Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba xa kufika undwendwe olutsha, umntwana wakho, ebomini bakho, uziva ngathi ungumnikazi wehlabathi lonke. Lixesha lolonwabo ngokwenene. Nangona kunjalo, kwabanye oomama, amava ahluke kakhulu. Endaweni yovuyo olulindelekileyo, baziva besoyika kakhulu, benesizungu, kwaye bedakumbile. Mhlawumbi nawe uziva ngendlela efanayo. Usenokuba uzibuza izinto ezinje, "Ndiza kumnyamekela njani lo mntwana?", "Ngaba ndiza kukwazi ukwenza oku ngokufanelekileyo?" Awuwedwa. Le yimeko ejongene noomama abaninzi. Yiyo le nto sithetha ngayo namhlanje.
Yintoni iPostpartum Depression? Siyibona njani?
Okokuqala, masicacise into enye. Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa zokuqala emva kokufumana umntwana, oomama abaninzi baziva belusizi kancinci, becaphukile, kwaye belila nje. Oku sikubiza ngokuba "yi-baby blues." Oku kuqhelekile xa kukho uxanduva olutsha kunye notshintsho lweehomoni. Le meko idla ngokunyamalala kwiiveki ezimbini.
Kodwa i-Postpartum Depression (PPD) yimeko eyahlukileyo, enzulu ngakumbi. Ayipheli nje kwiintsuku ezimbalwa njenge-"baby blues." Yimeko efuna unyango. Oogqirha bayibiza ngokuba ludidi olubanzi olubizwa ngokuba yi-"Perinatal Mood Disorders." Oko kuthetha ukuba ayikokudakumba nje kuphela, kodwa inokubandakanya nezinye iimeko zempilo yengqondo ezifana nexhala. Kwaye ezi mpawu zinokuqala nangaphambi kokuba umntwana azalwe, ngexesha lokukhulelwa.
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba unale meko, cinga ngeempawu ezingezantsi.
| Uphawu (Uphawu) | Ngaba nawe uvakalelwa ngale ndlela? (Inkcazo) |
|---|---|
| Utshintsho ekutyeni nasekulaleni | Awutyanga kakuhle kangangeentsuku, kwaye awufuni kutya. Okanye, utya ungayeki. Uhlala ulele, okanye awukwazi ukulala nokuba unethuba lokulala. |
| Ixhala | Ndisoloko ndinoloyiko olungeyomfuneko kunye neengcinga eziphazamisayo. Andikwazi ukuyeka ukucinga ngazo. Ndihlala ndicinga izinto ezinje, "Ngaba kukho into eza kwenzeka kumntwana?", "Ngaba kukho into engalunganga ngam?" |
| Ukuziva unetyala kunye nehlazo | Iimvakalelo ezinje ngokuthi "Andikwenzi kakuhle oku" kunye nokuthi "Andingomama olungileyo" zihlala zindikhathaza. |
| Umsindo nokungazoli | Ndiba nomsindo kakhulu ngezinto ezincinci. Ndisoloko ndiziva ndingakhululekanga. |
| Iingcinga zokuba umntwana uza kwenzakala | Nangona oku kusenokuvakala kusoyikisa kancinci, abanye oomama banokuba neengcinga ezingalawulekiyo malunga nokuba baza kulimaza na abantwana babo. Asikuko ukuba unetyala, yinxalenye yesifo ngokwaso. |
| Ndiziva ngathi "Andinguye lo" | Uziva ngathi awuzazi, ngathi umntu wakho omdala uhambile. |
Ezi mpawu zihlala ziqala ukubonakala kwiinyanga ezintathu zokuqala zokufumana umntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha zinokufikelela kwincopho kwiinyanga ezine. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba azifunyaniswanga kwaye azinyangwa ngokufanelekileyo, abanye oomama banokuba nale meko kangangeminyaka.
Le meko ichaphazela njani ubudlelwane beentsapho?
Umama ojongene noxinzelelo emva kokubeleka usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukwakha ulwalamano oluqinileyo nomntwana wakhe. Basenokuziva ngathi bangqongwe yinkungu. Basenokuphoswa ziinkumbulo ezixabisekileyo ezifana nokuncuma kokuqala komntwana wabo, amazwi okuqala, kunye namanyathelo okuqala. Oku kunokukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zosizi kunye netyala kamva.
Oku akuchaphazeli nje kuphela ubudlelwane phakathi komama nomntwana, kodwa kukwabeka uxinzelelo olukhulu kubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.
Iingcali zithi izinga loqhawulo-mtshato liphezulu nangakumbi kunyaka wokuqala wokufumana umntwana. Nokuba akukho ngxaki zengqondo, uxinzelelo olongezelelweyo lokuhlala nomntwana omtsha luyingxaki enkulu kulwalamano. Ngaphezu koko, ukuba umama une-PPD, imeko iba mbi nangakumbi.
Amanye amadoda athi: "Ndadana kakhulu. Nangona ndenza konke okusemandleni am, yena akazange azalisekise uxanduva lwakhe. Wayesoloko ekhathazekile kwaye ekhathazekile. Kwakufuneka ndinyamekele umntwana omtsha kunye nomfazi wam."
Uxinzelelo emva kokubeleka yinto echaphazela lonke usapho.
Musa ukucinga ukuba oku kukuchaphazela oomama kuphela. Ngokwezifundo ezifunyenweyo, ukuya kuthi ga kwi-10% yootata abatsha banokufumana esi sifo. Ke ngoko, i-PPD yimeko echaphazela lonke usapho.
Le meko yenza oomama babe bodwa kangangokuba balibale ukuba notata naye ukho kweli bali. Nasemva kokuba ezinye izibini zidlule kweli xesha linzima, zisenomsindo nenzondo eyavela kwezo ziganeko.
Nasemva kweminyaka elishumi, xa umfazi esithi, "Awusoze undixolele ngokungabi nam xa ndandikwimeko enzima," umyeni uphendula athi, "Bendingazi ukuba ndenze ntoni. Ungene nje kwihlabathi lakho ungathethanga."
Oku kuthetha ukuba le ayingongxaki yomntu omnye, kodwa yinto ekufuneka bayisombulule bobabini.
Zithini iindlela zonyango zoku? Ndingalufumana njani uncedo?
Ukuba ucinga ukuba unale mpawu, inyathelo lokuqala nelibalulekileyo ekufuneka ulithathe kukuthetha nogqirha wakho ngayo. Ungaze uyigcine kuwe le nto uze uhlupheke wedwa. Oku akungobuthathaka bakho, yimeko enokunyangeka.
Xa uqala unyango, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubandakanya umyeni wakho koku. Ngale ndlela, ungayiqonda indlela oku okuye kwayichaphazela ngayo intsapho, uthethe ngeengxaki umyeni wakho anazo, kwaye umbonise indlela anokukuxhasa ngayo.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba, awuwedwa, kwaye kukho unyango olusebenzayo koku.
- Amayeza: Oomama abaninzi bafumana isiqabu esikhulu kumayeza afana namayeza okudambisa uxinezeleko. Ukuba uncancisa, thetha nogqirha wakho malunga namayeza afanelekileyo kwimeko yakho. Ungaze uwathathele amayeza wedwa ngaphandle kwengcebiso kagqirha.
- Ukunika iingcebiso kunye nonyango lwamaqela: Umcebisi angakufundisa iindlela ezithile ezihambelana neempawu zakho. Umzekelo, iindlela zokuphumla koomama abaxhalabileyo, kunye neendlela zokuyeka iingcinga ezingafunekiyo.
- Ukwakha inkqubo yokuxhasa: Ukuthetha nabahlobo, ingakumbi oomama abatsha abafana nawe, kunamandla amakhulu. Ukuthetha nomntu oqondayo iimvakalelo zakho kukunika isiqabu esikhulu.
- Utshintsho kwindlela yokuphila: Ukutya ukutya okunesondlo kunye nokulala ngokwaneleyo kunokunceda kakhulu ekunciphiseni iimpawu. Ukulala yingxaki kumntwana, kodwa zama ukuphumla kangangoko unako ngoncedo lomyeni wakho nosapho lwakho.
Okokugqibela, kubalulekile ukunyamekelana ngeli xesha linzima. Ukucinga, "Awundikhathaleli, ngoko ke andikudingi" kuya kwenza izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi. Enye yezona ndlela zilungileyo zokuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho kukucinga ngeemfuno zeqabane lakho. Oku kuya kubenza bazive bengcono, kwaye kuya kubanika amandla okukunyamekela kakuhle.
Umyalezo Wokuya Ekhaya
- Uxinzelelo emva kokubeleka (PPD) alulobuthathaka okanye uphawu lwemeko yakho. Yimeko yokwenyani, enokunyangeka.
- I-baby blues kunye ne-PPD zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo. I-PPD ihlala ixesha elingaphezu kweeveki ezimbini kwaye imbi ngakumbi.
- Oku kunokuchaphazela kungekuphela nje umama, kodwa notata kunye nosapho lonke.
- Musa ukuba neentloni okanye ukoyika, ukuba unale mpawu, thetha nogqirha wakho ngoko nangoko. Musa ukubandezeleka wedwa, ungafumana uncedo.
- Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho neqabane lakho, usapho kunye nabahlobo.
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