I mahni inngaihhlutna chu engtin nge a awm? Hemi chungchang hi tlem kan sawi thei ang em?

‘Mahni inngaihhlutna’ tih thumal hi kan hre reng a ni lawm ni? He mahni inngaihhlutna hian kan nun hlimna leh hlawhtlinnaah nghawng lian tak a nei niin an sawi. Mahse a chang chuan mi thenkhat tan chuan he mahni inngaihhlutna hi thil tenawm tak tak pawha tihdanglam theih thil a ni. Hei hi hetah leh khawiah pawh a thleng thei a, chu chu kan nunah mite leh kan chhungril atanga aw lo chhuak ang chi thil vang a ni. Chuvangin, he thu hi tlem tal thuk zawka sawi ila a tha ka ti hle.

Mahni Inngaihhlutna chu eng nge ni?

A awlsam zawngin sawi ila, mahni inngaihhlutna chu i inngaihtuah dan, i hlutna i pek dan a ni. I chakna leh chak lohna nen i in pawm em, i inhmangaih em, i inzah em tih a kawk a ni. Kan rilruah darthlalang ang mai a ni. Chu darthlalang chuan chiang tak leh tha takin min kawhhmuh a nih chuan kan inngaihhlutna a sang hle. Mahse, a blurry a, mi hnuaihnung zawk anga min lantir chuan mahni inngaihsakna hniam kan nei kan ti thei ang, hrethiam em? Chuvangin, mahni inngaihsakna tha neih hi a pawimawh hle . Innghahna nghet tak ang a ni. Kan nunah harsatna lo thlengte hmachhawn turin min pui a, thil thar bul tanna leh midangte nena inlaichinna tha kan neih reng theih nan min pui thin. Mahni inngaihhlutna a hniam chuan thil tenau ber pawh kan buai a, mahni inrintawkna kan hloh a, thil thar tih hlauhna kan nei thin. Chuvang chuan hei hi hriat chian a pawimawh hle.

Mahni inngaihhlutna tichhe thei thilte chu engte nge ni?

Tunah en teh, he mahni inngaihhlutna hi hmun khata awm leh kawng khata awm thil a ni lo. A chho leh chho thei bawk. Thil chi hrang hrangin a nghawng a ni. A nghawngtu ber chu eng nge ni tih i lo en ang u.

Kan thinlung chhungril atanga aw lo chhuak (Inner Voice) .

Nangmah leh nangmah i inbia ngai em? Ni e, kan ti vek a ni. Hei hi ‘chhungril aw’ kan tih chu a ni . A chang chuan he aw hi a ngilnei hle a, ‘i ti thei’, ‘hei hi a tha’ tih te a sawi thin. Mahse a chang chuan he aw hi a khauh hle a, ‘i ti thei’, ‘i â’, ‘i tangkai lo’ tih ang chi thil tha lo tak tak a sawi thin. Chuvangin he aw tha lo tak hi kan hriat reng chuan kan mahni inngaihhlutna a tlahniam tan thin. Dik taka sawi ila, kan insawisel lutuk chuan kan inngaihhlutna atan a tha lo.

Kan Nunnaah Mite

Kan chhehvela mite hian mahni inngaihhlutnaah nghawng lian tak an nei bawk. I chhungte, i thiante, i kawppui, i hnathawhna hmuna mite... Mi zawng zawng thusawi leh thiltih hian min nghawng a ni. Ngaihtuah teh, passion nena thil i tih lai hian mi pakhatin i bulah lo kal a, ‘Aw, chutiang chu i ti thei a, i tha em em a ni! Chu chuan kan mahni inngaihhlutna a tipung lehzual a ni. Mahse, i thil tih sawiseltu leh i hnena thu sawi hniamtu miten an hual reng che chuan i inrintawkna chu zawi zawiin a tlahniam thei a ni. Bullying ang chi thil i hmachhawn a ngai a nih chuan chu pawh chu i mahni inngaihhlutna tichhetu lian tak a ni.

Nun chhunga thil tawn te

Kan nunah hian thil tawn hrang hrang kan tawk vek a. Ṭhenkhat chu an hlim a, ṭhenkhat chu an lungngai. Kan hlawhtlinnate hi, Hriatpuina kan dawn hian mahni inngaihhlutna a tipung a ni. Mahse, chak lohna te, beidawnna te, leh thil rapthlak tak takte ang chi thilte hian kan inngaihhlutna a nghawng thei a ni. A pawimawh ber chu hetiang thil tawn hnua kan thawh leh dan hi a ni. Mi thenkhat chu tihsual tlemte an neih hnuah pawh an tlu thin. Mahse thenkhat chuan an hnen atangin an zir a, an chak zawk thin.

Social Media ah a awm a

Tunlai hian social media hian kan inngaihhlutnaah nghawng lian tak a nei ta a ni. Facebook leh Instagram ang chi thilahte hian midangte nunah thil tha leh mawi ber ber chauh kan hmu thin a ni lawm ni? Mi zawng zawng hlim leh hlawhtling anga kan lan hian a chang chuan keimahniah beidawnna kan nei thei. 'Engvangin nge ka nun hi hetiang hian a awm?' Kan ngaihtuah mai thei. Heng a tul lo taka tehkhin hian kan mahni inngaihhlutna a tihhniam theihna chance nasa tak a nei a ni. Chuvangin social media kan hman hunah kan fimkhur hle a ngai a ni.

Taksa hriselna leh hmel lan dan

Kan taksa hriselna leh kan hmel lan dan kan hriat dan pawh hi mahni inngaihhlutna nen a inzawm tlat a ni. Natna kan vei emaw, kan chau reng reng emaw chuan kan rilru put hmang leh mahni inngaihhlutna a nghawng thei a ni. Tin, mi thenkhat chuan an hmel (san zawng, rit zawng, vun rawng ang chi) an ngaihtuah lutuk a, midang nen an tehkhin a, hrehawm an ti hle bawk. Mi zawng zawng hi kan danglam vek a , mi zawng zawng hi mahni duh danin kan mawi tih hriatthiam a pawimawh .

Mahni inngaihhlutna hniam tak lanchhuahna chu engte nge ni?

Okay, tunah chuan, ‘Mahni inngaihsakna hniam tak ka nei em tih ka hre lo’ tih hi i ngaihtuah mai thei. Chutianga i ngaihtuah a nih chuan, nang pawhin heng mizia hi i nei em tih chu rei lo te hmang la.

• Mahni inpuh reng: ‘Ka thei lo’, ‘Ka tha tawk lo’ tih ang chi thil tha lo i ngaihtuah reng chuan.
• Harsatna pumpelh: Thil thar bul ṭan i hlau a, hna harsa tak i thawk a, a nih loh leh, ‘Ka hlawhchham chuan engtin nge ka tih ang?’ tih i ngaihtuah reng chuan.
• Fakna pawm duh lohna: Miin thil ṭha tak a sawi che chuan, ‘Aw ni lo, chutiang chu a ni lo,’ tiin i pumpelh ṭhin.
• Midang nena in tehkhin reng a, hetiang thil: ‘Ani hian hei hi a nei a, kei chuan ka nei lo’ tih ang chi ngaihtuah a , i lungngai hle a nih chuan.
• Thil tihsual hlauh lutuk: Thil tihsual tlemte pawh i ngaihtuah lutuk a, nangmah leh nangmah i beidawng a nih chuan.
• Mi ti lawm: Engkim hi i duh lo a nih pawhin ‘ni’ tih hi midangte rilru a tihnat dawn avangin.
• Sawiselna laka rilru na lutuk: Miin sawiselna tlemte a siam chuan i thinlungah i la a, ni tam tak chhung i ngaihtuah thin.
• Hlutna nei lo anga inhriatna: ‘Tumah tan engmah ka hlu lo’, ‘Ka awm theih nan engmah ka hlu lo’ tih ang chi rilru i neih chuan .

Chutiang mizia pakhat emaw pahnih emaw neih chu thil pangngai tak a ni. Mahse, tam tak chu i chungah a hman theih a, heng rilru put hmangte hi i hmachhawn reng a nih chuan, i mahni inngaihhlutna hi i en a hun tawh.

Engtin nge i mahni inngaihhlutna i siam a, i humhim?

Thu lawmawm tak chu mahni inngaihhlutna hi kan siam that theih thil a ni. Exercise leh taksa siam that ang bawkin kan rilru pawh kan tichak thei bawk. Ṭanpui tûra kan tih theih ṭhenkhatte han thlir ila.

1. Ngaihtuahna tha lote chu dodal rawh

Kan rilru chhunga aw tha lo awm chu ka sawi a. Chu aw chu a lo thlen chuan pawm mai mai suh, challenge rawh. ‘Chu chu keimah ka ni tak tak em?’, ‘Hei hi finfiahna a awm em?’, ‘ A danglamin ka ngaihtuah thei lo em ni?’ tih ang chi zawhnate inzawt rawh. Exam-ah harsatna i tawk niin han ngaihtuah teh. ‘Ka â,’ tih ngaihtuah ai chuan, ‘Tun ṭumah hian ka ti ṭha lo a, mahse a dawt lehah chuan ka bei lehzual ang,’ tih i ngaihtuah thei a ni lawm ni? Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) ang chi therapies-a zirtirna technique te hian a chang chuan hei hi a pui thei a ni.

2. Mahni Inkhawngaihna tih dan hmang rawh

I ṭhian ṭha ber chu a lungngaih laiin engtin nge i enkawl? I hau em? Nang lo maw? Amah chu ngilnei tak leh hriatthiamna nen i sawipui em. Chutiang chuan i in enkawl tur a ni. Tihsual kan nei vek a, chak lohna kan nei vek. Chutih lai chuan mahni inpuh ai chuan, ‘A pawi lo, kei pawh mihring ka ni’ tih hi ngaihtuah rawh. Mahni inngaihhlutna siam nan mahni chunga ngilneihna hi a pawimawh hle.

3. Tum Tak Takte Siam rawh

Vawi khata thiltum lian tak tak tihhlawhtlin kan tum hian kan hlawhchham chuan kan lungawi lo thuai thin. Chuvângin, i tih theih tak tak tûr thiltum tê tête siam rawh . Chutiang thiltum pakhat i tihhlawhtlin chuan lawm rawh. Nangmah leh nangmah i inhriatthiam tir ang a, nangmah i inring bawk ang. Hnehna tenau te hian hnehna lian tham kawng a hawng thin.

4. I Chaknaah Ngaihtuah rawh

Talent engemaw zat, chakna engemaw zat kan nei vek. Lemziak thiam i thiam a, chaw siam thiam i ni mai thei, midang tanpui thiam i ni mai thei. I chak lohnate ngaihtuah lovin, i chaknate chu eng nge ni tih zawng rawh . Anmahni chu tihhmasawn rawh. I thiamna thil i tih hian i rilru a hahdam hle.

5. Inzawmna \ha siam

I thlawptu, fuihtu che leh anmahni bula i awm laiin i rilru hahdam tirtu che mite nen in hual vel rawh. Sawiseltu leh dah hniam fo thintute lakah inthiarfihlim a tha ber. Ramri siam rawh . Mi zawng zawng tan engkim nih tum suh la, nangmah leh nangmah hloh tum suh.

6. Mahni Inenkawl (Self-Care) .

Hei hi a pawimawh hle. I taksa leh rilru hian chawlh hahdam leh ei leh in tha a mamawh a ni. Chaw ei tha la, ni khatah tui in tam la, mut tha la, exercise la . I duhzawng thil tih theihna hun zawng rawh. Lehkhabu chhiar te, music ngaihthlak te, huan enkawl tlem te ang chi hlimna thlen thei thil ti rawh. Mahni kan inenkawl hian kan inngaihtuah \ha \hin.

7. Ni lo tih zir rawh

Mite tihnat hlauh vangin engkim hi, kan tan harsa viau pawh ni se, ‘ni’ kan ti fo thin. Mahse chu chuan pressure hnuaiah min dah mai a ni. I tih theih loh tak tak emaw, tih duh loh emaw a awm a nih chuan ‘ni lo’ tih hi hlau suh . Hun leh tha a humhim che a, nangmah i inzahzia a tilang bawk.

8. Famkim lohnate pawm rawh

Tu mah famkim an awm lo. Kan vai hian tlin lohna leh tihsual kan nei vek a. Mi famkim nih tumna (Perfectionism) hian keimahni chungah pressure a siam chauh a ni. I tlin lohnate nen in pawm rawh. I tihsual chuan zir chhuak la, hma la rawh.

9. Midangte tanpui rawh

Midang tana thil tha tlemte kan tih hian hlimna nasa tak kan hmu thin. Mahni leh kan hlutna te min titha a ni. Volunteer , ṭhenawmte ṭanpui la, mi pakhat chu i theih ang anga ṭanpui rawh.

10. A tul chuan Professional Help zawng rawh

A châng chuan, eng ang pawhin bei mah ila, heng rilru put hmang ṭha lote hi hneh a harsa thei hle. Chutiang hunah chuan professional counselor emaw psychologist/psychiatrist emaw tanpuina lak a pawimawh hle . Chak lohna a ni lo va, mahni inngaihtuahtuin a tih tur a ni. Khawsik kan neih laia Doctor hmu tura kal ang mai a ni.

I hriat reng tur pawimawh ber berte (Take-Home Message) .

Chuvangin, i mahni inngaihhlutna hi i rilru hriselna atana pawimawh tak a ni. Thlai hlu tak ang mai a ni a, kan enkawl that a ngai a, kan chawm a, kan humhalh a ngai bawk.

I hlu a ni. Mahni inhmangaih la, mahni inzah la, nangmah ring rawh.

Mahni inngaihhlutna hi zan khat thil thua siam chhuah a ni lo. Hun leh thawhrimna a ngai a ni. Mahse thil theih loh a ni lo. Heng thilte hi i nunah zawi zawiin telh tum ang che. Ni engemaw zat chu a harsa ang a, engtikah emaw chuan a awlsam ang. Mahse, beidawng suh. Nangmah i inhriat that chuan nunin a rawn thlak che apiang hmachhawn turin chakna i nei ang. I hlimna chu i kutah a awm!

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