Ngā mahi o te whare, ngā mahi a ngā tamariki, ngā mahi tari, ngā mahi a te tāne, ngā kawenga a ngā mātua... Kua wareware koe ki a koe anō i waenganui i ēnei mea katoa? Kei te ngenge koe i te rā roa, kāore e taea te moe i te pō, ā, kei te taumaha tō mahunga? Kāti, ehara ko koe anake te tangata e pāngia ana e tēnei. He tokomaha o tātou ngā wāhine e raru ana i tēnei mea e kiia nei ko te ahotea i ia rā, i ia rā. Nō reira, i tēnei rā, me kōrero tātou mō tēnei.
He aha rawa tēnei ahotea?
He kupu ngāwari noa iho, he wāhanga noa te ahotea o ō tātou oranga. Tērā ētahi wā ka āwhina i a tātou ki te aro atu ki ngā wero me te noho arotahi. Whakaarohia he whakaaturanga tāu hei tuku, ā, kei te ahua ahotea koe, nō reira ka pai ake tō whakarite mōna. He pai tēnā.
Engari ka tīmata te raruraru ina haere tonu tēnei ahotea. Ka kiia e mātou ko te ahotea mau tonu . Ina koa mō ngā wāhine, ka kore e taea te whakamanawanui i tēnei ahotea nā te taumahatanga o te tiaki i ngā hiahia o ētahi atu. I roto i te wā, ka tīmata tēnei ki te ahua noa. Engari ka pā kino ki tō tinana me tō hinengaro .
He rerekē te ahotea mō ngā wāhine me ngā tāne?
Ae, e pāngia ana tātou katoa e te ahotea, engari he rerekē te pānga ki ngā wāhine me ngā tāne. Tirohia ētahi o ngā kitenga mai i tētahi rangahau i whakahaerehia e te American Psychological Association.
| Ngā āhuatanga e kitea ana i roto i ngā wāhine | Te rerekētanga ki ngā tāne |
|---|---|
| Taumata ahotea | E ai ki a rātou he teitei ake te toharite o ngā taumata ahotea i ngā tāne. |
| Tautoko hinengaro | He nui ake te tūponotanga ka kī mai rātou me nui ake te tautoko hinengaro. |
| Ngā raruraru moni | He nui ake te mamae hinengaro o ngā wāhine i ngā tāne nā ngā āwangawanga e pā ana ki te moni. |
| Ngā āhuatanga ahotea matua | He nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakahuatia e rātou ngā kawenga whānau me ngā whanaungatanga whaiaro hei ngā ahotea matua o ō rātou ao. |
E whakapono ana ngā kairangahau e rua ngā take pea mō tēnei. Ko tētahi ko ngā āhuatanga koiora , pērā i ngā homoni i roto i ō tātou tinana. Ko tētahi ko ngā awe pāpori , pērā i te tautoko e riro mai ana i a tātou, te kore rānei o aua tautoko mai i te hapori.
He aha ngā tohu o te ahotea i roto i ngā wāhine?
He rite te ahotea ki tētahi hoariri huna. He maha ngā huarahi ka puta mai ai. Tērā pea kei a koe ēnei tohu, engari kāore pea koe e mōhio kei te puta mai i te ahotea. Tirohia mēnā he mōhio koe ki ēnei mea.
| Momo āhuatanga | Ngā tauira |
|---|---|
| Ngā āhuatanga ā-tinana | Te ānini pinepine, te kore moe, te pakari o ngā uaua (ina koa te kaki me te tuara), te kore hiahia kai, te kai nui rānei, ngā raruraru kiri, te ngenge, te mamae o te puku, me te heke o te hiahia ki te taatai. |
| Ngā āhuatanga hinengaro me ngā āhuatanga kare ā-roto | Te manukanuka tonu, te pouri, te riri, te kore harikoa, te whakaaro kei waho o te mana whakahaere ngā mea katoa, te hurihuri o te wairua, ngā whakaaro kino mō ngā mea katoa, te warewaretanga. |
| Ngā huringa whanonga | Te kore e taea te whakatau kaupapa, te uaua ki te arotahi, te ngaro o te hiahia ki tetahi mea, te noho mokemoke, te raru ki te whānau, te ngana ki te noho tawhiti atu i te hapori. |
| Ngā āhuatanga e pā ana ki te mahi | Te nui rawa o te mahi, te ngenge rawa, ngā raruraru whanaungatanga i te mahi, te uaua ki te arotahi. |
He aha ngā tino take o te ahotea i roto i ngā wāhine?
He maha ngā take, engari i te nuinga o te wā, koinei ngā mea matua:
- Ngā raruraru pūtea: He tino ahotea ngā raruraru pūtea.
- Ngā raruraru hauora: Te mate o te tangata ake, o te mema rānei o te whānau.
- Ngā raruraru whanaungatanga: ngā raruraru ki te whānau, te marena, me ngā hoa.
- Ngā raruraru i te mahi, i te mātauranga rānei: te nui haere o te mahi, te whakataetae.
Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnei, ko tētahi mea e tino pā ana ki ngā wāhine ko te kawenga ki te manaaki i ētahi atu . Ngā tamariki, ngā kaumātua, ngā mahi o te whare... I a rātou e mahi ana i ēnei mea katoa, he maha ngā wāhine e wareware ana ki a rātou anō. Ka waiho e rātou ō rātou ake hiahia, ō rātou ake okiokinga, ka whakatapua rātou ki ētahi atu.
I ētahi wā ka whakaaro tātou me tino tika te mahi i ngā mea katoa. He uaua ki te kī 'kāo' ina tono āwhina tetahi. Ka whakaae tātou ki aua mea ahakoa e mōhio ana tātou kāore i a tātou te wā, te kaha rānei. He take nui anō hoki tēnei mō te pikinga ake o te ahotea.
Ka ahatia tō hauora mēnā ka mau tonu tēnei ahotea?
He mea noa te pāngia e te ahotea mō te wā poto. Engari ki te roa te wā e mau tonu ai, ka pā mai he raruraru hauora nui. He rite ki te whakamāuiui haere i tō tinana mai i roto ki waho.
- Te ānini nui, te ānini auau rānei: Ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te ānini taumaha me te migraines.
- Mate manawa: Ka whakanui ake te toto toto tiketike i te mōrearea o te mate manawa me te whakaeke ngakau.
- Ngā raruraru o te pūnaha nakunaku: Ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), e puta ai ngā tohu pēnei i te pupuhi me te hau.
- Ngā raruraru hauora hinengaro: Ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te mate mataku, te mate manukanuka whānui, me te pouri nui.
- Mamae tinana: Te pakari me te mamae o ngā uaua.
- Momonatanga: Ka taea e te ahotea te whakararu i a koe ki te kai me te piki o tō taumaha.
- Te whiu: Ka whakanui ake i te mōrearea o te whiu.
- Te ngoikore o te pūnaha ārai mate: Ka roa ake te ora i muri i te mate, ā, ka maha ake ōu pānga kino.
Kāore he take e wehi ai koe i ēnei mea. Ko te mea nui, mā te whakahaere i tēnei ahotea hinengaro i raro i te arataki a te tākuta , ka taea te ārai i te nuinga o ēnei raruraru.
Nā, me pēhea te whakahaere i tēnei ahotea?
Ko te mea pai rawa atu, he maha ngā mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei whakahaere i tēnei. Ko te mea nui ko te whakaaro he mea nui koe. Tīmata ki te whakaaro ki a koe anō pērā i tō whakaaro ki ētahi atu.
Ngāna kia taunga ki ēnei mea i te tuatahi.
- Kai pai: Kai i te kai taurite. Kai atu i ngā huawhenua, ngā hua rākau, me ngā rau kakariki.
- Korikori Tinana: Mahia tetahi mea e werawera ai koe mō te 30 meneti pea i te rā. Hīkoi, oma, kanikani. He tino pai te korikori tinana hei whakaiti i te ahotea.
- Kia nui te moe: Whakamātauria kia moe koe i te iti rawa 7-9 hāora ia rā.
- Whakapaua te wā ki te taiao: Haere ki waho ka hikoi. Tirohia ngā rākau me ngā otaota. He tino marino.
- Mahia ngā mea hei whakamarie i te hinengaro: Whakaharatauhia ngā mahi pēnei i te yoga, te whakaaroaro, me ngā mahi manawa hōhonu.
- Whakaharatauhia te whakawhetai: Whakaarohia ngā mea pai o tō koiora. Kia harikoa ahakoa ngā mea iti.
- Whakaritea he wā mō tētahi mea e pārekareka ana ki a koe: pānui pukapuka, whakarongo waiata, mātaki kiriata, kōrero ki tētahi hoa. Whakaritea he wā iti i ia rā ki te mahi i tētahi mea e hari ai koe.
- Kia mau tonu ngā whanaungatanga pāpori: Kōrero ki te whānau me ngā hoa pono. Kōrerohia ō whakaaro.
Muri iho, whakaarohia tō hauora hinengaro.
- Kimihia te pūtake o tō ahotea: Tuhia ngā mea e pā ana ki a koe, me ngā mea e mahia ana e koe puta noa i te rā ki roto i tētahi puka tuhi. I roto i te wā, ka tīmata koe ki te mārama ki te wā me te take e pā ana te ahotea ki a koe. Kātahi ka taea e koe te whakarite i tētahi mahere hei karo, hei whakatau rānei i aua mea.
- Whakaharatauhia te kī 'kāo': Kaua e kī 'āe' ki ngā mea katoa. Mēnā he mea kāore e taea e koe te mahi, kāore rānei he wā mōna, me whakakore mārire. Whakatakotoria ō ake rohe.
- Tatau ki te 10: Ki te tino riri koe, kaua e tere tonu te tauhohe, mawehe atu i te āhuatanga ka tatau i roto i tō hinengaro ki te 10. Tangohia he manawa hōhonu kia torutoru.
- Me atawhai koe i a koe anō me te mea e atawhai ana koe i ētahi atu: He pēhea te atawhai o tōu ki ētahi atu? Kia atawhai hoki ki a koe anō. Ka taea hoki e koe te hē, kaua e whakapae i a koe anō mō tēnā.
- Whakatā i ngā pāpāho pāpori: Kaua e whakatata atu ki tō waea pūkoro me te mata rorohiko i ngā wā katoa e taea ai.
- Inoi āwhina: Ki te mea kei te raru tonu koe ki te whakaiti i tō ahotea i muri i te mahi i ēnei mea katoa, kaua e wehi ki te tono āwhina. He mea nui tēnei hei mahi. Tirohia tō tākuta whānau. Ka taea e ia te hoatu i te arataki e hiahiatia ana e koe, ā, ka taea pea e ia te tuku atu i a koe ki ngā rauemi pēnei i te whakaora hinengaro.
Ka rite te ahotea ki te taumaha i runga i ō pakihiwi. Ina koa ko tātou ngā wāhine, he nui ake te taumaha e pikauhia ana e tātou i tā te tangata kotahi e kaha ai. Kia maumahara, kāore he he o te tono āwhina. Ko tō hauora te mea e whakawhirinaki ana ki tēnā.
Karere Tangohia ki te Kāinga
- Ahakoa he mea noa te ahotea, he kino te ahotea mau tonu ki te tinana me te hinengaro.
- Kia tūpato ki ngā tohu pēnei i te ānini pinepine, te kore moe, te pukuriri, me te manukanuka. He tohu pea ēnei o te ahotea.
- He mea nui kia ako koe ki te kī 'kāo' ki ngā kawenga me ngā tono kāore e taea e koe te whakahaere. Tiakina ō rohe.
- Ko te kai taurite, te moe rawaka, me te whakakori tinana ngā patu kaha e toru hei whawhai ki te ahotea.
- Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te whakahaere i ēnei mea ko koe anake, kaua e mangere ki te toro atu ki te tākuta mō ētahi tohutohu. He tohu kaha te tono āwhina.











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