Kuvamile ngabazali abasha ukuzizwa becindezelekile noma bekhathazekile ngokufika komntwana omusha. Le mizwa ivame ukuphela njengoba beqala ukwazi ingane yabo futhi bejwayela isimiso sabo. Kodwa kwabanye, lokhu kukhathazeka kuyaqhubeka nokukhula, hhayi ukuncipha. Kungaba nzima kakhulu kangangokuthi kwenza kube nzima ukunakekela ingane yabo. Yilokho esikhuluma ngakho namuhla.
Kuyini Ukukhathazeka Ngemva Kokubeletha?
Kalula nje, kungahlukaniswa kube izinhlobo ezimbili. Sibiza ukukhathazeka okwenzeka nganoma yisiphi isikhathi kusukela ekukhulelweni kuya cishe onyakeni ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane ngokuthi ``Ukukhathazeka Kwangaphambi Kokuzalwa``. Uma kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, kubizwa ngokuthi ``Ukukhathazeka Kwangaphambi Kokuzalwa``, futhi uma kwenzeka ngemva kokuzalwa kwengane, kubizwa ngokuthi ``Ukukhathazeka Kwangemva Kokubeletha``.
Lokhu kukhathazeka akuyona into evela embangweni owodwa. Ukucindezeleka nokwesaba okuhambisana nakho kunzima ukukulawula. Ngezinye izikhathi le mizwa ingavela ngaphandle kwesizathu nhlobo. Futhi, ayibi ngcono ngokwayo. Ngokusho kocwaningo, umama oyedwa kwabayi-7 abasha kanye nobaba oyedwa kwabayi-10 babhekana nalesi simo "sokukhathazeka ngemuva kokubeletha". Lokhu kusho ukuthi kuvame kakhulu kunalokho esikucabangayo.
Abantu abaningi bake bezwa ngokucindezeleka okwenzeka ngemva kokubeletha. Eqinisweni, ezinye zezimpawu zokukhathazeka ngemva kokubeletha zifana nezimpawu zokucindezeleka. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lezi zinguquko zengqondo zingaba zimbi kakhulu. Abazali abaningi abasha bayesaba noma banamahloni okutshela noma ubani ukuthi bazizwa ngale ndlela. Ngoba wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi ukuba nomntwana kuyinto okufanele bajabule ngayo. Abantu abaningi bayanqikaza ukusho ukuthi bazizwa bekhathazekile noma besaba kakhulu ngaleso sikhathi.
Kodwa khumbula, lokhu akulona iphutha lakho. Lesi yisimo sezokwelapha esingalapheka ngokuphelele ngokwelashwa. Ngakho-ke ungesabi ukukhuluma ngaso.
Abanye abantu bangase babe nokukhathazeka ngemva kokubeletha kanye nokucindezeleka ngemva kokubeletha. Bangase futhi babonise ukuziphatha okufana nokwe-Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Kusacwaningwa ukuthi lezi zimo zihlobene kanjani.
Ziyini izimpawu zokukhathazeka ngemva kokubeletha?
Lokhu kukhathazeka kungakwenza ube nezimpawu zomzimba nezengqondo. Cabanga ngezinto ezinjengokuthi, 'Ingabe kukhona okuzokwenzeka enganeni yami?', 'Ingabe ngizoyinakekela kahle ingane yami?' Umzimba wakho usabela ngale ndlela ngoba wesaba ukuphepha kwengane yakho. Omama abaningi abasha bachaza lokhu njengomzwa "wokuhlanya", umuzwa wokungakwazi ukulawula imicabango egijima engqondweni yakho.
| Izimpawu ezivame ukubonakala | |
|---|---|
| Izimpawu Zomzimba | |
| Izinkinga zokungalali noma zokulala | Ukungakwazi ukulala kahle. |
| Isifiso sokudla | Ukulahlekelwa ngokuphelele yisifiso sokudla. |
| Ukungakwazi ukuhlala endaweni eyodwa | Uhlala engahlaliseki, ehambahamba. |
| Isicanucanu nobuhlungu besisu | Ukuphazamiseka kwesisu kanye nesicanucanu. |
| Ukwanda kwesilinganiso senhliziyo | Ukuzizwa sengathi inhliziyo yakho iyashaya. |
| Ubunzima bokuphefumula | Ukuzizwa ucindezelekile, kunzima ukuphefumula. |
| Ukuqina kwemisipha | Imisipha emzimbeni iqinile futhi ibuhlungu. |
| Izimpawu Zemizwelo | |
| Ukuzizwa ungakhululekile | Ngihlala ngithukuthele futhi ngingahlaliseki. |
| Ukungakwazi ukuzola | Ukungakwazi ukuphumula. |
| Ukwesaba ukuthi kukhona okubi okuzokwenzeka. | Umuzwa wokwesaba, wenhlekelele ezayo, ngaphandle kwesizathu. |
| Ukukhohlwa nokungakwazi ukugxila | Ukungakwazi ukugxila entweni eyodwa. |
| Ukucabanga ngezinto ezingenakwenzeka | Ukucabanga njalo nokwesaba izinto ezingenakwenzeka. |
Kungani lesi simo senzeka? Yiziphi izizathu?
Akukho sizathu esisodwa salokhu, kodwa kuneziningana. Ngokusho kodokotela, isizathu esiyinhloko izinguquko zamahomoni ezenzeka emzimbeni wakho ngemva kokubeletha. Ngemva kokubeletha umntwana, amazinga amahomoni omzimba wakho ehla ngokushesha ngokuzumayo. Lokhu kungathinta ngqo isimo sakho sengqondo, okungukuthi, isimo sakho sengqondo. Futhi lezi zinguquko zamahomoni zingabangela ukuba usabele ngokweqile ngisho noma uzizwa ucindezelekile kancane.
Enye into ebalulekile ukulala. Kungaba nzima ukulala ngokwanele uma unakekela usana olusanda kuzalwa. Ukungalali nakho kukwenza uthambekele kakhulu ekucindezelekeni. Lezi zinto ezibangela ukucindezeleka kungaba yizinto ezivamile obhekana nazo njengomzali omusha. Isibonelo, izinto ezifana nokuncelisa, ukukhulelwa noma ukubeletha, noma izigaba ezithile zokukhula kwengane yakho.
Izici zengozi
Abanye abantu basengozini enkulu yokuthola lesi simo. Uma lezi zinto zisebenza kuwe, usengozini enkulu:
- Uma kukhona emndenini wakho oke waba nezimo ezihlobene nokukhathazeka esikhathini esidlule.
- Uma wena uqobo uke waba nokukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka ngaphambilini.
- Uma ukhulelwe kanzima noma ubeletha.
- Uma uke walahlekelwa yingane ngaphambilini noma waphuphunyelwa yisisu.
- Uma kudingeke unakekele izingane eziningana ngesikhathi esisodwa.
- Uma uke wabhekana nanoma yikuphi ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo noma ukuhlukunyezwa ngesikhathi usengumntwana noma kamuva empilweni.
- Ukuba ngowesifazane nakho kuyisici esiyingozi.
Udokotela uhlonza kanjani lokhu?
Uma uhlangabezana nezimpawu esixoxe ngazo ngenhla,Kubalulekile ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngalokhu ngokushesha. Udokotela wakho uzokubuza ngezimpawu zakho futhi angase akucele ukuthi ugcwalise uhlu lwemibuzo mayelana nezimpawu zakho.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuba qotho ngangokunokwenzeka lapho ukhuluma nodokotela wakho. Ungase uzizwe unamahloni noma wesaba, kodwa ungazizwa ngaleyo ndlela.
Njengoba kungekho ukuhlolwa kwegazi okuqondile ukuthola lesi simo, lokho okushoyo kuzosiza udokotela wakho ukuthi akuqonde kangcono futhi anqume ukwelashwa okungcono kakhulu. Khumbula, lokhu kuvame kakhulu kunalokho ocabanga.
Yiziphi izindlela zokwelapha lokhu?
Kokubili `Ukukhathazeka Kwangemva Kokubeletha` kanye `Ukucindezeleka Kwangemva Kokubeletha` kungelapheka ngokuphelele ngokwelashwa. Kunezindlela eziningana zokwenza lokhu. Ungakhuluma nodokotela wakho bese ukhetha indlela yokwelapha engcono kakhulu kuwe.
- Ezimweni ezincane: Uma isimo singesibi kakhulu, udokotela usikisela izindlela ezithile ongaphumuza ngazo ingqondo yakho ekhaya. Enye iwukulala kakhudlwana nokuthola ukwesekwa . Uma unganika umyeni wakho noma umndeni wakho ingane isikhashana ukuze uphumule, lokho kuzosiza kakhulu. Futhi, ukujoyina amaqembu okusekela abazali abasha kungaba usizo olukhulu ekugwemeni isizungu.
- Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu: Uma isimo sibi kakhulu, udokotela wakho angase ancome ukwelashwa ngenkulumo, ikakhulukazi ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo (i-CBT) . I-CBT iyindlela yokwelapha ephumelela kakhulu yezimo ezifana nokukhathazeka kanye ne-OCD.
- Imithi: Abanye abantu bangase badinge imithi yokusiza ekulawuleni ukukhathazeka kwabo. Ama-Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) yimithi esetshenziswa kakhulu. Abantu abaningi bathola ukuthi le mithi isebenza kahle kakhulu uma ihlanganiswa nemithi yokwelapha efana ne-CBT.
Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya
- Ukukhathazeka ngemva kokubeletha kuyisimo esivame kakhulu. Akulona iphutha lakho noma ubuthakathaka.
- Uma ungakwazi ukulawula ukwesaba kwakho, ukukhathazeka, noma ukwethuka, ungabi namahloni noma wesabe ukukhuluma nodokotela wakho ngakho.
- Ukuphumula ngokwanele, ikakhulukazi ukulala, kubalulekile. Thola ukwesekwa emndenini wakho ngalokhu.
- Lesi simo singalapheka ngokuphelele ngokwelashwa. Ngakho-ke ungazihluphi wedwa futhi ufune iseluleko sezokwelapha. Awuwedwa.
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