So wunim wo nkate ampa? Momma yɛnka Nkate mu Nhumu ho asɛm!

Dɛn na wote nka mprempren a worekenkan eyi no? Ebia w’ani gye ho sɛ wubehu eyi ho nsɛm pii. Anaasɛ ebia wowɔ anidaso sɛ, ‘Oo, sɛ mekenkan eyi a, mesua biribi foforo afa me ho.’ Ebia ɛfono wo esiane sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ woyɛ biribi ma sukuu nti, ‘Oo, so ɛsɛ sɛ me nso meyɛ eyi?’ Anaasɛ ebia w’ani agye adwuma bi a w’ani gye ho ankasa ho. Anaasɛ ebia woredwen biribi soronko koraa ho. Susuw ho hwɛ, ebia w’ani agye akwantu bi a worekɔ dapɛn awiei yi ho, anaasɛ ebia w’awerɛhow wɔ ɔhaw ketewaa bi a wo ne w’adamfo bi wɔ ho. Saa nkate ahorow yi yɛ yɛn asetra nyinaa fã.

Dɛn nti na saa nkate ahorow yi ho hia yɛn saa?

Sɛ yɛbɛka no tiawa a, saa nkate ahorow yi yɛ yɛn su sɛ nnipa no fã. Te sɛ ɛyaw a ɛwɔ yɛn nipadua mu no, saa ara na nkate yɛ nsɛnkyerɛnne wɔ yɛn adwene mu. Wɔma yɛn nsɛm a ɛfa nea yɛrehyia ho na wɔboa yɛn ma yɛte sɛnea yɛbɛyɛ ho biribi no ase.

Susuw ho hwɛ, yɛate saa nkate horow yi nka fi bere a yɛyɛ nkokoaa nkumaa. Nkokoaa, mmofra nkumaa de anim yɛbea, te sɛ serew, atuu, su yɛ wɔn nkate ho biribi. Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ ɔkɔm de akokoaa, sɛ ɔte nka sɛ biribi nyɛ no dɛ a, osu, ɛnte saa? Ɛno ne ɔkwan a wɔfa so da nea wɔrete nka adi. Wɔte nkate nka, wɔkyerɛ, nanso wonnya ntumi mmɔ saa atenka no din anaasɛ wɔnka nea enti a wɔte nka saa.

Nanso bere a yɛrenyin no, tumi a yɛde te saa nkate horow yi ase nso kɔ anim. Sɛ́ anka yɛbɛyɛ yɛn ade prɛko pɛ wɔ biribiara ho te sɛ mmofra nkumaa no, yetumi hu nea yɛte nka na yɛde ka nsɛm mu. Bere a bere kɔ so na yɛde yɛ adesua no, yɛte nea yɛte nka ne nea enti a yɛte nka no ase yiye. Saa tumi yi ne nea yɛfrɛ no "nkate mu nimdeɛ" anaa `(Nkate mu nimdeɛ)`.

Saa `(Emotional Awareness)` yi wɔ mfaso pii ma yɛn.

• Eyi boa yɛn ma yehu nea yɛpɛ ne nea yɛmpɛ pɛpɛɛpɛ.
• Ɛkyerɛ wo sɛnea wobɛma wo ne afoforo ntam abusuabɔ atu mpɔn.
• Yebetumi aka yɛn nkate ho asɛm pefee.
• Ɛtew ntawntawdi a ɛba no so, anaasɛ ɛma ɛyɛ mmerɛw sɛ wobesiesie ntawntawdi bi a aba.
• Sɛ nkate a emu yɛ den sɔre a, ɛboa ma wo ho tɔ wo ntɛm.

Nnipa bi wɔ hɔ a wɔne wɔn nkate di nkitaho kakra sen afoforo, a ɛkyerɛ sɛ wɔte wɔn nkate ase yiye. Nanso asɛmpa no ne sɛ obiara betumi ahu ne nkate yiye. Egye sɛ wode wo ho hyɛ mu kakra kɛkɛ. Ɛwom sɛ egye mmɔdenbɔ kakra ansa na atumi anya nkɔso de, nanso mfaso a ɛwɔ so no fata. Wunim dɛn? Saa `(Emotional Awareness)` yi yɛ nkate mu nyansaƐno ne anammɔn a edi kan a ɛbɛma woanya ahokokwaw bi a wɔfrɛ no ``Emotional Intelligence'' a ɛbɛboa wo ma woadi nkonim wɔ asetra mu.

Nneɛma atitiriw bi a ɛsɛ sɛ yehu fa nkate ho

Okay, enti momma yɛnte nkate ase kakra wɔ ɔkwan a ɛnyɛ den so. Nneɛma bi a ɛho hia paa sɛ yɛma ɛtra yɛn adwenem ni.

• Nkate ba na ɛkɔ: Te sɛ mununkum no, nkate ntra baabi biako. Nkate ahorow ahe na yenya da koro? Nkate ahorow bi tra hɔ sikani kakraa bi pɛ. Afoforo betumi atra yɛn adwene mu kakra, na wɔabɛyɛ yɛn adwene mpo. Sɛ nhwɛso no, dadwen nkate a efi adwuma a wɔka akyi anɔpa mu ba no betumi ayera bere tiaa bi akyi. Nanso anigye a asɛm akɛse a wote mu ba no betumi atra w’adwenem nnɔnhwerew pii.

• Ɛsono sɛnea nkate horow no mu yɛ den: Ɛnyɛ nkate nyinaa na wɔte nka wɔ ɔkwan koro so. Ebinom yɛ brɛoo paa, ɛkame ayɛ sɛ wɔnte nka. Afoforo nso ho yɛ den yiye, wɔte nka kɛse. Nkate ahorow betumi ayɛ nea emu yɛ den. Sɛnea nkate bi mu yɛ den no gyina tebea no ne onipa a ɔwɔ hɔ saa bere no so. Susuw sɛnea ɛsono nnipa baanu betumi ayɛ wɔn ade wɔ asɛm koro ho. Ebia obi bɛte abufuw kakra bi pɛ nka, bere a ɔfoforo nso betumi ate abufuw a ɛboro so.

• Biribiara nni hɔ a wɔfrɛ no nkate pa anaa nkate bɔne: Ɛha na nnipa pii di mfomso. Nokwarem no, biribiara nni hɔ a wɔfrɛ no nkate pa anaa nkate bɔne . Nanso, ɔkwan a yɛfa so da saa nkate horow no adi, kyerɛ sɛ, ɔkwan a yɛfa so yɛ yɛn ade no betumi ayɛ papa anaa bɔne. Sɛ nhwɛso no, abufuw nkate no nyɛ bɔne, ɛyɛ ade a ɛfata. Nanso nteɛm a wobɛteɛteɛm na woapira afoforo bere a wo bo afuw no yɛ bɔne. Enti, sua a wobesua sɛ wɔbɛda nkate adi wɔ ɔkwan a wogye tom so, kyerɛ sɛ, nkate a wobedi ho dwuma , yɛ ahokokwaw a ɛsɛ sɛ wonya wɔ ɔkwan soronko so. Eyi nti, ɛho hia sɛ wudi kan te w’ankasa wo nkate ase yiye.

Nkate biara ho hia – ‘papa’ ne ‘bɔne’ nyinaa.

Yɛn ani gye nkate ahorow bi ho, ɛnte saa? Yɛfrɛ wɔn nkate a ‘ɛyɛ papa’. Sɛ nhwɛso no, anigye, ɔdɔ, ahotoso a obi wɔ wɔ ne ho, nhyɛso, anigye, anigye, aseda, ne atenka ka ho .

Saa ara nso na nkate ahorow bi wɔ hɔ a yehu sɛ ɛnyɛ yɛn dɛ kakra na ɛyɛ den. Yɛtaa frɛ eyinom sɛ nkate horow a ‘ɛnyɛ bɔne’. Nkate te sɛ abufuw, abufuw, ehu, aniwu, afobu, awerɛhow, ne dadwen hyɛ saa kuw yi mu.

Adeɛ a ɛho hia ne sɛ saa nkateɛ yi a yɛsusu sɛ ɛyɛ ‘papa’, ne nkateɛ a yɛsusu sɛ ɛyɛ ‘bɔne’ nso – yeinom nyinaa yɛ ade a ɛyɛ daa na ɛyɛ abɔdeɛ.

Nkate biara ka yɛn ho ne bere a yɛwɔ mu no ho biribi kyerɛ yɛn.Ɛte sɛ nkrasɛm. Nanso ɛtɔ mmere bi a ɛyɛ den ma yɛn sɛ yebegye nea yɛte nka no atom. Yebu yɛn ho atɛn bere a yɛte nka saa no. Sɛ nhwɛso no, fa no sɛ w’ani bere kakra wɔ w’adamfo bi a onyaa nkɔanim ho. Afei sɛ anka wobɛdwene sɛ, "Shit, adɛn nti na m'ani bere saa? Meyɛ bɔne saa," eye sɛ wobɛhwɛ saa atenka no ara kwa na woaka sɛ, "Oh, mete nka sɛ m'ani bere no kakra." Afei wubehu sɛ ebia ahintaw saa ahoɔyaw no mu ne w’ankasa anidaso a ennya mmamu.

Sɛ yɛbɔ mmɔden sɛ yɛbɛkwati saa nkate ‘bɔne’ yi, anaasɛ yɛyɛ yɛn ho sɛ yɛnte nka a, ɛte sɛ nea yɛresan akɔ akyi na yɛabɔ yɛn ho akuturuku wɔ yɛn anim. Ɛno kyerɛ sɛ yɛrema saa nkate no ayɛ kɛse anaasɛ yɛrebɔ mmɔden sɛ yebeyi afi mu wɔ ɔkwan foforo so. Sɛ yɛpɛ sɛ yegyae nkate a emu yɛ den na yɛma ɛyera a, ɛsɛ sɛ yegyina ano na yɛbɔ mmɔden sɛ yɛbɛte nea enti a yɛte nka no ase.

Eyi nkyerɛ sɛ ɛsɛ sɛ wususuw wo nkate ho bere nyinaa, anaasɛ woka ho asɛm kyerɛ obiara. Nkate mu Nhumu yɛ sɛ wubehu bere a wote biribi nka kɛkɛ, wudi no ni, na wugye tom sɛnea ɛte no ara kwa.

Okay, enti yɛbɛyɛ dɛn ama yɛn nkate mu nimdeɛ akɔ soro?

Saa `(Emotional Awareness)` yi boa yɛn ma yehu yɛn ho yiye na yegye yɛn ho tom. Enti, yɛbɛyɛ dɛn atumi anya saa tumi yi akɔ akyiri? Nneɛma abiɛsa a ɛnyɛ den a ɛsɛ sɛ wudi akyi ni:

• Susuw sɛnea wote nka wɔ mmere ahorow mu wɔ da mũ no nyinaa mu ho, na bɔ saa nkate no din:

Ma eyi nyɛ wo su. Hwɛ sɛnea wote nka wɔ mmere ahorow ne tebea horow mu da mũ no nyinaa no yiye kɛkɛ. Ebia wubehu sɛ wote anigye ne anigye kɛse nka bere a woayɛ nhyehyɛe sɛ wo ne w’adamfo bi bɛkɔ baabi awie no. Anaasɛ wote ehu nka kakra ansa na woayɛ sɔhwɛ. Ebia wote nka sɛ wo ho adwo wo kɛse bere a wutie dwom bi, anaasɛ wote nka sɛ wɔhyɛ wo nkuran sɛ wobɛyɛ biribi foforo bere a woahu adwinni ho ɔyɛkyerɛ bi awie no, anaasɛ w’ani gye bere a w’adamfo bi kamfo wo no. Hu saa atenka no ara kwa na ma no din wɔ w’adwene mu. "Me te anigye nka mprempren," "Me te nka sɛ me ho yeraw me kakra mprempren," etc. Eyi begye sekan biako pɛ, nanso ɛyɛ su pa ara. Afei nso, hyɛ sɛnea nkate biara yera wɔ bere bi akyi, na ɛma kwan ma wonya osuahu a edi hɔ no nsow.

• Kyerɛ sɛnea saa nkate no mu yɛ den fa:

Sɛ wuhu nkate bi na wobɔ din wie a, yɛ biribi foforo. Fa nkate no mu den to nsenia a efi 1 kosi 10. 1 yɛ nkate a emu nyɛ den yiye, a ɛkame ayɛ sɛ wontumi nhu. 10 yɛ nkate a emu yɛ den yiye na emu yɛ den. Sɛ nhwɛso no, sɛ wote nka sɛ wo bo afuw a, fa w’adwene bu sɛ ‘3 abufuw?’. '7 abufuw?' anaasɛ '10 abufuw kɛse?' Eyi bɛboa wo ma woate sɛnea wo nkate ahorow te no ase.

• Ka nea wote nka kyerɛ wɔn a wɔbɛn wo paa no na ka ho asɛm:

Eyi ne ɔkwan a eye sen biara a wobɛfa so asua sɛnea wode nkate horow bɛka nsɛm mu. Saa tumi yi boa yɛn ma yɛne yɛn nnamfo, yɛn adɔfoɔ, yɛn awofoɔ, yɛn akyerɛkyerɛfoɔ – obiara di nkitaho. Fa biribi a wote nka sɛ ɛyɛ da biara da su, sɛ́ ɛyɛ biribi a ɛyɛ w’ankasa wo de ankasa anaa biribi a ɛyɛ da biara da nkate a ɛfata ara kwa, kyerɛ obi a wowɔ ne mu ahotoso. Ebetumi ayɛ biribiara fi sɛ wobɛka sɛ, "Maame, biribi sii wɔ sukuu mu nnɛ, na mete nka bɔne ankasa," kosi sɛ wobɛka akyerɛ w'adamfo bi sɛ, "Onipa, m'ani agye yiye sɛ saa ade no yɛɛ yiye!"

Te sɛ biribiara a ɛwɔ asetra mu no, yɛbɛyɛ obi a onim nkate horow ho dwuma yiye! Kae wo ho sɛ nneɛma bi nni hɔ a wɔfrɛ no nkate pa anaa nkate bɔne. Mmu wo nkateɛ atɛn – hu no kɛkɛ, bɔ din, na gye tom.

Enti, ade a etwa to a ɛsɛ sɛ wokae ne sɛ...

Nkrasɛm a ɛho hia pii wɔ hɔ a wubetumi de akɔ fie afi nea yɛaka ho asɛm nnɛ no mu.

• Nkate biara a wote nka no yɛ nea ɛfata , na emu biara yɛ sɛnkyerɛnne a ɛde nkrasɛm bi a ɛho hia rebrɛ wo.
• Nkate mu Nhumu yɛ ahokokwaw a ɛsom bo a wubetumi denam adesua so anya nkɔso.
• Saa tumi yi betumi aboa wo wɔ w’asetra mu nneɛma pii mu, titiriw w’abusuabɔ, w’adwene mu yiyedi, ne gyinaesi mu.
• Mmu nkate biara a wowɔ atɛn. Gye nkate ‘pa’ ne nkate ‘bɔne’ no nyinaa tom.
• Fa yɛ wo su sɛ wobɛhwɛ nneɛma a wote nka da mũ no nyinaa, abɔ din, na sɛ ɛbɛyɛ yiye a wobɛka akyerɛ obi a wowɔ ne mu ahotoso .

Kae sɛ, saa `(Emotional Awareness)` yi ne anammɔn a edi kan na ɛho hia sen biara a ɛbɛma wo nkate mu yiyedi ne `(Emotional Intelligence)` atu mpɔn. Enti, fi ase fa wo nkate fa nnamfo nnɛ!

Nkate, Nkate mu Nhumu, Nkate mu Nyansa, Adwene mu Akwahosan, Nkate mu Nhumu, Ankasa Nhumu, Abusuabɔ