Ua ʻike anei ʻoe ua loli nui kāu hoaaloha maikaʻi loa a ʻohana paha mai ko lākou ʻano ma mua? ʻAʻole lākou e minoʻaka nui, ʻaʻole lākou e kamaʻilio nui, ke noʻonoʻo mau nei lākou... I kekahi manawa ke kaumaha nui nei paha lākou a kaumaha paha. Akā inā hoʻomau kēia kūlana no nā pule a i ʻole nā mahina, ʻaʻole ia he kaumaha wale nō. Ke hakakā nei paha lākou me kahi maʻi i kapa ʻia ʻo ke kaumaha. No laila, no ke kōkua ʻana i kekahi e like me ia, i kēia lā e kamaʻilio mākou e pili ana i ke ʻano o kā mākou kamaʻilio ʻana me lākou me ka ʻole o ka hōʻeha ʻana i ko lākou mau manaʻo.
ʻO ka mea mua, e hoʻomaopopo kākou i ke ʻano o ke kaumaha.
He maʻi mau loa ke kaumaha e pono ai ka mālama kūikawā. ʻAʻole ia he manaʻo kaumaha wale nō e nalowale ana i loko o kekahi mau lā. He mea paʻakikī pinepine ke hoʻōla mai kēia maʻi me ke kōkua ʻole.
E noʻonoʻo ʻoe ua hauʻoli a ʻoliʻoli kekahi hoaaloha ou ma mua. Akā i kēia manawa ua mālie loa ʻo ia a makemake ʻo ia e noho i loko o kona lumi a noho mehameha. Loaʻa paha iā ʻoe ke kumu no kēia a ʻaʻole paha. Hiki paha i ka nalowale ʻana o kahi mea aloha, ka nalowale ʻana o kahi hana, a pēlā aku. Akā i kekahi manawa hiki ke loaʻa ke kaumaha me ke kumu ʻole.
Eia kekahi mau mea e pono ai mākou e ʻike e pili ana i ke kaumaha:
- ʻAʻole ia he maʻi, ʻaʻole ia he palaualelo: ʻAʻole ka palaualelo a i ʻole ka nāwaliwali o ka noʻonoʻo ke kaumaha. He maʻi lapaʻau ia e kū mai ana me nā loli i nā kemika (neurotransmitters) i loko o ko kākou lolo. ʻO ia ke kumu e manaʻo ai lākou ʻaʻohe o lākou ikaika nui e hana i kahi mea maʻalahi e like me ke ala ʻana mai kahi moe a holoi i ko lākou maka.
- He maʻi maʻamau kēia: nui ka poʻe e ʻeha nei i kēia maʻi ma Sri Lanka a puni ka honua. No laila, mai manaʻo ʻoe ua hoʻokahi wale nō kāu kanaka.
- Hiki i nā kūlana olakino ʻē aʻe ke hoʻoulu i ke kaumaha: Hiki i kekahi mau kūlana kino ke hoʻoulu i ke kaumaha, e like me ka hypothyroidism .
- Hiki ke hana ʻia e nā lāʻau lapaʻau: Hiki ke loaʻa ke kaumaha ma ke ʻano he hopena ʻaoʻao o kekahi mau lāʻau lapaʻau i lawe ʻia no nā maʻi e like me ke koko kiʻekiʻe.
- E kamaʻilio e pili ana i ka hoʻopau ʻana i kou ola: He mea kēia e pono e noʻonoʻo pono ʻia . Inā haʻi aku kekahi iā ʻoe ua luhi lākou i ke ola a manaʻo lākou e make ana lākou, mai lawe māmā. Hiki paha ke lilo i uē no ke kōkua.
Pehea lā mākou e kōkua ai i kahi mea i kaumaha?
Inā manaʻo ʻoe he pono ʻoe e kōkua i kahi hoaaloha a ʻohana paha, eia pehea e hoʻomaka ai i kēlā kamaʻilio ʻana.
ʻO ka mea mua, e haʻi iā ia i kou manaʻo.
I ka hapa nui o ka manawa, makaʻu mākou e kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia ʻano mea. Akā ʻo kēia ka manawa kūpono loa e hōʻike i kou mālama a me kou aloha iā ia. Hiki iā ʻoe ke kamaʻilio penei me ka leo mālie a lokomaikaʻi.
"Ua hopohopo iki au nou i kēia mau lā. Manaʻo wau ʻaʻole ʻoe e like me ka wā ma mua. Ua maikaʻi anei nā mea a pau?"
Ke nīnau ʻoe i kēia nīnau, e manaʻo ʻo ia e mālama ana ʻoe iā ia. A laila e hoʻolohe pono i kāna mea e ʻōlelo ai. E nīnau pehea e hiki ai iā ʻoe ke kōkua. Hiki iā ʻoe ke nīnau inā hiki iā ʻoe ke kōkua iā ia e ʻike i ke kauka .
Ke kōkua nei iā ʻoe e ʻōlelo 'ʻaʻole' a me ka ʻōlelo 'ʻae'
Hoʻāʻo mākou e paipai iā lākou me nā manaʻo maikaʻi, akā i kekahi manawa hiki i nā mea a mākou e ʻōlelo ai ke hōʻeha hou aku iā lākou. No laila e pale i ka ʻōlelo ʻana i nā mea e like me kēia.
| Mai ʻōlelo ʻoe penei ❌ | ʻOi aku ka maikaʻi o ka ʻōlelo ʻana penei ✔️ |
|---|---|
| "He mau pilikia kēlā i loaʻa i nā kānaka a pau. E ikaika." | "Pehea kou manaʻo i kēia lā?" |
| "He mau manawa kaumaha ko kēlā me kēia kanaka." | "E kala mai iaʻu no kou pilikia nui." |
| "ʻĀ, ua hana ʻia kekahi mea like me ia iaʻu, ʻo kēia kaʻu i hana ai..." | "Ke ʻike nei au i ka nui o kou ʻeha." |
| "E maikaʻi nā mea a pau i loko o kekahi mau lā." | "He aha kaʻu e hana ai e kōkua aku ai iā ʻoe?" |
I ka ʻōlelo maʻalahi, mai hoʻohālikelike i ko lākou mau manaʻo me ko kekahi. ʻO ka hana ʻana pēlā e manaʻo ai lākou ʻaʻole kūpono ko lākou kaumaha a he mea maʻamau ia. E hoʻonui aku ia i ko lākou manaʻo mehameha.
E hoʻomanawanui a mahalo i nā hoʻomaikaʻi liʻiliʻi.
ʻAʻole like mau ka poʻe me ke kaumaha. He maikaʻi kekahi mau lā, he ʻino maoli kekahi mau lā. Inā ʻaʻole lākou makemake e kamaʻilio, mai hoʻokau. Malia paha makemake lākou e noho ʻoe ma laila me ka ʻole o ke kamaʻilio ʻana.
"ʻAʻole pilikia inā ʻaʻole ʻoe makemake e kamaʻilio, e noho wau ma ʻaneʻi me ʻoe."
"Inā makemake ʻoe e uē, e uē, ʻaʻohe hewa o ia mea."
Eia kekahi, inā hana lākou i kahi mea liʻiliʻi - no ka laʻana, ka holoi ʻana i ko lākou maka ma hope o ka manawa lōʻihi a me ka hoʻololi ʻana i ko lākou lole - mai ʻōlelo me ka hoʻohenehene. Akā, e hoʻomaikaʻi i kēlā hana liʻiliʻi.
| Mai ʻōlelo ʻoe i kēia me ka hoʻohenehene ❌ | Mahalo nui iā ia e like me kēia ✔️ |
|---|---|
| "ʻĀ... ua ʻaʻahu ʻoe i kēia lā, ʻeā?" | "Hauʻoli wau ua ala ʻoe. E hana anei au i kī?" |
| "Me he mea lā ua hoʻomaʻemaʻe iki ʻia ka hale..." | "He nani ka hale. Ua ʻike au ua hoʻoikaika nui ʻoe i loko." |
Inā puka mai kahi ʻōlelo ʻino mai o lākou mai...
I kekahi manawa, e kāhea aku paha lākou iā ʻoe no ia mea, a e hoʻopilikia paha ʻoe iā lākou. Mai lawe pilikino iā ia i kēlā manawa. ʻAʻole ʻo kou hoaaloha ka mea e kamaʻilio nei, ʻo ko lākou maʻi ia. E hoʻomanawanui. E hoʻomanaʻo iā lākou, "Aia mau wau ma ʻaneʻi inā pono ʻoe e kamaʻilio."
Nā ala e hakakā ai i ke kaumaha
He mea nui kēia mau ʻōlelo aʻoaʻo no ʻoe e ʻeha nei i ke kaumaha a me ka poʻe e kōkua ana i kahi mea e kaumaha nei.
- E ʻimi koke i ke kōkua lapaʻau: ʻO kēia ka hana mua a koʻikoʻi loa. No kēia, e hālāwai me ke kauka lapaʻau loea a i ʻole kāu kauka ʻohana a kamaʻilio e pili ana i kēia. Pono pinepine ʻia nā lāʻau lapaʻau a me ke aʻo ʻana.
- Inā loaʻa iā ʻoe nā manaʻo e pepehi iā ʻoe iho, mai ʻeha hoʻokahi: e haʻi koke aku i kahi āu e hilinaʻi ai. A i ʻole, e kelepona i nā Hoaaloha o Sri Lanka a i ʻole ka National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) helu pilikia 1926 no ke kōkua. Ua mākaukau lākou e hoʻolohe iā ʻoe.
- E hoʻomaka i kou lā me kahi hoʻoikaika kino iki: ʻAʻole pono ia he mea nui. ʻOiai he 10-15 mau minuke ka hele wāwae ʻana ma ka pā hale hiki ke hana i kahi ʻokoʻa nui.
- E mālama i kahi hana maʻamau: E moe a ala aʻe i ka manawa like e like me ka hiki. E ʻai i nā meaʻai momona.
- E hana i kahi mea liʻiliʻi o nā mea āu i hauʻoli ai: ʻOiai kahi mea liʻiliʻi e like me ka nānā ʻana i kahi kiʻiʻoniʻoni a i ʻole ka hoʻolohe ʻana i kahi mele, ʻaʻohe mea nui.
- E hōʻalo loa i ka waiʻona a me nā lāʻau lapaʻau: ʻOiai ke ʻano o kēia mau mea he hōʻoluʻolu manawa pōkole, hiki iā lākou ke hoʻonui i ke kaumaha i ka wā lōʻihi.
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- ʻAʻole ka kaumaha he nāwaliwali o ka noʻonoʻo, akā, he maʻi maoli ia e pono ai ka mālama ʻia.
- ʻO ka mea maikaʻi loa hiki iā ʻoe ke hāʻawi aku i kahi mea e ʻeha nei i ke kaumaha, ʻo ia ka hoʻolohe ʻana iā lākou me ka ʻole o ka hoʻohewa ʻana.
- Ma kahi o ka hoʻohaʻahaʻa ʻana i nā huaʻōlelo e like me "He aha kāu e hana nei?", e hoʻohana i nā huaʻōlelo kākoʻo e like me "Aia pū wau me ʻoe."
- E mahalo i ka hoʻoikaika liʻiliʻi loa a lākou e hana ai. Hāʻawi ia iā lākou i ka ikaika nui.
- ʻO ka mea nui loa, ʻo ia ke kuhikuhi iā lākou i ke kōkua lapaʻau loea. ʻO kāu kauka ke alakaʻi maikaʻi loa no kēia.
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