Na nɔmal tin fɔ kɔl pikin ɛn kɔrɛkt am we i du sɔntin we nɔ rayt. Bɔt sɔntɛnde wi kin krɔs da layn de we wi nɔ no ɛn mek di pikin in maynd pwɛl we wi nɔ go ebul fɔ chenj. Abiuz nɔto jɔs fɔ bit ɔ wund pikin. Di wɔd dɛn, di we aw pɔsin de biev, ɛn di we aw i nɔ de pe atɛnshɔn to am, dat kin mek di pikin pwɛl in wan ol layf. Na dat wi kin kɔl emotional abuse. I tan lɛk wund we wi nɔ de si. Bɔt pikin kin kɛr di pen we i kin fil fɔ di res ɔf dɛn layf.
Wetin rili na di bad we aw pɔsin de fil?
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wi kin kɔl di we aw dɛn de trit pikin bad bad wan na di we aw mama ɛn papa ɔ di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ pikin kin biev we nɔ de chenj ɛn we kin ambɔg di we aw pikin de fil ɛn aw i valyu insɛf. Dis nɔto fɔ kɔl am wan tɛm nɔmɔ, wit wamat. Dis na tin we de kɔntinyu fɔ du .
Tink bɔt am, we dɛn de trit yu bad, yu kin si di skata dɛn na do. Bɔt we dɛn de trit yu bad na yu maynd, di wund dɛn kin de na yu maynd. Na dat mek i at fɔ no. Bɔt di tin dɛn we i kin du kin afɛkt di pikin in wan ol layf.
Fɔ trit pikin bad we i de fil nɔto jɔs fɔ ala, fɔ kɔndɛm am, ɛn fɔ trit am bad ɔltɛm. I min bak fɔ nɔ gi pikin di lɔv, lɔv, ɛn atɛnshɔn we i nid.
Aw dis sik kin afɛkt pikin?
- Impaired emotional control: nɔ ebul fɔ no ɛn kɔntrol pɔsin in filin kɔrɛkt wan .
- Di we aw dɛn de biev kin chenj: dɛn kin bi mischievous wantɛm wantɛm, ɔr kin rili kwayɛt.
- Afɛkt lanin: Dis na big tin we de ambɔg di ebul fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan skul wok ɛn lan.
- Di we aw pɔsin kin rɛspɛkt insɛf kin pwɛl: Di we aw pɔsin kin valyu insɛf ɛn di we aw pɔsin kin biliv insɛf kin lɔs igen.
- Dɛn kin gɛt di rayt we fɔ tink bɔt dɛn mama ɛn papa: dɛn kin bigin tink se mama ɛn papa, we fɔ lɛk ɛn protɛkt, na pipul dɛn we dɛn fɔ fred ɛn kɔl ɔltɛm.
Bɔku tɛm, di bad we aw pɔsin de fil kin apin togɛda wit di bad we aw pɔsin de trit am wit in bɔdi ɔ we i de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit am. I tan lɛk wɛpɔn we dɛn kin yuz fɔ kɔntrol pikin. Ɛspɛshali fɔ smɔl pikin dɛn, pikin dɛn we dɛn jɔs bɔn, ɛn bebi dɛn we nɔ ebul fɔ tɔk ɔ tɔk wetin dɛn nid, di we aw dɛn nɔ lɛk dɛn ɛn we dɛn nɔ lɛk dɛn, dat kin mek dɛn sɔfa bad bad wan. Dɛn kin bi pikin dɛn we nɔ de mek padi wit ɔda pipul dɛn, we de wɔri, ɛn ivin we dɛn nɔ sabi tɔk langwej we nɔ de te.
Sayn dɛn we de sho se dɛn de trit pikin bad
We wi no bɔt dɛn sik ya, i kin izi fɔ wi fɔ no if pikin we de nia wi de gɛt dis kayn tin. Bɔt mɛmba se nɔto ɔl dɛn sayn ya kin bi bikɔs ɔf di bad we aw dɛn de trit am na in maynd. Sɔmtɛm, dɛn kin kam bak wit ɔda wɛl bɔdi prɔblɛm. So if yu gɛt ɛni dawt, di bɛst tin fɔ du na fɔ tɔk to yu dɔktɔ.
| Kɔmɔn sayn dɛm we dɛn kin si pan pikin we dɛn dɔn du bad bad tin to in maynd | |
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| Di we aw pɔsin de fil ɛn di we aw i de biev |
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| Sɔshial kɔnekshɔn dɛn | |
| Di kayn we aw pɔsin de fil ɛn di we aw i de gro | |
Aw yu go no if yu mama ɛn papa de mek dis mistek?
Sɔntɛnde, mama ɛn papa dɛn nɔ kin ivin no se dɛn de du bad to dɛn pikin. Sɔntɛm dɛn de pul dɛn pikin we vɛks ɛn strɛs. If yu si tin dɛn lɛk dis, wɔri.
- Fɔ ɛkspɛkt tin dɛn we pas di pikin in ebul: Fɔ ɛgzampul, fɔ ɛkspɛkt 100% mak pan ɛvri sɔbjɛkt frɔm yɔŋ pikin.
- Fɔ put di pikin insay pɔsin in prɔblɛm: Fɔ tray fɔ mek di pikin de na in sayd we i de agyu bɔt mared.
- Yuz di pikin fɔ satisfay in yon ego: fɔ fos di pikin fɔ du tin dɛn we i nɔ ebul fɔ du.
- Tɔk we nɔ gɛt rɛspɛkt to di pikin: Fɔ adrɛs di pikin wit wɔd dɛn lɛk "dat" ɛn "dis" bifo ɔda pipul dɛn.
- Fɔ mek di pikin gɛt vaylɛns na os: Fɔ fɛt ɛn bit na os we kin apin bifo di pikin.
We di pikin de fes dɛn tin ya as tɛm de go, i kin bigin fɔ tink se, "A go mɔs dɔn bi bad pikin." Dɛn kin lɛf di gud aidia dɛn we dɛn bin gɛt bɔt dɛnsɛf ɛn bigin fɔ fala di kɔle ɛn kɔmɛnt we dɛn kin yɛri. Dis na di tin we kin apin we dis kin mek pɔsin denja pas ɔl.
Aw dɛn kin trit dis sik?
Bɔku tɛm, mama ɛn papa dɛn we de trit dɛn pikin dɛn bad, dɛn kin dɔn du bad to dɛnsɛf we dɛn bin smɔl. Dis na saykl we denja we dɛn kin pas frɔm wan jɛnɛreshɔn to ɔda jɛnɛreshɔn. I tek bɔku trɛnk fɔ brok am. So, if dɛn kayn tin ya apin, di pikin ɛn in mama ɛn papa ɔl tu nid tritmɛnt ɛn sɔpɔt.
Di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na dat if dɛn ivin tink se dɛn dɔn du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit di pikin ɔ du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs wit am, dɛn fɔ mek shɔ se i sef fɔs . Na afta dɛn dɔn mek shɔ se di pikin de na say we sef, na in dɛn kin bigin fɔ trit am.
Dis nɔto sɔlv fɔ shɔt tɛm. I nid fɔ mek ɔlman we gɛt fɔ du wit dis wok fɔ lɔng tɛm. Bɔku tɛm, dɛn kin gi di pikin di sɔpɔt frɔm pɔsin we sabi bɔt pikin dɛn maynd . Dis,
- I de tich di pikin fɔ abop pan ɔda pipul dɛn bak.
- I de sho di pikin wetin na wɛlbɔdi, gud padi biznɛs.
- We cham-mɔt kam, dɛn kin tich yu aw fɔ kɔntrol am.
- I de mek di pikin gɛt bɛtɛ rɛspɛkt fɔ insɛf ɛn i de mek i gɛt valyu fɔ insɛf.
Sɔntɛnde, famili tritmɛnt kin rili ɛp. I rili impɔtant fɔ mek mama ɛn papa dɛn ɔndastand se dɛn de mek mistek ɛn fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi du di wok fɔ ɛp dɛn fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt di prɔblɛm.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Di bad we aw dɛn de trit pikin na in maynd, i kin ambɔg pikin jɔs lɛk aw i kin ambɔg in bɔdi, ɛn sɔntɛm i kin ambɔg am pas dat.
- If yu notis se yu pikin de biev ɔ fil chenj wantɛm wantɛm, na fɔ wɔri. Nɔ jɔs dismis am as ‘naughty.’
- Fɔ kɔl pikin ɔltɛm, fɔ kɔndɛm am, ɛn kɔmpia am to ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn fɔ mek i nɔ lɛk am ɛn fɔ lɛk am, na tin bak we pɔsin kin du to in maynd.
- If yu tink se pikin we yu sabi de gɛt dis kayn tin, ripɔt am to di ɔtoriti dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit am ɔ big pɔsin we yu kin abop pan.
- If yu no se yu de mek mistek as mama ɔ papa, nɔ shem fɔ aks fɔ ɛp. Nɔ shem nɔ de fɔ fɛn pɔsin we sabi du in wok fɔ ɛp yu pikin ɛn fɔ yusɛf.
- If yu gɛt ɛni dawt bɔt dis kayn prɔblɛm, tɔk to yu famili dɔktɔ ɛn gɛt di rayt gayd.
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