Ese wumva uremereye mu gihe utwite? Reka tubiganireho! (Ubuzima bwo mu mutwe mu gihe utwite)

Gutwita ni igihe cy'amarangamutima avanze, si byo se? Ntabwo ari nk'aho ugomba guhora wishimye. Niba rimwe na rimwe wumva uremerewe cyangwa uhangayitse, ntibitangaje, kandi ntuba uri wenyine. Ni ibisanzwe ko abantu benshi bagira ibi byiyumvo, cyane cyane iyo uri umubyeyi wa mbere cyangwa utwite utabiteganyije. Niba warigeze kugira amateka yo kwiheba cyangwa guhangayika, ibi bishobora kugorana kurushaho. Ni ngombwa kwiyitaho ku buzima bwawe n'ubw'umwana wawe. Ibyo bivuze kurya neza, gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri, gusinzira bihagije, no gufata vitamine zawe zo mu gihe cyo kubyara. Niba wumva uremerewe, ubabaye, cyangwa uhangayitse, ganira n'umuntu ku bijyanye na byo—kandi umenye igihe cyo gushaka ubufasha.

Ni ibihe byiyumvo bishobora kuvuka mu gihe cyo gutwita?

Ni ibisanzwe kugira ihindagurika ry'amarangamutima mu gihe utwite. Ibi bivuze ko ushobora kumva wishimye akanya gato hanyuma ukumva ubabaye mu kandi kanya. Ariko niba uhora wumva wihebye, uhangayitse, cyangwa utitaye ku bintu, bishobora kuba ikimenyetso cy'ikintu cyimbitse kurushaho. Imihangayiko yo gutwita, impinduka umubiri wawe urimo kunyuramo, ndetse n'imihangayiko yo mu buzima bwa buri munsi byose bishobora kugira ingaruka ku marangamutima yawe.

Ese twavuga kuri iyi ndwara yo kwiheba no guhangayika?

Noneho reka turebe icyo kwiheba ari cyo. Mu magambo make, ni igihe wumva ubabaye, wihebye, cyangwa urakaye mu byumweru, wenda amezi. Hari abantu bagira iyi ndwara mbere yuko batwita. Ariko rimwe na rimwe ishobora gutangira mu gihe cyo gutwita. Urugero, niba utishimiye gutwita, cyangwa niba ubana n'imihangayiko myinshi mu rugo cyangwa ku kazi, iyi ndwara ishobora kugaragara. Tekereza, igihe Nimali yari agiye kubyara umwana we wa mbere, yagize ibibazo byinshi ku kazi, kandi umugabo we yakoraga kure. Yumvaga ababaye kandi ari wenyine igihe cyose. Ubwo ni bumwe mu bwoko bw'ihungabana riza mu gihe cyo gutwita.

Igikurikiraho ni uguhangayika . Iki ni cyo gihe uhorana ubwoba n'impagarara ku bintu bishobora kubaho - ndetse wenda n'ibintu bishobora kutazigera bibaho. Niba usanzwe uhangayikishwa n'ibintu bito cyane, ibi bishobora kuba bibi kurushaho mu gihe utwite. Ushobora guhora uhangayikishwa n'ibintu nka 'Ese nzaba umubyeyi mwiza?', 'Ese nzashobora konsa umwana wanjye?', 'Ese nzagira amafaranga yo kurera umwana wanjye?' Iyo ibi bitekerezo bikomeje kugaruka, bishobora kugira ingaruka ku bikorwa byawe bya buri munsi.

Uretse ibi, ni ibihe bindi bibazo by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe bishobora kuvuka?

Uretse kwiheba no guhangayika, hari n'ibindi bibazo by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe bishobora kuvuka muri iki gihe. Reka turebe ibyo ari byo:

• Indwara ya Bipolar:Ibi birangwa n'ibihe byo gutakaza ingufu nke bisimburana, hagakurikiraho ibihe byo gushyuha cyane, birangwa no kwiyongera gutunguranye kw'ingufu n'ibikorwa.
• Indwara yo guhangayika nyuma yo guhungabana (PTSD): Iyi ni indwara yo mu mutwe ishobora kuvuka nyuma yo guhura n'ikintu gikomeye gikomeretsa (urugero: impanuka ikomeye, ihohoterwa rishingiye ku gitsina). Ishobora kurangwa no kwibuka ibintu bishya, kurota inzozi mbi, no kwirinda ibintu bikwibutsa ibyabaye.
• Ibitero by'ubwoba: Ibi ni ubwoba butunguranye kandi bukomeye, nko guhinda umushyitsi, guhumeka nabi, gutera umutima cyane, kubira ibyuya, kuzerera, no gutinya gupfa, nta mpamvu igaragara. Ibi akenshi birangira mu minota mike hanyuma bigashira nyuma y'igihe gito.
• Indwara yo Kwiheba no Kwishyira mu Bitekerezo (OCD): Iyi ni indwara aho ibitekerezo bidakenewe kandi bidasubirwaho (obsessions) biba mu mutwe, bigatera gukenera gusubiramo ibintu bimwe na bimwe (compulsions) kugira ngo ugabanye umuvuduko. Urugero, gukaraba intoki buri gihe kuko uhora utekereza kuri mikorobe, cyangwa kugenzura kenshi niba urugi rufunze.
• Indwara zo kurya: Urugero, indwara nko kurya cyane hanyuma ukaruka (Bulimia Nervosa), kugabanya ibyo kurya no kugabanya umubiri, no kutarya kubera gutinya kongera ibiro (Anorexia Nervosa). Ibi bibangamira cyane umubyeyi n'umwana mu gihe atwite.

Igikuru ni uko niba ufite ikibazo nk'iki mu gihe utwite , ari ngombwa kukibona uko gikwiye . Kuko, umuntu ufite ikibazo cyo kwiheba, guhangayika, cyangwa ibindi bibazo nk'ibyo ashobora kudashobora gukora ibintu nko kubona ubuvuzi akeneye, kujya kwa muganga no kurya indyo yuzuye neza. Kubwibyo, niba wumva umerewe nabi nk'uku, vugana na muganga wawe . Muri ubwo buryo, ushobora kubona ubufasha ukeneye mu gihe utwite na nyuma yo kubyara.

Nabona ubufasha nte?

Niba wumva uremerewe, uhangayitse, cyangwa ufite kimwe mu bibazo by’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe byavuzwe haruguru, nyamuneka vugana na muganga, umujyanama, cyangwa umuvuzi wabyo . Uko ushakisha ubufasha vuba no gutangira kuvurwa, ni ko utangira kumva umeze neza vuba. Ntutinye cyangwa ngo ugire isoni. Iki si ikintu kibaho wenyine.

Ni ngombwa kandi kubwira muganga wawe ibijyanye n'ubuzima bwawe muri rusange n'ibibazo byose by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe wigeze kugira (urugero, niba warigeze gufata imiti cyangwa urwariye mu bitaro). Ni ingirakamaro kuri muganga wawe kumenya amateka yawe yose y'ubuzima niba hari ikibazo cyavutse mu gihe utwite cyangwa nyuma yo kubyara.

Ibi bibazo by'ubuzima bwo mu mutwe bivurwa bite?

Hari uburyo butandukanye bwo kuvura ibibazo byo mu mutwe nk'ubu. Muganga wawe ni we uzaguhitiramo uburyo bukwiye bwo kuvura bitewe n'uburwayi bwawe. Reka turebe ubwo ari bwo.

Imiti yanditswe na muganga

Hari igihe abaganga bashobora kukwandikira imiti . Ariko ni ngombwa cyane kudatangira cyangwa guhagarika gufata imiti iyo ari yo yose mu gihe utwite utabanje kugisha inama muganga wawe. Niba ufata imiti y’uburwayi bwo mu mutwe kandi utwite cyangwa uteganya gutwita, menya neza ko wabibwiye muganga wawe. Ntugahagarike gufata imiti kugeza igihe muganga wawe abikubwiye. Imiti imwe ni myiza ku mwana wawe kurusha indi. Imiti imwe ishobora kuba idakwiye mu gihe utwite. Muganga wawe azakorana nawe kugira ngo akore gahunda yo kuvura ikubereye wowe n'umwana wawe.

Uburyo bwo kuvura mu biganiro

Uburyo bwo kuvura hakoreshejwe uburyo bwo kuvugana nabwo ni uburyo bwiza cyane.

• Kuganira n'umuganga cyangwa umujyanama wawe ubwawe bishobora kuba uburyo bwiza bwo guhangana n'imihangayiko yawe, guhangana n'ihungabana, no kugabanya imihangayiko. Bashobora kugufasha gusobanukirwa ibyiyumvo byawe n'uko wabyitwaramo.
• Nanone, kwifatanya n'abandi babyeyi bafitanye isano n'abandi babyeyi bahura n'ikibazo nk'icyawe no gusangira ibyakubayeho bishobora kuguhumuriza. Binafasha kumenya ko atari njye wenyine uhura n'iki kibazo.
• Wenda ufite ibibazo by'amafaranga, ubwoba bwo kubyara umwana, cyangwa ibibazo by'umuryango, kuganira n'umukozi ushinzwe imibereho myiza y'abaturage cyangwa umujyanama bishobora kugufasha guhangana n'imihangayiko mu buzima bwawe.

Ubundi buryo bwo kugabanya ububabare

Uretse ubu buryo bwo kuvura, hari n'ibindi bintu ushobora gukora kugira ngo wifashe kumererwa neza.

• Gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri ya yoga, gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri yoroheje no gutekereza cyane bishobora kugufasha kumva umerewe neza haba mu mutwe no ku mubiri. Ariko, ni byiza gushaka inama kwa muganga mbere yo gutangira gahunda nshya yo gukora imyitozo ngororamubiri.
• Iyo wumva uremerewe cyangwa ufite stress, kuganira n'inshuti yawe wiringira, umuntu wo mu muryango wawe (urugero: mama wawe, mushiki wawe, umugabo wawe), cyangwa umuyobozi w'idini wizeye nabyo bishobora kugufasha kumva uhumurijwe. Hari igihe gusangiza undi muntu uko wumva umerewe bishobora kugufasha kumva uhumurijwe.
• Ruhuka bihagije. Mbabarira, iri ni ijambo ryo mu rurimi rwa Tamil. Mu by'ukuri, ruhuka bihagije. Gusinzira neza nijoro, harimo no gusinzira gato ku manywa, ni byiza ku bwonko bwawe no ku mubiri wawe.
• Jya mu bintu ukunda kandi bikuzanira ibyishimo. Ndetse n'ikintu gito nko gusoma igitabo, kumva indirimbo, cyangwa gushushanya bishobora kuzana ibyishimo mu mutima wawe.

Ikintu cy'ingenzi cyane ugomba gutekerezaho

Ababyeyi benshi bagira ihungabana no kwiheba mu gihe batwite. Bamwe bashobora no gukenera kuvurwa. Ariko ibuka ko ikibazo cy’ubuzima bwo mu mutwe kidakwiye kuba ikibazo gikomeye kuri wowe cyangwa ku mwana wawe. Kubona ubufasha ukeneye kugira ngo wumve umeze neza ni cyo kintu cyiza ushobora gukorera wowe ubwawe n’umwana wawe. Ntugatinye cyangwa ngo ugire isoni zo gushaka inama kwa muganga. Buri gihe ibuka ko utari wenyine. Ibyishimo byawe, imibereho myiza yo mu mutwe wawe, n’ubuzima bw’umwana wawe byose ni ingenzi.

Ubuzima bwo mu mutwe bwo gutwita, kwiheba mu gihe cyo gutwita, guhangayika mu gihe cyo gutwita, umubyeyi utwite, stress, kubyara, imibereho myiza yo mu mutwe