Ingabe nawe unenkinga yokucindezeleka? (Ukucindezeleka) Ake sixoxe ngendlela yokubhekana nezingcindezi zokuphila!

Sawubona! Unjani? Sonke sinezinhlobo ezahlukene zezinkinga, ukukhathazeka, kanye nezingcindezi ekuphileni kwethu, akunjalo? Ngezinye izikhathi lezi zinto zizwakala zinzima ukuzithwala. Cabanga nje, isivivinyo siyasondela, inkinga ekhaya, inkinga emsebenzini... Uzizwa kanjani uma zonke zihlangana? Ngakho-ke namuhla sizokhuluma ngalokhu 'kucindezeleka' noma ukucindezeleka kwengqondo , nokuthi singabhekana kanjani nakho ngobuhlakani, okungukuthi, indlela 'yokubhekana'.

Kungani kubalulekile ukufunda ukubhekana nokucindezeleka?

Kalula nje, ukubhekana nokucindezeleka kuyinqubo yokuzivumelanisa nokubekezelela izenzakalo ezinzima noma ezingathandeki noma izinguquko empilweni ngenkathi ugcina ukuzola kwengqondo yakho kanye nombono omuhle ngawe. Lokhu kubhekana nokucindezeleka kwenzeka lapho sibhekana nezinguquko empilweni esizibona njengengcindezi, noma ukucindezeleka.

Ukucindezeleka kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nezinguquko ezimbi nezingathandeki empilweni. Cabanga ngezinto ezifana nokulahlekelwa umsebenzi noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo. Kodwa, empeleni, kufanele sizivumelanise nanoma yiluphi ushintsho ngandlela thile. Ngisho nezinto ezinhle, njengokushada noma ukuba nomntwana omusha, zingasibangela ukucindezeleka. Akumangalisi yini lokho?

Ushintsho lusilethela ukucindezeleka ngoba kufanele silungise futhi sizivumelanise noshintsho ngalunye. Uma kufanele sibhekane nezinguquko eziningi esikhathini esifushane, siqala ukucabanga, "O, lezi zinto azikho ngaphansi kwamandla ami." Uma sizizwa ngale ndlela, ukuzethemba kwethu kungancipha. Ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kungaholela ezimweni zempilo yengqondo njengokukhathazeka noma ukucindezeleka . Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, uma ukucindezeleka kuba kukhulu kakhulu kumuntu, kungaholela ngisho nasekuguleni ngokomzimba noma ukugula okukhona kube kubi kakhulu.

Ukubhekana nalokhu 'kucindezeleka' kusho ukufaka umzamo owengeziwe, amandla amaningi kunokujwayelekile, ukuze uzivumelanise nalezi zidingo ezingavamile, okungukuthi, 'izinto ezicindezelayo' noma izinto ezicindezelayo . Uma kufanele senze umzamo owengeziwe kanje isikhathi eside, amazinga ' ama-hormone ahlobene nokucindezeleka' emizimbeni yethu ayanda, ekugcineni asenze sibe buthakathaka ngokomzimba futhi sibe sengozini yokugula.

Ziyini lezi 'zingcindezi'?

Lezi zinto ezicindezelayo esibhekana nazo, noma 'izingcindezi', ziza ngazo zonke izinhlobo nobukhulu.

• Izinto Ezibangela Ukucindezeleka Okukhulu: Lezi yizinto ezivele ngokuzumayo. Isibonelo, ukuthuthela ekhaya elisha noma ukuqala ubudlelwano bomshado.
• Izinto Ezibangela Ukucindezeleka Okungapheli: Lezi yizinto ezihlala isikhathi eside. Izinto ezifana nobuhlungu obungapheli, ukugula isikhathi eside, noma izinkinga zezimali eziqhubekayo.

Cabanga nje, uma umuntu ebhekene nezinkinga eziningana ngokulandelana ngesikhathi esifushane, umthelela ungaba mubi kakhulu. Isibonelo, umshado womuntu uyabhidlika, umzali osekhulile uyashona, bese kwenzeka ushintsho emsebenzini ngesikhathi esisodwa... Uma zonke lezi zinto zenzeka ngesikhathi esifushane, kungaba yinselele kulowo muntu ukugcina impilo yakhe yomzimba neyengqondo.

Ngakho-ke, yiziphi izindlela ezivamile zokubhekana nalokhu kucindezeleka?

Izindlela esibhekana ngazo nokucindezeleka zingahluka kithi sonke. Kodwa-ke, abacwaningi bathole amasu ambalwa avamile esiwasebenzisayo. Bona ukuthi lawa azwakala ejwayelene nawe yini:

• Yehlisa ukulindela kwakho kancane: Ngezinye izikhathi kuyacindezela ukucabanga ukuthi konke kufanele kuphelele.
• Cela usizo kwabanye: Ungesabi ukubuza, "Nginenkinga yokwenza lokhu ngedwa, ungangisiza?"
• Zithwalele umthwalo wemfanelo ngesimo: Cabanga, "Kulungile, lokhu kuyinkinga. Ngizobhekana nalokhu ngandlela thile."
• Zama ukuxazulula izinkinga (Ukuxazulula Izinkinga): Esikhundleni sokubalekela inkinga, cabanga ngezindlela zokuyixazulula.
• Gcina ubudlelwano obukusekela ngokwengqondo: Ukukhuluma nabangani bakho nomndeni wakho nokwabelana ngenjabulo nosizi lwakho kubaluleke kakhulu.
• Lawula imizwa yakho noma ukhiphe usizi nobuhlungu bakho: Abanye abantu bangakwazi ukufihla imizwa yabo. Abanye badinga ukukhulula imizwa yabo, kungaba ngokukhala noma ngokukhuluma nothile.
• Inselele izinkolelo ezindala ezingasakufanelanga: Esikhundleni sokucabanga ukuthi, "Bengilokhu nginje," zama ukucabanga ngendlela entsha.
• Zama ukushintsha ngqo imbangela yokucindezeleka: Uma kungenzeka, shintsha okukubangela ukucindezeleka.
• Phuma ekucindezelekeni: Ngezinye izikhathi kuhle ukuthatha ikhefu bese uphuma enkingeni isikhashana.
• Bheka inkinga ngombono wenkolo: Ukuzama ukubumba ingqondo yomuntu ngokwenkolo yakhe kuyasiza nabanye abantu.

Ochwepheshe bathi ukubhekana nokucindezeleka akuyona into eyenzeka kanye kuphela, kodwa inqubo. Kungase kudingeke usebenzise izindlela eziningana ezingenhla ukuze ubhekane nenkinga efanayo.

Sonke sinezindlela ezahlukene zokubhekana nokucindezeleka. Abanye abantu bakhetha izindlela ezithile. Lokhu kwehluka kuvame ukuhlotshaniswa nokwehluka kobuntu bethu. Esikhundleni sokunamathela ngandlela thile, ukuguquguquka ekubhekaneni nakho kuvame ukuba wusizo. Okusho ukuthi, ukukwazi ukukhetha indlela engcono kakhulu yokubhekana nesimo ngasinye.

Kodwa-ke, kunezimo ezithile ezicindezelayo abantu abaningi abangase basabele kuzo ngendlela efanayo. Isibonelo, lapho sibhekene nezinkinga ezihlobene nomsebenzi, sivame ukusebenzisa amasu okuxazulula izinkinga. Ngokufanayo, uma sicabanga ukuthi "lokhu kungashintshwa," sivame ukufuna izixazululo. Kodwa-ke, uma sicabanga ukuthi "lokhu akunakushintshwa," sivame ukufuna ukwesekwa komphakathi noma ukusebenzisa amasu agxile emizweni.

Yini esingayenza ukuze sizivikele ekucindezelekeni futhi sibhekane nakho ngempumelelo?

Mhlawumbe isu elibaluleke kakhulu lalokhu ukugcina ubudlelwano obusekelana ngokomzwelo nabanye. Ucwaningo oluningi lukhombisile ukuthi lokhu kusekelwa ngokomzwelo kusebenza njengesivikelo esisivikela emiphumeleni emibi yokucindezeleka.

Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile, kubalulekile ukuthatha isikhashana ucabange ngendlela yakho yokuphila iyonke. Ukuzibandakanya emisebenzini yokunciphisa ukucindezeleka kungakusiza ukuthi ubhekane nokucindezeleka ngokujwayelekile. Zama lezi zinto:

• Lala kahle futhi ngokwanele: Zama ukulala okungenani amahora angu-7-8 ngosuku.
• Yidla ukudla okunempilo: Yidla imifino, izithelo, nokudla okunomsoco.
• Vivinya umzimba njalo: Kuhle ukuhamba, ukugijima, noma ukudlala umdlalo owuthandayo okungenani imizuzu engama-30 ngosuku.
• Thatha ikhefu elifushane emini: Thatha ikhefu elifushane ngenkathi usebenza bese ukhulula ingqondo yakho.
• Thatha iholide ungabi sekhaya futhi usebenze: Ukushintsha indawo okuyo kungasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka.
• Yenza into ekulethela injabulo nokuzijabulisa nsuku zonke: noma yini efana nokufunda incwadi, ukulalela ingoma, ukwenza umsebenzi omncane engadini.
• Zijwayeze ukuzivocavoca kokuphumula: Izinto ezifana ne -yoga , ukuzindla , ukuphumula kwemisipha okuqhubekayo , noma ngisho nemikhuba yenkolo kanye nemithandazo kungasiza ngalokhu.
• Nciphisa noma uyeke ukusebenzisa kwakho i-caffeine notshwala: Lokhu kungandisa ukucindezeleka.

Umlayezo Wokuya Nawe Ekhaya

Ukucindezeleka kuyingxenye evamile yokuphila kwethu. Nakuba singenakukuqeda ngokuphelele, singakulawula ngempumelelo.

Khumbula, awuwedwa! Uma uzizwa ucindezelekile, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma nomuntu omethembayo ngakho bese ucela usizo.

Njengempilo yakho engokomzimba, impilo yakho yengqondo nayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, uma uzizwa ucindezelekile, ungakushayi indiva. Zama ezinye zezindlela ezibalwe ngenhla. Uma kudingeka, ungangabazi ukubonana nodokotela noma nomeluleki wezempilo yengqondo ukuze uthole iseluleko. Kwangathi ungathola amandla okuphila impilo yakho ngenjabulo nangokuthula!

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