Is sex painful? Shall we talk about vaginal dilators?

Pain during sex is a problem that many women suffer in silence, but are too embarrassed to talk about openly. This can have a huge impact on your marriage and relationship. You really don't have to live with this pain. Although there are many reasons for this, today we are talking about a simple device that can be used at home and can help.

What exactly are vaginal dilators?

Simply put, a vaginal dilator is a tube-like device that is inserted into your vagina and used to gradually stretch the vaginal tissue. They are usually made of plastic or medical-grade silicone.

The goal of this treatment is to gradually increase the flexibility of your vagina, strengthen your pelvic muscles, and make sex more comfortable. The best part is that you can do it at home, in the privacy of your own home, in less than 20 minutes. They come in different sizes and thicknesses. The one that suits you best depends on the tightness of your vagina.

When is a vaginal dilator used?

Vaginal dilators can be very helpful if you experience pain during sex or when inserting anything into your vagina. They make the vaginal tissue more flexible and help strengthen weakened pelvic muscles. Let's look at some of the possible causes of this pain below.

How do I choose an extender that suits me?

These dilators come in lengths from about 2 inches to about 7 inches. The diameter, or thickness, also varies from about 0.5 to 1.5 inches. The goal here is to start with a small one and gradually move to a larger one. If the treatment is successful, you will find that over time you will be able to insert a larger dilator with ease. Don't rush or try to go for a larger size without being prepared.

Which type is better? Plastic or silicone?

These come in both plastic and silicone. Both have their pros and cons.

• Plastic: These are a bit stiff and hard. So they can be a good help in stretching the vaginal tissue. However, for some people, this stiffness can be uncomfortable.
• Silicone: These are soft and flexible, making them easy to use. A silicone dilator can be used either heated or cooled.

The most important thing is to choose one that feels comfortable to you and provides some thrusting that makes you want to stretch your vagina.

The best thing to do is ask your doctor about this. He or she can examine you and recommend the type and size that is best for you.

How to use this correctly? Step by step...

Inserting a dilator may feel a little awkward at first. However, the entire process should take no more than 15-20 minutes. Follow the steps below.

• Step 1: Apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant (e.g. KY® or Astroglide®) to the dilator. Do not use oil-based products like Vaseline. Remember, always start small.
• Step 2: Lie on your back on a bed or flat surface, bend your knees, and then spread your legs out to the sides, as if you were being examined by a doctor.
• Step 3: As if inserting a tampon, gently insert the dilator into the vagina with your lower hand (towards your back). Stop at a point where you feel a slight tightness, without pain. Do not force it in.
• Step Four: While the dilator is in place, doing Kegel exercises can help relax your pelvic muscles. Taking deep, long breaths can also help relax your muscles.
• Step 5: For the next 5-10 minutes, while the dilator is still in place, move it back and forth. Rotate it in circles, move it forward, backward, and side to side. Then move it in and out as if you were having sex.
• Step Six: After 10-15 minutes, remove the expander.
• Step 7: When finished using, wash thoroughly with mild soap and lukewarm water. Then dry with a clean paper towel or let it air dry.

Do this treatment daily or every other day as directed by your doctor. Over time, you will find that the small dilator feels much more comfortable. That means you are ready to move on to the next size.

What are the benefits and side effects of this?

Vaginal dilators are a safe and effective treatment. In fact, many people who use them consistently find significant relief from pain during intercourse.

The main side effect is a few drops of blood in the vagina. But it should not be heavy bleeding, just a small pink spot.

How long does this treatment take?

The time it takes for this to happen varies from person to person, depending on your symptoms. Some people may feel relief in a few weeks, while others may need to undergo this treatment for several months. The most important thing is to be patient and maintain regular contact with your doctor.

You may feel embarrassed, uncomfortable, or emotionally burdened about using a device like this. Discuss those feelings openly with your doctor. It is very important for the success of the treatment.