Kodi Kukana n'chiyani? Tiyeni tikambirane za izi!

Tonsefe timafunafuna zinthu m'moyo, sichoncho? Nthawi zina zinthu zimenezo zimapita bwino, koma nthawi zina yankho limakhala 'ayi', kapena 'sindingathe'. Kukanidwa motere kungakhale kovuta komanso kopweteka kwambiri. Koma mukudziwa chiyani? Ichi ndi chinthu chofala kwambiri chomwe aliyense padziko lapansi amakumana nacho nthawi ina.

Kodi kukanidwa n'chiyani?

Mwachidule, kukanidwa ndi pamene simukupeza chinthu chomwe mukuyembekezera, chinthu chomwe mukuchiyembekezera kwambiri, kapena chinthu chomwe mwapempha. Chingakhale chinthu chachikulu, monga kusasankhidwa pa kuyankhulana ntchito komwe mudagwira ntchito molimbika. Kapena chingakhale chinthu chaching'ono kwambiri, monga kusaseka nthabwala yomwe mudauza ndi anzanu. Mulimonsemo, zimapwetekabe pang'ono, eti?

N’chifukwa chiyani kukanidwa kumatipweteka kwambiri?

Tsopano mwina mukuganiza kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani kachinthu kakang'ono aka kamandipweteka kwambiri?" Zoonadi, n'chifukwa chiyani kukanidwa kumandipweteka kwambiri? Taganizirani izi, monga anthu, tonsefe timafuna kuti ena atilandire, atikonde, atiphatikize m'gulu lawo. Ichi ndi chosowa chathu chachikulu chamaganizo. Chifukwa chake, wina akatikana, mosazindikira timamva ngati kuti takanidwa, ngati kuti sitikufunidwa, kapena kuti sitili oyenera.

Chodabwitsa n'chakuti, kafukufuku wina wa sayansi wapeza kuti ziwalo zomwezo za ubongo wathu zomwe zimagwira ntchito tikamamva kupweteka kwakuthupi zimagwiranso ntchito tikamamva kupweteka kwamaganizo pamene wina watikana ! Izi zikutanthauza kuti ubongo wathu umaonadi kupweteka kwamaganizo ngati 'kupweteka'. Ndicho chifukwa chake kukanidwa kungakhale kovuta nthawi zina.

Zinthu zazikulu, zazing'ono - kukanidwa kuli paliponse.

Monga tanenera kale, kukana sikungokhala pa zinthu zazikulu zokha. Taonani zitsanzo izi:

• Simunalandiridwe ku maphunziro a ku yunivesite omwe munalemba ndi chidwi chachikulu komanso chiyembekezo chachikulu.
• Ndinkaganiza kuti ndipita ku timu yamasewera ya kusukulu, koma pamapeto pake dzina langa silinali pamndandanda.
• Munthu amene umamukonda kwambiri, popanda kukumvetsera, amayamba kuseka ndikulankhula ndi aliyense pamaso panu.
• Munthu amene mumaganiza kuti ndi bwenzi lanu lapamtima anapita paulendo wosangalatsa ndi anthu ena osakuuzani.

Izi ndi zina mwa zinthu zazikulu komanso zofunika kwambiri. Koma palinso zinthu zazing'ono za tsiku ndi tsiku monga izi:

• Mfundo yakuti palibe amene anaseka nthabwala unaikamba pamaso pa gulu.
• Mfundo yakuti palibe amene anakusungirani mpando patebulo la chakudya chamadzulo.
• Munatumiza uthenga kwa mnzanu, koma iwo anauona koma sanayankhe .
• Ngati wina akunena kuti chakudya chomwe mudaphika "sichikukoma."

Ngakhale zinthu zazing'ono ngati izi, zikaphatikizidwa pamodzi, zimatha kukhala katundu waukulu m'maganizo mwathu. Zingakhudze kwambiri kudzidalira kwathu, kutanthauza kudzidalira kwathu. Tikhozanso kukhumudwa ndi ife tokha.

Kodi mumatani mukakana?

Chabwino, ndiye ngati chinthu chonga ichi chikachitika, kodi tingachithetse bwanji bwino? Kodi tingachepetse bwanji ululu, chisoni, ndi mkwiyo zomwe zimabuka m'mitima mwathu? Tiyeni tiwone zomwe tingachite pang'onopang'ono.

1. Mvetsetsani momwe mukumvera ndipo mulole kuti zikhale choncho.

Chofunika kwambiri ndi kusayesa kubisa malingaliro anu mukakanidwa. Kumva chisoni, kukwiya, kukhumudwa, mantha - zonsezi ndi malingaliro achibadwa a anthu. Musaganize kuti, "O, kodi ndi ine ndekha?" kapena "Ndikumva motere chifukwa ndine wofooka." Ngati muli achisoni, khalani nokha kwa kanthawi ndikulira. Ngati mwakwiya, tulutsani m'njira yomwe siidzapweteka aliyense kapena inu nokha (mwina mwa kugwedeza pilo, kapena kuthawa kwakanthawi!). Kumvetsetsa malingaliro anu ndikuwalola kuti abwere ndiye sitepe yoyamba kuti muchiritsidwe.

2. Kumbukirani kuti simuli nokha.

Ichi ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri. N'zovuta kupeza munthu m'dziko lino amene sanakanidwepo. Ngakhale anthu opambana kwambiri omwe mumawaona masiku ano, wosewera wanu wokondedwa, woyimba, wothamanga, kapena wamalonda, akanidwa nthawi ina m'miyoyo yawo, mwina nthawi zoposa zana. Ili si vuto lanu lokha, ili si vuto lanu. Mukamvetsa izi, mudzamva bwino pang'ono, simudzamva kuti ndinu nokha.

3. 'Lankhulani' ndi maganizo anu oipa

Tikamakanidwa, maganizo oipa komanso odziona ngati osayenera amayamba kudzaza m'maganizo mwathu. Zinthu monga, 'Ndilibe phindu,' 'Palibe amene amandikonda,' 'Palibe chomwe chidzandiyendere bwino,' 'Zonsezi ndi zolakwa zanga.' Maganizo amenewa akabwera, musamangowalandira ngati oona.

Dzifunseni ngati malingaliro amenewo ndi oona komanso kuti ndi omveka bwanji.

Mwachitsanzo:

• Ngati mukuganiza kuti, 'Ndilibe phindu,' dzifunseni kuti, 'Kodi ndinedi ameneyo? Kodi sindinachite zinthu zabwino kale? Ndinachita bwino zimenezo, kodi sindinachite bwino zimenezo?'
• Ngati mukuganiza kuti, 'Palibe amene amandikonda,' dzifunseni kuti, 'Kodi palibe amene amandikondadi? Makolo anga, mnzanga Arya, amandikonda.'

Mwa kutsutsa malingaliro anu oipa mwanjira imeneyi, pang'onopang'ono mudzatha kuchepetsa zotsatira zake.

4. Ndiwe amene umadziwa kufunika kwako, osati wina aliyense.

Kungoti winawake wakukana sizikutanthauza kuti kufunika kwako ndi zero. Kufunika kwako, luso lako, makhalidwe ako abwino zimatengera momwe anthu ena amakuonera, osati zisankho zomwe amapanga.Muli ndi umunthu wanu, luso lanu, ndi maloto anu. Yamikirani zinthu zimenezo. Kukanidwa ndi chochitika chimodzi chokha, musalole kuti chizikulamulirani moyo wanu wonse, kufunika kwanu.

5. Phunziranipo kanthu kuchokera mu izi, yang'anani pa chinthu chatsopano.

Nthawi zina, tingaphunzire phunziro lofunika kwambiri kuchokera ku kukana kulikonse.

• Mwina mudzazindikira kuti zomwe mukuyesera kuchita sizili zoyenera kwa inu. Ngati zimenezo zitachitika, mungasankhe njira yatsopano, cholinga chatsopano, chomwe chimakuyenererani bwino, chomwe mumakondadi.
• Mwina mudzazindikira kuti panali zolakwika zina zazing'ono zomwe munachita zomwe, ngati mukanazikonza, zotsatira zake zikanakhala zosiyana. Kenako mutha kutsimikiza kuti simupanganso zolakwikazo nthawi ina.

Kukana sikutanthauza mapeto a ulendo wanu, kungakhalenso posinthira zinthu kuti mukhale panjira yabwino. Choncho, m'malo moganizira zomwe zinachitika ndikukakamira m'mbuyomu, ganizirani zolinga zatsopano, zosangalatsa zatsopano, ndi zinthu zatsopano.

6. Musamaope kupempha thandizo.

Ngakhale zili choncho, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti tituluke mu mkhalidwe ngati uwu tokha. Ululu womwe timamva ukhoza kukhala wosapiririka. Nthawi zina, kukambirana za izi ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira kungakupatseni chitonthozo ndi chithandizo chambiri.

• Ameneyo akhoza kukhala bwenzi lanu lapamtima.
• Akhoza kukhala amayi ako, abambo ako, mchimwene wako, kapena wachibale wako.
• Ndikhoza kukhala mphunzitsi wanu.
• Nthawi zina, ndikofunikira kupempha thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo , katswiri wa zamaganizo/wamisala , kapena katswiri wa zamaganizo wophunzitsidwa kuthandiza ndi zinthu zotere. Si chinthu choti tichite manyazi nacho kapena kudziona ngati otsika nacho. Monga momwe timayendera dokotala ndikupeza mankhwala tikadwala chimfine kapena chimfine, kupeza thandizo pamavuto amalingaliro nakonso n'kofunika.

Kodi mungakhale bwanji olimba mukakana?

Kukanidwa ndi chinthu chopweteka, mosakayikira. Koma, sikuyenera kutipangitsa kukhala ofooka kwamuyaya. Ndipotu, tingagwiritse ntchito zochitikazi kuti tikhale olimba mtima komanso olimba mtima m'moyo. Izi zimatchedwa (Resilience) , zomwe zikutanthauza kuthekera kochira msanga mavuto, zopinga, ndi zopinga m'moyo ndikudzukanso.

• Dziwani luso lanu: Aliyense ali ndi luso lapadera. Dziwani zomwe mumachita bwino, makhalidwe anu abwino, ndipo yesani kuwakulitsa.
• Yesetsani kuganiza bwino: M'malo mongoona chilichonse mwakuda ndi choyera, chabwino ndi choipa, yesani kuona zabwino pazochitika zonse, chinthu choti muphunzirepo.
• Kondwererani ngakhale zipambano zazing'ono: Zigoli zazikuluPamene mukupita patsogolo, yamikirani ndikusangalala ndi zipambano zazing'ono zomwe mwapeza. Izi zidzawonjezera kudzidalira kwanu pang'onopang'ono.
• Kudzimvera chisoni: Mukalakwitsa kapena kukanidwa, musadziimbe mlandu, musadzinyoze, khalani achifundo komanso okoma mtima kwa inu nokha. Ganizirani kuti, 'Ndili munthu, ndimalakwitsanso, ndimamvanso malingaliro, ndi zachibadwa.'

Kumbukirani nthawi zonse, si nkhani yoti mugwe, koma yoti mudzukenso! Pangani nthawi iliyonse yogwa kukhala mwayi woti mudzukenso mwamphamvu.

Mwachidule... (Uthenga Wopita Nawo Kunyumba)

Chifukwa chake, kuchokera pa zomwe takambirana lero, muyenera kuti mwamvetsetsa bwino kuti kukanidwa ndi gawo la moyo wathu. Zitha kuchitika kwa aliyense, pa msinkhu uliwonse, nthawi iliyonse. Palibe amene ali ndi chitetezo ku izi. Chofunika kwambiri ndichakuti musalole kuti kukanidwa kufotokozere kufunika kwanu konse pamene kukuchitika. Mvetsetsani momwe mukumvera ndipo phunzirani kuthana nazo mwanjira yoyenera. Ngati mukuona kuti n'zovuta kuchita nokha, musazengereze kupempha thandizo kwa munthu amene mumamudalira. Phunzirani phunziro lofunika kuchokera pa chilichonse chomwe mwakumana nacho, khalani olimba, ndipo limbanani ndi moyo molimba mtima. Kumbukirani, ndinu wamphamvu kwambiri kuposa momwe mukuganizira!

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