Nang pawhin nunah lungngaihna lian ber pakhat i tawk ve em? (Lungngai takin) Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

A chang chuan kan nunah hian kan beisei ngai loh thil kan hmachhawn a ngai thin, a dik em? Kan hmangaih tak boral vang pawh a ni mai thei. A nih loh leh mumang tihchhiat, hna hloh, inzawmna nghet tak tihchhiat ang chi pawh a ni thei bawk. Chu hrehawmna nasa tak, chu engmah lo, chutiang hun laia kan lungngaihna chu ‘Lungngaihna’ kan tih mai mai chu a ni. A buaithlak hle a, mimal thil tawn a ni. Mahse he thil tawn hi engtik lai pawhin kan hmachhawn vek a, engtin emaw tak chuan. Chuvangin, he thu hi tlem han sawi ila?

Lungngaihna chu eng nge ni?

A awlsam zawngin, lungngaihna chu kan hloh tawh kan hmachhawn dan leh kan hmachhawn dan a ni . Lungngaihna hi kan hmangaih tak thih hnua hun hrehawm tak angin kan ngai fo thin. Mahse chu chu a dik lo. Lungngaihna hi kan nihna tibuaitu leh kan nunah a pangngai anga hnathawh theih lohna tur thil thleng eng pawh avanga lo awm thei a ni. Hei hian min sawifiahtu inzawmna hloh pawh a huam tel a ni.

Hêng thilte hi i hloh chuan i lungngai mai thei tih han ngaihtuah teh:

• I ṭhian, chhungte, i kawppui emaw, i ran vulh duh tak emaw.
• Inneihna, ṭhian nihna, a nih loh leh inzawmna pawimawh dang.
• I chenna in, i awmna bial emaw, i khawtlang emaw.
• I hna emaw, i hnathawhna emaw.
• Economic lama dinhmun nghet tak a awm.
• I duhthusam emaw, i tihhlawhtlin duh emaw.
• Hriselna tha.
• I tleirawl lai kha.
• Fertility (nau neih theihna).

A châng chuan, thihna atâna mi pakhatin a inbuatsaih rualin, mahni nunna chan chu a lungngai ve thei bawk. Entîr nân, natna hlauhawm tak tuar tu emaw chuan a thil tih duh emaw, a tihhlawhtlin duh emaw ti tûrin hun a nei tawh dâwn lo va, a lungngai hle mai thei.

Lungngaihna Stage - Hengte hi kan hrethiam em?

Mithiam pakhat Elizabeth Kubler-Ross chuan heng lungngaihna stage pangate hi a lehkhabu "On Death and Dying"-ah a sawi a. He lehkhabu hi kum 1969-a tihchhuah ni mah se, lungngaihna kalphung hriatthiamna atana hriat hlawh ber pawl a la ni reng a ni. He lehkhabu ziak tur hian damlo thi mek 200 chuang interview a nei a ni. Chu inbiakna hmang chuan thihna hmachhawn mekte’n an tawn ṭhin stage panga a hmuchhuak a ni.

Kübler-Ross-a zirchiannaah hian thi mekte lungngaihna lam ngaihtuah zawk mah se, mi tam tak chuan heng stage-te hi hlohna chi hrang hrang avanga lungngaihna awmte hriatthiam nan an hmang bawk. Mahse hetah hian thil pawimawh tak pakhat a awm : Heng stage te hi mi zawng zawngin kan paltlang tur mandatory step set a ni lo va, eng order bik pawha thleng tur a ni lo. Mi thenkhat chuan heng stage thenkhat hi an tawng lo mai thei.

Heng stage hrang hrangte hi:

1. Hnialna: "Hei hi a dik thei lo," "Hei hi ka chungah a thleng thei lo" tih ang chi rilru put hmang. A hloh chu a tak tak anga pawm a harsa khawp mai.

2. Thinrimna:"Engvangin nge hetiang hi ka chungah a lo thlen?" thinrimna hriatna a ni. He thinurna hi hmangaih chhandam thei lote chungah emaw, Pathian chungah emaw, mahni chungah emaw, tu chungah emaw pawh a ni thei.

3. Bargaining: "Hetiang hian ka ti a nih chuan hetiang hi a thleng lo ang?", tih ang chi thil ngaihtuah te, hlohna chhanhim thei tur inremna siam tum. Mi pakhat thil tih avanga lungngaihna, "Chutiang chu ka ti lo a nih chuan..." tih ang chi te pawh a lo chhuak thei bawk.

4. Depression: Lungngaihna nasa tak, beiseina nei lo, mahni chauha awm. Eng thil pawh ngaihvenna hloh leh engkim nena inzawmna nei lo anga inhriatna. Hei hi depression nena inzawm emotion complex tam tak nen a lo thleng thei a ni .

5. Pawmna: Hun a kal zel a, hrehawmna chu la awm reng mah se, hloh chu thil tak tak a ni tih i pawm ta a ni. "Eng thil thleng kha a thleng a, tunah chuan engtin emaw tak ka nunpui a ngai tawh" tih i sawina hmunah i thleng a ni.

Heng stage te hi mi zawng zawng hnenah hian a inang lo va, a inrual angin a lo thleng lo tih hre reng ang che. Mi thenkhat chuan heng stage thenkhat hi an skip thei a, thenkhat chuan an zuang leh thei bawk. Chu chu thil pangngai tak a ni.

Lungngaihna chi hrang hrang a awm em?

Ni e, lungngaihna tawn dan tam tak a awm. Hêng chi hrang hrangte hian lungngaihna hi a chi hrang hrang leh a buaithlâkzia a sawi a ni.

Anticipatory lungngaihna

Hei hi hlohna tak tak a thlen hmaa i lungngaih tan hun a ni. Entîr nân, nangmah emaw, i hmangaih tu emaw chuan natna hlauhawm tak a nei tih i hriat chuan, chu mi chu a awm tawh loh hma pawhin lungngaihna i nei ṭan thei a ni. Chutianga lungngaihna chu i process chuan, hlohna chu a thlen tak tak hunah hmachhawn tûrin i inpeih thei a ni. Amaherawhchu, hetiang lungngaihna hian hun hlu tak i neihte hlim taka i hman theihna kawngah dal suh.

Lungngaihna tawifel

A châng chuan, lungngaihna chu rang takin i kal thei a ni. Hei hi hun rei lote chhunga lungngaihna an ti a. Hei hi a hmaa kan sawi tawh `anticipatory grief` hnuah pawh a thleng thei bawk. Chu chu, hloh hma a\anga i lungngaihna leh hlohna tur i inbuatsaih avangin, hlohna chu a thlen tak tak chuan lungngaihna chu a bo nghal vat tihna a ni. Lungngaihna a reh thuai vang mai mai chuan i hloh tawh kha i hmangaih lo tihna a ni lo. Lungngaihna chungchangah hian hun bi hrang hrang kan nei vek a.

Lungngaihna tlai tak

Thil hloh nêna inzawm rilru natnate chu i hriat nghâl ai chuan, ni engemaw zât, kar tam tak, a nih loh leh thla engemaw zât hnuah pawh i hre ṭan a ni. Ngaihtuah teh: mi pakhat accident-a a thih chuan vuina ruahmanna, dan lam thil, etc.-ah i buai hle mai thei a, chutah chuan, i mangang lutuk avang emaw, he buai vang emaw hian, i taksa chuan chutiang rilru natna chu process turin hun a nei lo mai thei. Engkim a zawh hnuah chauh natna chu i hre tan thin.

Lungngaihna khap tlat

Hei hi i rilru put hmang tihtawp (suppress) chungchang a ni. Dik tak chuan, mi tam tak chuan lungngaihna nêna lo awm rilru natna khirh tak takte chu hriat chian emaw, enkawl emaw kan zir ngai lo. Chuvangin, an rilru natna titawptu tam tak chuan an ti tih pawh an hre lo. Vanduaithlak takin chutiang rilru natna chu i hriat phal loh chuan chu lungngaihna chu taksa lam natna lan chhuahna, pum na, mut theih lohna leh lungkhamna teah a lang thei a, mahse a chang chuan panic attack pawh a awm thei bawk.

Lungngaihna (cumulative lungngaihna) a ni

Hei hian a ruala hlohna tam tak hmachhawn a huam a ni. Entîr nân, mi tuemawin fa a hloh ang tih han mitthla teh, chu lungngaihna rual chuan an inneihna pawh a inṭhen bawk. Tichuan chu mi chuan vawi khatah lungngaihna pahnih a tawk ta a ni. Vawi khata hloh tam tak lungngaih chu thil harsa tak a ni a, beisei loh takin a buaithlak thei bawk.

Lungngaihna inzawmkhawm

Lungngaihna hi mimal thil anga kan ngaih fo laiin, pawl anga, khawtlang anga kan lungngaih chang a awm bawk. Indona te, thilsiam chhiatna (tuilian, leimin ang chi), sikul-a thil thleng vanduaithlak tak tak, leh hripui lengte hian hlohna chi hrang hrang a thlen a ni. Heng thilte hian kan nun "normal" chu a tidanglam thin. Tichuan, pawl angin, chutiang thil tawn insem kan hloh tawhte chu kan lungngai a, hmalam hun lo danglam tawhte chu kan lungngai hle a ni. Entirnan, Covid hripui lai khan hetiang ang lungngaihna hi kan tawng vek a.

Lungngaihna chhinchhiahnate chu engte nge ni?

Lungngaihna hian i rilru, taksa leh thlarau a nghawng thei - heng zawng zawng hi.

Emotional Symptoms a awm thei

Lungngai tak takte chuan "emotions come in waves" an ti fo thin. Engmah vaukhânna awm lovin rilru natna a rawn luang lut ang maiin a lang thei. Hun khat chu nun chu thil pangngai angin i hria mai thei a, a dawt lehah chuan i tap mai thei bawk. Lungngaihna hian mite chu rilru natna chi hrang hrang, lungngaihna atanga thinrimna thlengin, thinrimna atanga hlimna thlengin a nei thei a ni. A châng chuan i rilru put hmang aṭanga inzawmna nei lo leh `autopilot' hmanga operation mai mai ang maiin i inhria thei bawk.

A châng chuan rilru inhnialna a lo chhuak thei bawk. Entir nan:

• Hmangaih tak boral avanga lungngaihna an neih rualin, hrehawm an tuar tawh lo va, an thlamuang tawh tih hriat hi a thlamuanthlak hle bawk.
• Inthen hnuah, i kawppui hlui chungah lungngaihna i neih rualin, nun thar bul tanna hun remchang i neih avangin i hlim deuh bawk.
• Chhun leh zan thim tur chhungte enkawl avanga sualna inhriatna, chutah an awm tawh loh chuan, "Aw, chu chu a tawk tawh, a tawpah chuan zalenna engemaw chen ka nei ta" tih ngaihtuah thin.
• I ṭhian emaw, i chhungte emaw, in inzawmna ṭha vak lo, i thinrimna pawh ni thei, i hloh chuan rilru inhnialna (ngaihsak lohna, thinrim, lungngaihna, inchhir) a lo awm khawm thin.

Lungngaihna chungchangah hian rilru dik leh dik lo a awm lo. A pawimawh ber chu chutiang rilru put hmang chu hriatchhuah a, tihdam theihna turin hriat chhuah phalsak hi a ni.

Taksa lam atanga a lan chhuah dan

Hnehna hi a tam lutuk.Thil pakhat, stress nasa tak thlen thei. Hei hian i taksaah nghawng lian tak a nei thei a ni. Lungngaihna chuan i nervous system chu a ti chak lutuk thei a, i immune system a tichak lo thei a, natna laka hlauhawm zawkah a siam thei bawk.

Hetiang symptoms hi a lo lang thei a ni:

• Chau
• Lu na
• Luhai
• Restlessness a awm
• Pum natna (upset stomach) a awm
• Lung na tak tak
• Muscle chak lo emaw, ruh natna emaw
• I rilru emaw i rilru emaw a tightness
• Ei duhna tlahniam emaw, tihpun emaw neih
• Mut theih lohna emaw, mut tam lutuk emaw

Nungchang inthlak danglamna

Lungngaihna hian ngaihtuahna leh thil tihfel a ti harsa thei hle. Symptoms te chu i hmu thei ang:

• Rilru tibuai
• Ngaihtuahna emaw thutlukna siam emaw harsatna
• Beiseina emaw, kaihhruaina emaw i hloh tawh ang maia inhriatna
• I hloh tih loh thil dang ngaihtuah harsa
• I mawhphurhna hriat reng emaw, chhinchhiah emaw harsat

Lungngaihna hian eng harsatna nge a thlen?

Dik tak chuan lungngaihna zawng zawng hi eng emaw chen chu a buaithlak a ni. Mahse, a then phei chuan lungngaihna hi a buaithlak zual thei - lungngaihna buaithlak emaw, lungngaihna rei tak emaw kan ti thin. He dinhmun hian a bik takin dinhmun harsa tak tak emaw, nitin nun hun rei tak tichhe thei symptom na tak tak emaw a huam a ni.

Lungngaihna buaithlak tak chu lungngaihna chi hrang hrang a\angin a in\an thei a ni. A harsa zual thei a, chu chu hetiang hi a ni:

• Lungngaihna awm lo: Pawn lam atanga lungngaihna chhinchhiahna i lantir loh chuan . Hnialnaah i tang tlat vang pawh a ni thei. Hun dangah chuan, lungngai lo ang maia lang mi pakhat chu a chhungril takah, mi dangte hmuh loh, rilru natna khirh tak takte nen a inhmachhawn thei a ni.
• Ambiguous loss: Loss tawpna chiang tak a awm loh chuan. Entîr nân, kan hmangaih tak chu thi nia ngaih ni mah se, a ruang hmuh a nih loh chuan, lungngaihna aṭanga harh chhuah chu a harsa thei hle. Hei hian mi nung mahse biak theih loh (tân ina tang, ram pawna pem chhuak leh inzawmna nei lo ang chi) lungngaihna pawh a huam tel bawk. Hei hian dementia emaw Alzheimer’s disease ang chi natna avanga hmangaih tak nena an inhlat lutuk avanga lungngaihna pawh a huam tel bawk.
• Disenfranchised lungngaihna:Khawtlangin hlohna chu lungngaih tlak anga a ngaih loh hunah. Mi dangte’n i lungngaihna chu a dik lo nia inhriatna an neihtîr che chuan, lungngaihna chu mahni chauha thil tawn a ni lehzual thei a ni. Entîr nân, ran vulh thihna te, kawppui boral te, a nih loh leh khawtlângin pawm theih loha a ngaih thihna te pawh, mahni intihhlum emaw, ruihhlo hman tam lutuk emaw a ni.
• Traumatic grief: Thil hloh leh lungngaihna a ruala i hmachhawn lai hian. Hei hi hlohna nasa tak leh beisei loh tak takte nen a thleng thin. Thilsiam chhiatna, accident, leh tharum thawhnaa thihna ang chi thilte hian lungngaihna a thlen thei a, a châng chuan PTSD (Post-traumatic stress disorder) tih pawh a thlen thei bawk . Tichuan he natna hi lungngaihna nen hian i enkawl a ngai a ni.

I hloh hnu kum khat hnuah pawh heng thilte hi i la hre reng a nih chuan lungngaihna buaithlak tak emaw, rei tak chhung emaw i tawng mai thei:

• I taksa peng pakhat a bo ang maia i hriat chuan, a thi tawh ang maia i hriat chuan.
• Thihna emaw hlohna emaw a thleng tih i la ring thei lo a nih chuan.
• Thihna emaw, hloh emaw hriatrengna thil i pumpelh chuan.
• Nitin nun tibuaitu hlohna nena inzawm rilru natna nasa tak i neih chuan.
• Ngaihsak lohna, mahni chauha awm emaw, nunah awmze nei lo anga inhriatna emaw i neih chuan.
• Nun pangngai nun harsa i tih chuan, ṭhiante nen ruahmanna siam la, i thil hlimawm tak takah tel ve la, hmalam hun chungchanga thutlukna siam rawh.

He lungngaihna hi eng chen nge a awm ang?

American Psychological Association (APA) sawi dan chuan lungngaihna hi thla ruk atanga kum hnih chhung pawh a awm thei tlangpui. Hun kal zelah symptoms a tlahniam zauh zauh thin.

Mahse hei hi hriat reng a pawimawh: Lungngaihna hi felfai taka dah theih emaw, hun bituk chhunga tihkhawtlai theih emaw a ni lo. Mi tin lungngaihna leh a daih rei zawng hi a inang lo. Tin, lungngaihna atanga "completely free" tih pawh a awm lo. I hmangaih tak boral, inneihna chhe tawh, i mumang i bânsan ang chi thilte chu i nun chanchinah a tel ve ta a ni. Chatuan atan i nihnaah hian an tel ve a ni.

Mahse, hlohna i hmachhawn harsat a nih chuan, a bîk takin i ni tin nun a nghawng a nih chuan, lungngaihna thurâwn petu emaw, therapist emaw hmuh hreh suh

Engtin nge he lungngaihna hi kan nunpui? (Lungngaihna hmachhawn) .

Lungngaihna nena nun hian hun leh dawhtheihna a mamawh a ni. Mahse, nangmah leh midangte tan pawh i tanpuina mamawh thei turte tan pawh hetiang kalphung hi tlem a awlsam zawk nan i tih theih tur thil a awm.

Mahni in enkawl a pawimawh hle.

• Mahni in enkawl dan practice rawh:I lungngaih lai hian i rilru leh taksa i enkawl a pawimawh. Zan tin darkar sarih atanga darkar riat vel mut tum ang che. Nitin mut hahdam la, i chau tih i hriat chuan. Exercise la, a hun takah chaw tha tak tak ei rawh. Ngaihtuah la, yoga ti rawh. Bubble bath hmangin inbual rawh. I lungngaih lai hian mahni inenkawl chu ngaih pawimawh ber la, chumi chungchangah chuan inthiam lohna nei suh.
• Thil tih dân pangngaiah vawng tlat rawh: Lungngaihna chuan i nun pangngai a tibuai thei a, i rilru put hmang thunun a harsat phah thei bawk. Routine zawm hi i dinhmun thunun theihna leh i rilru put hmang tihreh theihna kawng tha tak a ni. Mut la, a rualin harh bawk ang che. Nitin hun khata ei tum ang che. I taksa sil rawh. Hna tenau i tih zawh apiang chu hnehna angin ngai rawh.
• I rilru put hmang chu ngaihven rawh: Hnathawh emaw, hobby emaw-a inhnamhnawih avanga rilru natna harsa tak takte pumpelh tum suh. Lungngaihna chu rilru natna hrehawm tak takte hmachhawn hi a ni. Tap zak suh. I nunah awm tawh lo i hmangaih tak nena in hriatrengna mawi tak takte kha hre reng turin phal rawh. I rilru put hmang chu i tana tha tur angin sawi rawh. Entîr nân, rilru natna harsa tak takte chu journal-a ziakin, i hmangaih chanchin sawiin, a nih loh leh chu chu hriat nawn tirtu hla sain i process thei a ni.
• Midangte hnena thlen: Hriat lohna hmachhawn dan tha ber pakhat chu inzawmna i la neihte hriat reng hi a ni. Lungngaih laia mahni chauha awm duh hi thil pangngai a ni a, mahse inhlat tak tak suh. Engkim a danglam tawh ang maiin i hria a nih pawhin a danglam lo tih hi inhriat nawn tir thin ang che. I nunah hian hmangaih che leh tanpui duh che an awm a.
• Therapist emaw, lungngaihna thurawn petu emaw nen inbiakna neihpui rawh: A châng chuan lungngaihna hmachhawn tûr chuan mi thiamte ṭanpuina a ngai ṭhîn. Lungngaihnain i nun a tibuai a nih chuan, emaw, thla ruk hnuah pawh symptoms a lo ṭhat loh chuan professional hmuh a hun tawh mai thei.

Lungngai tuemaw chu engtin nge kan tanpui ang? (Hmangaih tak lungngai tak thlawp)

• Inkhawmpuiah awm rawh: I hmangaih tak tan chuan awm rawh, an mamawh angin. Tuman – i ṭhian lungngai tak emaw, i chhungte emaw pawh tiamin – lungngaihna counseling lama mi thiam tak ni turin an beisei lo che a, a dik tak chu an sawi duh lo bawk. An tan awm mai rawh. An mamawh chu zawt rawh. An inbiak a ngai em? Distraction chungchangah tanpuina an mamawh em? Mitthi vuina ruahmannaah ṭanpuina an mamawh em? An mamawh apiangin thlawp rawh.
• Ṭanpui tûra inpêk: Mi zawng zawngin ṭanpuina dîl an duh lo va, an mamawh pawh ni se. I ṭanpui theih dân chu ngaihtuah la, ṭanpui tûrin inpe rawh. Naupangte chu sikul i hruai thei ang em? An thawmhnaw sawp chu an ti em? Chaw ei siam la, a nih loh leh ei tur lei nan pawisa engemaw zat pe rawh?
• Thusawi turin i inhawng tih signal rawh:I hmangaih tak takte’n an hloh chungchang an sawi duh leh duh loh chungchanga an cues chu ngaihven rawh. Entîr nân, an hloh tawh hming sawi chu nuam lo emaw, ngaihsak lo emaw i ti thei a. Mahse, a châng chuan, lungngaitu chuan an chanchin sawina hun remchâng a nghak a, mi dangte hnêna a rilru put hmang sawi tûr leh a rilru put hmang chu a process theihna hun a nghak reng a ni. An sawi tan chuan nang aiin ngaithla tam zawk ang che.
• Mi pakhat hloh chu tihtlem suh: Mi hloh chu thil lian tak angin siam suh la, chu chu a hneh mai tur a ni tih lantir suh. Tin, hlohnaah pawh positive spin dah tum suh. "Engkim a tha vek" tih emaw, "Tunah hmun tha zawkah a awm tawh" emaw tih ang chi sawi hi mi lungngai tak tan chuan hnawl ang maiin a awm thei a, tum tha tak nei mah la. I hmangaih tak chu rinawm taka an rilru put hmang sawi chhuah phalsak zawk ang che. Lungngaihna kawngah hian thil awmdan pangngai leh tul tak a ni.

Lungngaihna nena inzawm thumal thenkhat han hrethiam leh ila?

• Lungngaihna leh Lungngaihna inthlauhna: Lungngaihna chu lungngaihna kalpui dan leh hmachhawn dan a ni. Lungngaihna nei te tanpui thin professional-te chuan lungngaihnain min phut dante pholan nan "hnathawh" emaw "insawn" tih ang chi thumal an hmang thin.
• Lungngaihna leh Lungngaihna inthlauhna: Lungngaihna chu thih hnua lungngaihna hun a ni. Mimal hloh hun a ni fo va, mi dangte nena lungngaihna insemna hun a ni fo bawk.
• Lungngaihna leh Lungngaihna inthlauhna: Lungngaihna hi kan lungngaihna kan sawi chhuah dan a ni. I lungngaihna chu i hmangaih tak chanchin sawiin, i huana an pangpar duh ber i phun a, a nih loh leh an vut chu an chawlhna hmun duh berah i phum thei a ni. Funeral leh hriatrengna inkhawm pawh hi lungngai mekte tan inkhawm a, an lungngaihna lantir theihna kawng a ni bawk.

A tawp berah chuan hriat reng tur tlemte (Take-Home Message) .

Mi tin lungngaihna zinkawng hi a danglam bik a, mimal tak a ni. Mahse, he hun chhûnga lo awm thei rilru put hmang te, ngaihtuahna te, leh nungchang te hriat chian chuan nangmah chauh i ni lo tih a tichiang thei che a ni. Nang pawhin – mi tam tak ang bawkin – hei hi i paltlang ang. "Lungngaihna atanga chhuahna kawng awmchhun chu chu chu a ni" tih hi a awm fo (mahse a dik) a ni. Emotion harsa tak tak hmanga hnathawh te, i hmangaih bo tawhte leh nun tawn tawhte chelh tlat te hian i nun hmasawn zel turin chakna i mamawh chu a pe thei che a ni.

Nangmah chauh i ni lo. Ṭanpuina i mamawh chuan dil hreh ngai suh. I rilru hriselna hi a hlu em em a ni.

` Lungngaihna, lungngaihna, hlohna, rilru hriselna, hmachhawn, tihdam, hahdamna