAD na fɔ mek di pikin ɛn di pɔsin we de kia fɔ di pikin gɛt fayn fayn padi biznɛs we de mek i fred ɔ we nɔ izi fɔ du. Dɛn tritmɛnt ya kin bɛnifit di pikin ɛn di pɔsin we de kia fɔ am.
| Di we aw dɛn kin trit am | Simply put am... |
|---|---|
| Saykotɛrapi/Kɔnsul | Wan mental hεlth kכnsεlכ de wok wit di pikin εn in mama εn papa fכ εp dεm fכ bil hεlth imoshכnal skil dεm εn ridyus prכblεm bihayvya we de ambɔg di bכnd. |
| Famili Tɛrapi | Di praymari pipul dɛm we de kia fɔ di pikin ɛn di pikin kin wok togɛda fɔ mek dɛn gɛt wɛlbɔdi we fɔ mek dɛn de tɔk to dɛnsɛf. |
| Sɔshial Skil Intɛrvɛnshɔn | Dɛn kin tich di pikin aw fɔ biev fayn we i de na nɔmal soshal sityueshɔn wit in kɔmpin dɛn. Mama ɛn papa dɛnsɛf kin put an pan dis. |
| Speshal Ɛdyukeshɔn | If pikin nid am, program dɛm we de na skul kin ɛp di pikin fɔ lan skil dɛm fɔ mek i go bifo pan skul ɛn soshal biznɛs. |
| Klas dɛn fɔ Skil fɔ Mama ɛn Papa | Mama ɛn papa dɛn kin lan aw fɔ kɔntrol dɛn pikin in prɔblɛm dɛn we nɔ izi fɔ dɛn, fayn fayn wan. |
Aw mi, as pɔsin we de kia fɔ mi pikin, go ɛp mi pikin?
Apat frɔm tritmɛnt, as pɔsin we de kia fɔ yu pikin, yu kin du bɔku tin fɔ mek yu gɛt fayn padi biznɛs wit yu pikin.
1. Mek klia bɔda dɛn
We di pikin dɛn de de ɔltɛm, dat kin rili bɛnifit ɔl di pikin dɛn. So, fɔ sɛt bɔda dɛn rili impɔtant. Wit rizin limits en aprupriet, non-physical methods of discipline , pikin dem no wetin dem de expekt from dem en wetin go hapun if dem brok di rules. Dis kin mek pikin dɛn nɔ fred ɛn i kin mek dɛn biev di rayt we.
2. Ivin we yu pikin nɔ de biev fayn, yu kin kɔntinyu fɔ gɛt kol at.
We yu pikin nɔ de biev fayn, nɔ de tɔk to yu. Nɔ riak we yu vɛks. Disiplin yu pikin akɔdin to di lɔ dɛn we yu dɔn tɔk to yu pikin bifo tɛm. As yu pikin dɔn kol ɛn rɛdi fɔ de wit yu bak, sho am lɔv ɛn kia fɔ am. Dis kin sho yu pikin se yu de fɔ am ivin we tin nɔ izi.
3. Gi bɔku lɔv ɛn atɛnshɔn
Spend tɛm yu wan wit yu pikin. Tɔk to am, siŋ siŋ, ple wit am. Ɔg am, ol am. Bɔt mɛmba se sɔm pikin dɛn nɔ kin lɛk dis kayn we aw pɔsin kin tɔch dɛn bɔdi. Nɔ ɛva yuz fɔ kip lɔv ɛn lɔv as pɔnishmɛnt.
Ustɛm a fɔ go to dɔktɔ?
If yu notis se i nɔ izi fɔ mek yu pikin gɛt nɔmal rilayshɔnship , ɔ if yu pikin gɛt ɛni wan pan di RAD simptom dɛn we wi dɔn tɔk bɔt na dis atikul, go to yu pikin in dɔktɔ wantɛm wantɛm fɔ advays. Di kwik we dɛn no ɛn trit dis sik, na di mɔ di chans fɔ mek yu pikin gɛt sakrifays.
We yu aks dɔktɔ fɔ ɛp yu, dat nɔ min se yu na bad mama ɔ papa. I jɔs de opin di domɔt fɔ mek yu gɛt strɔng, wɛlbɔdi, ɛn ɔl yu layf rilayshɔn wit yu pikin.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Riaktiv Atashmɛnt Disɔda (RAD) na siriɔs, bɔt dɛn kin trit am, we kin kɔmɔt frɔm we dɛn nɔ de kia fɔ pikin kwik kwik wan ɔ we i gɛt trauma .
- Dis nɔto di pikin in fɔlt ɛn nɔto di mama ɛn papa we tek di wok fɔ mɛn pikin.
- Di men tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn, i nɔ kin gri fɔ kɔrej am, ɛn i nɔ kin izi fɔ mek i gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn.
- Di men gol fɔ tritmɛnt na fɔ mek di pikin ɛn di pɔsin we de kia fɔ am gɛt tayt padi biznɛs we go mek dɛn gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit dɛnsɛf, we nɔ go chenj, ɛn we gɛt lɔv.
- Fɔ go to dɔktɔ kwik kwik wan, ɛn fɔ gi di pikin lɔv ɛn kia we i de peshɛnt ɛn ɔltɛm, rili impɔtant fɔ di pikin in tumara bambay.
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