He kōrero mō te wikitoria i te pouri: Kāore koe i te mokemoke, me kōrero tāua.

Whakaarohia, he tino tika ngā mea katoa o tō ao. Kua moe tāne koe i te tangata e arohaina ana e koe, kua whai whare tōu ake, ā, kua whiwhi koe i te mahi i moemoeā ai koe mō ngā tau. Nō reira, me tino harikoa koe, tika? Engari me pēhea mēnā kei te tino pouri koe, kei te takoto kau, kei te mokemoke hoki? I tēnei rā ka kōrero ahau mō tētahi wahine kaha i pā ki tēnei wheako, ā, i puta mai i taua wheako. He kōrero pono tēnei. Mā roto i tēnei kōrero, ka kōrero hohonu tātou mō tēnei āhuatanga e kiia nei ko te pouri, e pāngia ana e te tini o te tangata e mamae puku ana.

He aha te pouri? He pouri noa iho rānei?

Ko tēnei wahine e kōrerohia nei e tātou, i te 27 o ōna tau, i pāngia e tēnei pouri rerekē i te wā i tika ai kia tino harikoa ia i roto i tōna ao. Ko te mea motuhake, i mahi ia hei kaiwhakaora hinengaro. Ko te tikanga he mōhiotanga tōna mō tēnei mate. Engari e ai ki tāna, koira te wā i mōhio ai ia ki te kino o tēnei mate, kaua ki te ako mai i roto i te pukapuka.

He tokomaha te hunga e whakaaro ana he pōuri noa iho te pouri, he panonitanga o te wairua e memeha haere ana i muri i tētahi wā. I te tuatahi, i kī atu ngā hoa, te whānau, me tana tāne ki a ia, "Whakakorea atu i roto i tō hinengaro," "Kaua e whakaaro ki tēnā." Engari ehara tēnā i te mea e taea te mahi.

He ngāwari noa iho, he rerekētanga nui i waenganui i te pouri noa me te pouri. Me titiro tātou ki tēnei rerekētanga kia mārama ake.

Te haerenga uaua ki te kimi maimoatanga

I mārama tēnei wahine ki tōna āhuatanga, ā, i rapu maimoatanga ia. I tūtaki ia ki ētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro. I tīmata anō hoki ia ki te kite i tētahi tohunga hinengaro mō te rongoā. Ko te tohunga hinengaro he tākuta e tohunga ana ki ngā mate hinengaro.

He wā tino uaua ngā tau e toru me te hawhe i muri mai mōna. Ahakoa i hoatu ki a ia neke atu i te tekau mā rua ngā momo rongoā me ngā huinga rongoā rerekē, kāore i tino awhina. I haere kino haere tōna āhua.

Te aro atu ki te āhuatanga kino rawa atu

Nā te kaha rawa o te mate i tīmata ai ia ki te whakaaro whakamomori . I kite ia kua kino haere ōna tohu i te ahotea o te mahi i te mara hauora hinengaro i mahi ai ia, nō reira me whakarērea e ia tana mahi. E whitu ngā wā i whakaurua ai ia ki te hōhipera nā te mea kāore e taea e ia te whakahaere i a ia anō.

I tēnei wā, ka tūtohu ngā tākuta i tētahi maimoatanga hou mōna. Ko te ingoa o tēnei ko te Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT) . Tērā pea ka mataku koe i te ingoa, engari he maimoatanga matatau ake, he haumaru ake hoki ināianei.

• He aha te ECT? He whakarāpopototanga noa iho, ko te tuku i te tūroro ki raro i te mate whakamoe whānui (kia kore ai e mōhio), te hoatu i ngā rongoā whakangāwari uaua, kātahi ka tukuna he iahiko hiko iti, tino whakahaeretia ki te roro. Ka āwhina tēnei ki te whakahoki i ngā tukanga matū o te roro ki te āhua noa. He maimoatanga kore mamae .

Ahakoa ngā maha o ngā wāhanga ECT, kāore i tino pai te oranga mōna. I tēnei wā, i tino pouri tana tāne, tōna whānau, me ōna hoa. Engari i haere tonu te wā ka tīmata rātou te mārama ehara tēnei i te wairua noa iho, engari he mate kino e kore e taea e ia te whakarerekē i ngā wā katoa e hiahia ana ia.

Te māramatanga o te tumanako me te aranga mai

Me te mea nei kāore he mea e kiia ana he pō tino tika, ka puta mai he tumanako. I a ia e noho ana ki te hōhipera whakamutunga, i whakarerekē katoatia e ngā tākuta ngā rongoā i tangohia e ia, ā, ka tīmata anō ia ki te ECT.

Me te mea he mahi makutu, ka tīmata te memeha haere o tōna pouri. E ai ki tāna ake kōrero, "I rite ki te mea kua whakatau tētahi rewera i roto i ahau ki te wehe atu i ahau."

Mai i taua wā, kua haere tonu ia ki te tango rongoā me te haere ki ngā wānanga tohutohu. Engari kua pai haere tōna āhua. Kua kitea anō e ia tētahi mahi hou hei kaitohutohu, ā, kei te whakamahi i ōna wheako hei āwhina i ētahi atu e mamae ana i taua ara anō.

Ko te akoranga nui rawa atu ka taea e tātou te tango mai i tēnei kōrero, ahakoa te kaha me te uaua o te whawhai ki te pouri, ka taea e te tangata te ora ake . E toru ngā mea matua i whai wāhi ki tōna oranga ake:

1. Tōna ake hiahia nui ki te ora.

2. He aratohu mai i ngā tākuta mohio.

3. Te tautoko pumau a te hunga e arohaina ana, inā koa te tāne.

Mena kei te hiahia āwhina koe, tetahi atu rānei e mōhio ana koe...

Ki te mea kei te pānui koe i tēnei tuhinga, ki te whakaaro rānei koe kei te pāngia tētahi e mōhio ana koe e ēnei tohu, kaua e mamae ko koe anake. Ehara te tono āwhina i te tohu ngoikore, engari he tohu kaha.

• Tuatahi, kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe. He hoa pea, he mema o te whānau, he kaiako rānei. He tino whakamarie te whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto.
• Ko te mea nui: Tirohia tonutia he tākuta. Tirohia tō tākuta whānau, ka whakamārama i tō āhuatanga. Ka taea e ia te tirotiro tika i a koe, me te whakatau mēnā he pouri tēnei, he mate rānei.
• Rapua te maimoatanga e tika ana. Mena e tika ana, ka tukuna koe e tō tākuta ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro, ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro rānei. Tērā pea ka hiahia koe ki te rongoā, ki te tohutohu, ki te whakakotahi rānei i ngā mea e rua.

Kia maumahara, kāore koe i te mokemoke. He wāhi, he tāngata anō hoki hei rapu āwhina. Mā te maimoatanga me te tautoko tika, ka taea hoki e koe te puta i tēnei wā pōuri.