Fɔ adopt pikin na rili fayn tin we yu fɔ disayd fɔ du wit lɔv. I de briŋ nyu layf ɛn gladi at to wan famili. Bɔt bifo wi bigin dis fayn fayn waka, yu tink se wi fɔ no smɔl mɔ bɔt di wɛlbɔdi prɔblɛm dɛn we di smɔl pikin we de kam jɔyn yu famili kin gɛt we i bigin fɔ liv? Bikɔs, da ɔwe ɛn pripia de na in de gi yu ɛn yu nyu addɛshɔn to di famili di bɛst, sef stat.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wetin na fɔ adopt?
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, fɔ adopt pikin na di soshal, imɔshɔnal, ɛn ligal we aw pikin we dɛn mama ɛn papa nɔ mɛn, kin bi mɛmba na ɔda famili. Dis nɔto jɔs ligal dɔkyumɛnt. I min se dɛn de gi di pikin lɔv, kia fɔ am, protɛkt am, ɛn famili we nɔ de chenj. Insay Sri Lanka, dɛn kin du dis tru ɔfɛnij, prayvet institiushɔn, ɔ tru fambul dɛn (fɔ ɛgzampul, pikin fɔ wan fambul we de nia am). Tru dis prɔses, yu go gɛt fɔ wok klos wit lɔya dɛn, soshal woka dɛn, ɛn mɔ di wan dɛn we de mɛn pikin dɛn.
Yu dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn na yu big trɛnk pan dis joyn. Na in go tich ɛn gayd yu bɔt yu pikin in bɔdi, maynd, divɛlɔpmɛnt, ɛn filin.
Wetin na di rizin dɛn we kin mek di pikin dɛn we dɛn dɔn mɛn kin gɛt mɔ wɛlbɔdi prɔblɛm?
Lɛk ɛni pikin, pikin dɛn we dɛn dɔn mɛn kin gɛt ɛni sik. Bɔt stɔdi dɔn sho se dɛn pikin ya kin gɛt prɔblɛm wit dɛn bɔdi, maynd, ɛn divɛlɔpmɛnt smɔl we yu kɔmpia dɛn wit ɔda pikin dɛn.
Di men rizin fɔ dis na di bad bad tin dɛn we kin apin to dɛn we dɛn smɔl. Insay mɛrɛsin, wi kin kɔl dɛn tin ya Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) . Dɛn risk ya na rial tin, bɔt if yu lɛk am, kia fɔ yu, ɛn yu gi yu di rayt advays we yu de gi yu, da pikin de go gɛt bɔku trɛnk fɔ win ɔl dɛn prɔblɛm ya ɛn gro ɔp wit wɛlbɔdi ɛn gladi at.
Na sɔm pan di men rizin dɛn we mek dɛn prɔblɛm dɛn de bɔku:
- Nɔ gɛt di rayt wɛlbɔdi biznɛs we i gɛt bɛlɛ ɛn afta we i bɔn: Di mama nɔ kin gɛt di it we i nid, vaytamɛn, ɛn mɛrɛsin tɛst dɛn we i gɛt bɛlɛ. I kin mis bak di vaysin dɛn we i nid ɛn di klinik tritmɛnt dɛn afta dɛn bɔn di pikin.
- Di tin dɛn we di pikin nɔ de it fayn: we i nɔ de it fayn we i smɔl, dat kin afɛkt di pikin in divɛlɔpmɛnt dairekt wan.
- Di tin dɛn we pɔsin nid fɔ fil we i nɔ mit:Lɔv, wam, ɛn sikyɔriti fɔ pikin (aravaṇaippu - wam/kɔd - na Tamil wɔd we dɛn kin yuz sɔm tɛm dɛn na kɔl, bɔt a fɔ avɔyd am lɛk aw dɛn tɛl mi. A go rifrɛz) Lɔv, wam, ɛn sikyɔriti fɔ pikin impɔtant fɔ mek in bren divɛlɔp. We dɛn nɔ gi dɛn tin ya, i kin afɛkt fɔ lɔng tɛm.
- If di pikin gɛt pɔyzin: We di mama de drink rɔm, tabak, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn we i gɛt bɛlɛ, ɔ di say we di pikin de liv, dat kin ambɔg in wɛlbɔdi.
- Trauma: Di we aw dɛn de trit pikin bad (di pikin in bɔdi, i de fil, i de du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs), we i separet wit in mama ɛn papa, we dɛn kin chenj di we aw dɛn de kia fɔ pikin dɛn ɔltɛm, we dɛn kin si vaylɛns na os, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn kin gɛt impak we pɔsin nɔ go ebul fɔ imajin pan di pikin in bren divɛlɔpmɛnt ɛn in maynd wɛlbɔdi. Stret wae de kam wit dis kayn tin kin chenj aw di bɔdi in ɔmon sistɛm de wok ɛn i kin mek i gɛt sik dɛn na in bɔdi fɔ lɔng tɛm.
Wetin na di prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin to pɔsin we gɛt wɛlbɔdi?
Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt sɔm kɔmɔn wɛlbɔdi prɔblɛm dɛn we dɛn kin si pan pikin dɛn we dɛn dɔn mɛn. Nɔto ɔl pikin dɛn gɛt dɛn tin ya, bɔt i impɔtant fɔ no bɔt dɛn.
Di Kɔndishɔn dɛn we De na di Bɔdi
Bɔku tɛm dɛn kayn tin ya kin apin bikɔs i nɔ gɛt di rayt it ɔ mɛrɛsin we di pikin nɔ de it fayn.
| Di kɔndishɔn na di bɔdi | Wan simpul ɛksplen |
|---|---|
| Growth failure ɛn nyutrishɔnal dɛfisiɛns | Nɔ gɛt ayt ɛn wet we fit yu ej. Tin dɛn lɛk ayɛn, kalsiɔm, ɛn vaytamɛn D kin nɔ de na di bɔdi. |
| Asma we gɛt asma | I nɔ kin izi fɔ yu fɔ blo ɛn alɛji fɔ di we aw yu de blo. |
| Fat | Sɔm pikin dɛn kin fat afta dɛn nɔ gɛt bɛtɛ it ɛn afta dat dɛn kin it pasmak we dɛn bigin fɔ it ɔ bikɔs ɔf dɛn maynd. |
| I nɔ kin ebul fɔ si ɛn yɛri fayn | Dɛn tin ya kin tranga pasmak if dɛn nɔ no ɛn trit dɛn we dɛn yɔŋ. |
| Prɔblɛm dɛn we gɛt fɔ du wit di tit | Prɔblɛm dɛn lɛk we yu tut kin rɔtin kin apin bikɔs yu nɔ gɛt di rayt abit fɔ klin yu tit. |
Imɔshɔnal & Mental Ɛlth
Fɔ separet pikin frɔm dɛn ɔrijinal famili ɛn di say we dɛn sabi na big big saykilɔjik trauma fɔ di wangren pikin. I kin tek tɛm fɔ mek di pikin ajɔst to nyu os ɛn famili. Insay da tɛm de, di pikin kin sho dɛn kayn tin ya.
- Tray fɔ de yu wan, nɔto fɔ tɔk.
- Fɔ biev di we we nɔ de tek tɛm, fɔ vɛks.
- Fɔ kray ɔltɛm.
- Slip prɔblɛm (slip terror, inshɔmnia).
- Nɔ intres pan tin dɛn we yu bin de ɛnjɔy trade.
Nɔ panik we yu si dis kayn we aw pɔsin de biev. Dis na aw di pikin de sho aw i de fil bad, aw i de fred, ɛn aw i nɔ no wetin fɔ du. Yu peshɛnt, lɔv, ɛn ɔndastandin rili impɔtant dis tɛm. Bɔt if dis tin kɔntinyu fɔ apin, i rili impɔtant fɔ tɔk to di pikin in dɔktɔ ɛn if nid de, yu fɔ go to dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn we gɛt maynd prɔblɛm.
Bikɔs ɔf di bad bad tin dɛn we kin apin we dɛn smɔl, sɔm pikin dɛn kin gɛt sɔm kayn mental wɛlbɔdi kɔndishɔn.
- Anxiety disorders: Fɔ de fil ɔltɛm fɔ fred ɛn dawt.
- Pwɛl hat: De pwɛl hat fɔ lɔng tɛm, pwɛl hat.
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD): Wae yu kin mɛmba ɔltɛm bɔt wan traumatik tin wae bin dɔn apin trade ɛn frayd fɔ tin dɛm wae gɛt fɔ du wit am.
- Disɔda fɔ it: Fɔ it tumɔs ɔr tumɔs bikɔs ɔf saikolojik rizin.
Bihayvya & Divɛlɔpmɛnt Isyu dɛn
Di tin dɛn we kin apin to pikin trade kin afɛkt di we aw pikin de biev ɛn aw i de gro dairekt wan.
- I nɔ kin izi fɔ kɔntrol di we aw pɔsin de fil: Fɔ vɛks pasmak ɔ fɔ vɛks pan smɔl smɔl tin dɛn.
- Agresiv bihayvya: fɔ bit ɔda pipul dɛn, fɔ trowe tin dɛn.
- Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD): I nɔ kin ebul fɔ de na wan ples, i kin izi fɔ mek i pe atɛnshɔn to am, ɛn i nɔ kin rɛst.
- Fɔ delay fɔ tɔk: Nɔ ebul fɔ tɔk di kayn we we fit di ej.
- Disabiliti fɔ lan: I nɔ kin izi fɔ pe atɛnshɔn pan skul wok.
Infɔmeshɔn bɔt wɛlbɔdi biznɛs we yu nid fɔ no bifo yu adopt pikin
Bifo ɔ jɔs afta yu pikin jɔyn yu famili, tray fɔ gɛda bɔku wɛlbɔdi infɔmeshɔn bɔt am. Dis infɔmeshɔn go ɛp yu ɛn yu pikin in dɔktɔ fɔ kia fɔ yu pikin di bɛst we. Sɔntɛnde, i nɔ kin pɔsibul fɔ fɛn ɔl dɛn tin ya. Bɔt tray fɔ du ɔl wetin yu ebul.
Ki infɔmeshɔn we yu fɔ tray fɔ fɛn:
- Di pikin in mɛdikal istri:
- Us mɛrɛsin di pikin gɛt naw ɔ i dɔn gɛt trade?
- Dɛn dɔn put yu na ɔspitul? Dɛn dɔn du ɔpreshɔn pan yu?
- Us mɛrɛsin dɛn de yuz naw?
- Di pikin gɛt alɛji?
- Us vaysin dɛn dɔn gi? (I go rili ɛp yu if yu ebul fɔ fɛn di vaksin kad)
- Ripɔt bɔt blɔd tɛst, skan, ɛn ɔda tin dɛn we dɛn bin dɔn du trade.
- Infɔmeshɔn we gɛt fɔ du wit bɔn pikin:
- di wet we dɛn bɔn am, di lɔng we i lɔng, ɛn di say we i de rawnd di ed.
- Ɔmɔs wik dɛn bɔn yu? (Na bin bɔn we dɛn bɔn pikin bifo tɛm?)
- Ɛni prɔblɛm bin de we dɛn bɔn am ɔ afta dɛn bɔn am?
- Infɔmeshɔn bɔt di mama in bɛlɛ:
- Yu tink se di mama bin de yuz rɔm ɔ sigrɛt we i gɛt bɛlɛ?
- Di mama bin gɛt ɛni sik (e.g. sik dɛn we pɔsin kin gɛt we i du mami ɛn dadi biznɛs) da tɛm de?
- Famili mɛdikal istri:
- Us sik dɛn we pɔsin kin gɛt frɔm in mama ɛn papa (e.g., dayabitis, at sik, kansa) di pikin in mama ɛn papa ɛn in brɔda ɛn sista dɛn gɛt? Dis kin tranga fɔ no, bɔt i impɔtant fɔ no if i pɔsibul.
- Divɛlɔpmɛnt ɛn Sɔshial Istri:
- Infɔmeshɔn bɔt di pikin in divɛlɔpmɛnt maylston dɛm (ej we dɛn de kray, waka, ɛn tɔk).
- Ripɔt dɛn bɔt if dɛn dɔn du bad to di pikin ɔ dɛn nɔ de kia fɔ am.
- If yu don go skul, aw di skul aktiviti dem de?
Di wok we di dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn de du na dis joyn
Fɔ famili we de mɛn pikin, dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn na pɔsin we de gayd dɛn, advaysa, ɛn in bɛst padi. In wok pas fɔ jɔs gi mɛrɛsin fɔ wan sik.
- Wi go analayz di mɛdikal infɔmeshɔn we yu dɔn gɛda bɔt yu pikin ɛn tɛl yu bɔt ɛni spɛshal tritmɛnt we yu pikin go nid.
- As di pikin jɔyn di famili so, dɛn kin du kɔmplit ɛgzamin pan in bɔdi ɛn maynd fɔ no if i gɛt ɛni prɔblɛm we dɛn nɔ no.
- If di pikin nid di ɛp fɔ spɛshal pipul dɛn (e.g., pikin dɛn saykayatrist, kadyolɔg, tɔk thɛrapist), dɛn go rifer dɛn fɔ dat.
- Dɛn go gi yu advays bɔt aw fɔ dil wit prɔblɛm dɛn we kin apin to yu we yu pikin de ajɔst to nyu famili.
- Wi de tich yu we fɔ ɛp fɔ mek di pikin ɛn di famili gɛt strɔng padi biznɛs.
- Dɛn kin wach di pikin in vaysin ɛn jenɛral wɛlbɔdi ɔltɛm.
Aw dis kin afɛkt di ɔda pipul dɛn na di famili?
We nyu pikin kam na di famili, i kin bi big chenj fɔ ɔlman na di os. Dis kin bi mɔ if ɔda pikin dɛn de na os.
- Brɔda ɛn sista dɛn jɛlɔs: Ɔda pikin dɛn kin fil se di nyu pikin de gɛt mɔ atɛnshɔn. Dis kin mek dɛn vɛks ɛn jɛlɔs. Di bɛst we fɔ dil wit dis na fɔ spɛn tɛm wit di ɔda pikin dɛn wan bay wan. Mek dɛn fil se dɛn stil spɛshal.
- Di wan dɛn we de kia fɔ pikin dɛn we dɔn bɔn: Mama ɛn papa dɛn kin fil taya pan bɔdi, maynd, ɛn filin we dɛn de kia fɔ pikin we gɛt spɛshal nid. Dis na nɔmal tin. I impɔtant fɔ kia fɔ yusɛf, tek tɛm blo, ɛn aks fɔ sɔpɔt frɔm padi dɛn we yu kin abop pan. Nɔ shek fɔ aks pɔsin we de advays yu fɔ ɛp yu if nid de.
Yu rili rɛdi fɔ du dis wok?
Dis na tin we pɔsin kin disayd fɔ du fɔ ɔl in layf. So bifo yu disayd fɔ adopt pikin, aks yusɛf dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya.
* Wetin mek a want fɔ adopt pikin? Wetin na mi intenshɔn?
* A kin gi pikin di say we i nid fɔ sho lɔv, we nɔ de chenj, ɛn we sef?
* A gɛt di trɛnk pan mɔni ɛn filin fɔ mit di spɛshal wɛlbɔdi biznɛs ɛn ɛdyukeshɔn nid dɛn we di pikin go nid?
* A rɛdi fɔ tinap fɔ da pikin de na skul, na ɔspitul, ɛn na sosayti?
* A rɛdi fɔ lan bɔt di spɛshal nid dɛn we dɛn pikin ya gɛt ɛn ajɔst to di tin dɛn we dɛn nid?
* A gɛt grup we gɛt gud padi ɛn fambul dɛn fɔ ɛp mi ɛn sheb mi gladi-at ɛn sɔri-at?
I nɔ pɔsibul fɔ rɛdi fɔ ɔltin bifo tɛm, bɔt di mɔ we yu de tink bɔt am, na di mɔ i go izi fɔ yu ɛn yu nyu famili.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Fɔ mɛn pikin na wok we gɛt lɔv ɛn big wok. Dɛn pikin ya kin gɛt spɛshal bɔdi ɛn maynd wɛlbɔdi nid bikɔs ɔf di tin dɛn we dɛn bin dɔn du trade.
- Bifo yu ad pikin to yu famili, fɛn bɔku tin dɛn bɔt dɛn mɛrɛsin istri ɛn aw dɛn kɔmɔt na dɛn famili.
- Yu dɔktɔ we de mɛn pikin dɛn na yu bɛst advaysa ɛn sɔpɔta fɔ dis joyn. Tɔk to am bɔt ɔltin opin wan.
- As well as yu pikin, tek kia ɔf yu yone mental hεlth ɛn ɔda famili mɛmba dɛm as dɛn de naviget dis transishɔn. Gɛt ɛp if nid de.
- Peshɛnt, lɔv, ɛn ɔndastandin na di tin dɛn we yu gɛt pas ɔl na dis waka.
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