Yu gɛt sɔri-at bak we yu nɔ ebul fɔ bia? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt (Complicated Grief) .

Sɔm tɛm na wi layf, we wi lɔs pɔsin we de nia wi, ilɛksɛf na wi fambul, padi, ɔ pɔsin we wi lɛk, i nɔmal fɔ fil bɔku sɔri-at ɛn pen. Dat na nature. Dis sɔri-at kin stɔp smɔl smɔl as tɛm de go, ɛn wi kin ajɔst to nɔmal layf bak. Bɔt sɔm tɛm, dis sɔri-at nɔ kin stɔp, i kin stɔp insay wi at, i kin wɔs ɛn wɔs, ɛn wi nɔ kin ivin ebul fɔ du wi wok dɛn we wi kin du ɛvride fayn fayn wan. Na dat wi kin kɔl ‘ kɔmplikɛt sɔri-at’, na wan kayn pwɛl hat wae kin pas nɔrmal pwɛl hat, kin te, ɛn kin tranga .

So wetin na dis (Complicated Grief)?

Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, kɔmplikɛt krayse na wan kayn pwɛl hat we kin rili tranga, we kin te fɔ lɔng tɛm, we kin apin afta pɔsin dɔn day. Insay dis kayn pwɛl hat, de filin ɛn tin wae yu de fil nɔr kin stɔp as tɛm de go. Bifo dat, dɛn kin fil lɛk se dɛn de rɔn na yu maynd ɔltɛm, tek yu wan ol de, yu wan ol layf.

Bɔku tɛm, we wi lɔs pɔsin, wi kin fil lɛk se wi dɔn stɔp na dɔti ol, wi dɔn lɔs insay fɔg, ɔ wi de tray tranga wan fɔ kɔmɔt na di wata. Sɔntɛm pen, sɔri, ɛn sɔntɛm ivin vɛks. Bɔt afta sɔm tɛm, wi kin ebul fɔ win am ɛn bigin fɔ liv wi layf bak. Bɔt, na dis stet we dɛn kɔl (Complicated Grief), dat nɔ kin apin. Dat pwɛl hat nɔ de go fɔ insɛf. I kin tek yu bɔdi ɛn maynd bad bad wan, ɛn i kin mek yu taya bad bad wan.

If yu gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif, yu kin fil:

• A kin fil lod we a nɔ ebul fɔ bia bɔt di rizin we mek di pɔsin lɔs ɔ di tin dɛn we bin apin da tɛm de.
• Dis tin we a lɔs kin mek a rili wɔri bɔt wetin go apin tumara bambay.
• Dɛn kin tray fɔ avɔyd tin dɛn we kin mek dɛn mɛmba di pɔsin we dɛn lɔs, ɔ dɛn kin ful-ɔp dɛn maynd wit dɛn tin dɛn de we dɛn kin mɛmba.

Dɔktɔ dɛn kin yuz sɔm ɔda nem dɛn fɔ dis sik (Complicated Grief):

• `(Grif fɔ lɔng tɛm)` (Grif fɔ lɔng tɛm)
• `(Krכnik krεse)` (Krכnik krεse)
• `(Persistent komplex bereavement disorder)` (Persistent komplex bereavement dizayd)

Wetin na di difrɛns bitwin nɔmal krayse ɛn kɔmplikɛt krayse?

Wi ɔl kin gɛt sɔri-at difrɛn we. Sɔm pipul dɛn kin ebul fɔ win am insay sɔm dez, ɛn ɔda wan dɛn kin tek sɔm mɔnt. Dat na nɔmal tin. Bɔt de men difrɛns bitwin Kɔmplikɛt Grif ɛn ɔda kayn pwɛl hat na dat e kin las fɔ siks mɔnt ɔr wan ia afta yu dɔn lɔs ɛn kin afɛkt yu ɛvride layf te yu nɔr ebul fɔ woke.

Imajin, yu bɛst padi in mama day. Insay di fɔs wik ɔ mɔnt dɛn, i nɔmal fɔ lɛ i fil bad, kray, nɔ want fɔ it, ɛn nɔ slip. Bɔt afta lɛk wan ia so, if i stil nɔ de it ɔ drink fayn, nɔ de go wok, nɔ de tɔk to ɛnibɔdi, ɛn de kray ɔltɛm ɛn tink bɔt in mama we dɔn lɔs, dat min se wi nid fɔ wɔri smɔl. Dat kin bi wan kes fɔ (Complicated Grief).

Yu tink se ɔlman kin bia wit pwɛl at difrɛn we?

Yɛs, na fɔ tru. Pan ɔl we wi ɔl kin fil bad we pɔsin day, di we aw wi kin sɔlv da pwɛl at ɛn di we aw wi de fil kin difrɛn frɔm wan pɔsin to ɔda pɔsin. Bɔku tin dɛn de we kin afɛkt dis:

• Yu bakgrɔn: aw dɛn mɛn yu, yu ɛkspiriɛns dɛn.
• Di tin dɛn we yu biliv: Di tin dɛn we yu biliv pan rilijɔn, di we aw yu de si layf.
• Di rilayshɔn wit di pɔsin we yu lɔs: Aw da pɔsin de bin de nia yu ɛn aw dɛn bin impɔtant to yu layf.

Wi ɔl gɛt difrɛn abit dɛn. Ɛn di say we wi de liv de afɛkt wi bak. Ɔl dɛn tin ya kin afɛkt aw wi kin bia wit pwɛl at.

Aw kɔmɔn de sik wae dɛn kɔl (Complicated Grief)?

Bay di risach wae dɛn dɔn du te naw, dɛn se lɛk 7% pan di big pipul dɛm wae kin gɛt pwɛl hat kin gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif. Dis na nyu kɔndishɔn we dɛn ad to di Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), we na wan buk we de sheb di mental dizayd. So, dɛn de du mɔ risach bɔt dis.

Wetin na de sayn dɛm wae de sho se yu gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif?

If yu gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif, yu kin gɛt wan ɔr mɔr pan dɛn sayn ya:

• Tin dɛn we kin mek pɔsin fil bad bɔt pɔsin we i lɔs ɛn we kin mek pɔsin lɔs, we tumɔs fɔ bia.
• Fɔ fil wan strɔng lɔng, wan pen na yu maynd we yu nɔ go ebul fɔ bia (fil lɛk se di pɔsin we dɔn lɔs go kam bak).
• Fɔ dinay, fɔ avɔyd, ɔ fɔ ignore di mɛmba dɛn bɔt di lɔs. Ɔ, bifo dat, tray fɔ rawnd yusɛf wit mɛsej fɔ mɛmba di pɔsin we dɔn lɔs (e.g., klos, pikchɔ).
• Fɔ fil lɛk se no rizin nɔ de na layf afta pɔsin dɔn lɔs.
• I at fɔ gri se pɔsin dɔn lɔs.

Apat frɔm dat, kɔmplikɛt pwɛl hat kin kam bak wit dɛn tin ya:

• Tin dɛn we pɔsin kin tink bɔt fɔ kil insɛf .
• Nɔ ebul slip .
• Siriɔs strɛs .
• Di it nɔ de te.
• I nɔ izi fɔ de wit ɔda pipul dɛn, fɔ tray fɔ de yu wan.
• Di bad bad tin dɛn we de apin na di bɔdi.
• I nɔ izi fɔ mek yu gɛt tayt padi biznɛs wit ɔda pipul dɛn ɛn fɔ du wetin yu gɛt fɔ du.

Impɔtant: If yu ɔ pɔsin we yu sabi de tink bɔt fɔ kil insɛf, duya go to dɔktɔ, pɔsin we de advays yu bɔt mental wɛlbɔdi biznɛs , ɔ pɔsin we yu biliv wantɛm wantɛm. Nɔ go am yu wan.

Wetin na de tin wae kin mek pɔrsin gɛt (Complicated Grief)?

Di men rizin fɔ dis kɔndishɔn na fɔ lɔs . I kin bi we pɔsin we yu lɛk day, dayvɔs, sɔntɛm ivin sɔntin lɛk we pɔsin lɔs in wok ɔ we i muf go os. Lɔs kin afɛkt pipul dɛn difrɛn we dɛn. Fɔ sɔm, i kin afɛkt fɔ lɔng tɛm.

Udat de pan big risk fɔ gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif?

If yu gɛt ɛni wan pan dɛn tin ya, yu kin gɛt smɔl prɔblɛm fɔ gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif:

• Fɔ gɛt prɔblɛm we yu go lɔs wantɛm wantɛm, we yu nɔ bin de tink se go apin:Fɔ ɛgzampul, day we pɔsin day pan aksidɛnt ɔ we i kil insɛf.
• Fɔ lɔs pɔsin we rili nia yu famili: lɛk yu mama ɔ papa, yu brɔda ɛn sista, yu pikin, ɔ yu man ɔ yu wɛf.
• Fɔ gɛt rili tayt, pɔsin in kɔnekshɔn wit di pɔsin we yu lɔs.
• Fɔ gɛt siriɔs trauma di tɛm we di pɔsin lɔs.
• Fɔ gɛt mɛntɛl hεlth kɔndishɔn wae bin dɔn de bifo (e.g., `(Diprɛshɔn)` ɔr `(Ansiety)`).

Wetin na de kɔmplikɛshɔn wae kin kam bikɔs ɔf Kɔmplikɛt Grif?

Kɔmplikɛt Grif kin afɛkt yu maynd ɛn yu bɔdi bak. Sɔm pan de lɔng tɛm wɛl bɔdi prɔblɛm wae kin kam wit am na:

• Pwɛl at .
• Wɔri .
• Malnutrishɔn ɔ dehydration (bikɔs yu nɔ de it ɔ drink fayn).
• Pɔst-traumatik strɛs disɔda (PTSD) .
• At sik .
• Di ay blɔd prɛshɔn .
• Disɔda fɔ yuz sɔbstans ɔ dizayd fɔ yuz rɔm . Sɔm pipul dɛn nɔ kin ebul fɔ bia wit di pen, dɛn kin tɔn to rɔm ɔ drɔgs, ɛn dis kin jɔs mek di tin wɔs.

Aw fɔ no (Complicated Grief)?

Dɔktɔ na di wan we kin rili no if yu gɛt kɔmplikɛt sɔri-at ɔ yu nɔ gɛt. Dɛn go tink bɔt dɛn tin ya:

• If yu sayn dɛm fɔ pwɛl hat dɔn afɛkt yu bɔdi, maynd, ɛn soshal wɛlbɔdi .
• If dɛn sik ya kin kɔntinyu afta we i lɔs at le wan ia pan di kes fɔ big pɔsin, ɔ siks mɔnt pan di kes fɔ yɔŋ pikin.
• If yu dɔn de gɛt dɛn sik ya ɛvride fɔ at le wan mɔnt bifo dɛn no se yu gɛt dis sik.

Apat frɔm dat, fɔ kɔnfirm di sik, di dɔktɔ go luk fɔ at le tri pan dɛn sayn ya:

• I kin fil lɛk se wan pat pan yu dɔn day wit di lɔs.
• Wan nɔ want fɔ gri se di lɔs dɔn apin.
• Fɔ avɔyd tin dɛn we de mek yu mɛmba di tin we yu dɔn lɔs.
• Fɔ fil bad bad pen na yu maynd.
• Nɔ ebul fɔ du sɔshal aktiviti wit yu fambul ɛn padi dɛn.
• Di lɔs fɔ filin filin, ɔr filin fɔ filin nɔr de fil.
• Fɔ fil lɛk se layf nɔ gɛt ɛni minin afta yu dɔn lɔs.
• Fɔ de yu wan, fɔ fil se yu nɔ de nia ɔda pipul dɛn.

Wetin na de tritmɛnt fɔ Kɔmplikɛt Grif?

Tritmɛnt dɛn de fɔ Kɔmplikɛt Grif. Bɔku pipul dɛn kin si se wan tritmɛnt we dɛn kɔl Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) kin rili ɛp. Fɔ tɔk am simpul wan, CBT:

• Ɛp yu fɔ aksept di rial tin bɔt lɔs.
• Ɛp yu fɔ ajɔst to layf wit dis lɔs.
• Ɛp yu fɔ kɔnɛkt bak wit di tin dɛn we yu bin dɔn du bifo yu lɔs dɛn, di pipul dɛn we yu bin de wit.
• Ɛp yu fɔ rich yu yon gol dɛn bay we yu de mɛn yu maynd ɛn bɔdi.

Dɔn bak, we yu jɔyn di grup dɛn we de sɔpɔt di wan dɛn we dɔn day, dat kin rili ɛp yu. Dis na grup wae pipul dɛm wae dɔn gɛt di sem kayn lɔs lɛk yu kin kam togɛda ɛn ɔndastand yu pen. Na de yu kin tɛl ɔda pipul dɛn bɔt yu ɛkspiriɛns, lisin to ɔda pipul dɛn, ɛn fil se nɔto yu wangren de.

If yu gɛt ɔda prɔblɛm dɛn bikɔs ɔf Kɔmplikɛt Grif, lɛk pwɛl hat, yu dɔktɔ kin gi yu mɛrɛsin lɛk mɛrɛsin fɔ pwɛl pwɛl hat .

Aw kwik a go fil fayn afta dɛn dɔn trit mi?

No rayt tɛm nɔ de fɔ dis. Ɔlman in wɛl bɔdi prɔses ɛn aw fɔ wɛl kin difrɛn. I kin tek sɔm mɔnt, ɔ i kin tek sɔm ia fɔ mek yu bigin fil fayn. Yu thɛrapist go woke wit yu fɔ plan yu tritmɛnt bay yu pasɔnal gol dɛm. I impɔtant fɔ peshɛnt ɛn kɔntinyu fɔ du yu tritmɛnt.

Wetin a fɔ ɛkspɛkt if a gɛt (Complicated Grief)?

Fɔ liv wit pɔsin we dɔn lɔs nɔ kin izi. Yu maynd ful-ɔp wit filin, ɛn i kin afɛkt yu bɔdi wɛlbɔdi bak. If dɛn tin ya we yu de tink ɛn fil de tek yu layf, go mɔs go to dɔktɔ. If yu si se i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ bia wit di prɔblɛm fɔ yusɛf, aks yu fambul ɔ padi we yu kin abop pan fɔ ɛp yu, lɛk fɔ go to di fɔs dɔktɔ.

Mɛmba se, kɔmplikɛt pwɛl hat na sik we pɔsin kin mɛn. Yu kin bɛtɛ tru tritmɛnt ɛn sɔpɔt grup. If yu nɔr shɔ usai fɔ bigin, tɔk to yu praymari kia. I kin gi yu di gayd we yu nid. Ɛn if yu pwɛl at de afɛkt yu bɔdi, i kin ɛp yu wit dat bak.

Yu tink se dɛn go ebul fɔ mek dɛn nɔ gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif?

No we nɔ de fɔ mek yu nɔ gɛt Kɔmplikɛt Grif kpatakpata. Bɔt tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ ridyus di prɔblɛm we yu gɛt:

• Fɔ tɔk to pɔsin we de gi advays bɔt mɛntɛl hεlth afta yu dɔn lɔs.
• Fɔ bil wan strɔng sɔpɔt sistɛm fɔ pipul dɛn we lɛk ɛn ɔndastand yu.
• Fɔ jɔyn wan grup we de sɔpɔt pipul dɛn we gɛt sɔri-at afta yu dɔn lɔs.

Ustɛm a fɔ go to dɔktɔ?

If yu stil de fil bad bad wan ivin wan ia afta yu dɔn lɔs, ɛn de kray de mek yu nɔ ebul fɔ du di tin dɛn we yu de du ɛvride ɛn liv nɔmal layf, yu fɔ rili go to dɔktɔ.Di dɔktɔ kin ɛp yu fɔ wɛl.

Mɔtalman, if yu de fil bad bɔt layf ɛn yu de tink bɔt fɔ kil yusɛf, duya nɔ de te fɔ wan sɛkɔn ɛn go to dɔktɔ wantɛm wantɛm ɔ tɛl pɔsin we yu trɔst.

Us kwɛstyɔn dɛn a fɔ aks mi dɔktɔ?

We yu go to dɔktɔ, i go fayn fɔ aks kwɛstyɔn dɛn lɛk dɛn wan ya:

• Us tin dɛn de fɔ ɛp mi fɔ bia wit pwɛl at? A kin rifer to dɛn?
• A fɔ tɔk to pɔsin we sabi bɔt mental wɛlbɔdi biznɛs ?
• A go nid fɔ tek mɛrɛsin? If na so i bi, wetin na di bad tin dɛn we kin apin to am?
• Dis (Complicated Grief) kɔndishɔn kin mek a gɛt lɔng tɛm ifɛkt pan mi?
• Aw a go ebul fɔ go bak to mi nɔmal rutin?
• A de tink bɔt fɔ kil misɛf. Yu kin ɛp mi fɔ fɛn tritmɛnt fɔ am?

Fɔ dɔn, mɛmba... (Tek-Home Message)

Kɔmplikɛt Grif kin fil lɛk big big wet na yu chɛst, wan saykl we nɔ de dɔn we yu de fil pen. E kin tranga fɔ lɛf dis lod fɔ yusɛf if yu nɔr gɛt tritmɛnt. Pan ɔl we yu sik kin bɛtɛ as tɛm de go wit tritmɛnt lɛk Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), de filin wae gɛt fɔ du wit de lɔs kin kam bak ɔlsay na yu layf. Ɔlide ɛn anivesari dɛn kin tranga mɔ.

Bɔt di tin we impɔtant pas ɔl na fɔ ɔndastand se nɔto yu wangren de du dis waka. Pipul dɛn de we kin ɛp yu, de wit yu, ɛn lisin to yu insay dɛn tɛm dɛn ya we nɔ kin izi fɔ yu ɛn we nɔ kin izi fɔ yu. So nɔ ɛva shem fɔ aks fɔ ɛp, fɔ tɔk, fɔ go fɛn tritmɛnt. Yu kin ebul fɔ wɛl.

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