💖 The Path to a Successful Marriage...

When a couple gets married, the bond of love between them is so beautiful. 😍 But it's not always a bed of roses. 😕 Life brings problems and challenges. 😓 But some couples manage to strengthen their love and stay happy through it all. 🥰 But for some, it's not so easy. 😔 Breaking up is a big loss in every way. 💔 Especially if there are children. 😥

Many troubled marriages have started living happily again by following these simple steps. 😊

The three most important things for a successful marriage are Love, Respect, and Responsibility. ❤️🤝✅

💔 Some common causes of marital trouble:

• Selfishness
• Financial Problems/Meanness 💸
• Gambling 🎲
• Illness (e.g. Depression ) 😔
• Playing games with each other
• Lack of good communication 💔
• Unrealistic Expectations 🤨
• Not listening to each other 🙉
• Drug or Alcohol Excess 🍺💉
• Jealousy, especially in men 😠
• Fault Finding 👀
• Driving Ambition 🤔
• Immaturity 👶

🤔 Some Important Facts:

• Research has found that we are more likely to choose partners who resemble our parents, and that we may even bring our childish, selfish traits into our marriage. 🤔
• We often expect our partner to change and fulfill our needs. 🙄
• If we work responsibly and with care, these problems can be reduced to a great extent. 👍
• Physical passion alone is not enough to make a marriage successful. 🔥
• A good sexual relationship is important. But what happens outside of bed is even more important. ❤️
• Forgiveness is very important when we make a mistake. 🙏

✅ Positive Guidelines for Success:

1. Know Yourself. 🙂 The better you know yourself, the better you will be able to know your partner.
2. Share Interests and Goals . 🤝 Don't be too independent of each other. Make common friends, common hobbies. Say "I love you" often. 🥰
3. Continue Courtship after Marriage. 🥰 Continue courtship, try to get your partner. 💖 Go for romantic dinners. 🍽️ Give small gifts. 🎁 (like flowers 🌹) Engage in high-energy fun activities like massages and dancing.
4. Make Love, Not War. ❤️🔫 Learn about Sex and Reproduction . It can take years to build a good sex life. So work hard to make it better. Don't be shy, don't be afraid to try new things. This is The Joy of SexBooks, Films/DVDs about Lovemaking can help. Good Grooming and a Clean Body are important. ✨
5. Cherish Your Mate. 🥰 Be proud of each other. Don't achieve your goals at the expense of others. Don't talk down to your partner in front of others. 🙅‍♀️🙅‍♂️
6. Prepare Yourself for Parenthood. 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Think carefully before starting a family. Learn about raising children. Learn about family planning methods. Avoid unplanned pregnancies. 🤰 The best environment for a child is a happy marriage. 😊
7. Seek Proper Help When Necessary. 🤝 Seek help when problems arise and when they become too big to solve. Your family doctor (General Practitioner) will be able to help. Problems caused by stress, such as depression , can be fatal to a marriage. These need to be resolved first. 💊
8. Do Unto Your Mate as You Would Have Your Mate Do Unto You. 🥰 This goes back to our childhood needs. Be considerate of each other's feelings. Be sensitive to each other's needs. A marriage that is legally established has a much higher chance of success. 👍

😊 The Be Attitudes - Virtues to Help Achieve Success:

• Be Honest.
• Be Loyal.
• Be Loving.
• Be Desiring.
• Be patient.
• Be Fun to Live With.
• Be Forgiving.
• Be One.
• BE Generous.
• Be Caring.

📝 Making Lists - A Practical Task:

Make lists so that you can compare and discuss them with each other.

• List Qualities (Desirable and Undesirable) of Your Parents.
• List Qualities of Each Other.
• List Examples of Behavior Each Would Like the Other to Change.
• List Things You Would Like the Other to Do for You. Put Aside Special Quiet Times Each Week to Share These Things.

I think if you work hard like this, you will be able to make your married life successful. 😊💖👨‍👩‍👧‍👦

What are the three most important things for a successful marriage?