Osobola okuyigiriza omwana wo okwefuga! Ka twogere ku nsonga eno.

Oboolyawo owulira nga weeraliikirira nnyo ng’omwana wo omuto atandika omulundi gumu okukaaba ennyo n’okulwanagana wakati mu dduuka, oba ku kabaga n’abooluganda abangi, oba awaka, nedda? Mu kiseera ekyo, ddala kikulu okuyigiriza abaana okwefuga n’okweyisa obulungi, so si kukola kyonna kye baagala. Kino kye kimu ku bintu eby’omuwendo bye tuyinza okuwa abaana baffe ng’abazadde.

Lwaki okwefuga kikulu nnyo eri abaana?

Mu ngeri ennyangu, abaana bwe bayiga okwefuga, basobola okusalawo mu ngeri esaanidde era ne beeyisa mu ngeri evaamu ebirungi, ne bwe baba nga bali ku puleesa. Obusobozi buno bujja kubayamba nnyo okutuuka ku buwanguzi mu bulamu .

Lowooza ku nsonga eno bw’otyo. Bw’ogamba nti ice cream ajja kugabula oluvannyuma lw’okulya ekyeggulo, omwana wo ayinza okukaaba, okwegayirira, oba n’okukuba enduulu okukuleetera okukkiriza. Wabula omwana asobola okwefuga ategeera nti bw’azannya katemba (oluusi kino tukiyita ``Temper Tantrum``) tajja kufuna ice cream anyway, kale kiba kya magezi okubeera omugumiikiriza.

Obusobozi bw’okwefuga kikulu nnyo eri omwana okusoma, enkolagana n’abantu, n’obulamu bw’obwongo.

Kati katutunuulire engeri y’okuyambamu abaana okwefuga, okusinziira ku myaka.

Engeri y’okuyigiriza abaana okwefuga

Engeri ebintu bino gye bisomesebwamu ekyuka n'emyaka gy'omwana. Ka tulabe engeri ekyo gye kikola.

Oyamba otya abaana okutuusa nga bawezezza emyaka 2?

Abalongo n’abaana abato bafuna okwetamwa mangu kubanga waliwo ekituli kinene wakati w’ebyo bye baagala okukola n’ebyo bye basobola okukola mu butuufu. Eno y’ensonga lwaki batera okuzannya katemba, okukaaba n’okulwana. Mu biseera nga bino, kiba kirungi okukyusa ebirowoozo byabwe . Gezaako okutangira okubutuka kuno ng’obawa akazannyo oba ng’obakola omulimu omulala.

Ku baana abasemberera emyaka ebiri, bwe baba nga balwanagana n’okukuba enduulu, osobola okubaleka bokka okumala akaseera katono ng’ekiddirira. Kino kiyitibwa ``Time-out''. Ziteeke mu kifo ng’entebe y’omu ffumbiro oba eddaala erya wansi ku madaala okumala akaseera. Kino kiyigiriza omwana nti kirungi okubeera yekka n’okukkakkana okusinga okweyisa mu ngeri etafugibwa.

Ku baana abali wakati w’emyaka 3 ne 5

Osobola n'okukozesa ``Time-out'' n'abaana ab'emyaka gino. Naye mu kifo ky'okubeera n'ekiseera ekigere, maliriza ``Time-out'' ng'omwana mukkakkamu . Kino kiyamba omwana okukulaakulanya obusobozi bw’okufuga enneewulira ze. Era kikulu nnyo okutendereza omwana nga yeefuga mu mbeera emunyiiza oba enzibu. Yogera ebintu nga, "Ndi musanyufu nti wasigala mukkakkamu," oba "Wakola omulimu mulungi nga tonyiiga, mutabani/muwala."

Ku baana abali wakati w’emyaka 6 ne 9

Abaana bwe batandika okugenda ku ssomero, ba...Kiyamba abaana okutegeera ebiva mu bikolwa byabwe n’okusobola okulonda wakati w’empisa ennungi n’embi. Okugeza, yamba omwana wo okukuba mu birowoozo ekipande ekiraga nti "yimirira" ku luguudo, ng'omujjukiza okulowooza nga tannaba kukola kintu. Mu kifo ky’okukola amangu nga bawulira nga banyiize, bakubirize okuva mu mbeera eyo okumala akaseera era bakkakkanye . Bwe bakola bwe batyo, kakasa nti obatendereza. Bajja kwongera okukozesa enkola eno mu biseera eby’omu maaso.

Ku baana abali wakati w’emyaka 10 ne 12

Abaana ab’emyaka gino batera okuba nga bamanyi bulungi enneewulira zaabwe. Bakubirize okulowooza ku nsonga lwaki tebasobola kwefuga era bakwekenneenye . Bannyonnyole nti ebintu ebimu ebirabika ng’ebinyiiza mu kusooka biyinza obutaba bibi nnyo oluvannyuma lw’ebyo byonna. Bakubirize okutwala akadde okulowooza nga tebannaba kukola ku mbeera. Bayambe okukitegeera nti embeera si y’ebanyiiza, wabula engeri gye bakirowoozaako. Batendereze bwe bakozesa amakubo gano okwefuga.

Ku baana abali wakati w’emyaka 13 ne 17 (abavubuka) .

Ku myaka gino, abaana balina okusobola okufuga ebikolwa byabwe ebisinga obungi. Kyokka, jjukiza abaana abato okulowooza ku biyinza okuva mu kintu ekiyinza okuddirira okumala ebbanga eddene . Bakubirize okuyimirirako katono n’okulowooza nga tebannaba kukola nga bawulira nga banyiize, era okwogera ebintu mu kifo ky’okukuba enzigi oba okuleekaana. Bwe kiba kyetaagisa, kozesa ebibonerezo gamba ng’okuggyako enkizo ezimu okumala akaseera okunyweza obubaka obugamba nti okwefuga bukugu bukulu. Oluvannyuma, bwe balaga nti be bafuga, bakkirize okuddamu okufuna enkizo ezo.

Kiki ky’okola ng’abaana bo bavudde mu mbeera?

Wadde nga kiyinza okuba ekizibu, ziyiza okwagala okuleekaana ng’okangavvula abaana bo. Mu kifo ky’ekyo, yogera mu ngeri ennywevu era mu ngeri etegeerekeka obulungi. Omwana bw’aba mukakanyavu, ng’aleekaana oba ng’akuba enzigi, beera mukkakkamu era munnyonnyole nti enneeyisa ng’eyo tekkirizibwa, nti waliwo ebivaamu, era n’ebivaamu ebyo bye biruwa.

Ebikolwa byo birina okuyamba omwana wo okutegeera nti tasobola kufuna ky’ayagala ng’ayita mu busungu bwe.

Ng’ekyokulabirako, omwana wo bw’anyiiga ku dduuka ng’omaze okumunnyonnyola lwaki togenda kumuwa ssweeta, tomuwa by’asaba . Kino kijja kubayigiriza nti obukakanyavu bwabwe tebukkirizibwa era nti tebwakola.

Ate era, yogerako n’omusomesa w’ekibiina ky’omwana wo ku mbeera y’ekibiina n’enneeyisa entuufu. Buuza oba okugonjoola ebizibu kusomesebwa oba kukozesebwa ku kyokulabirako ku ssomero.

Ggwe kennyini beera ekyokulabirako ekirungi.

Ekisinga obukulu kwe kuteekawo ekyokulabirako eky’okwefuga obulungi.. Singa wabaawo ekikutawaanya mu maaso g’abaana bo, babuulire ensonga lwaki onyiize, oluvannyuma oyogere nabo ku ngeri eziyinza okugonjoola ekizibu ekyo. Okugeza bw’ofiirwa ebisumuluzo, mu kifo ky’okunyiiga, tegeeza abaana bo nti babuze era tujja kubanoonya wamu. Bw’oba ​​tosobola kuzifuna, kola ekiddako ky’osobola okukola (nga okujjukira gye wasemba okubeera n’ebisumuluzo byo). Balage ng’oyita mu nneeyisa yo nti okufuga obulungi enneewulira n’okugonjoola ebizibu y’engeri esinga obulungi ey’okukola ku mbeera enzibu.

Bw’osigala ng’olina obuzibu wadde ng’okola ebintu bino, buuza omusawo wo oba osobola okufuna obuyambi okuva mu bitongole ebibudaabuda abantu mu maka.

Ebintu ebikulu by'olina okujjukira (Take-Home Message)

Okay, kale bino bye bintu by’olina okujjukira okuva mu bye twogeddeko:

• Okuyigiriza abaana okwefuga ssente nnyingi mu bulamu bwabwe .
• Ebintu bino biyigirize mu ngeri esaanira emyaka gy’omwana . Si mu ngeri omwana omuto gy’asobola okutegeera, wabula mu ngeri omwana omuto gy’asobola okutegeera.
• Tewerabira okuwaana omwana wo ng’alaga nti yeefuga. Ekyo kizzaamu nnyo amaanyi.
• Kikulu okubeera omukkakkamu ng’omwana avudde mu mbeera. Okuleekaana tekujja kugonjoola bizibu.
• Ggwe kennyini beera ekyokulabirako ekirungi . Abaana bayiga bingi mu bye tukola okusinga bye twogera.
• Toggwaamu maanyi mu kunyiiga. Bw’onookola bw’otyo, omwana wo ajja kuyiga nti ngeri ya kukola.
• Tolonzalonza kunoonya buyambi bwa bakugu bwe kiba kyetaagisa.

Ebintu bino bw’obikuuma mu birowoozo n’oyamba omwana wo okwefuga n’obugumiikiriza n’okwagala, ojja kusobola okumukuza abeere abaana abasanyufu era abatuuse ku buwanguzi.

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