Engtin nge i fa chu i thunun theih ang? Hemi chungchang hi han sawi ila!

Nu leh pa kan nih angin kan mawhphurhna lian ber pakhat chu kan fate thununna tha leh nungchang tha tak nena enkawl hi a ni. Mahse, a châng chuan hei hi kan ngaihtuah angin a awlsam lo a ni lawm ni? A bikin naupang tê tê tân chuan ‘hei hi ti suh’ tih leh ‘Chutiang ti suh’ tihte hrilhfiah hi harsatna lian tak a ni thei. A châng chuan naupang tê tê chu heng thilte hi engtin nge a hriatthiam theih ang tih kan ngaihtuah \hin. Vawiin hian i fate chu hmangaihna nei tak, mahse nghet taka thunun theih dan tur, a kum nena inmil, ṭhian nena inbiakna ang maia i thunun theih dan tur i sawi ang u.

Engvângin nge discipline practice-naah hian consistency hi a pawimawh êm êm?

Thununna chungchâng sawi a nih chuan, hriat reng tûr thumal hmasa ber chu consistency . A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, i fate i pek dan leh thupekte chu a inang reng tur a ni. Vawiin hian thil pakhat i sawi a, naktuk hian thil dang i sawi a nih chuan, emaw, nuin thil pakhat a sawi a, pain thil dang a sawi a nih chuan, i fa hian engtin nge a ngaih? An buai hle thin. ‘Aw, hei hi chutiang thil lian tak a ni lo’ tiin an ngaihtuah a, dan chu an ngaihthah mai thei.

Ngaihtuah teh, vawiinah hian ‘living room-ah infiamna dah suh’ i ti a, mahse naktuk hian dad-in engmah a sawi loh chuan, emaw, nangmah ngeiin i theihnghilh a nih chuan naupang tê tan chuan hriatthiam a harsa hle. Naupangte hian hetiang thil hi an pick up thiam hle. Chuvangin, i pasal/nupui nen hian dan inang thenkhat in inrem a, nitin in zawm reng a pawimawh hle. Tichuan naupang chuan ‘hei hi kawng dik a ni, hei hi kan in kalphung a ni’ tih a hrethiam ta a ni. Hetianga inmilna hian naupang chu himna a pe a, a chhan chu a beisei tur leh a huam chin chu eng nge ni tih a hriat vang a ni.

Kum 0-2 inkar naupangte hi engtin nge kan thunun ang?

Hetiang kum naupangte hian thil an hre duh hle. Khawvela thil thar an hmuh hian engkim khawih a, an kâa thun an duh ṭhin. Hei hi an khawvel an chhui lai hun a ni. Chuvangin discipline kan zirtir hmain an tan boruak hi him taka kan siam a ngai a ni. Chu chu ‘ni lo’ tih thumal an hriat reng a tulna tihziaawmna kawng tha ber a ni.

Thil hlauhawm leh ‘khawih suh’ tih te hi kan dah bo tur em ni?

I in chhungah naupang tê tê, a kekawrte emaw, kea kal emaw i neih chuan, i tih hmasak ber chu a tâna hlauhawm thei thil, emaw, khawih lo tûra kan hrilh fo ṭhin thilte chu a thlen theih lohna hmunah dah a ni. Hei hi ‘child-proofing’ an ti a.

Ngaihtuah teh, television, video hmanrua, stereo wire, i jewelry hlu tak tak, a bik takin damdawi, tihfai tur tui (e.g., Harpic, bleach), heng zawng zawng hi naupang tê têin an khawih duh mai thei thil a ni. Tin, thil hrual (scissors, chemte), infiamna chi hrang hranga chhe thei, leh plastic bag te chu hla takah dah tur a ni. Electrical outlet-ah pawh protective cover dah a tha hle bawk.

"Environment him taka siam hi 'ni lo, ni lo' tih fo ai chuan a tha zawk hle. Tichuan naupang chu zalen takin a khel ang a, rilru thlamuanna pawh i nei thei bawk ang."

Entirnan, Nilu naute a tlan tan tirh khan a tih hmasak ber chu living room-a glass teapot hniam tak chu la chhuakin, kitchen-a damdawi dahna cabinet-ah lock te tak te a dah a. Chutiang chuan naute hliam hlauhna a tlem zawk a ni lawm ni?

‘Ni lo’ tih, ngaihtuahna tibuaitu (Distraction) .

Mahse, eng ang pawhin fimkhur mah la, a châng chuan i fa chu thil hlauhawm takah a vakvai thei a ni. Chutiang hunah chuan a tha ber chu muangchangin mahse nghet takin, "Ni lo, fapa/fanu," tih a, chu hmun atanga paih chhuah hi a ni. Tichuan, a ngaihtuahna chu thil dang tha leh him takah a hruai leh ang. Hei hi distraction an ti a .

• Engtin nge i ngaihtuahna i tihbuai?
• A duhzawng toy pe rawh. "I ball mawi tak kha han en teh."
• Amah nen hla tlem tal sa la, a nih loh leh kut beng game khelhpui rawh.
• Window atanga êng lo chhuak chu kawhhmuh la, "En teh, chutah chuan sava mawi tak a awm a ni," tih ang chi hi sawi rawh.
• Room dangah hruai la, thil dang atan hmang rawh. "Lehkhabu chhiar turin kan kal dawn em ni?"

A pawimawh ber chu aw nghet tak, fiah tak, khauh tak tak lova ‘ni lo’ tih hi a ni. Naupang tê tête chuan aw ri inang lo chu an hre thiam hle. Muangchangin mahse nghet taka i sawi chuan a hlawk zawk ang.

‘Time-out’ tih dan hi naupang tê tê tan a tha em?

Naupang kum khat skip tawh leh hrethiam tlem tan tawh, a tlangpuiin kum 1.5 emaw kum 2 emaw hnuah chuan ‘time-out’ tih hmangin nungchang tha lo thenkhat (e.g., tumruh taka vuak, chew, thil paih) tihtawp nan a pui thei a ni. Mahse hei hi hriatthiam a ngai a, dik taka tih a ngai a ni.

• Eng ang nungchang nge ‘time-out’ pek theih?
• Naupang dang i vuak emaw i seh emaw chuan.
• Chaw emaw in tur emaw chu tumruh taka paih a nih chuan.
• Thil i tih chhunzawm zel chuan i duh lo tih i sawi thin.
• Engtin nge ‘time-out’ i pek?

1. A hmasain, a thil tihsual leh a dik loh chhan chu thumal awlsam tlemte hmangin hrilh rawh. Entirnan, "Midang vuak hi a dik lo, fapa/fanu." Amah/amah chu khauh takin awm suh la, hau suh.

2. Tichuan, a hmaa i lo buatsaih tawh hmun reh, boring lo takah hruai la (e.g. kitchen chair, staircase hnuai lam, play area atanga hla deuha dah mat te tak te). Hei hi hremna hmun a ni lo va, a rilru hahdam deuh a, a thil tih ngaihtuah nana hmun a ni.

3. Minute khat emaw minute hnih emaw chhung chu chutah chuan dah la . Naupang tê tê chu chutah chuan awm rei tawh chu awmzia a nei lo. Rule of thumb tlangpui chu naupang kum tin kum tin minute khat a ni. (Entirnan: Naupang kum 2 mi tan minute 2). Chu aia rei chu chutah chuan i dah chuan hremna ang maiin a lang thei a, naupang chu a thinrim lehzual thei bawk.

4. ‘Time-out’ a lo zawh chuan tih leh tum tawh suh. Hmangaihna nen la la, "Tunlai hian i rilru a hahdam tawh em?", tiin zawt la, chutah chuan thil tha dangah inhmang rawh. A rilru a hahdam tawh a nih chuan kuah tlem pe la, hmangaihna nen, "Khawngaihin chutiang chu ti leh tawh suh, a tha em?"

"Hriat reng tur chu, 'time-out' hi naupang thinrim avanga hausakna a ni lo. An rilru put hmang thunun theihna tur, rilru hahdam taka awm theihna tur leh an thil tih chu a dik lo tih hriatthiam tir tumna a ni.

"Hetiang dan hi naute kum 1.5 - 2 hnuai lam tan chuan hriatthiam harsa tak a ni lo mai thei. A hmaa kan sawi tawh ang khan distraction method hi an tan a tha zawk."

Hitting leh slapping hi a tha lo tak zet!

Hei hi nu leh pa tam takin an ngaihtuah a ngai a, a pawimawh hle bawk. Naupang kum eng pawha taksa hremna pek, vuak, vuak, beng, beng hrual ang chi hi a tha lo. A bik takin naupang kum 0-2 inkar tan chuan an nungchang leh taksa hremna inzawmna engmah an hrethiam thei lo. Natna leh hlauhna chauh an nei.

• I vuak hian eng nge thleng?
• Naupang chu a hlauthawng a. A hmuh hunah pawh a hlauthawng tan mai thei.
• Naupang chu a chetsual thei (harsatna a awm chuan an vuak a, an hliam bawk).
• Nang leh i fa inkara hmangaihna inzawmna chu a chhe ta a ni. Rinna a tlahniam.
• Naupang chuan, ‘Miin tihsual a neih chuan hliam hi a pawi lo’ emaw, ‘Upa zawkte tan naupang zawkte vuak hi a pawi lo’ emaw tiin a ngaihtuah mai thei.
• Chutih lai chuan nungchang ṭha lo chu a tawp tawh ang maiin lang mah se, naupang chuan chuta ṭang chuan zirlai a zir chhuak lo. Mom/dad man lova hetiang tih dan hi a zir mek a ni.

"A tam zawkah chuan nu leh pate hian an fate chu an thinrimna an thunun theih loh emaw, an dawhtheihna an hloh emaw hian an vuak thin. Mahse, chu chuan naupang tan engmah a ti tha lo. Chu ai chuan nangmah ngei pawhin tlem tal rilru hahdam la, thawk la la, kawng dang hmang rawh. A tul chuan chu hmun chu rei vak lo chhuahsan la, i rilru a hahdam hunah naupang chu biak leh rawh."

Entawn tlak tak pawh kan ni thei ang em? (Role Modeling) tih a ni.

Naupangte hian kan thusawi a\angin ni lovin, kan thiltih a\angin an zir \hin. Chu chu role modeling tih awmzia chu a ni. Nu leh pate hi an entawn tlak hmasa ber leh ropui ber an ni. Sponge ang mai an ni a, kan thiltih leh thusawi zawng zawng hi an hip lut vek a ni.

• I fa chu ‘infiamna thil dah bo’ tiin i au a, i chanchinbu te, i lehkhabu te, i thawmhnaw te chu hmun tinah i hnutchhiah a nih chuan naupang chuan eng nge a zir ang? ‘Aw, mom/dad sawi ang an ti lo,’ a dik em?
• I thinrim laia i au a, kawngkhar i hrual emaw, thil i vawrh emaw chuan i fa pawhin chutiang bawk chu tih a zir ang.
• ‘Min ngaidam rawh’, ‘lawmthu’, ‘khawngaihin’ tih ang chi thumal i hman a, midang i zah chuan i fa chuan chu thumal leh nungchang chu a zir chhuak nghal mai ang.

"Chuvangin, kan fate zirtir kan tum thin nungchang tha tak takte hi kan inhmang hmasa tur a ni. Kan bungrua kan vawn that chuan, kan ei laiin kan ei dik a nih chuan, kan thusawi laiin thu tha tak tak kan hmang a nih chuan naupang pawhin chu entawn tur chu a la ve ngei ang (Role Model). Hei hi i ngaihtuah aiin discipline kalpui dan chak zawk a ni.

Thil tha ngaihlu (Positive Reinforcement) .

Thununna chu tihsual hremna mai a ni lo. Naupang thil tha tenau ber pawha fak chu positive reinforcement a ni .Discipline practice hi a pawimawh hle. Chu chuan naupang chu eng nge dik tih leh a hnen atanga kan beisei tur a hriatthiam theih nan a pui a ni.

• Ngaihtuah teh, i naupang tê chuan a khelh zawh a, infiamna pakhat chu bawm chhungah a dah leh a, "Aw ka fapa/fanu, a ropui khawp mai!" nuihzat hmel deuh chungin, chu chuan an tan awmzia a nei hle ang.
• Chaw i dil a, i ei a, "En teh, ka fa hian mawi takin a ei a ni," i tih chuan chu thil tha chu tih leh chu a chak lehzual ang.
• I tih tur thil tenawm tak tak an tih chuan, "I ti tha hle mai, fapa/fanu, mom/dad i tanpui avangin."

"Thil tha lo ngaihven ai chuan nungchang tha ngaihven leh fakna hmang hian naupang hian thil tha a ti duh zawk a ni."

"Hetiang kum naupang tan hian i nuihzatthlakna, hmangaihna nena i thusawi te, kut beng tlemte pawh hi fuihna ropui tak a ni. Hei hian an mahni inngaihsakna a tipung bawk."

Naupang tê tête zingah thinrimna leh discipline

Kum khat leh a chanve atanga kum hnih vel an nih chuan naupang tê tam tak chu an tap nasa ṭan a, an inher a, an au a, thil tenau ber pawh chungah an lu an vawm bawk. Hei hi ‘tantrums’ emaw temper tantrums kan tih chu a ni. Nu leh pate chu hengte an hmuh hian an thinrim thei a, an lungawi lo thei bawk.

• Engvângin nge naupang tê tête hian hetiang hian an tih?
• Hetiang kum hian an rilru natna lian tak – thinrimna, lungngaihna, lungngaihna – chu tawngkam hmangin an sawi chhuak thei lo. Chuvangin hetiang hian an chhuah tir ta a ni.
• Frustration hi thil i duh a, i hmuh loh hian a lo thleng thin.
• Chauhna, riltam, leh mutthilh ang chi thilte pawhin hei hi a thlen thei a ni.
• A châng chuan, hei hi an duhzawng hmuh theihna kawng a ni tih pawh an hre thei (ṭap leh au thawm hmanga an duhzawng an hmuh chuan).
• I thinrim hian eng nge i tih thin?

1. Muangchangin awm rawh: I thinrim emaw, i au emaw chuan thil awmdan chu a chhe zual thei. Thâwk la la.

2. Naupang chu a him em tih enfiah: Mahni inhliam lohna hmunah a awm ngei ngei tur a ni. A bul hnaia thil hriam tak a awm chuan paih chhuak rawh.

3. A theih chuan ngaihsak lo: Naupang chu a him a nih chuan a chang chuan tih tur tha ber chu chutih laia an nungchang ngaihsak lutuk loh hi a ni. I chhân lêt tam lutuk chuan (hau, inhnial, an thil dil chu inpe mai thei), ngaihven hlawh leh tûr emaw, an duhzâwng hmuh nân emaw an hmang mai thei.

4. Thinrim hnuah: A rilru a hahdam chuan hmangaihna nen sawipui rawh. A rilru put hmang i hriatthiamzia lantir la, "I thinrim tak zet a ni lawm ni?" "Mahse, au chhuahpui ai chuan mom/dad hnenah i sawi tur a ni," tih awlsam takin sawifiah rawh. Hmangaih takin kuah rawh.

"Tantrum zawng zawng hi naupang nungchang dik lo a ni lo. He kum lo thanglian zelnaah hian a tel ve a ni. Chutih lai chuan dawhthei tak, hriatthiamna nei tak leh nghet taka kan che a pawimawh hle.

A tawp berah chuan thil pawimawh thenkhat hriat reng tur

Chuvangin, i fa naupang zawk thunun hi zinkawng lian tak a ni. Zan khata tih theih thil a ni lo. A pawimawh ber chu hmangaihna, dawhtheihna leh inmilna te hi a ni.

• Hmangaihna nei mah la, nghet takin awm rawh: I dante chu hmangaihnain hrilhfiah la, mahse, tihpuitlin kawngah nghet takin awm rawh. I fain i hmangaihna chungchangah rinhlelhna a neih tir suh.
• Kum nena inmil: Kum hnih mi naupangin a hriatthiam dan ni lovin, kum nena inmil hmanrua hmang rawh.
• Dawhtheihna, dawhtheihna, dawhtheihna: Thil thenkhat chu naupangin a zir theih nan hun a mamawh a. Nitin inthlak danglamna tlemte chauh a thleng dawn a ni. Lungngai suh.
• Entawn tlak ni rawh: I fa chuan i hnen atanga an thil hmuh atang hian a zir nasa ber a ni.
• Vuak emaw, vau emaw pumpelh rawh: thil \ha aiin chhiatna an ti tam zawk. Chu ai chuan thil \ha lam hmang zawk rawh.
• Thil tha ngaihlu (Positive Reinforcement): Thil tha te te pawh ngaihlu. A fuih ang.
• Nangmah chauh i ni lo: Nu leh pa zawng zawng hian heng harsatnate hi kan tawk vek a ni. A tul chuan damdawi lam thurawn la la, chhungkaw hriselna lama thawktu hnen atangin thurawn la la, a nih loh leh puitling rintlak tak hnen atangin thurawn la rawh.

Fa enkawl hi thil awlsam a ni lo va, mawhphurhna duhawm leh hlu tak a ni. He zinkawng hlawhtlinna tur hian chakna i neih theih nan thinlung takin duhsakna ka hlan a che u!

` Naupang thununna, naupang thunun, Time-out, Positive Discipline, Nu leh Pa, Naupang tê, Nungchang, Role Model, Consistency, Tantrums