Iye akuganiza kuti: "O, ine... ndi wokongola kwambiri kuposa kale lonse, ndimamukonda kwambiri!" Mukuganiza kuti: "Ndidzasanza, ndafooka kwambiri, ndili ngati baluni... akandikhudza, ndidzafuula!" Inde, ichi ndi chomwe mimba imatanthauza. Panthawiyi, miyoyo ya chikondi ya maanja ambiri imakhala ngati kukwera roller coaster. Palibe amene anganene zomwe zidzachitike, momwe adzamverere, kapena momwe winayo adzamverere. Kodi mwakumanapo ndi zokumana nazo zofanana? Ndiye musachite mantha. Tiyeni tikambirane za izi.
Momwe mungalepheretse moyo wanu wachikondi
Ndizachilendo kwambiri kuti okwatirana azikumana ndi mavuto ang'onoang'ono muubwenzi wawo panthawi ya mimba. Pali zifukwa zambiri zomwe zimapangitsa izi.
Kusintha kwa mahomoni m'thupi ,
kusintha kwadzidzidzi kwa malingaliro ,
kutopa kosalekeza, malingaliro okhudza kusintha kwa matupi awo, mantha okhudza tsogolo, komanso nthawi zina kulephera kugonana monga momwe madokotala adanenera zonse zimatha kukhudza izi. Ngakhale kuti awirinu muyenera kukhala pafupi kwambiri panthawiyi, nthawi zina zosiyana zimachitika. Pakhoza kukhala mtunda waukulu pakati panu. Tangoganizirani, kumva ngati ubwenzi womwe munali nawo kwa nthawi yayitali watha mwadzidzidzi, koma palibe aliyense wa inu amene akumvetsa chifukwa chake.
Mwachidule, anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti chibwenzi chimangokhala chogonana. Choncho ngati sizingatheke, amaganiza kuti ayenera kukhala okha. Ndicho cholakwika chachikulu.
Akatswiri amanena kuti kugonana ndiyo njira yokhayo yopezera chikondi pakati pa anthu awiri. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti simungathe kuchita izi, pali njira zina zambiri zomwe mungasungire chikondi chanu kukhala cholimba.
Kukhudzana, kukumbatirana, kukhala pamodzi ndikulankhula, ndipo nthawi zina kungokumbatirana opanda zovala ndi kugawana malingaliro amenewo kungathandize kwambiri kulimbitsa ubale wanu.
Kukambirana ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri.
Chinthu champhamvu kwambiri chomwe chingapangitse chikondi pakati pa anthu awiri ndi
kulankhulana . Mukamalankhula za maloto anu, ziyembekezo zanu, mantha anu, zilakolako zanu zachinsinsi, zimalimbitsa ubale wanu. Koma nayi vuto. Tangoganizirani, mukufuna kungokumbatirana ndikuyika mutu wanu paphewa la mwamuna wanu. Koma akuganiza kuti ndi pempho loti mugonane. Akayesa kugonana, mumamukana. Pamapeto pake, amakwiya, mumamva chisoni, ndipo nonse mumadzimva kuti muli ndi mlandu. Kodi chinalakwika ndi chiyani apa? N'zosavuta.
Panalibe kulankhulana, palibe kumvetsetsana pakati pa inu nonse. Chofunika kwambiri ndikupangitsa mnzanu kumvetsetsa. Mukanena kuti, "Sindikufuna kugonana pakadali pano," sizikutanthauza kuti mukumukana iye kapena ubale wanu. Panthawi imeneyo, chidwi chanu chonse chimayang'ana pa mwana m'mimba mwanu, ndi zomwe zikuchitika m'thupi lanu.Muthandizeni kumvetsetsa mwachikondi kuti mukumva choncho chifukwa cha
kusintha kwa thupi .
Nthawi zina izi zimakhala zovuta ngakhale kwa mwamuna.
Ngakhale mkazi wapakati angakhale wosafuna kugonana, sizili choncho nthawi zonse. Nthawi zina
mwamuna angakhalenso ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana okhudza kugonana. Ngakhale amakukondani, angayese kudzipatula pang'ono kwa inu. Chifukwa chimodzi cha izi ndichakuti amakuonani ngati 'mayi' okha. Ngati mkazi amangodziona ngati 'mayi' ndikuchita ngati iye, ndipo ngati mwamuna wake amangomuona ngati 'mayi', zingakhale chopinga chachikulu paubwenzi wapamtima. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale muli 'mayi', musaiwale kuti ndinunso mkazi wachikondi komanso munthu wogonana. Ndipotu, amuna ambiri amaona akazi awo apakati kukhala okongola nthawi zonse, mosasamala kanthu kuti matupi awo ndi osiyana bwanji. Mukamvetsetsa izi, nonse awiri mutha kukhalabe okondana monga kale. Chofunika kwambiri ndikumvetsetsa ndikulemekeza zosowa za wina ndi mnzake. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna amatha
kupatsa mkazi wake masaji a mapazi omwe amamva bwino nawo. Mkazi amatha kumvetsetsa zosowa za mwamuna wake ndikumuthandiza kukhala wosangalala, ngakhale osagonana.
Izi sizikutanthauza kudzikakamiza kuchita chinthu chomwe simukufuna kuchita, koma zimatanthauza kuganizira zosowa za munthu amene mumamukonda ndi kumupatsa malo momwe mungathere.
Njira 7 zothandiza zosungira chikondi panthawi ya mimba
Nazi malangizo othandiza okuthandizani kusunga chikondi ndi ubwenzi muubwenzi wanu.
| Malangizo | Zoyenera kuchita |
|---|
| 1. Musamaone kugonana mopepuka. | Taganizirani ngati nthawi yoyamba yomwe munayamba kukondana. Simumayembekezera nthawi zonse kugonana, koma mumakhala ndi chilakolako. Choncho dzikondweretseni ndi chikondi m'njira yomwe ingakwaniritse chilakolako chimenecho. |
| 2. Yambaninso kukopana. | Moyo ukakhala wotanganidwa mutatha ukwati, mumaiwala zinthu zomwe zinayambitsa chibwenzicho. Kumbukiraninso zinthu zimenezo. Sekani wina ndi mnzake, nenani mawu achikondi, ndipo khalani okondana. |
| 3. Khalani ndi 'usiku wokumana' kamodzi pa sabata | Patulani tsiku limodzi pa sabata lokha kwa inu nonse awiri. Musalankhule za kupaka utoto chipinda cha mwana kapena kutchula dzina la mwanayo panthawiyo. Muzingolankhula za inu nonse awiri. Pitirizani kuchita izi ngakhale mwana atabadwa. |
| 4. Onjezani zodabwitsa paubwenzi wanu | Chitani chinthu chomwe winayo sangachiganizire. Sambani ndi makandulo, onerani kanema womwe nonse mumakonda, mupatseni mphatso yodabwitsa. Ngakhale chinthu chaching'ono chingapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu. |
| 5. Amuna: Chitirani akazi anu oyembekezera mwachikondi. | Muzimuchitira zinthu mwachikondi komanso mokoma mtima monga momwe munachitira mutangokumana koyamba. Zidzamupangitsa kumva bwino komanso kukuthandizani kuti nonse mukhale ogwirizana. |
| 6. Kwa akazi: Pangani mwamuna wanu kukhala mnzanu pa nthawi ya mimba | Ngakhale n'zosavuta kukambirana za mimba yanu ndi mnzanu wapamtima kapena amayi anu, ndikofunikira kugawana zinthu izi ndi mwamuna wanu. Mutengereni kwa dokotala , ndipo muyesedwe ndi ultrasound pamodzi. Ngati pali chifukwa chachipatala chomwe simungagone, funsani dokotala wanu kuti akuthandizeni kufotokozera mwamuna wanu. |
| 7. Kwa nonse awiri: Khalani okonzeka kuti ubale wanu ukhale wolimba. | Musalole kuti ubale wanu ubwerere m'mbuyo. Ngati mukuona kuti ubale wanu ukuchepa, chitanipo kanthu mwachangu. Samalirani ubale wanu ndi wina ndi mnzake ngati chinthu chamtengo wapatali. |
Pomaliza, chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndikuchitirana chifundo, kumvetsetsana, ndi chikondi. Ngakhale kuti nthawi ino ndi yovuta, ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri pamene wina watsopano abwera m'moyo wanu.
Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba
- Ndizachibadwa kuti ubale wapamtima muubwenzi usinthe panthawi ya mimba. Musadandaule, simuli nokha.
- Chikondi si kungogonana kokha. Kukumbatirana, kulankhulana, ndi kugwirana manja n'kofunika kwambiri.
- Kulankhula momasuka komanso mwachikondi ndi mnzanu za momwe mukumvera, mantha anu, ndi zosowa zanu ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vutoli.
- Nthawi zina nonse awiri mungakhale ndi mantha komanso nkhawa pa nthawiyi. M'malo modzudzulana, yesani kuganiza motsatira momwe mnzanuyo akuonera.
- Ngati muli ndi nkhawa kapena kukayikira kulikonse pankhani yokhudza kugonana, onetsetsani kuti mwafunsa dokotala kapena dokotala wanu.
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