Ake sifunde ngomjikelezo wakho wempendulo yocansi.

Namuhla sizokhuluma ngesihloko esibalulekile kwabaningi, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi esingakhululekile ukukhuluma ngaso. Leso yiSigaba Sokuphendula Ngocansi. Ukuqonda lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uziqonde kangcono wena nomlingani wakho. Siphinde sicabange ukuthi lolu lwazi luzoba usizo ekuboneni noma yiziphi izinkinga zocansi.

Uyini umjikelezo wempendulo yocansi? Yiziphi izigaba zawo?

Kalula nje, umjikelezo wempendulo yocansi uwukulandelana kwezinguquko ezenzeka emzimbeni nasengqondweni lapho umuntu evuswa ucansi futhi enza umsebenzi wocansi, kungaba ngesikhathi socansi noma ukushaya indlwabu. Cabanga ngakho njengezingxenye ezixhumene zendaba. Kunezigaba ezine eziyinhloko zalo mjikelezo:

• Isifiso (esibizwa nangokuthi 'Isifiso' noma 'Isifiso' ngesiNgisi)
• Ukuvuselela (lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi `Ukuvusa`, ngezinye izikhathi kubizwa ngokuthi `I-Plateau`)
• I-amulet (yilokhu okushiwo yi-'Orgasm')
• Ukuzola (lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi `Isixazululo`)

Kodwa into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule lapha ukuthi lezi zigaba azenzeki kubo bonke ngendlela efanayo, ngesikhathi esifanayo. Indlela abesifazane nabesilisa ababhekana ngayo nalezi zigaba, kanye nesikhathi esithathayo ukuze bafinyelele kuzo, kungahluka. Isibonelo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi bobabili bazofinyelela i-orgasm ngesikhathi esifanayo. Futhi, ukuqina komuntu ngamunye akuzwayo, kanye nesikhathi esithathayo ukuze afinyelele esigabeni ngasinye, kuyahlukahluka kumuntu nomuntu. Abanye abantu bangase bangadluli kwezinye izigaba, futhi lokho kuyinto evamile.

Kwezinye izingxoxo zocansi, ezinye zalezi zigaba zingase zingabi khona, futhi ngezinye izikhathi ukuhleleka kungase kuguqulwe. Isibonelo, kwabanye abantu, isifiso sokusondelana singase sibe yimbangela yesenzo socansi, kodwa kwabanye singase singabi sikhulu kangako. Ngezinye izikhathi isifiso singase sivele ngemva kokuvuka kwenkanuko.

Ukuqonda lokhu kwehluka kungakusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono imizimba yomunye nomunye kanye nokusabela kwakhe. Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi umlingani wakho uzizwa kanjani nokuthi usabela kanjani, futhi kuzokusiza ukuthi uthuthukise ulwazi lwakho lwezocansi.

Yisiphi isigaba esifushane kakhulu somjikelezo wempendulo yocansi?

I-Orgasm ibhekwa njengesigaba esifushane kakhulu kulo mjikelezo wempendulo yocansi.

Iyiphi indlela lezi zigaba ezilandelanayo?

Lezi zigaba ezine zivame ukwenzeka ngokulandelana: Isifiso, Ukuvuka, Ukuvuthwa komzimba, kanye Nesinqumo. Kodwa-ke, futhi , ukuhleleka kanye nobude besikhathi esithathayo kungahluka kumuntu nomuntu, ngisho nakumuntu oyedwa kuya komunye.

Isigaba 1: Isigaba Sesifiso

Lesi yisigaba sokuqala somjikelezo wokusabela ocansini. Lesi sigaba singahlala kusukela emizuzwini embalwa kuya emahoreni ambalwa. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, ungase ubhekane nalokhu okulandelayo:

• Ukuqina kwemisiphaKungase kwande.
• Isilinganiso senhliziyo kanye nesilinganiso sokuphefumula siyanda.
• Isikhumba singase sibe bomvu (singase sibonakale njengamabala abomvu esifubeni nasemhlane).
• Izingono zingase ziqine noma ziqonde.
• Ukugeleza kwegazi kuya ezithweni zangasese kuyanda. Lokhu kungabangela ukuthi i-clitoris ivuvuke futhi isitho sangasese sowesifazane sibe manzi kwabesifazane. Kwabesilisa, kungabangela ukuminyana.
• Uma une-vagina, ungase uqale ukuzizwa umanzi , noma amabele akho angase azizwe egcwele futhi ekhudlwana.
• Uma unepenisi, ungase uqaphele ukuvuvukala kwamasende , noma ukuqina kwe-scrotum. Ungase futhi uqaphele ukuphuma kwamanzi (uketshezi olumhlophe) esicongweni sepenisi.

Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi akuwona wonke umuntu ohlangabezana nocansi olufanayo. Ungase ungabi nazo zonke lezi zinguquko njalo uma ungena 'eSigabeni Sesifiso'. Kungenzeka kuphela phakathi nokuhlangana kocansi. Njengoba kushiwo ngaphambili, ngezinye izikhathi 'isifiso' singavela ngemva 'kweSigaba Sokuvusa'.

Isigaba 2: Isigaba Sokuvusa (noma Isigaba Se-Plateau)

Lesi sigaba siqala ngaphambi nje kokuthomba futhi siqhubeke kuze kube yilapho ufinyelela esicongweni senjabulo yocansi. Lokhu okulandelayo kungenzeka phakathi nalesi sigaba:

• Izinguquko ezenzeke eSigabeni Sesifiso okukhulunywe ngaso ekuqaleni ziya ngokuya ziba zimbi kakhulu.
• Njengoba ukugeleza kwegazi kuya esithweni sangasese sowesifazane kukhuphuka, kuyaqhubeka nokuvuvukala , futhi izindonga zesitho sangasese sowesifazane zingase zibe mnyama.
• I-clitoris ibucayi kakhulu (ngezinye izikhathi kuze kube buhlungu ukuyithinta).
• Kwabesilisa , amasende ayakhuphuka angene emathunjini.
• Ukuphefumula, ukushaya kwenhliziyo, kanye nomfutho wegazi kuyaqhubeka nokwanda.
• Ukuqina kwemisipha kuyanda.
• Ukuqaqamba kwemisipha kungase kwenzeke nasemilenzeni, ebusweni nasezingalweni.

Ungaqala lesi "Sigaba Sokuvusa" ngesikhathi esifanayo ne "Sigaba Sesifiso", noma ungaqala kamuva ngemva kokuba isifiso sesivele.

Isigaba 3: Isigaba se-Orgasm

Lesi yisikhathi esiphezulu somjikelezo wokusabela ocansini, noma umvuthwandaba . Uma kuqhathaniswa nezinye izigaba, lesi yisikhathi esifushane kakhulu, esivame ukuthatha imizuzwana embalwa kuphela. Uma uzwa i-orgasm, ungase uhlangabezane nalokhu okulandelayo:

• Ngendlela esingenakukwazi ukulawula ngayoKuvela ukufinyela noma ukuqaqamba kwemisipha.
• Umfutho wegazi, ukushaya kwenhliziyo, kanye nokuphefumula kusezingeni eliphezulu.
• Ukucindezeleka ngokocansi kukhishwa ngokuzumayo nangokushesha .
• Kwabesifazane, imisipha yesitho sangasese sowesifazane iyafinyela.
• Kwabesilisa, ukuchama kwenzeka (ukukhishwa kwesidoda epenis).
• Ungase futhi ube nokuqubuka okufana namabala abomvu emzimbeni wakho wonke (okubizwa nangokuthi ukusha kwezocansi).

Isigaba 4: Ukuzola (`Isigaba Sesixazululo`)

Phakathi nalesi sigaba, umzimba wakho ubuyela kancane kancane esimweni esijwayelekile. Izingxenye zomzimba ezivuvukile noma ezivuvukile zibuyela esilinganisweni sazo sokuqala nesimo sazo sokuqala. Abantu abaningi bangase bazizwe bekhathele, kanye nomuzwa wokwaneliseka, ngalesi sikhathi.

Abanye besifazane, uma bevuselelwa ucansi, bangabuyela esigabeni sokuvuthwa kobulili, futhi bangase bazizwe bejabule ngaphezu kokuvuka kobulili okukodwa.

Kodwa-ke, amadoda ngokuvamile adinga isikhathi esithile sokululama (`isikhathi sokungalali`) ngemva kokuphothula. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, awakwazi ukufinyelela ekuphothuleni futhi. Lesi sikhathi sokululama (`isikhathi sokungalali`) sihlukile kumuntu ngamunye futhi singashintsha ngokuya ngeminyaka.

Ake sifunde okwengeziwe ngezimpendulo zocansi: Eminye imibuzo evame ukubuzwa

Uma sikhuluma ngomjikelezo wempendulo yocansi, kunemibuzo embalwa abanye abantu abangase babe nayo engqondweni futhi abafuna ukuyibuza. Ake siyinake kancane leyo mibuzo.

Umuntu uqala nini ukuzizwa evukile (isifiso socansi)?

Lokhu kunzima futhi ukukusho ngokuqinisekile, ngoba njengakho konke okunye emjikelezweni wempendulo yocansi, iminyaka umuntu aqala ngayo ukuzizwa evukile ngokocansi ('ukuvukile') noma 'isifiso' iyahlukahluka kuye ngomuntu nomuntu. Abanye abantu bangase baqale ukuzizwa bevukile ngokocansi ngaphambi kokuthomba . Ezinye izifundo ziphakamisa ukuthi izingane eziphakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 neyi-13 zingaba nokukhangwa ngokocansi noma ukuvukelwa ngokocansi. Olunye ucwaningo luphakamisa ukuthi abantu bazizwa bevukile ngokocansi okokuqala ngokwesilinganiso phakathi kweminyaka eyi-13 neyi-17. Ezinye izifundo ziphakamisa ukuthi kuvamile ukuthi izingane ziqale ukuzizwa zivukile ngokocansi zisencane eminyakeni eyi-7 ubudala.

Umuntu uyeka ukukhipha isidoda eneminyaka emingaki?

Ukukhishelwa ngaphandle kocansi akupheli kule minyaka. Kodwa-ke, amadoda angaqala ukubhekana nezinkinga zocansi njengokungasebenzi kahle kokukhishelwa ngaphandle kocansi lapho eseneminyaka engu-40 no-50. Lokhu kungabangela ukwehla kokukhishelwa ngaphandle kocansi. Futhi, lapho abesifazane bedlula esikhathini sokunqamuka kokuya esikhathini, labo ababeke bakhishelwa ngaphandle kocansi (abanye besifazane bakhipha uketshezi ngesikhathi sokukhishelwa ngaphandle kocansi) babika ukuthi babona izinguquko ezithile ekukhishelweni nasekufikeni kwabo esimeni socansi.

Umyalezo Wokugcina Wokuya Nasekhaya

Umjikelezo Wempendulo Yocansi uchaza izinguquko ezenzeka emizimbeni nasezingqondweni zethu ngesikhathi socansi noma sobulili. Nakuba lokhu kungasinika umbono omuhle, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu akuyona ifomula efanela bonke ngosayizi owodwa, efanela bonke ngosayizi owodwa .

Abantu badlula kulezi zigaba ezine ngesivinini esihlukene nangamazinga ahlukene okuqina. Ithemba eliyinhloko ukusiza abantu baqonde imizimba yabo kanye nemizimba yabalingani babo futhi babone noma yikuphi ukungasebenzi kahle kocansi okungenzeka ukuthi banakho.

Ngakho-ke, sithemba ukuthi la maqiniso azokusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono impilo yakho neyabathandekayo bakho ngokocansi. Ukuqaphela umzimba wakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze ube nobudlelwano obuhle nenjabulo.

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