Kodi nthawi yabwino yoti "mupite" ndi munthu ndi iti? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi!

Kodi nthawi zina mumakonda munthu wina, kapena kungofuna kulankhula naye ndikukhala naye nthawi? Mwina mumamva ngati mumakonda munthu wina mukawona wina kusukulu, mkalasi, kapena kwina. Ndizachibadwa kukhala ndi malingaliro amenewa, makamaka pamene mukukula. Choncho lero, tiyeni tikambirane za 'kupanga mabwenzi', komwe ndi pamene mukupita ndi munthu wina. Popeza nkhaniyi ndi yovuta, tiyeni tikambirane chilichonse momveka bwino komanso m'njira yomwe mungamvetse.

Kodi "kumva kutayika" kumeneku kumatanthauza chiyani? Kodi `(Crush)` ndi chiyani?

Mwachidule, `(chikondi)` ndi pamene muli ndi chidwi chapadera kapena kukopeka ndi munthu wina. Izi zitha kuchitika ngakhale muli aang'ono kwambiri, kutanthauza kuti, kuyambira m'makalasi a pulayimale. Koma mukakula pang'ono ndikulowa m'makalasi ngati Ordinary Level, `(chikondi)` ichi chingapite patsogolo pang'ono ndikutsogolera ku zokambirana monga "Kodi tikhale mabwenzi?" "Kodi `(tipite)`?"

Kawirikawiri pa msinkhu uwu, womwe ndi pamene muli kusukulu, "kutuluka" ndi munthu kumatanthauza kuti nonse mumazindikira kuti mumakondana . Kenako akhoza:

• Kulankhula pafoni.
• Uthengawo udzakhala `(mawu)`.
• Kukhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi gulu la anzanu (monga, pamene anzanu onse amapita ku malo osewerera mukamaliza sukulu, aliyense amene mungakonde akhoza kukhalapo).

Koma nthawi zambiri, kupita kokacheza wekha ndi chinthu chosowa masiku ano. Kunena zoona, ndi bwino kudikira mpaka utafika kusukulu ya sekondale kapena ku koleji kuti ukakhale kokacheza wekha, kapena kukhala ndi nthawi yambiri yokhala wekha ndi munthu amene umamukonda. Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe zimapangitsa zimenezo, ndipo tidzakambirana za izo.

N’chifukwa chiyani sitiyenera kuchita mantha ndi “kutuluka”?

Zinthu zomwe mumaphunzira pa msinkhu uwu ndizofunikira kwambiri pa tsogolo lanu. Kukhazikika kwanu m'maganizo, thanzi lanu la maganizo, zonsezi zimapangidwa panthawiyi. Chifukwa chake, pali zinthu zingapo zomwe muyenera kuganizira musanayambe chibwenzi ndi munthu wina.

• Kulamulira Maganizo: Mukuphunzirabe kulamulira ndikumvetsetsa malingaliro anu. Pa msinkhu uno, malingaliro anu ndi okhudzidwa kwambiri. Mutha kukhala okondwa kwambiri ndi zinthu zazing'ono, komanso okhumudwa kwambiri ndi zinthu zazing'ono. Chifukwa chake, mukayamba chibwenzi ndi munthu wina, ngakhale mavuto ang'onoang'ono angakukhudzeni kwambiri. Pali mwayi waukulu woti muvulale. Tangoganizirani momwe zingakhalire zomvetsa chisoni ngati ubale womwe mudayamba ndi chiyembekezo chachikulu utatha mwadzidzidzi.
• Zotsatira pa maphunziro: Nthawi zina maubwenzi amtunduwu amatha kusokoneza ntchito yanu yamaphunziro. Chidwi chanu chingasokonezedwe.
• Kupanikizika kosafunikira:Nthawi zina, kumva kuti "mukufuna kukhala ndi mnzanu" kungachokere ku kukakamizidwa ndi anzanu. Musaganize kuti chifukwa chakuti aliyense akuchita zimenezo, inunso muyenera kuchita zimenezo. Chofunika ndi chakuti mukumvadi kuti mwakonzeka.
• Kumvetsetsana: Kumvetsetsana ndi ulemu ndizofunikira kwambiri pa ubale wabwino. Kumvetsetsa izi moyenera ndikuchita zinthu moyenera kudzakuthandizani kukhala okhwima mukamakula pakapita nthawi.

Chofunika kwambiri: Muubwenzi uliwonse, simuyenera kulola aliyense kuchita kapena kunena chilichonse chomwe chimakupangitsani kumva kuti simukufuna kuchita. Muyenera kudziwa malire anu.

Nanga bwanji ngati wina andifunsa kuti "ndituluke"? Kapena ngati ndikufuna kufunsa wina?

Ili ndi vuto lomwe anthu ambiri ali nalo. Chabwino, tiyeni tiwone momwe tingathanirane ndi vutoli.

1. Dzifunseni kuti: "Ndikufuna chiyani kwenikweni kuchokera apa? Ndikuyembekezera chiyani?" Mwina chomwe mukufuna ndi bwenzi labwino. Mwina ndi zoposa pamenepo. Muyenera kudzipezera nokha zimenezo.

2. Onani ngati nonse mukukonda: Ngati mumakonda winawake, nayenso ayenera kukondanso. Apo ayi, simungathe kukakamiza chibwenzi. Ngati nonse muli ofunitsitsa, mutha "kutuluka".

3. Chitani zinthu pang'onopang'ono: Malangizo abwino ndi akuti muchite zinthu pang'onopang'ono. Musachite mantha. Musakhale ndi ziyembekezo zazikulu nthawi imodzi. Dziwanina pang'onopang'ono, kambiranani. Chifukwa, monga ndanenera kale, pa msinkhu uno, n'zosavuta kuvulala.

4. Uzani munthu wamkulu wodalirika: Ngati simukumva bwino, kuchita mantha, kapena kukhala ndi chisoni chifukwa cha zomwe mnzanu wanena kapena kuchita, onetsetsani kuti mwauza munthu wamkulu amene mumamudalira. Akhoza kukhala amayi anu, abambo anu, aphunzitsi anu, kapena wachibale wanu wina. Angakuthandizeni. Musakumane ndi vutoli nokha.

Kodi "malire" awa ndi ati?

Izi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Malire ndi okhudza kukhala omveka bwino pa zomwe mumakonda, zomwe simukonda, zomwe mumamasuka nazo, ndi zomwe simumasuka nazo, ndikufotokozera ena zimenezo. Mwachitsanzo:

• Musapatse aliyense zambiri zanu (monga mawu achinsinsi a foni yanu) pokhapokha ngati mukufuna kutero.
• Ngati wina wanena nthabwala zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala osasangalala, musaope kunena kuti, "Zimenezo sizikundisangalatsa, chonde musanene zimenezo."
• Ngati wina akukhudzani mwanjira yomwe simukukonda, musamulole, muletseni, ndipo muuzeni munthu wamkulu za nkhaniyi.

Kusunga malire awa ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mudzilemekeze komanso kuti mukhale otetezeka.

Nanga bwanji ngati munthu amene ndimamukonda akungondikonda ngati bwenzi langa? Kapena bwanji ngati wina "akhala" ine kenako n’kusiya?

Apa ndiye pavuta kwambiri. Ndizachibadwa kumva chisoni, kukwiya, komanso ngati dziko likutha panthawi ngati iyi.Si inu nokha, anthu ambiri akumanapo ndi zinthu ngati zimenezi.

• Yesani kuvomereza: Ngati mupempha munthu kuti "akhale bwenzi" ndipo akukana "ayi," zimakhala zovuta kwambiri. Koma yesani kuvomereza. Komanso, yesetsani kukhala wokoma mtima kwa munthuyo. Kukwiya ndi kukwiya sikungapindulitse inu kapena munthu winayo.
• Kumva kumeneku sikukhalitsa kwamuyaya: Chisoni ndi kukhumudwa komwe mukumva sikukhalitsa kwamuyaya. Kumva kumeneko kudzasintha pakapita nthawi. Mudzakumana ndi anzanu atsopano ndikuyang'ana kwambiri zinthu zatsopano.
• Lankhulani ndi munthu amene mumamudalira: Ichi ndi chinthu chabwino kwambiri kuchita. Lankhulani ndi makolo anu, kapena munthu wina wamkulu amene mumamudalira, za izi. Mwina adakumanapo ndi zinthu zofanana ndi zimenezi ali ndi zaka zanu. Angakupatseni upangiri wabwino ndikukuthandizani kusankha bwino.

"Dziko silimatha chifukwa chakuti zinthu sizinayende momwe munkafunira, ndi munthu mmodzi, kamodzi. Sizikutanthauza kuti ndinu munthu woipa, kapena kuti palibe amene adzakukondani."

Kodi mumatani nthawi ngati iyi? `(Kuthana ndi Matenda Abwino)`

Munthu akakukonda kapena kukupweteka, pali njira zabwino zothetsera vutoli:

• Landirani zomwe mukumva: Ngati muli ndi chisoni, landirani. Musabise. Koma musadandaule nazo.
• Musamangoganizira zinthu zoipa: Mukayamba kuganiza zinthu monga, "Ndi vuto langa," "Palibe amene amandikonda," zimangokupangitsani kumva chisoni kwambiri. M'malo mwake, yesani kuganiza kuti, "Chabwino, nthawi ino zachitika motere, nthawi ina zidzakhala bwino."
• Chitani zinthu zomwe mumakonda: Dzisokonezeni. Jambulani chithunzi, mverani nyimbo, werengani buku, sewerani masewera, lankhulani ndi anzanu.
• Dzisamalireni: Idyani bwino, chita masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndipo gonani mokwanira. Mukakhala ndi thanzi labwino, zimakhala zosavuta kukhala ndi thanzi labwino la maganizo.

Pomaliza, zinthu zofunika kukumbukira (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Kotero, ngakhale kuti nkhani ya "kutuluka" iyi ingawoneke ngati yovuta pang'ono, si yoipa kwambiri mukaimvetsa bwino.

• Maganizo anu ndi achibadwa: N'zachibadwa kukondana ndi munthu wina. Musamadzimve kuti ndinu wolakwa.
• Musachite mantha: Musachite mantha kuyamba chibwenzi. Dikirani mpaka mutamva kuti mwakonzekadi.
• Chitetezo ndi malire: Ganizirani za chitetezo chanu. Dziwani malire anu ndipo muwalemekeze. Ngati wina akudutsa malire amenewo, musamulole.
• Akuluakulu odalirika: Ndikofunikira kukhala ndi munthu wamkulu wodalirika amene mungamuuze za mavuto kapena mavuto aliwonse omwe mungakhale nawo. Musaope kupempha thandizo kwa iwo.
• Ndinu ofunika: Kaya wina akukukondani kapena ayi, ndinu ofunika. Chimwemwe chanu, tsogolo lanu, sizimadalira chifuniro cha munthu wina.

Kumbukirani, ino ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri yoti mudziwe nokha, kukulitsa luso lanu, komanso kumanga mabwenzi abwino. Choncho, perekani zinthu zofunika kwambiri. Chikondi ndi ubale zidzaloledwanso nthawi ikafika. Pakadali pano, dzisamalireni!

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