He aha ō momo piripono? Me kōrero tātou mō tēnei!

He mea tino nui ngā whanaungatanga o tātou katoa ki te tangata, ahakoa he hoahoa, he whanaungatanga aroha rānei, kāore? I ētahi wā ka whakaaro tātou, "Āe, he aha ahau i tino piri ai ki tēnei tangata?" "Āe, kāore au i te hiahia ki te kōrero ki taua tangata!" Kei te mōhio koe, he hohonu ake pea ngā take mō ēnei mea i tā tātou e whakaaro nei, ā, ka tīmata mai i te tamarikitanga. Koinei te mea e kiia nei e tātou ko '(Ngā Kāhua Āpitihanga)', ko ngā momo pirihanga rānei.

Nā, he aha ēnei momo āpitihanga?

I te whakarapopototanga, e pā ana tēnei ki te āhua o te manaaki a ō tātou kaitiaki matua (he maha ngā wā ko ō tātou mātua, ko ō tātou koroua, ko ō tātou tūpuna rānei) i a tātou e tamariki ana , arā, i a tātou e tino tamariki ana, me te pānga o aua wheako ki ō tātou whanaungatanga i a tātou e pakeke haere ana.

Whakaarohia pēnei. I a koe e tamariki ana, he aha tāu tauhohenga i te wā i whakarērea ai koe e tētahi i manaaki i a koe mō tētahi wā, he "kaitiaki tamariki" pea, ā, ka wehe atu koe? I mataku koe? I pouri koe? I mahi noa rānei koe, me te whakaaro, "Āe, ka hoki wawe mai rātou." He aha ōu kare ā-roto i te hokinga mai o rātou? I marino koe? I riri? Kāore rānei koe i aro ki tētahi mea?

He nui ngā kōrero a ō whakautu ki ēnei pātai mō ō tumanakohanga, ō hiahia, me ō wheako i a koe e tamariki ana. He tohu nui anō hoki ēnei mō te whakahaere i ngā whanaungatanga ki ētahi atu i a koe e pakeke ana.

He aha ēnei momo tauira piri?

E whā ngā momo hononga matua kua tautuhia e ngā tohunga hinengaro:

• Kāhua āpitihanga haumaru
• Te momo piri āwangawanga
• Te momo āpitihanga karo
• Kāhua piri koretake

O ēnei, ko ngā tauira piri āwangawanga, karo, me te koretake o te whakaritenga, koinei ngā mea e kiia nei e tātou he tauira piri ā-kore . Ko te whāinga mā tātou katoa he wete i ēnei piri ā-kore, me te hanga piri ā-kore.

He aha te pānga o ēnei tauira piripono ki ngā whanaungatanga?

I runga i te neke atu i te 50 tau o te rangahau (ariā piripono), e whakaae ana ngā tohunga hinengaro ko ngā here kare ā-roto tuatahi i hangaia e koe me tō kaitiaki matua i a koe e tamariki ana ka pā tika ki ō whanaungatanga aroha a meake nei.

Whakaarohia, mēnā i manaaki tonu te tangata i tiaki i a koe, i āwhina i a koe i te wā e hiahiatia ana, ā, i meinga koe kia noho haumaru , ka nui ake te tūponotanga ka whakawhanakehia e koe he whanaungatanga pumau, haumaru i a koe e tipu ake ana. I tētahi atu taha, mēnā kāore te tangata i tiaki i a koe i aro tonu, mēnā kāore rātou i atawhai i a koe i tētahi huarahi, tera pea ka pā mai ētahi raruraru ki ō whanaungatanga i a koe e pakeke ana.

He pānga anake rānei tēnei ki te whanaungatanga i a koe ki te tangata nāna koe i tiaki i tō tamarikitanga?

Ahakoa he nui ngā rangahau e kī ana ko ngā whanaungatanga i a koe me ō kaitiaki i a koe e tamariki ana te mea tino awehia ana e tō momo piripono, inā koa i ngā marama 18 tuatahi o te oranga , ka taea hoki e ētahi atu te awe i tēnei. Ahakoa ō hoa tawhito me ō whanaungatanga aroha o mua ka taea te whakarerekē i te huarahi e urupare ai koe ki ngā tohu kare ā-roto. Tērā pea he piripono haumaru tōu i a koe e tamariki ana, engari tērā pea kua kore e mau tō momo piripono nā te pakaru o te whakawhirinaki , nā ētahi atu wheako uaua rānei i muri mai i te oranga.

Waihoki, tera pea he rerekē ō momo here ki ngā tāngata rerekē . Nā ō wheako o mua, tera pea ka nui ake tō haumaru ki ētahi tāngata.

Ka taea e au te whakarerekē i te momo tāpiritanga?

He tino taea! He tino taea te whakarerekē. Ka tīmata mā te mōhio ki a koe anō . Kia kitea e koe ōu kare ā-roto – ngā tauira e whakaatuhia ana e koe i roto i ngā whanaungatanga pakeke – ka taea e koe te tīmata ki te whakarerekē i ētahi o aua huarahi whakaaro tawhito. He rite ki te tuhi i tētahi tuhinga hou. Mā te whakarerekē i ngā tauira whakaaro tawhito ka āwhina i a koe ki te neke mai i tētahi momo piripono korekore ki tētahi momo piripono haumaru. Ahakoa ka taea e koe te mahi i ētahi o ēnei māu ake, he mea pai tonu te kōrero ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei, hei āwhina i a koe ki te mārama me te tautoko i a koe i te huarahi.

He aha tēnei Kāhua Āpitihanga Haumaru?

Ko te here haumaru ko te kaha ki te hanga hononga hauora, whakamīharo, me te pumau.

Ngā tauira piripono haumaru i roto i ngā tamariki nohinohi

Ko ngā tamariki nohinohi he momo piripono haumaru , e noho haumaru ana, e whai mana ana, e mārama ana, e whakamarietia ana hoki e tō rātou kaitiaki matua. I a rātou e pēpi ana, ka tangi rātou ina wehe atu tō rātou kaitiaki mō tētahi wā, engari ka whakamarietia ina hoki mai taua tangata. Ina mataku rātou, ka oma rātou ki tō rātou kaitiaki ki te rapu whakamarie.

Tauira piripono haumaru i roto i ngā pakeke

Ko te tikanga o te noho pūmau o te whanaungatanga he haumaru, he māia hoki koe i roto i ō whanaungatanga pakeke. Ka whakapuaki noa koe i ō kare ā-roto ki tō hoa rangatira me ō hoa tata, ka rapu tautoko pāpori koe ina hiahia āwhina koe, ā, he pai tō whakaaro ki a koe anō.

Ngā āhuatanga o tētahi āpitihanga haumaru

Mena he momo piri haumaru tāu, ka taea e koe te mahi i ēnei mea:

• Te ngāwari o te whakawhirinaki ki ētahi atu.
• Kōrero pai.
• Whakahaerehia ō kare ā-roto .
• Kāore au i te māharahara ki te noho ko au anake.
• He ngāwari te hono atu ki ētahi atu.
• Ina ara ake he tautohe, ka whakatauhia i roto i te huarahi hauora.
• Ka taea e koe te noho tata ki ngā kare ā-roto o te hunga i roto i tōu ao.

He aha te Kāhua Piri Manukanuka?

He momo herenga koretake tēnei. Ko te hunga whai momo herenga nei he maha tonu te wehi kei whakakahoretia, kei whakarērea rānei . Tērā pea ka titiro rātou ki tētahi atu i waho i a rātou anō hei whakamana.

Ko tētahi atu ingoa mō tēnei ko:

• `(Kāhua piri āwangawanga)`
• `(Kāhua piri āwangawanga-āwangawanga)`
• `(Kāhua piri āwangawanga-ruarua)`

Ngā tauira piri āwangawanga i roto i ngā tamariki nohinohi

Ka tino pōuri ngā tamariki whai momo piripono pēnei ina wehea rātou i ō rātou mātua. Heoi, kāore rātou e tino whakamarietia ina hoki mai ō rātou mātua. Tērā pea ka nui ake te kore whakawhirinaki o ēnei tamariki ki ngā tāngata tauhou i ngā tamariki whai momo piripono kē atu.

Ngā tauira piri āwangawanga i roto i ngā pakeke

Ko ngā pakeke e pāngia ana e tēnei momo here, ka āwangawanga pea kei kore ā rātou hoa rangatira, ā rātou hoa rānei e aroha ki a rātou. Nō reira, tera pea ka nui te wehi kei whakakahoretia, kei whakarērea rānei rātou. Tērā pea he iti te whakaaro ki a rātou anō, ā, me whakaae mai ētahi atu hei whakamana i a rātou anō. Tērā pea he āhua whakawhirinaki tahi ō rātou, ā, tera pea ka tino pouri rātou ina mutu ngā whanaungatanga.

Ngā tohu o te whanaungatanga manukanuka

Mena kei a koe tēnei momo whanaungatanga, ka pā pea ēnei āhuatanga ki a koe:

• Ngā kare ā-roto o te koretake.
• Te aro nui ki te whakahē.
• He uaua te noho ko koe anake.
• Te iti o te whakaaro ki a ia anō.
• He uaua ki te whakawhirinaki ki ētahi atu.
• Ngā kare ā-roto e rite ana ki te hae .
• Te wehi kei whakakahoretia, kei whakarērea rānei.

He aha te Kāhua Ārai Āpiti?

He momo momo piri ā-koretake anō hoki tēnei. Tērā pea ka uaua ki te hunga whai momo piri ā-kore te whakatū whanaungatanga whai tikanga nā te wehi o te whanaungatanga piripono .

Ngā ingoa kē atu mō tēnei:

• `(Kāhua āpitihanga whakakorekore)`
• `(Kāhua piri āwangawanga-ārai)`

Ngā tauira karo piripono i roto i ngā tamariki nohinohi

Kāore ngā pēpi me ngā tamariki nohinohi e whai ana i tēnei momo here e rapu ana i te whakamarie mai i tō rātou kaitiaki. E kore pea rātou e whakakahore mēnā ka tukuna he whakamarie, engari i te nuinga o te wā ka ngana rātou ki te karo i te taunekeneke. Ko te tikanga, kāore ēnei tamariki e whakaatu i tētahi rerekētanga i waenga i tō rātou kaitiaki matua me tētahi tauhou.

Te momo ātete piri i roto i ngā pakeke

I a koe e pakeke ana, tera pea he momo piripono karo koe, arā, ka karo koe i ngā whanaungatanga tata, ā, he iti noa iho ō kare ā-roto e hoatu ana ki ō whanaungatanga ki tō hoa rangatira me ō hoa.Tērā pea. Ko te hunga whai momo piripono pēnei ka kaha te mana motuhake , ā, ka mataku pea mēnā ka ngana tetahi ki te whakatata atu ki a rātou. Ka uaua pea tēnei ki te whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto me ō kare ā-roto hohonu ki te hunga i roto i tō ao.

Ngā tohu o te āpitihanga karo

Mena he tauira ātete piri tōu, tera pea kei a koe:

• He tino māramatanga nui ki te mana motuhake mōu ake.
• Kāore rātou e ngāwari ki te wareware i ētahi atu.
• He uaua ki te whakawhirinaki ki ētahi atu.
• He āhua whakamā te ahua ina ngana tetahi ki te whakatata atu.
• Ka karo i te pā tata (ā-hinengaro, ā-tinana rānei).
• He āwangawanga kei reira ki te whakapau kaha ki ngā whanaungatanga.

He aha te Kāhua Āpitihanga Kore-Whakarite?

Koinei te tuatoru o ngā momo herenga āwangawanga. Tērā pea ka whakaatu te hunga whai momo herenga nei i ngā whanonga taupatupatu , ka uaua rānei ki te whakawhirinaki ki ētahi atu.

Ko tētahi atu ingoa mō tēnei ko:

• `(Kāhua piripono wehi-ārai)`

Ngā tauira piripono koretake i roto i ngā tamariki nohinohi

He maha ngā wā ka pōhēhē ngā tamariki whai i tēnei momo here. Tērā pea ka mataku rātou kei pā mai tētahi mea kino ki a rātou. He maha ngā wā ka puta tēnei nā te koretake o ngā kare ā-roto o tō rātou kaitiaki matua. Hei tauira, i ētahi wā ka whakamarie te kaitiaki i te tamaiti, engari i ētahi wā ka puta te wehi. Tērā pea kāore e taea e te tamaiti te whakawhirinaki katoa ki tō rātou kaitiaki, nā te mea ko te tangata e whara ana i a rātou ka whakamarie anō hoki i a rātou . Tērā pea kua tukinotia, kua whara, kua warewarehia rānei ngā tamariki whai i tēnei momo here.

Ngā tauira piripono koretake i roto i ngā pakeke

He maha ngā wā ka whakaatu ngā pakeke i roto i tēnei momo whanaungatanga i ngā whanonga pōhēhē, kāore hoki i te matapaetia . E tumanako ana rātou ki te aroha me te noho tahi – engari e wehi ana hoki rātou i aua mea. Nō reira, ka whanake pea he tauira mō te rapu aroha, kātahi ka whakahē tonu. Ka piri pea rātou ki tā rātou hoa, kātahi ka pana atu. Hei tauira, ka tino kare ā-roto rātou i tētahi rā, ā, i tētahi rā ka tino koretake.

Ngā āhuatanga o te āpitihanga koretake

Mena he hononga koretake tōu, tera pea kei a koe:

• He uaua ki te whakawhirinaki ki ētahi atu.
• He uaua ki te whakahaere i ō kare ā-roto.
• E whakaatuhia ana ngā momo piripono manukanuka me ngā momo piripono karo.
• Te wehi kei whakakahoretia.
• He whanonga pōhēhē, he whanonga taupatupatu rānei.

Ka pēhea rā taku tamaiti i roto i ēnei mea katoa?

He mea tino nui te hononga kare ā-roto e hangaia ana e koe ki tāu tamaiti.Ahakoa ka rerekē ngā tauira piripono puta noa i te oranga o te tangata, ko te hononga tuatahi ka hangaia e koe ki tāu tamaiti ka whakatakoto i a rātou ki te ara. Pērā i te hoatu mapi me te kāpehu ki te tamaiti i mua i te haerenga, ko te whakatū i tētahi piripono haumaru te mea nui.

He māmā noa iho te ārahi i te hauora o te hinengaro o te tamaiti i roto i ōna wāhanga whanaketanga. Whakaarohia he rite ki te sima. Ka taea e tātou te hanga me te whakakoi i te sima hou kua whakatakotoria ki te āhua e hiahiatia ana e tātou. Engari ina maroke taua sima, he nui te mahi hei whakarerekē. Mā te hanga hononga haumaru ki tāu tamaiti ka whakatakoto i te ara mō tōna angitu ā muri ake nei.

Me pēhea taku hanga hononga haumaru ki taku tamaiti?

Me ēnei mea katoa i roto i te hinengaro, tera pea koe e whakaaro ana mēnā ka taea e koe te waihanga i tētahi hononga haumaru mō tāu tamaiti kia anga whakamua ai ia i te ao. Tuatahi, manawa hōhonu . Ko te mōhiotanga te mea nui ina tae mai ki te hanga i tētahi hononga hauora, haumaru hoki. Inaa, kei te hoatu pea e koe ki tāu tamaiti ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e rātou kia tupu ai te wairua. Haunga tēnā, ki te kore koe e whakaaro ki te oranga o tāu tamaiti, kāore koe e pānui i tēnei tuhinga, tika?

Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te mahi hei hanga hononga haumaru ki tāu tamaiti:

• Me mōhio rātou kei reira koe mō rātou me ā rātou hiahia. Kāore e tika ana te aro katoa ki tāu tamaiti mō ngā hāora 24 o te rā, mō ngā rā 7 o te wiki. Heoi anō, ngana ki te mahi i tēnā i ngā wā katoa e taea ana, inā koa i te wā kāore te tamaiti e tino tumanako ana. Mā tēnei ka whakaatu ki te tamaiti e hiahia ana koe ki te noho tahi me rātou, ehara i te mea nā rātou i mahi i tētahi mea, engari nā te mea ko rātou tonu rātou.
• Whakamanahia ngā kare ā-roto o tāu tamaiti. Kia mōhio ki ngā kare ā-roto o tāu tamaiti, ā, āwhina i a rātou ki te tuhi i aua kare ā-roto. Whakamaharatia rātou he mea noa te whai kare ā-roto, he kaupapa tō ngā kare ā-roto katoa, ā, he pai te whai kare ā-roto pērā. Mā te āwhina i a rātou ki te kimi huarahi hauora hei whakahaere i ngā kare ā-roto uaua pērā i te riri ka whakapakari i te hononga i waenganui i a koe me tāu tamaiti.
• Whakauru atu ki ngā hiahia o tāu tamaiti. Akohia ngā mahi whakangahau me ngā hiahia o tāu tamaiti. Kimihia he huarahi hei hono atu ki a rātou mō ngā mea e arohaina ana e rātou.
• Kia pai te noho tahi. Hei mātua, hei kaitiaki rānei, he wāhanga nui o tāu mahi he ārahi me te tohutohu i tāu tamaiti. Ahakoa he mea nui tēnei mō te whanaketanga o te tamaiti, he tino whai hua anō hoki te noho tahi me rātou. Mā te taunekeneke ki tāu tamaiti i roto i te huarahi mahana, manaaki hoki, ka mōhio rātou e pai ana koe ki a rātou, ā, e harikoa ana hoki koe ki a rātou. Me whakamōhio atu e aroha ana koe ki a rātou pērā tonu.

He rite tonu te "Ariā Piripiri" me te "Mātua Piripiri"?

Ko te mātua piripono te ariā e āwhina ana ngā mātua i ngā tamariki ki te whakawhanake i te piripono haumaru mā te noho tata ki ā rātou tamariki me te aro nui ki ō rātou hiahia. I ahu mai te mātauranga piripono i te ariā piripono, engari he rerekē ngā mea e rua.

Ko te tikanga, ko ngā kaitautoko mō te whakatipu tamariki piripono e kī ana kia whai koe i tāu e whakaaro ana he tika māu, ā, waiho atu ngā mea katoa. Heoi anō, mō te whakatipu tamariki, kāore he huarahi kotahi e pai ana mō te katoa.

Ko te hononga e hangaia ana e koe ki tāu pēpi i ngā marama 18 tuatahi o tōna oranga ka pā nui ki tana whakahaere i ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei. I a koe e taunekeneke ana me tāu pēpi, kia rite tonu, kia whai kaupapa, kia noho haumaru hoki rātou. Me mea kia rite rātou ki a koe tētahi tangata ka taea e rātou te whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto katoa, nui, iti rānei. Ko te hanga hononga haumaru ki tāu pēpi tētahi huarahi hei whakarite i a rātou mō te angitu ā muri ake nei. Kōrero ki te tākuta tamariki o tāu pēpi kia ako atu ai koe mō ngā tikanga e tika ana māu.

Ngā mea tino nui hei maumahara (Karere hei kawe ki te kāinga)

Nō reira, mai i ngā mea kua kōrerohia e tātou, tera pea ka mārama koe ki te nui o te pānga o ō tātou wheako tamarikitanga ki tō tātou pakeketanga. He rite tonu ō tātou tauira piripono ki tēnā.

• He mea tino nui ngā hononga tōmua: Ko ngā whanaungatanga i a koe me te hunga i manaaki i a koe i tō tamarikitanga ka hanga i te turanga mō ō whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei.
• Ka taea te whakarerekē: Ahakoa he āhua koretake tō tauira piripono o nāianei, ehara i te mea kāore e taea te whakarerekē. Me mārama noa ki a koe anō me te whakapau kaha .
• He karere ki ngā mātua: Ko te hanga i tētahi hononga pakari, haumaru hoki ki tāu tamaiti te taonga tino nui ka taea e koe te hoatu ki a rātou. He kaha nui tēnei mō rātou puta noa i ō rātou oranga.
• Kaua e wehi ki te tiki āwhina: Ki te hiahia koe ki te mōhio atu mō tēnei, ki te mea rānei kei te whakaaro koe he raruraru kei roto i tō momo piripono, he mea pai kia rapu āwhina koe i tētahi kaitohutohu.

Kia maumahara, kei tēnei haerenga tātou katoa. Ko te mea nui ko te mārama ki a koe anō, me te ngana ki te hanga whanaungatanga hauora.

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