Yu tink se dayvɔs na prɔblɛm fɔ yusɛf? Lɛ wi tɔk bɔt am!

We yu mama ɛn papa disayd fɔ dayvɔs, yu kin fil bɔku difrɛn tin dɛn ɛn yu kin gɛt bɔku kwɛstyɔn dɛn. Dat na nɔmal tin, bikɔs na big chenj fɔ ɔlman na yu famili, ivin yu. Bɔt bɔku tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ mek yu ebul fɔ bia wit dis prɔblɛm ɛn mek yu maynd. Mek wi tok abaut dat, okay?

Wetin yu go du fɔ mek yu disayd we yu mama ɛn papa dayvɔs?

E nɔr kin izi fɔ dil wit de filin ɛn kwɛstyɔn wae kin kam na yu maynd pan dis kayn tɛm. Bɔt tray dɛn smɔl tin ya, yu go fil fri.

Tɔk wetin de na yu maynd, lisin.

I kin bi big pazl fɔ yu fɔ no se yu mama ɛn papa nɔ want fɔ de togɛda. Nɔ fred fɔ aks dɛn ɛni kwɛstyɔn we yu gɛt. Sɔntɛnde, if i nɔ izi fɔ yu fɔ fɛn di wɔd dɛn, yu kin rayt lɛta to dɛn. I kin rili mek yu fil fayn fɔ mek yu no aw yu de fil.

Tink bɔt am, yu go mɔs want fɔ no tin dɛn lɛk "Wetin mek dis de apin?", "Udat a de wit naw?", "A go gɛt fɔ chenj skul?". Na yu rayt fɔ aks dɛn kwɛstyɔn ya.

Tɛl mi aw yu kin fil we yu mama ɛn papa kin fɛt.

Sɔntɛnde, yu mama ɛn papa kin fɛt bifo yu, ɔ tɔk bad to dɛnsɛf. Tɛl dɛn se yu de fil bad ɔ yu at pwɛl. Dɔn dɛn go tray fɔ tek tɛm smɔl mɔ arawnd yu. Ɔ yu kin kɔmɔt na di rum fɔ sɔm tɛm. Mɛmba se di we aw yu de fil rili valyu.

"Mama, Papa, a kin fil bad we yu de fɛt. A kin fred." I go mɔs bi se i simpul lɛk fɔ tɔk dis.

Ɔndastand se yu nɔ nid fɔ "tek sayd".

Sɔm mama ɛn papa dɛn kin tray fɔ mek dɛn pikin dɛn de nia dɛn. Dɛn kin tɔk bad tin bɔt di ɔda pɔsin. If dat apin, yu kin tɛl dɛn se yu want fɔ tɔk to yu mama ɛn papa ɛn spɛn tɛm wit dɛn. Yu nɔ fɔ tek di sayd bikɔs yu tink se di ɔda pɔsin go vɛks, sɔri, ɔ jɛlɔs. Yu fit fɔ gɛt dɛn tu tin ya.

Tɔk to ɔda pipul dɛn we yu kin abop pan

Tɔk bɔt aw yu de fil wit big pɔsin we yu biliv. Dis kin bi ticha, advaysa , thɛrapist , ɔ rilijɔn lida (lɛk prist, prist, ɔ prist). Tɔk to yu padi dɛn bak. If ɛni wan pan dɛn mama ɛn papa dɔn dayvɔs, dɛn go ɔndastand mɔ.

Imajin, if yu bɛst padi in mama ɛn papa dɛnsɛf dayvɔs, di we aw dɛn de trit am go ɛp yusɛf.

Fokus pan skul wok ɛn ɔda tin dɛn we yu de du

Kɔntinyu fɔ du yu skul wok, spɔt, ɛn klab aktiviti dɛn we yu nɔ chenj. We tin chenj na os, i go bi big trɛnk fɔ gɛt ɔda tin dɛn na yu layf we nɔmal. Dɛn tin ya go pul yu maynd pan yu prɔblɛm dɛn fɔ sɔm tɛm.

It fayn, slip fayn.

We wi at pwɛl, wi kin fil lɛk fɔ it tin dɛn we nɔ fayn ɛn wach fim dɛn te na nɛt. Bɔt yuIf yu it tin dɛn we go mek yu gɛt wɛlbɔdi ɛn rɛst (slip) fayn fayn wan, dat go ɛp yu bɔdi fɔ fil fayn. Dis go mek am izi fɔ yu fɔ dil wit difrɛn filin dɛn we nɔ izi fɔ yu pan prɔblɛm dɛn lɛk dis.

Fɛn we fɔ ridyus strɛs.

We yu de fil strɛs, bɔku tin dɛn de we yu kin du fɔ mek yu maynd kol. Tray fɔ sɔm pan dɛn tin ya:

• Ɛksesaiz: Yu kin jomp, waka na yu ples, rɔn, dans, ɔ ple spɔt we yu lɛk. We wi de du ɛksɛsayz, wi bɔdi de mek kemikal dɛn we dɛn kɔl ɛndɔfin . Dis kin mek wi fil gladi ɛn rilaks.
• Kɔmɔt na do: Kɔmɔt na do ɛn blo sɔm fresh briz. Go fɔ waka, rayd baysikul. Nature na fayn we fɔ rilaks.
• Tray fɔ du yoga: We yu de du yoga, dat de mek yu bɔdi strɛch fayn, yu de blo fayn, ɛn mek yu bɔdi ɛn maynd rilaks.
• Tek dip briz: Briz insay tru yu nos. Yu bɛlɛ fɔ opin lɛk balɔ. Dɔn, blo tru yu nos. Yu bɛlɛ fɔ kɔntrakt bak. If yu du dis sɔm tɛm, dat go ɛp yu fɔ mek yu at kol.
• Du sɔntin we yu lɛk: lisin to siŋ, wach wan fani stori, drɔ pikchɔ, rayt na jɔnal, ɔ ple wit yu animal. Ivin jɔs fɔ tɔk smɔl wit pɔsin we de mek yu gladi ɛn mek yu laf, i fayn.

A nɔ go ebul fɔ mek mi mama ɛn papa kam togɛda bak?

Fɔ mek yu mama ɛn papa kam togɛda bak nɔto sɔntin we yu go ebul fɔ du. Bɔku pikin dɛn kin want am, ɛn sɔntɛnde dɛn kin du tin dɛn we dɛn tink se rayt. If yu fala ɔl di lɔ dɛn na os ɛn du rili fayn na skul, yu mama ɛn papa go gladi, bɔt i nɔ izi fɔ imajin se dat go mek dɛn fɔgɛt bɔt di dayvɔs.

Dɛn nɔ go kam bak togɛda jɔs bikɔs yu dɔn de mek trɔbul, brok di lɔ, ɔ mek dɛn mama ɛn papa tɔk bɔt yu. Divɔs na tin we de bitwin dɛn, nɔto sɔntin we yu de du.

Di dayvɔs we yu mama ɛn papa dayvɔs na big chenj, bɔt if yu tɛl dɛn aw yu de fil ɛn dil wit am fayn fayn wan, yu go ebul fɔ pas dis tranga tɛm.

Wetin a fɔ du if mi at ɛn vɛks nɔ go dɔn?

If yu nɔ ebul fɔ win yu mama ɛn papa dɛn dayvɔs, ɛn yu de fil bɔku wɔri, sɔri, ɔ vɛks ɛvride, fɔ tru, tɔk to big pɔsin bɔt dat. Dɛn kin rifer yu to dɔktɔ ɔ advaysa .

Tɛrapist na pipul dɛm wae dɛn tren fɔ ɔndastand ɛn ɛp pikin dɛm wit dɛn filin prɔblɛm dɛm. Dɛn go aks yu kwɛstyɔn dɛn, tek tɛm lisin to wetin yu gɛt fɔ tɔk, tich yu aw fɔ dil wit dɛn tin ya, ɛn ɛp yu fɔ gɛt mɔ rɛspɛkt fɔ yusɛf.Na tin we yu fɔ shem, na sɔntin we yu go ebul fɔ du fɔ yusɛf.

Faynal Mɛsej fɔ Tek-Hom

We yu mama ɛn papa dayvɔs kin tan lɛk big big briz we de kam na yu layf. Bɔt mɛmba se:

• Dis nɔto yu fɔlt. Ilɛk wetin yu du ɔ yu nɔ du, yu nɔ go ebul fɔ chenj wetin yu mama ɛn papa dɔn disayd fɔ du.
• Na nɔmal tin fɔ fil bad, vɛks, ɛn vɛks. Nɔ kip dɛn filin dɛn de bɔtul.
• Fɔ tɔk rili impɔtant. Tɔk bɔt aw yu de fil ɛn prɔblɛm wit yu mama ɛn papa, big pipul dɛn we yu kin abop pan, ɛn padi dɛn.
• Kɔntinyu fɔ du di tin dɛn we yu de du ɛvride lɛk aw yu kin du am. Nɔ giv ɔp pan skul wok, spɔt, ɔ tin dɛn we yu lɛk fɔ du.
• Tink bɔt yu bɔdi wɛlbɔdi bak. It fayn, slip fayn, ɛn ɛksesaiz.
• Yuz we dɛn fɔ mek yu nɔ strɛs. Fɛn sɔntin we go wok fɔ yu.
• Nɔ ɛva shem fɔ go to pɔsin we sabi du in wok if nid de. Wan dɔktɔ we de mɛn yu kin gi yu bɔku rilif.

Nɔto yu wan de. Dis tranga tɛm go pas. Yu kin ebul fɔ pas dis strɔng.

` Divɔs, mama ɛn papa separeshɔn, pikin dɛn maynd wɛlbɔdi, strɛs mɛnejɛmɛnt, advays, tɛrapi, Sri Lanka