Kodi mumaganizapo kuti, 'Kodi ndingachitedi izi?' kapena mukukhumba kuti mudzidalire pang'ono? Zoona zake n'zakuti, tonsefe timakumana ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro amenewa pamlingo wosiyanasiyana m'miyoyo yathu. Ndizachilendo. Lero, tikambirana za kudzidalira. Ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pa chisangalalo chanu, kukula kwanu, komanso kupambana kwanu konse m'moyo.
Kodi chidaliro kwenikweni n'chiyani? Mwachidule…
Kudzidalira ndi chikhulupiriro chokhazikika komanso chamkati chomwe muli nacho mwa inu nokha komanso luso lanu. Sizikutanthauza kudzikuza kapena kudziona ngati ndinu wabwino kuposa wina aliyense. Ndi chinthu chokhazikika, chowonadi, komanso chotetezeka. Mwachidule, ndi chidziwitso chamkati chomwe 'ndingathe kuchita izi.'
Kodi anthu odzidalira amachita bwanji? Nazi zomwe mungazindikire:
- Savutika ndi malingaliro osafunikira a kusadzidalira; amamva kuti ali otetezeka mkati mwawo.
- Amadziwa kuti akhoza kukumana ndi chilichonse chomwe chingawachitikire pa moyo wawo podalira luso lawo komanso mphamvu zawo zamkati .
- Amamva kuti ali okonzeka kuthana ndi mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku monga mayeso, mpikisano, kapena kulankhula pagulu.
- M'malo moganiza kuti “Sindingathe,” nthawi zonse amaganiza kuti “Ndingathe.”
Tangoganizani kuti mwapatsidwa mwayi wochititsa chochitika kusukulu. Mukufunadi kuchita zimenezo, koma mukuganiza kuti, “Nanga bwanji ndikalakwitsa? Nanga bwanji ndikalankhula movutikira pamaso pa aliyense?” Chimenecho ndi chizindikiro chakuti kudzidalira kwanu kukuchepa. Komabe, munthu wodzidalira amaganiza kuti, “Inde, sindinachitepo izi kale, koma ndiyesetsa. Ndikhoza kuchita izi.” Ndi kusiyana kumeneku.
N’chifukwa chiyani kudzidalira n’kofunika kwambiri kwa ife?
Kudzidalira kuli ngati bwenzi labwino lomwe limakuthandizani kuyenda paulendo wa moyo. Kumatithandiza m'njira zambiri:
- Zimatikonzekeretsa kukumana ndi zokumana nazo pa moyo: Mukakhala ndi chidaliro, simuopa kukumana ndi zinthu zatsopano kapena kukumana ndi anthu atsopano. Mumapitilizabe kupita patsogolo m'malo mobwerera m'mbuyo.
- Zimatilimbikitsa kufufuza mwayi watsopano ndikulumikizana ndi ena: Ganizirani za nthawi yomwe munali ndi lingaliro labwino koma munali ndi mantha kwambiri kuti mugawane nalo. Ngati muli ndi chidaliro, mumamva kuti muli ndi mphamvu zofotokozera malingaliro anu. Taganizirani zitseko zingati zomwe zingakutsegulireni!
- Zimatithandiza kubwereranso tikalephera: Tonsefe timalakwitsa ndipo nthawi zina timalephera. Koma munthu wodzidalira samakhala pansi. Amadzukanso n’kuyeseranso.
Mbali ina ndi yomwe imachitika munthu akakhala ndi chidaliro chochepa. Anthu omwe ali ndi chidaliro chochepa nthawi zambiri amakayikira kuyesa zinthu zatsopano kapena kucheza ndi anthu atsopano. Ngati alephera koyamba, nthawi zambiri sangayesenso. Kusowa chidaliro nthawi zambiri kungatilepheretse kukwaniritsa zomwe tingathe. Zili ngati mbalame yokhala ndi mapiko akuluakulu yomwe imaopa kuuluka.
Tanthauzo la kudzikhulupirira wekha
Kodi wina anakuwuzanipo kuti ndinu waluso, woseketsa, wachifundo, waluso, wophunzira wabwino, wolemba, kapena wothamanga waluso?
Ena akazindikira mphamvu ndi luso lathu, zingatilimbikitse kudzidalira. Komabe, pali chinthu chimodzi: tiyeneranso kukhulupirira zinthu zabwino zimenezo. Kodi munayamba mwakayikirapo ngati wina wakupatsani chiyamiko, mukumaganiza kuti, “Akungokhala abwino, sindili wabwino kwenikweni?” Zimenezo n’zosiyana ndi kudzidalira.
Kuti mudzikhulupirire nokha, muyenera kudzimva kuti ndinu wokhoza komanso waluso. Njira yabwino kwambiri yomangira chikhulupiriro chimenecho ndikugwiritsa ntchito luso lanu—zomwe zikutanthauza kuphunzira, kuchita, ndi kuchitapo kanthu.
Kudzidalira kumatithandiza kuzindikira mphamvu zathu ndikuzikulitsa. Pamene tizindikira zomwe timachita bwino ndikudzitamandira ndi zomwe takwanitsa, kudzidalira kwathu kumakulanso.
Kodi mungatani kuti muwonjezere kudzidalira kwanu?
Iyi ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri. Nkhani yabwino ndi yakuti tonsefe tingathe kumanga chidaliro chathu, pang'onopang'ono. Nazi malangizo ena omwe mungayese:
1. Pangani malingaliro odzidalira
Iyi ndi sitepe yoyamba komanso yofunika kwambiri. Maganizo oipa monga akuti 'Sindingathe,' 'Izi n'zovuta kwambiri,' kapena 'Ndidzalephera' akayamba kuonekera, musawapatse mpata. M'malo mwake, phunzirani kuzindikira mawu amkati ndikusintha. Sinthani mawu akuti 'Sindingathe' ndi mawu olimba akuti 'Ndingathe!' Dziuzeni kuti, 'Inde, izi ndi zatsopano, koma ngati ndiyesetsa kuziganizira, nditha kuziphunzira kapena kuzikwaniritsa.' Zingamveke zovuta poyamba, koma zidzakhala chizolowezi mukamachita zinthu.
2. Dziyerekezereni nokha mokoma mtima
Tonsefe timadziyerekezera ndi ena, eti? Ndi zachibadwa. Zingatithandize kudzimvetsa tokha ndi kutilimbikitsa kukhala ndi makhalidwe omwe timawakonda mwa ena. Komabe, ngati kufananiza nthawi zonse kukupangitsani kumva chisoni, kukhumudwa, kapena kutsika mtengo, ndi vuto. Ichi ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti muyenera kuyesetsa kudzidalira. Yamikirani zabwino mwa ena pamene mukukhalabe osangalala ndi ulendo wanu.
3. Siyani kudzikayikira
Tikakayikira luso lathu, timadziona ngati otsika, osayenerera, kapena osakonzekera. Izi nthawi zambiri zimatipangitsa kupewa anthu ndi mwayi womwe ungatithandize kukula. Nthawi iliyonse mukaganiza kuti, "Sindingathe," tsutsani lingaliro limenelo. Dzikumbutseni zomwe mwachita bwino m'mbuyomu.
4. Tengani chiopsezo chotetezeka
Izi sizikutanthauza kutenga zoopsa. Zimatanthauza kusiya pang'ono zomwe mumakonda ndikuyesera chinthu chomwe nthawi zambiri mumachiopa koma mukudziwa kuti chingakhale chothandiza.
- Lowani nawo kalabu ya sukulu.
- Dziperekeni pa ntchito kapena chochitika cha anthu ammudzi.
- Yesani gulu kapena chiwonetsero cha luso.
- Kwezani dzanja lanu mkalasi kuti mufunse kapena kuyankha mafunso.
- Mwetulirani ndipo yambani kukambirana ndi munthu amene nthawi zambiri mumachita manyazi naye.
5. Dziyeseni nokha
Sankhani chinthu chomwe mungakonde kuchita ngati mutakhala ndi chidaliro chowonjezereka. Dzikakamizeni pang'ono ndipo chitanipo kanthu. Mukachikwaniritsa, sankhani china—ndipo pitirizani kuchita bwino. Gawo lililonse lomwe mukupita patsogolo limawonjezera chidaliro chanu, monga momwe kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi kumamangira minofu.
6. Dziwani luso lanu ndipo lithandizeni kuonekera bwino
Nthawi zambiri timaphunzitsidwa kuyang'ana kwambiri pakukonza zofooka zathu. Ngakhale kuti zimenezo zingakhale zofunika, monga kukweza giredi kusukulu, musalole kuti kuyesetsa kuthetsa zofooka zanu kukulepheretseni kuchita bwino pa zomwe mumachita kale. Kuchita zinthu zomwe mumachita bwino kumabweretsa chisangalalo, zomwe zimawonjezera kudzidalira kwanu.
7. Pitirizani ndi ntchito yanu
Ngati ndinu wophunzira, pitirizani ndi ntchito zanu, maphunziro, ndi mapulojekiti anu. Konzekerani kalasi, mafunso, ndi mayeso. Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa kukonzekera kumakupatsani chidaliro chachikulu. Kusasinthasintha ndiye chitetezo chabwino kwambiri ku nkhawa za mayeso ndi nkhawa za kusukulu. Kukonzekera ndiye chinsinsi cha kudzidalira.
8. Yesetsani kukhala inu enieni
Lolani ena akuoneni momwe mulili—kuphatikizapo zolakwa zanu ndi zofooka zanu. Tikasiya kuyesa kubisa umunthu wathu weniweni, zimakhala zosavuta kupitirira kusadzidalira kwathu. Landirani makhalidwe anu apadera ndikusangalala ndi umunthu wanu. Siyani kuyesa kukhala munthu wina kapena kuchita zinthu mwanjira yoti zikuoneka ngati zabodza. Zimafunika kulimba mtima ndi kudzidalira kuti mukhale munthu weniweni, koma mukamachita zambiri, kudzidalira kwanu kudzakula kwambiri. Kumbukirani, kudzidalira kumeneku ndiko kumakupangitsani kudzidalira.
Pitirizani! Musataye mtima!
Kudzidalira sikumakhala kofanana nthawi zonse. Masiku ena mumadzimva kuti simungathe kuletsa chilichonse, ndipo masiku ena mumadzimva kuti ndinu otsika pang'ono. Izi zimachitika kawirikawiri kwa aliyense—ngakhale anthu omwe akuwoneka kuti ali ndi zonse pamodzi.
Taganizirani ngati kusewera masewera a cricket. Tsiku lina mungagole zaka zana; tsiku lotsatira mungapite kukagula bakha. Kudzidalira kumagwira ntchito mofananamo.
Ngati chinachake chikukusokonezani, dzichitireni chifundo. Musadzipweteke.Pewani mawu oipa monga akuti “Ndilibe ntchito.” M'malo mwake, phunzirani kuchokera ku zomwe zinachitika, dzifunseni zomwe mungachite mosiyana nthawi ina, ndipo kumbukirani zimenezo. Lankhulani ndi munthu amene mumamudalira amene amakuthandizani. Kenako, dzikumbutseni za mphamvu zanu ndi zomwe munapambana kale. Bwererani mu masewerawa! Imirirani pamene munagwera!
Uthenga wopita nawo kunyumba
Chidaliro si chinthu chomwe chimamangidwa usiku wonse. Chili ngati kubzala munda. Uyenera kuuthirira, kuusamalira, ndikuulola kuti ulandire kuwala kwa dzuwa. Umu ndi momwe umakulira, kuphuka, ndi kubereka zipatso.
- Yambani kudzidalira. Dziwani kuthekera kwanu.
- Yesetsani kuchita zinthu zomwe zingakubweretsereni mavuto ang'onoang'ono. Kondwererani kupambana kwanu.
- Maganizo oipa akabwera, musawapatse mpata—yesani kuganiza bwino.
- Musadzichepetse nokha mwa kufananiza njira yanu ndi ya ena.
- Ngati mwalephera, phunzirani phunziro ndipo yesaninso.
- Musaope kukhala munthu weniweni.
Mungathe kuchita zimenezo! Ndinu amphamvu kwambiri kuposa momwe mukuganizira. Ngati mungathe kudzikhulupirira nokha, palibe chilichonse padziko lapansi chomwe simungathe kuchikwaniritsa!
Kudzidalira, Thanzi la Maganizo, Kudzithandiza, Kukula kwa Munthu, Kuganiza Bwino, Kudzidalira
