Yu no aw yu layf de shep? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt Erikson in 8 Stej dɛm fɔ Divɛlɔpmɛnt

As wi ɔl de gro, wi abit, di we aw wi de biev, ɛn di we aw wi de tink kin chenj bad bad wan, nɔto so? Wi nɔ de di sem we aw wi bin de we wi bin yɔŋ. Wi nɔ di sem lɛk aw wi bin de we wi bin yɔŋ, bɔt wi de na midul ej. Yu dɔn ɛva wɔnda aw dis chenj kin apin? Wan Jaman sayɛnsman we nem Ɛrik Ɛriksin dɔn gi wan rili fayn ɛksplen bɔt dis. I bin se wi kin go tru 8 men stej dɛn na wi layf frɔm we dɛn bɔn wi te wi day. Insay ɛni wan pan dɛn stej ya, wi kin gɛt sɔm kayn "saykolojik kɔnflikt." Di we aw wi kin win da kɔnflikt de na in de bil wi pɔsin, dat na udat wi bi.

Wetin na di 8 stej dɛm we Erikson gɛt fɔ divɛlɔp?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, di tiori we Erikson bin tɔk se wi ego aydentiti de divɛlɔp smɔl smɔl ɔlsay na wi layf tru dɛn 8 stej ya. i nכ de lεk se wan stej de dכn εn כda wan bigin, bכt na dεn stej dεm ya kכnekt, εn wetin lεf frכm wan stej kin afekt di nεks stej.

Imajin, smɔl pikin de, if i de shem ɔ i de dawt wetin i ebul fɔ du, da filin de nɔ de dɔn de. Ivin we i go to di ɔda tin dɛn we i de du na layf, dɛn filin dɛn de kin kɔntinyu fɔ afɛkt in pɔsin. Insay da tɛm de, i kin muf tru ɔda stej dɛn.

Lɛ wi si klia wan wetin na dɛn 8 stej ya.

Naw, lɛ wi luk dɛn stej ya ditayli wan bay wan.

Ɛni wan pan dɛn stej ya tan lɛk di brik dɛn we de na di fawndeshɔn fɔ wan bildin. Na bay we dɛn put wan pan di ɔda wan, na in dɛn kin mek pɔsin gɛt strɔng pɔsin.

Stej 1: Bebi (bɔn to 18 mɔnt) - Trɔst ɛn nɔ trɔst

Imajin we dɛn bɔn smɔl pikin... i nɔ ɔndastand natin bɔt dis wɔl. I de dipen ɔltogɛda pan in mama, papa ɔ di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ am. We di pikin kray bikɔs i angri ɔ bikɔs ɔf ɔda tin we nɔ fayn, we yu ol am, fid am, ɛn kɔrej am wit lɔv, trɔst de bil na di pikin in at.. I lan se "pɔsin de we go tek kia ɔf mi nid dɛn." As tɛm de go, dis trɔst kin go to ɔda pipul dɛn bak.

Bɔt if dɛn nɔ pe atɛnshɔn to di pikin ɛn dɛn nɔ du wetin i nid di rayt tɛm, i go bigin fɔ fil se i nɔ biliv am . If dɛn nɔ bil trɔst na dis stej, i go rili at fɔ bil am leta. We prɔblɛm dɛn kin apin na layf, dɛn kayn pipul dɛn de kin fil bad bad wan.

Stej 2: Pikin we de smɔl (18 mɔnt - 3 ia) - Indipɛndɛns ɛn shem/dawt

Dis na di tɛm we yu smɔl pikin de lan fɔ du tin fɔ insɛf. Dɛn de tray fɔ it, drɛs dɛnsɛf, ɛn ol dɛn an fɔ tɔys. If yu ɛnkɔrej dɛn da tɛm de ɛn se, “Dat na fayn tin, yu kin du am,” dɛn go gɛt kɔnfidɛns pan dɛnsɛf ɛn fɔ gɛt dɛn yon gɔvmɛnt .

Bɔt, if yu pwɛl am bay we yu se, "O, nɔ du dat, yu nɔ go ebul fɔ du am, yu go fel," i kin shem ɛn dawt if i ebul fɔ du am.

Stej 3: Priskul ej (3-5 ia) - Initiativ ɛn gilti

Dis na di tɛm we pikin dɛn kin bigin fɔ wok fɔ dɛnsɛf, lɛk fɔ aks fɔ nyu tin, bil ples fɔ ple, ɛn drɔ pikchɔ. Dɛn kin bigin fɔ fil se dɛn gɛt rizin ɛn gol na layf. We yu ɛnkɔrej dɛn pan di tin dɛn we dɛn de du, dɛn kin gɛt maynd fɔ du di fɔs tin . Dɛn se, “A go du dis.”

Bɔt if yu kɔndɛm ɔ ambɔg wetin dɛn de du, dɛn kin fil gilti , ɛn dɛn kin wɔnda se, "A de du sɔntin we nɔ rayt?"

Stej 4: Ɛli Skul Ej (6-11 ia) - Indastriɔs ɛn Infɛriɔriti

Na dis stej, di pikin kin bigin fɔ no in yon aydentiti ɛn in yon talɛnt. I bigin fɔ kɔmpia insɛf to in padi dɛn na skul ɛn na di ples usay dɛn de ple. Di sta mak we di ticha kin gi na klas, we na di satifiket fɔ win spɔt kɔmpitishɔn, rili valyu to am.

We ticha dɛn, mama ɛn papa dɛn, ɛn padi dɛn de sɔpɔt dɛn ɛn tɛl dɛn tɛnki, dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn gɛt sɛns ɛn dɛn de du bɔku tin . Bɔt if dɛn nɔ gladi fɔ di tray we dɛn de tray, dɛn go fil se dɛn nɔ impɔtant ɛn dɛn nɔ gɛt wan valyu.

Stej 5: Adolesɛns (12-18 ia) - Aydentiti ɛn rol kɔnfyushɔn

Yu don yehri di wohd "identity crisis"? I kɔmɔt frɔm dis stej. Insai dis taim, wan yong pikin de rack dia bren wit kweshon laik "Udat a bi? Wetin a wan bi? Wetin bi mai ples fo sosayti?" Dɛn de tray fɔ mek dɛn gɛt gol ɛn valyu dɛn fɔ big pipul dɛn layf.

If dɛn ebul fɔ establish dɛn aydentiti fayn fayn wan insay dis tɛm, i go bi big trɛnk na layf. Bɔt if di tin dɛn we dɛn mama ɛn papa ɛn di sosayti de op fɔ ɛn di wok we dɛn fɔ du, kin mek dɛn nɔ ebul fɔ no udat dɛn bi ɛn wetin dɛn want.

Stej 6: Yɔŋ Adulthood (19-40 ia ol) - Intimate Rilayshɔnship ɛn Aysolɛshɔn

Dis na di tɛm we wi kin mek padi ɛn lɔv we rili impɔtant na layf. If dɛn padi biznɛs ya gɛt minin ɛn strɔng, yu go fil lɛk se yu gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn.

Bɔt if i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ bil dɛn padi biznɛs ya, yu kin fil se yu nɔ de nia ɔda pipul dɛn ɛn yu kin fil se yu wangren de.

Stej 7: Midul Ej (40-65 ia) - Fεtiliti εn Stagnεshכn

We yu rich dis stej, yu kin fil se yu rili nid fɔ gayd yu pikin dɛn, di yɔŋ pipul dɛn na di sosayti, ɛn fɔ tich dɛn wetin yu no. Dɛn kɔl dis jenɛrativiti . I min se yu fɔ tek di wok ɛn kia fɔ di wan dɛn we de arawnd yu.

Bɔt, if yu nɔr de akt lɛk mentɔ ɔr gayd pan ɛni we, yu kin fil bad ɛn nɔr gladi fɔ layf. Dis kin mek yu nɔ de nia yu padi dɛn, fambul dɛn, ɛn sosayti ɛn yu nɔ go ebul fɔ du natin .

Stej 8: Ol ej (afta 65 ia) - pafɛkt ɛn disapɔyntmɛnt pan pɔsin in pasɔnaliti

Dis na di las stej we Ɛriksɔn kɔl. Insay dis tɛm, wi kin tink bɔt wi layf. If yu satisfay wit di layf we yu dɔn liv, yu go ol wit rɛspɛkt (ego integrity) . Yu go fil prawd fɔ wetin yu dɔn du. Yu go want fɔ tɛl ɔda pipul dɛn bɔt yu layf ɛkspiriɛns ɛn di sɛns we yu gɛt.

Bɔt, we yu luk bak pan yu layf, ɔl wetin yu lɛf wit na rigrɛt lɛk, "O, a wish se a bin dɔn du dat da tɛm de," ɛn yu kin fɔdɔm pan pwɛl at .

If yu no bɔt dɛn stej ya, dat go ɛp yu fɔ ɔndastand yu pikin, ɛn yusɛf, as mama ɔ papa. If yu pikin ɔ yu de gɛt prɔblɛm dɛn we nɔ kɔmɔn pan ɛni stej, i impɔtant fɔ tɔk to dɔktɔ ɔ pɔsin we de stɔdi bɔt pɔsin in maynd bɔt am.