Kodi mnzanu wataya wachibale wake? Kodi tikambirane za chisonichi?

Tangoganizirani kuti wachibale wapamtima wa mnzanu wapamtima, mwina agogo, agogo, kapena munthu wapafupi kwambiri, wamwalira. Zimenezo ndi zomvetsa chisoni komanso zopweteka mtima, sichoncho? Bwenzi lanu liyenera kuti linali lopanda thandizo, lodabwa, komanso losungulumwa panthawiyo. Muyenera kuti munaganiza kambirimbiri kuti, "O, ndingamuthandize bwanji panthawiyi? Ndingatani kuti ndichepetse ululu wake?" Limenelo ndi lingaliro lofunika kwambiri. Chifukwa chake, lero, tiyeni tikambirane zomwe mungachite kuti mukhale olimba mtima kwa mnzanu ndikubweretsa chitonthozo pang'ono kumtima kwake panthawi yovuta ngati iyi.

Kodi chisoni chimenechi n’chiyani kwenikweni?

Mwachidule, chisoni ndi ululu ndi chisoni chomwe timamva tikataya munthu amene timamukonda. Chili ngati katundu wolemera kwambiri pamtima pathu. Si aliyense amene amamva kulemera kumeneku mofanana. Mmene munthu aliyense amapirira ndi chisonichi ndi momwe amachitira ndi mmene chimachitikira n’zosiyana kwambiri.

Tangoganizani kuti amayi a mnzako Sameera amwalira. Sameera angalire kwambiri, angasonyeze chisoni chake kuti aliyense aone. Koma, mnzako wina, tinene kuti dzina lake ndi Netmi, angakhale chete kwambiri bambo ake akamwalira. Angayese kukhala yekha, osalankhula ndi aliyense kwambiri. Ana ena amasiya kusewera ndikusangalala kwakanthawi nthawi ngati izi. Amataya chidwi ndi zinthu zonsezi. Komabe, pali ana ena omwe amayesa kubwerera ku moyo wawo watsiku ndi tsiku mwachangu momwe angathere. Amafunitsitsa kupita kusukulu, kusewera ndi anzawo, ndikuchita zinthu zina. Palibe chabwino kapena choipa m'njira zonsezi. Chifukwa aliyense ali ndi njira yakeyake yothanirana ndi chisoni.

Chofunika kwambiri ndichakuti chisoni si matenda. Ndi njira yachibadwa yochitira chisoni munthu amene timamukonda akamwalira. Chimafunika nthawi kuti chichiritsidwe.

Ana ena amakonda kulankhula za momwe akumvera. Ena sakonda. Ena angasonyeze chisoni chawo pojambula kapena kupaka utoto. Komanso, anthu ambiri amakonda kukhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo ndi mabanja awo panthawi ngati iyi, kulandira chikondi ndi chitonthozo kuchokera kwa iwo. Achibale ayenera kuthandizana, kukhala okoma mtima kwa wina ndi mnzake. Kulankhula za zokumbukira zabwino za munthu amene adataya komanso nthawi zosangalatsa zomwe adakhala naye limodzi kungakhale mpumulo waukulu. Zonsezi zimathandiza kuchepetsa ululu.

Kodi mungamuthandize bwanji mnzanu amene ali ndi chisoni?

Mnzanu akakhala ndi ululu woterewu, chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe mungachite ndikungomuthandiza ngati bwenzi labwino. Mwina simungathe kumupangitsa kumva bwino kapena kumusangalatsa nthawi yomweyo, koma palibe vuto. Mutha kumulola kumva momwe akumvera.

1. Ingokhalani komweko, ndi nkhani yaikulu!

Mukhoza kulankhula naye ndi kumufunsa kuti, "Kodi tipite kokayenda?" "Kodi tisewere masewera?" kapena "Kodi tingokhala limodzi kwakanthawi?" Muloleni achite zomwe akufuna. Kungokhala naye ndi gwero lalikulu la mphamvu, gwero lalikulu la mphamvu. Simuyenera kunena chilichonse chapadera, kungoti kukhalapo kwanu ndikokwanira.

2. Musadzikakamize kuti "mukhale bwino."

Mnzanu akakhala wachisoni, kuyesa kumulimbikitsa mwa kunena zinthu monga, "Chonde musalire," "Musamve chisoni," kapena "Muyenera kukhala olimba mtima" kudzangomupweteka kwambiri. Ndizachibadwa kuti amve chisoni ndi kulira. Aloleni atulutse malingaliro amenewo.

3. Apatseni mpata woti alankhule (koma musawakakamize)

Mungamve mantha pang'ono kapena manyazi kulankhula za izi. Koma kunena mawu ngati akuti, "Pepani kwambiri chifukwa cha imfa ya agogo anu" kudzamudziwitsa kuti mukumvetsa ululu wake. Zimenezi zingamuthandize kuyamba kukuuzani zomwe zili m'maganizo mwake.

Njira yabwino kwambiri ndi kunena kuti: " Ngati mukufuna kulankhula za izi, ndikumvetsera. "

Koma, ngati mnzanu sakufuna kulankhula za nkhaniyi panthawiyo, mudziwitseni. Musamukakamize. Ingomudziwitsani kuti muli pomwepo nthawi iliyonse akakufunani.

4. Thandizani kugawana zokumbukira zabwino

Ngati mnzanu wayamba kulankhula za munthu amene anamwalira, lankhulani za nthawi zabwino zomwe munali nazo limodzi, nkhani zoseketsa, ndi zokumbukira zabwino. Zingamupangitse kumva kusangalala pang'ono komanso kumasuka. Nthawi zina, mnzanu akamalira, inunso mungalire chifukwa simungathe kuletsa chisoni chanu. Palibe cholakwika ndi kulira ndi mnzanu wotere. Zidzapangitsa ubwenzi wanu kukhala wolimba.

5. Khalani oleza mtima, perekani nthawi yoti musinthe.

Musayembekezere kuti mnzanuyo akhale wosangalala komanso woseketsa monga kale. Sizichitika mwadzidzidzi. Akamadutsa munjira yachisoni, masiku ena sadzamva ngati akusewera kapena kusangalala monga kale. Koma, tsiku lotsatira adzakhala akuseka ndikusewera monga kale. Tsiku lililonse likhoza kukhala losiyana. Choncho khalani oleza mtima.

6. Zinthu zomwe tiyenera kusamala kuti tisazinene

Nthawi zina, zinthu zomwe timanena popanda kuzindikira zimatha kuvulaza kwambiri mnzathu. Mwachitsanzo:

• "Usalire, ndiwe mnyamata/mtsikana." (Maganizo alibe jenda.)
• "Chilichonse chidzakhala bwino pakapita nthawi." (Ngakhale izi ndi zoona, sizibweretsa chitonthozo chachikulu pakadali pano.)
• "Ali pamalo abwino tsopano." (Izi sizingamveke mofanana kwa aliyense, ndipo ena angakhumudwe nazo.)
• "Ndikumvetsa momwe mukumvera." (Sitingathe kumvetsa ululu wa munthu wina nthawi zonse, choncho ndi bwino kunena kuti, "Ndingathe kuganiza momwe zimakuvutitsirani.")
• Kulankhula za zomwe mwakumana nazo zokha. ("Izi ndi zomwe zinachitika agogo anga atamwalira..." kenako n’kuwerenga za inuyo m’malo momvera mnzanu.)

M'malo monena zinthu ngati zimenezi, n'kofunika kwambiri kungomvetsera ndikuyesera kumumvetsa.

Kodi ndi liti pamene tiyenera kusamala kwambiri?

Kawirikawiri, chisoni chimachepa pang'onopang'ono pakapita nthawi. Komabe, ngakhale patatha nthawi yayitali,(Izi zitha kutenga milungu kapena miyezi, zimasiyana malinga ndi munthu.) Ngati mnzanu akuoneka kuti sakubwerera ku moyo wake wakale, sangathe kuchita zinthu zake zachizolowezi, ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala wachisoni komanso wodandaula, ndiye kuti muyenera kuda nkhawa pang'ono.

Mwachitsanzo:

• Ngati simuli ndi chidwi ndi chilichonse monga kale.
• Zikanakhala kuti zinthu monga ntchito za kusukulu ndi masewero zinasiya kugwira ntchito.
• Ngati kudya ndi kugona kwachepa kapena kwawonjezeka kwambiri.
• Ngati nthawi zonse mumayesetsa kukhala nokha osalankhula ndi aliyense.
• Ngati mukulankhula za zinthu monga kudzivulaza.

Ngati muwona chinthu chonga ichi, uzani makolo anu, aphunzitsi, kapena alangizi a kusukulu za izi. Uku si kupandukira, koma njira yodziwitsira wamkulu kuti mwana wanu akufunika thandizo. Kenako akhoza kupereka chithandizo chomwe akufunikira, mwina ngakhale thandizo la akatswiri.

Inunso mungaphunzire zambiri zokhudza Chisoni.

Mukaona mnzanu akuvutika, mungafunenso kudziwa zambiri zokhudza chisoni. Zimenezo ndi zabwino. Mutha kufunsa akuluakulu m'moyo wanu (makolo, agogo, aphunzitsi) momwe anamvera atataya munthu amene amamukonda, momwe adapirira, ndi zomwe zinamuthandiza. Zochitika zimenezo zidzakuphunzitsaninso maphunziro ofunika.

Pomaliza, zinthu zoti muzikumbukira

Kotero, mwachidule zomwe mungachite ngati mnzanu akumva chisoni motere:

• Khalani pafupi ndi anzanu. Kukhalapo kwanu ndi gwero lalikulu la mphamvu kwa iwo.
• Mvetserani mosamala. Ngati akufuna kulankhula, mvetserani popanda kusokoneza.
• Khalani okoma mtima, oleza mtima, ndipo yesetsani kumvetsetsa momwe akumvera.
• Musawakakamize. Musawakakamize kuti asangalale kapena kuti alankhule.
• Apempheni kuti achite zinthu zomwe amakonda, koma aloleni kuti achite zomwe akufuna.
• Athandizeni kufotokoza zinthu zabwino zokhudza munthu amene anamwalira, ngati akufunadi.
• Ngati mukumva nkhawa, uzani munthu wamkulu amene mumamudalira.

Kumbukirani, ubwenzi wanu ndiye mankhwala ndi chitonthozo chachikulu chomwe angalandire panthawiyi. Ngakhale thandizo laling'ono kuchokera kwa inu lidzakhala mphamvu yayikulu kuti apirire nthawi yovutayi.

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