Maganizo 7 olakwika omwe mungakhale nawo pankhani ya mankhwala olankhula!

Kodi mumaganiza chiyani mukamva mawu oti 'chithandizo'? Kodi ndi nkhani yokhala pa sofa, kugwira bokosi la ma tissue, ndi kulipira ndalama zambiri kwa munthu amene sakumvetsani? Kapena ndi nkhani yomwe imagwira ntchito kwa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la maganizo kapena "odwala matenda amisala" okha? Ngati ndi choncho, tengani kaye ndi kuwerenga izi. Zoona zake n'zosiyana kwambiri.

Ndipotu, tonsefe tingapindule ndi mtundu uwu wa chithandizo cha kulankhula nthawi ina m'miyoyo yathu. Koma zimatengera khama lanu, katswiri wothandiza anthu amene akugwirizana ndi zosowa zanu komanso amene amakumvetsani bwino, komanso nthawi yomwe imatenga kuti muwone zotsatira zake. Tiyeni tiwone malingaliro 7 olakwika kwambiri omwe anthu ambiri ali nawo pankhani ya chithandizo ndi momwe alili.

1. "Ubwana wanga tsopano ndi wopanda phindu..."

Anthu ambiri amabwera kuchipatala kudzakambirana za vuto lomwe ali nalo pa moyo wawo wamakono. Likhoza kukhala vuto kuntchito, vuto muubwenzi, kapena vuto ndi ana awo. Koma nthawi zambiri chomwe tiyenera kuyesetsa si vuto la masiku ano, koma momwe timagwirizanirana ndi zakale zathu.

Tangoganizirani, ngati makolo anu sanakumvetseni bwino muli mwana, kapena sanayamikire momwe mukumvera, ngakhale zinthu zazing'onozo zingakhudze kwambiri kudzidalira kwanu komanso ubale womwe mumapanga ndi ena mukakula. Monga aliyense amene amabwera kudzalandira chithandizo, mavuto awo apano amakhudzana ndi zomwe adakumana nazo ali mwana.

2. "Achipatala onse ndi ofanana..."

Ayi ndithu. Monga momwe madokotala alili ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya akatswiri, palinso mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya akatswiri. Ndipo njira zochiritsira nazonso zimasiyana.

• Chithandizo cha Maganizo: Izi zikuphatikizapo kuzindikira, kutsutsa, ndikusintha makhalidwe oipa ndi malingaliro omwe akuyambitsa mavuto m'moyo wanu.
• Chithandizo cha Psychoanalytic: Izi zimayang'ana kwambiri momwe chidziwitso chanu chimakhudzira khalidwe lanu.

Choncho, musaganize kuti munthu woyamba amene mungakumane naye ndiye woyenera kwa inu. Monga momwe mungapitire ku masitolo angapo kukagula diresi labwino, ndi bwino kulankhula ndi akatswiri angapo azachipatala kuti mupeze lomwe likuyenererani. Zinthu zazikulu zomwe muyenera kuyang'ana ndi izi:

• Kodi munthu ameneyo ndi mlangizi wovomerezeka ?
• Kaya pali akatswiri m'dera lomwe mukufuna thandizo (monga uphungu wa ukwati, zoopsa, matenda a kudya).
• Komanso, ngati mukumva bwino komanso ngati mukumva bwino polankhula ndi munthuyo.

3. "Ndikungofuna mankhwala, palibe chifukwa cholankhula ..."

Ichi ndi chinthu chomwe anthu ambiri amaganiza. "Ngati mukufuna mankhwala a vuto la matenda amisala, muyeneradi chithandizo," akutero madokotala amisala.

Taganizirani izi, mankhwala ali ngati pulasitala yomwe mumayika pa bala. Amangoletsa zizindikiro. Koma chithandizo ndi kupeza chomwe chimayambitsa balalo ndikulichiritsa kuchokera mkati . Kumwa mankhwala okha popanda chithandizo ndi kungoletsa zizindikiro popanda kufika pa chiyambi cha vuto lanu.

Chithandizo chamankhwala ndiyo njira yokhayo yopezera chiyambi cha vutoli. Kulankhula za chithandizo chamankhwala kumakuthandizani kumvetsetsa komwe mavuto anu akuchokera, chomwe chimayambitsa, ndikuchiza. Chithandizo chenicheni ndi kufufuza mavuto anu, kuwamvetsetsa bwino, ndikupeza njira yabwino yopitira patsogolo. Ndi bwino kulankhula ndi dokotala wanu ndikusankha ngati mukufuna mankhwala kapena chithandizo.

4. "Sizolondola..."

Anthu ambiri amakayikira njira imeneyi yochiritsira chifukwa ali ndi mfundo zabodza zokhudza iyo.

Nthawi zina chifukwa china cha kukayikira kumeneku ndi mantha . "Nthawi zambiri, mantha akuti 'sizigwira ntchito' amakhala chifukwa cha mantha. Amadziwa kuti ali ndi mavuto omwe ayenera kuthetsa, koma amaopa kukumana nawo. Mantha amenewo amatuluka ngati chotchinga chakuti 'sizigwira ntchito.'" Koma mukayika mantha amenewo pambali ndikuyamba kuchita izi, ndiye sitepe yoyamba yomwe mukupita patsogolo.

5. "Sindingathe kulipira mtengo wake ..."

Vuto lalikulu kwa anthu ambiri ndi ili, koma nthawi zina simuyenera kulipira ndalama zambiri.

Pali zipatala zaulere za matenda amisala m'zipatala za boma ku Sri Lanka. Mutha kudziwa zambiri za iwo kuchipatala chapafupi nanu. Komanso, madipatimenti ena a zamaganizo a ku yunivesite amapereka chithandizo chotsika mtengo motsogozedwa ndi ophunzira.

Ngakhale m'mabungwe achinsinsi, akatswiri ena a zamaganizo amalandira chithandizo cha inshuwalansi. Iwo omwe safuna thandizo koma sangakwanitse, amapereka ndalama zolipirira zomwe zimasiyana malinga ndi ndalama zomwe amapeza . Akatswiri ambiri a zamaganizo amachita izi ngati chithandizo, chifukwa chofuna kuthandiza anthu. Chifukwa chake ngati mukuvutika, nthawi zambiri mutha kukambirana ndikuvomerezana pa ndalama zoyenera.

6. "Sindikudziwa ngati chithandizo chingandisokoneze kwambiri ..."

Anthu ena amaopa kuti kulankhula za zakale zawo ndi zinthu zopweteka kungawapangitse kulephera kuzipirira ndipo angavutike kwambiri maganizo. Koma sizili choncho.

Katswiri wabwino wa zamaganizo amadziwa kuchuluka kwa zomwe mungathe kuchita panthawi inayake, komanso nthawi yoti musiye pang'ono. Sakukukakamizani kuchita zinthu mopitirira malire anu. Chithandizo sichokhudza kukonza chilichonse nthawi imodzi. Ndiko kuchita pang'onopang'ono , kutanthauza kuti, kokha momwe mungathere panthawiyo.

Chofunika kwambiri ndichakuti musankhe nthawi yomwe mukupita komanso nthawi yomwe mukulankhula za izi. Muli ndi mphamvu. Mukagwira ntchito ndi katswiri wodziwa bwino za matenda anu, mutha kuchita zinthu motsatira liwiro lanu, m'njira yomwe imakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu otetezeka.

7. "Ndilibe nthawi ya zimenezo ..."

Ngakhale izi zingawoneke ngati chifukwa chomveka cha moyo wotanganidwa wa masiku ano, tsopano palinso njira zothetsera vutoli.

"Madokotala a zachipatala tsopano akugwira ntchito kumapeto kwa sabata ndi madzulo ," akutero akatswiri. Amamvetsa momwe odwala alili otanganidwa. Sikuti zokhazo, komanso ukadaulo wawathandiza.

Mukakumana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo maso ndi maso ndikukambirana zosowa zanu, akatswiri ena a zamaganizo amakhala okonzeka kuchita zokambirana pafoni kapena kudzera pa kanema . Nthawi zambiri misonkhano ya maso ndi maso ndiyo njira yabwino kwambiri, koma ngati nthawi ili yovuta, pali njira ngati izi.