We pɔsin na di famili gɛt fiva ɔ in trot we de at, i nɔ kin at fɔ ɛksplen am to pikin. Bɔt, if mama de na in rum fɔ sɔm dez ɛn i tan lɛk se i sɔri, ɛn papa nɔ de smayl ɔ tɔk lɛk aw i bin de tɔk trade... aw yu go ɛksplen dis kayn sik we pɔsin nɔ de si to smɔl pikin? Dis na big prɔblɛm fɔ bɔku mama ɛn papa dɛn. If wi nɔ tɛl wi pikin dɛn bɔt am di rayt we, dɛn kin mistek ɛksplen tin dɛn. Dɛn kin tink se, “Mama in at pwɛl bikɔs ɔf sɔntin we a nɔ du.” So, lɛ wi tɔk bɔt dis tide.
Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, wetin na pwɛl hat?
Pwɛl hat, ɔr wetin wi kin kɔl am na Inglish, na mɛntɛl sik. I nɔ min se pɔsin in maynd wik, ɔ i nɔ de fil bad, ɔ i nɔ de fil bad. Fɔ tɔk di kɔrɛkt tin, na sik we gɛt fɔ du wit wi bren.
Jɔs tink bɔt, we wi gɛt dayabitis, di ɔmon we dɛn kɔl insulin nɔ de wok fayn, nɔto so? Semweso, we wi gɛt pwɛl hat , di wok we sɔm kemikal dɛn (nyurotransmitta) de du na wi bren kin chenj . Dɛn kemikal ya kin kɔntrol aw wi kin fil fɔ gladi, fɔ fil bad, ɛn fɔ du tin dɛn. So we dɛn tin ya nɔ de wok fayn, pɔsin kin fil bad, i kin fil bad bɔt layf, ɛn nɔ kin bisin bɔt ɛnitin fɔ lɔng tɛm.
De tin wae impɔtant pas ɔl na dat, pwɛl hat nɔto pɔrsin in fɔlt ɔr wik. Na sik we kin ambɔg ɛnibɔdi. Ɛn i kin wɛl kpatakpata if dɛn gi am di rayt mɛrɛsin.
Aw fɔ tɔk to pikin di we we fit in ej?
We yu de tɔk to pikin bɔt dis, i impɔtant fɔ tink bɔt dɛn ej ɛn di lɛvul we dɛn ɔndastand. Dɛn fɔ ɛksplen dis to yɔŋ pikin we ol fayvtin ia, nɔto to pikin we ol fayv ia.
Fɔ mek i izi fɔ wi, lɛ wi luk dis na tebul lɛk dis:
| Pikin in ej grup | Aw fɔ tɔk (wit ɛgzampul dɛn) . |
|---|---|
| Priskul (3-5 ia) . | Yuz wɔd dɛn we rili simpul. Se somtin simpul laik, "Son/Daughter, Papa de fil likl unwel. Na im mek im de luk laik se i taya likl. No bi bikos of di mischief we yu du? Get am som medisin and im go fayn. Mek wi tek kia of am." |
| Skul-ej (6-12 ia) . | Ɛksplen smɔl. "Mi mama gɛt wan sik we dɛn kɔl dipreshɔn. I tan lɛk se yu leg brok ɛn yu gɛt prɔblɛm fɔ rɔn ɛn jomp. I at smɔl fɔ gladi we yu gɛt dis sik. I nɔto sik we pɔsin kin pas. Yu go bɛtɛ smɔl smɔl wit tritmɛnt frɔm di dɔktɔ. Dis nɔto yu fɔlt." |
| Yɔŋ (13+ ia ol) | Tɔk lɛk se yu de tɔk to big pɔsin, bɔt tɔk am simpul wan. "Yu kin notis se Mama/Papa nɔ de di sem lɛk aw i bin de. I gɛt wan mɛrɛsin we dɛn kɔl dipreshɔn. Na bikɔs ɔf kemikal chenj na in bren. Wi dɔn bigin tritmɛnt. I nɔmal fɔ mek yu fil sɔri, vɛks, ɛn frustrate bikɔs ɔf dis. Yu kin tɔk to mi bɔt ɛnitin." |
Yu fɔ mɛmba dɛn pɔynt dɛn ya we yu de tɔk to yu pikin.
1. Bi ɔnɛs, nɔ ayd tin.
Pikin dɛn smat pas aw wi de tink. If sɔntin de we difrɛn na os, dɛn kin no am. Bifo yu lay ɛn se "natin," i bɛtɛ fɔ tɛl dɛn di trut di we we dɛn go ɔndastand. If nɔto dat, dɛn go bigin fɔ tink bɔt rizin dɛn bay wetin dɛn no, we go mek dɛn fred we dɛn nɔ nid.
2. Tɔk klia wan se, "Dis nɔto yu fɔlt."
Dis na di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl ɛn we impɔtant pas ɔl fɔ tɔk . Bɔku tɛm, yɔŋ pikin dɛn kin tink se na dɛn mama ɛn papa kin fil bad. Tin dɛm lɛk "Mama de sɔri bikɔs a du sɔntin we nɔ fayn," "Papa nɔ go tɔk to mi bikɔs a gɛt smɔl mak na di ɛgzam," kin kam na dɛn maynd. So, ripit, "Dis nɔto yu fɔlt atɔl. Dis na sik. I tan lɛk se yu gɛt kol."
3. Gi op
Ɛp yu pikin fɔ ɔndastand se pwɛl hat na sik we pɔsin kin mɛn. If yu se, "Mama/Papa, yu de gɛt tritmɛnt fɔ dis. Yu de go to dɔktɔ ɛn tek mɛrɛsin. Afta sɔm tɛm, yu go gladi bak," i kin ɛp fɔ mek yu pikin nɔ fred.
4. Dis nɔto sɔntin we pɔsin kin tɔk bɔt wan tɛm ɛn dɔn.
Nɔ jɔs tɔk bɔt dis insay wan de. Tɔk to yu pikin bɔt am ɔltɛm. Aks dem, "Aw yu de, pikin?", "Yu de fil enitin?", "Yu get eni kweshon?" ɔltɛm. Dis go ɛp fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt bɔku lod ɛn mek dɛn fil se nɔto dɛn wangren de.
Aw wi kin gɛt dis prɔblɛm as famili?
We pɔsin na di famili gɛt pwɛl at, i kin afɛkt di wan ol famili. Bɔt if wi kam togɛda as famili, wi go ebul fɔ win dis prɔblɛm.
- Mek di tin dɛn we yu fɔ du ɔltɛm: Mek di tin dɛn we yu pikin kin du ɛvride (we i kin wek, fɔ wok na skul, fɔ it, fɔ ple, fɔ slip) di sem we aw yu ebul. Dis go ɛp yu pikin fɔ fil stebul ɛn sef.
- Tink bɔt yusɛf bak: De ɔda patna wae de kia fɔ de pɔrsin wae gɛt pwɛl hat sik nid fɔ kia fɔ dɛn yone maynd ɛn bɔdi wɛl bɔdi bak. Na we yu strɔng nɔmɔ yu go ebul fɔ kia fɔ di wan ol famili.
- Praktis fayn we dɛn fɔ bia wit strɛs: Tich yu pikin dɛn aw fɔ kɔntrol strɛs ɛn wɔri. Wi kin kɔl dis bak `distress tolerance`.
- Dip briz: Tek sɔm dip briz we yu fil se yu strɛs.
- Tɔk bɔt wetin de na yu maynd: We yu fil bad ɔ vɛks, tɔk to pɔsin we yu trɔst ɛn nɔ kip am insay bɔtul insay.
- Positiv tinkin: Tɛl yusɛf fayn tin lɛk "ɔltin go fayn."
- Yu fɔ mɛmba wetin yu de tɔk ɛn di we aw yu de biev: Ilɛk aw yu strɛs, tray fɔ avɔyd fɔ ala ɔ agyu bifo yu pikin dɛn. Di we aw yu de biev de sɛt fayn ɛgzampul fɔ yu pikin dɛn.
Ustɛm fɔ go to dɔktɔ wantɛm wantɛm
- If di mama ɔ papa we in at pwɛl bad bad wan, i de wɔs, ɔr de tɔk bɔt fɔ du bad to dɛnsɛf, kɛr dɛn go na di ɔspitul we de nia am in Imejɛnsi Tritmɛnt Yunit (ETU) ɛn nɔ de te .
- If yu notis big chenj na yu pikin in bihayvya, fɔ ɛgzampul, fɔ de sɔri ɔltɛm, fɔ mis skul wok, nɔ de it fayn, nɔ de slip fayn, ɔ fɔ tray fɔ de yu wan, i impɔtant fɔ go to yu famili dɔktɔ fɔ tɔk bɔt yu pikin in maynd wɛlbɔdi.
Mɛsej we dɛn kin kɛr go na os
- Pwɛl hat nɔto wikɛd tin, na mɛrɛsin wae kin mɛn wit tritmɛnt.
- Tɔk to yu pikin bɔt dis ɔnɛs wan, insay simpul wɔd dɛn we fit in ej.
- Ripit to yu pikin se, "Dis nɔto yu fɔlt." Dis rili impɔtant.
- Krio op fɔ tritmɛnt ɛn fɔ wɛl. Tɛl di pikin se di mama ɔ papa go wɛl.
- Kip di tin dɛn we yu kin du na yu famili as nɔmal as yu ebul. Dis go mek di pikin gɛt sef.
- If yu ɔ yu pikin de fil bad, nɔ ɛva shem fɔ aks fɔ ɛp. Tɔk to yu dɔktɔ .
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